GasProblem
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Heh, no one I told even suspected me being gay. Not even my mom.
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Coming out is more for us than them. The first person I told simply smiled and said, "Yeah, I know." It caught me so off guard that I actually tried to explain further, but she stopped me: "I've known all along -- you didn't have to tell me, but I'm glad you're getting this weight off your shoulders and felt comfortable enough to say something."
Same except for one person. A co-worker said he figured it out within a week of meeting me. He wouldn't even say how exactly. He just had a feeling.
The thing is one person exactly that and then switched to I could tell with in like 39 seconds so it seemed like that was meant to be supportive or something
I'll admit im not the most unobvious person, but I don't think I'm a living stereotype like some people I have met
It's funny reading how it's such an important, life changing experience for some people and something irrelevant for others. Again, I think the people who felt freedom and relief probably weren't living the life they want to live. In my case not only I'm not suffocated by a "straight environment", but I also feel more "at home" on it for whatever reason. I remember reading a post on a forum saying something like "the first time I was in a group of gay people that's the first time I felt at home". Lol, it was kind of the other way around for me, it was awkward and I wanted to leave.
You feel more at home on what?
Yeah, I totally agree. I don't enjoy clubs or drinking or dancing. I like being the token gay guy I think. That's why I said before don't feel pressure to be something one isn't. I still have my own way of life, and incorporating this kind of incongruous and new part took some time for me.
Edit: maybe it's less of liking being the token and more I enjoy just having normal groups of friends like you said. I've just never met one let alone many gay people who enjoy the same things as me.
p_xavier
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You start up with your own view on things, then in ten year you become one of the predefined stereotypes. If someone had told me that I would be clubbing every week-end till 5am I would have laughed at them. If you want to bond with people, you have to adapt or you'll stay alone.
Necromanti
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I feel like I have little in common with my friends or people who center their activities and lives around "being gay", whatever that even means. Being gay has never been an identity for me; it merely denotes to whom I am attracted. I reject the notion that I have to lead a certain "lifestyle" as a homosexual.
@JeFfRey: I'm not alone
"Never say never" is bullcrap, I'm positive I'll never enjoy clubbing. I'll also never smoke, drink alcohol or like ketchup.
@Necromanti: Pretty much. It's simply not very important to me.
If you ever want to meet new kinds of people and just experience new things you should probably be more open to giving some of that stuff a shot. Be open to the possibility that you might like it. Unless you've already tried everything and know for sure that you didn't like it.
dragonlife
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What a broad stroke.
@_Isaac: I have tried clubbing plenty of times and there are times when I just can't avoid it because of some friends. I freaking despise it, I hate smoke, I hate alcohol and I hate club music. I don't dislike it just because, it's definitely based on experience. I'm open to new experiences -that I'll enjoy-, that's not a problem at all.
@dragonlife: Why else would you be itching so much to tell people you enjoy man parts? Also, it was 2 hours late when I noticed your PM, let's play later next week
@dragonlife: Why else would you be itching so much to tell people you enjoy man parts? Also, it was 2 hours late when I noticed your PM, let's play later next week
Necromanti
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I don't enjoy it, it tastes like crap and the smell is downright unbearable for me. Then when my friends tell me "I just found this drink that you'll like because it doesn't taste/smell like alcohol at all!" I can be sure it's going to taste like medicine with tons of sugar. Then it turns out not very healthy, and on top of that it's expensive. Yeah, no.
Mystic Theurge
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What's the logic behind this?
Dead Prince
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Those prudes
Well then...
Fantastical
Death Prophet
I don't drink a lot, I just like to get a little tipsy. I don't like getting hammered.
RatskyWatsky
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Would you show your face if I send you a dick pic?
BlazingDarkness
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I don't really drink much these days
Seems like a lot of people I know feel they can only have fun after a few drinks
Seems like a lot of people I know feel they can only have fun after a few drinks
kairiceres
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Could you pm me one too for research purposes.
Dead Prince
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. same but for fapping materials.
I used to think this way too, but the problem was that it just didn't come up during conversation a lot, as I've hardly ever done any dating and it just hasn't been a big part of my life. Eventually it started to feel a bit silly that my family and some of my closer friends still didn't know, and I had to formally come out.
I invited my grandparents and told my parents and grandparents at the same time. Since then I've been my grandma's favorite grandchild because until then she was the only one of her sisters who did not have a gay grandson and she felt left out.
Maybe I would, if only I could trust anyone.
This has been my experience exactly. It's like you HAVE to drink something alcoholic. It's a requirement otherwise you're ruining the evening or something.
Dead Prince
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smart man.
HappyPuppy
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I remember when I told my classroom (A few of them already knew). We were doing a T group so we were all sitting in a circle while the Teacher was outside of the circle taking notes, one girl asked me:
-What was the best part of Argentina?
-Well I'll tell you what i tell my friends, Ice cream and Men!.
*everyone laughs
(She has this confuse look on her face) Why men?
-Cause, I like men.
(She has this Deer caught in headlights look while nodding very stiffly) .....Oh.
I laughed so hard afterwards and I still do when I remember her face. Later we talked one on one and she asked me about my relationship status and what kind of guys (Body Hair, I'm weak for that) I like, she was really excited to get to know about my gay life.
Mr_Zombie and Sphinx you guys should date each other
, two handsome posters I enjoy reading, very respectful and mature. *hugs
-What was the best part of Argentina?
-Well I'll tell you what i tell my friends, Ice cream and Men!.
*everyone laughs
(She has this confuse look on her face) Why men?
-Cause, I like men.
(She has this Deer caught in headlights look while nodding very stiffly) .....Oh.
I laughed so hard afterwards and I still do when I remember her face. Later we talked one on one and she asked me about my relationship status and what kind of guys (Body Hair, I'm weak for that) I like, she was really excited to get to know about my gay life.
Mr_Zombie and Sphinx you guys should date each other
, two handsome posters I enjoy reading, very respectful and mature. *hugsI'm totally with you
In my case people who don't drink at all seemed to be hiding something or act like they are superior. To be honest I don't know that many and I'm sure is not the case for everyone, but I can't help to feel some distrust. I guess it doesn't help my grandfather didn't drink at all yet he was very abusive of father, grandmother and aunts.
Now if you don't drink in a club is perfectly fine, you don't need alcohol to have fun, but I'm talking about those who absolutely refuse any kind of alcohol, even some wine at dinner, and of course not for any medical reasons.
Escape Goat
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GAF has some very strange hangups.
kitchenmotors
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The other two have facial hair though!
lordfroakie
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I distrust those who think alcohol is the only way to have a good time. Superiority whatever, I don't like to drink often, nothing of it.
lordfroakie
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I guess I'm "superior" for not drinking! <_<
And if you would have read the entire post you would've seen I completely agree with you.
kitchenmotors
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I will say one thing, DRINKING RUINS CONCERTS. Don't be that fucking guy who has a drink in his hand in the front row and when things get rowdy, shit gets poured all over you. Even worse, the drunk 21 year olds who ruin the experience by passing out, about to vomit on you, or go into douche bag mode by pushing their way to the front after the show has started.
If anything, drinking sucks in those situations. Take your ghetto ass to the balcony and have a SEAT with your drink.
I'm not against drinking, plenty of people in here know me in real life or have met me and know I will drink, but it's not something I go out and do on a regular basis.
I just posted the gif because, honestly, I think you have a bit of an attitude problem with your view of people who don't drink.
If anything, drinking sucks in those situations. Take your ghetto ass to the balcony and have a SEAT with your drink.
I'm not against drinking, plenty of people in here know me in real life or have met me and know I will drink, but it's not something I go out and do on a regular basis.
I just posted the gif because, honestly, I think you have a bit of an attitude problem with your view of people who don't drink.
Well I really can't argue with that, I know it is not a sensible position to take.
You hate club music. You don't drink, smoke and you don't like ketchup. What the fuck?
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