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The BF and I always find it humorous when people say we don't act "gay". also feels like a backhanded comment sometimes.

As far as alcohol goes, I enjoy it. I drink once in a while, unfortunately living with a raging alcohol of a brother makes it less appealing these days. I dont believe Andy and I have even gotten drunk together yet. Hrmmm, our anniversary is going to be fun....
 
Rm88, what brand is that beanie you're wearing?


victormartin said:
I think I'm in a relationship now :S
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is (passionately) making out, cuddling, sleeping together (a couple of times) considered as being in a relationship?

I try to tell myself "just go with the flow" but I can't help freaking out :(
 
neojubei said:
Why not? Is it him or you just not ready for one?
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Well, I ended a 5 years relationship back in june, mostly because I had feelings for someone else (a friend who is in a relationship and always gave me sort of flirty vibes who basically told me he would be with me IF he didn't have a boyfriend).

Even if I'm not really brokenhearted (I was after being "rejected") anymore, I don't think I'm over that guy. And well I started talking to this new guy about 2 months ago. We finally met around 9 days ago. Then we went to see a movie, then we went to his place, then he came to my place (different days) and the second time he stayed over. Hence, we cuddled, made out, etc. Same thing the next day (that would be last night).

I do like the guy a lot. But I feel it's happening too fast and well, I don't really know him THAT well... I like dating him but right now it's not much more than that to me.
 
victormartin said:
is (passionately) making out, cuddling, sleeping together (a couple of times) considered as being in a relationship?

I try to tell myself "just go with the flow" but I can't help freaking out :(
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It's a "relationship" when you both agree it is one, there isn't a checklist or anything because people's ideas on what they want their relationships to look like differ. I could do all of those things without feeling the need to define it, and keep it in the 'friendly' category in my mind (actually that's my preference), but friendship doesn't preclude sex or other kinds of affection for me, so it depends on the person.
 
umop_3pisdn said:
It's a "relationship" when you both agree it is one, there isn't a checklist or anything because people's ideas on what they want their relationships to look like differ. I could do all of those things without feeling the need to define it, and keep it in the 'friendly' category in my mind (actually that's my preference), so it depends on the person.
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OK.

I hope he sees it like that as well. I just don't really have any dating experience. I pretty much decided I was in a relationship after kissing my ex for the first time.

Maybe I was very naive back then, I'm sort of "old-fashioned" in that regard. I have never been into hookups and that kind of stuff (even if I never really had a chance at that).
 
My horrible attempts to get a good picture of myself made me lose the will to participate in Real Pic January; Rm88 has already out-cute'd me, anyway. =(
 
victormartin said:
Well, I ended a 5 years relationship back in june, mostly because I had feelings for someone else (a friend who is in a relationship and always gave me sort of flirty vibes who basically told me he would be with me IF he didn't have a boyfriend).

Even if I'm not really brokenhearted (I was after being "rejected") anymore, I don't think I'm over that guy. And well I started talking to this new guy about 2 months ago. We finally met around 9 days ago. Then we went to see a movie, then we went to his place, then he came to my place (different days) and the second time he stayed over. Hence, we cuddled, made out, etc. Same thing the next day (that would be last night).

I do like the guy a lot. But I feel it's happening too fast and well, I don't really know him THAT well... I like dating him but right now it's not much more than that to me.
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Relax dude, you're not marrying the guy or moving in together. Relationships don't always have to be serious. You just have some fun.
 
I've never acquired the taste for beer/liquor. I can and have had a few drinks on occasion, but it's very rare. Most times it was just to try them out and be repulsed by them right after.

Rm88~ said:
@dragonlife: Why else would you be itching so much to tell people you enjoy man parts? Also, it was 2 hours late when I noticed your PM, let's play later next week :P
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It depends (it's also not just about telling them you like man parts). Over the years, my mom would always ask me, "When are you going to bring home a girlfriend for me to meet?" I would always tell her, "Never, because I have no interest one." Honest clues aside, when I finally told my mom I was gay, my relief came from her finally understanding not to expect [biological] grandchildren and all that crap, and that she would stop asking me about it and keep her expectations in check. And the fact that no matter what my preference was--and that it didn't affect our dynamic as a family--was also a relief because I fucking love my parents, and it would suck if they weren't okay with it.

Coming out was pretty much a non-issue for me, but I couldn't have been 100% sure that it would be (hearing about bad coming-out stories didn't help). Relief also came from realizing that I was worried for nothing. I wasn't "itching" to tell them; it just happened because I saw a chance and took it.

Sure, I could have gone without telling them, but that's not how I am; I don't like to leave things unsaid if I can help it. And, like I said, it was convenient at the time.
 
Natetan said:
ideally for me, we wouldn't have roles. theres too few of us as it is to have one more thing that makes for incompatibility.

i also really like the idea of a gay relationship that is completely equal.
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I prefer to have roles because I want a guy who takes care of me. Of course in bed the roles would be reversed ^^
 
Kangi said:
My horrible attempts to get a good picture of myself made me lose the will to participate in Real Pic January; Rm88 has already out-cute'd me, anyway. =(
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Well you can take comfort in knowing you are already better looking than me. Post your pic
 
Prez said:
I prefer to have roles because I want a guy who takes care of me. Of course in bed the roles would be reversed ^^
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well if we must have roles, then i guess this would be ok with me. I just dont like power/money/physique somehow makes you a top and the opposite a bottom.

Tops generally piss me off.
 
dragonlife said:
It depends (it's also not just about telling them you like man parts). Over the years, my mom would always ask me, "When are you going to bring home a girlfriend for me to meet?" I would always tell her, "Never, because I have no interest one." Honest clues aside, when I finally told my mom I was gay, my relief came from her finally understanding not to expect [biological] grandchildren and all that crap, and that she would stop asking me about it and keep her expectations in check. And the fact that no matter what my preference was--and that it didn't affect our dynamic as a family--was also a relief because I fucking love my parents, and it would suck if they weren't okay with it.

Coming out was pretty much a non-issue for me, but I couldn't have been 100% sure that it would be (hearing about bad coming-out stories didn't help). Relief also came from realizing that I was worried for nothing. I wasn't "itching" to tell them; it just happened because I saw a chance and took it.

Sure, I could have gone without telling them, but that's not how I am; I don't like to leave things unsaid if I can help it. And, like I said, it was convenient at the time.
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this gives me some optimism, it's sort of how i envision the ideal response from my parents. i also get the grandchildren remarks off my mother from time to time, and although i know they're entirely innocent they still make me very uneasy because i know there's a possibility i won't be able to give that to her

i consider myself bi and i guess the main concern is that my parents will misinterpret me as either someone who isn't fully out, or in a phase, or confused or w/e. i'm worried it won't be definitive enough for them, because i'd want to avoid any ongoing discussion about my sexuality from then onwards

every time i begin to give it more thought it never fails to really get me down. i hate that it's even a thing that needs to be acknowledged and i have to sit them down and all that awful family protocol garbage :(
 
Masamuna said:
People ultimately have their preferences. As for me I could never just be one or the other. Both feel way too damn good!
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I agree.

Delio said:
Bottoms are so hawt. I want a bitchy bottom.
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I guess we're not made for each other after all :(

PowderedToast said:
this gives me some optimism, it's sort of how i envision the ideal response from my parents. i also get the grandchildren remarks off my mother from time to time, and although i know they're entirely innocent they still make me very uneasy because i know there's a possibility i won't be able to give that to her

i consider myself bi and i guess the main concern is that my parents will misinterpret me as either someone who isn't fully out, or in a phase, or confused or w/e. i'm worried it won't be definitive enough for them, because i'd want to avoid any ongoing discussion about my sexuality from then onwards

every time i begin to give it more thought it never fails to really get me down. i hate that it's even a thing that needs to be acknowledged and i have to sit them down and all that awful family protocol garbage :(
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I think the biggest problem about being bi is that people think you can choose who you fall in love with.

A lot of people are bi though. I'm pretty sure I'm slightly straight.
 
Rm88~ said:
@_Isaac: I have tried clubbing plenty of times and there are times when I just can't avoid it because of some friends. I freaking despise it, I hate smoke, I hate alcohol and I hate club music. I don't dislike it just because, it's definitely based on experience. I'm open to new experiences -that I'll enjoy-, that's not a problem at all.
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I'm pretty close to these positions. Although I'll have one or two drinks per week, there are plenty of times where the smell of certain alcohols reminds me of the smell of hobos in the emergency room. I can't get over the association. I can count on one hand how many times I've been out to the clubs for over the past decade. Too smoky, too noisy, too many disrespectful/drama-causing folks.

And while I absolutely loathe clubs, I'll take a quieter bar almost any day. Drink a beer or two, watch football or soccer, have a sandwich.. that's fantastic stuff.
 
krypt0nian said:
Dark beer is like mothers milk.
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Good man.
neojubei said:
Well you can take comfort in knowing you are already better looking than me. Post your pic
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You look great, stop being so negative!
Natetan said:
well if we must have roles, then i guess this would be ok with me. I just dont like power/money/physique somehow makes you a top and the opposite a bottom.

Tops generally piss me off.
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Prez said:
Yeah, tops usually have an awful personality.
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You two :/ Versatility is a major attraction for me, but you guys are acting like sexual preference is a determinant of personality.
 
With my cellphone stolen I can't take any pics, not that I would have the guts to show my face on the internet heh, but seeing so many real pics is making me consider it.

So youtube for some reason has introduced me to this drag queen event in the Canary Islands in Spain, and is absolutely weird, if not mind blowing. It consists on complex choreographies of Drag Queens in the highest platforms I've seen, with the most outrageous and complicated costumes that are slowly removed until they are left basically naked. This might be considered NSFW, no real nudity but almost there.

Demon angel theme

Little red riding hood theme

Hell, they even do Mazinger

This one is insane.

The weirdest part? I thought this was some big gay event, but no, if you notice in the crowd there are old ladies and even children, is just completely bizarre, and I kind of want to go to one now.
 
mantidor said:
I'm totally with you

In my case people who don't drink at all seemed to be hiding something or act like they are superior. To be honest I don't know that many and I'm sure is not the case for everyone, but I can't help to feel some distrust. I guess it doesn't help my grandfather didn't drink at all yet he was very abusive of father, grandmother and aunts.

Now if you don't drink in a club is perfectly fine, you don't need alcohol to have fun, but I'm talking about those who absolutely refuse any kind of alcohol, even some wine at dinner, and of course not for any medical reasons.
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My grandfather drunk himself into a coffin and was a despicable human being. YMMV, dood.

Where do girly drinks fall into this discussion, or orange juice cocktails? :o
 
neojubei said:
Sorry it's hard to feel badass being fat with a huge gut.
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This does not compute. You can be badass/sexy and fat. Your body isn't holding you back, it's your self esteem.

I've been in those shoes, and ru is right. If you can't love yourself you sure won't be able to love others.
 
neojubei said:
Well you can take comfort in knowing you are already better looking than me
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So are you going to keep trolling the GayGAF community or what? People keep telling you that you look fine, and you keep at it. A new year is upon us and it'd be kind of cool if you'd quit saying this kind of shit for what little is left of 2012. Maybe even 2013. Yeah, thanks.
 
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