What do you want to do? It's the same people in bars, plus you have to pay extra for booze.
but there are no bars in this... village... plus, I am way too shy to talk to random strangers in bars to buy them booze and then hope to get in bed with them.
what I want to do?
.- find a profile with nice pics, someone not into crazy stuff, non smoker, normal guy.
.- show interest and see the guy is also interested.
.- exchange some messages
.- meet in a date and have good chemistry and go to bed and develop a friendship.
that's all, is it too much to ask? I am not deluded to think the love of my life is somewhere in one of this online sites.
Guess it depends what you're after - if you're there to meet someone to date it takes time. Don't invest too much of your time or energy into it and don't take any rejection to heart. I was on the verge of deleting my profile for the same reason when I met my bf on there.
Unless you're big on picking up or finding guys at gay bars and stuff it really is just the easiest way to meet. I just treated it like a screening service

"nope... nope... maybe... nope... nope.. block.. nope.."
thing is, I like very few people... I admire their beauty or whatever are their strong points but for me to be sure I want to have a date... jeez, it's like 1 profile in 50, it may sound as if I am extremely picky but what can I do if 90% of those profiles are either smokers, or too young/old, or extremely thin/fat or something that I don't feel attracted to?
it's strange but completely normal, decent looking guys around my age are hard to come buy.
What's your type exactly?
this is my search data:
Age: 34-42 (I am 35 and I sometimes like younger guys but that's rather an exception)
Bodytype: Normal, Small Belly, Atheltic, Muscular
Height: Tall (around 6'3 and above is a plus but not a must)
No smoker, No drugs.
anything else, (like role in bed, religion, cock size, ethnics, job) isn't relevant enough to even mention it..
am I too picky?