How do you date a beautiful woman?

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Yeah, she's not amazingly beautiful to be honest but she is definitely attractive. You both seem to be getting along well from the sounds of things so are you sure that you're not just looking at her through rose-coloured glasses, so to speak? In other words, is this attraction you have to her, which one may perceive as love, making her seem more beautiful in your eyes?

Just a thought.
 
Can we change the title to how do you date a decent woman? Srsly op..
 
She's a good looking girl, but I have to agree with the chorus of folks who are saying that she outkicked her coverage with the OP. (Based on looks anyway)

She should be the one making this thread here. :)
 
She's cute, definitely. You are definitely in her league, just erase that "OMG SHE SO HAWT" mentality, it will hold you back. Be cool about it, don't get so gushy about her looks. I know its hard, trust me.

Good luck!
 
I was expecting the OP to be some dorky looking skinny dude by the way he explained the situation.

You're a handsome fella OP, you and the lady in question are very much playing in the same ballpark.

Good luck fella! I'd say keep her keen and all that, but I is a simpin' motherfucker when it comes to girls! Hey, I've recognised the problem, that's the first step.
 
gatti-man said:
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OP & the lady look like 2 people who would date each other. No gap in the attractiveness department, IMO.

But my question would be why a 31yo (very) good looking lady like that is single. Is she divorced? A single mother? One of those "Never Settle" types? Because I'll be honest here, that is a lady I would at least approach, no question, if I were single. She's very attractive, IMO.

Good work, OP! :)
 
LosDaddie said:
OP & the lady look like 2 people who would date each other. No gap in the attractiveness department, IMO.

But my question would be why a 31yo (very) good looking lady like that is single. Is she divorced? A single mother? One of those "Never Settle" types? Because I'll be honest here, that is a lady I would at least approach, no question, if I were single. She's very attractive, IMO.

Good work, OP! :)
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Her nefarious plot will unravel all in due time...
 
LosDaddie said:
OP & the lady look like 2 people who would date each other. No gap in the attractiveness department, IMO.

But my question would be why a 31yo (very) good looking lady like that is single. Is she divorced? A single mother? One of those "Never Settle" types? Because I'll be honest here, that is a lady I would at least approach, no question, if I were single. She's very attractive, IMO.

Good work, OP! :)
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She got out of a long term relationship (6 years) and moved away to where I live. She's only been in the area about a month. No kids no divorce. I'm divorced though so we both have history. It's not a problem.
 
San Antonio-GAF represent. Take her to Bin 555 or Silo, she'll dig it.

edit: Is that Lulu's Cafe in the first picture, haven't been there in forever :(
 
Well back to almost square one. Things have been great. I find her captivating and spend most of my free time with her. She came by late last night and I had to leave early for work. I left her a present in her bed side table. I sent her a text and she sleepily went to mine. Unbeknownst to me I had a card from my ex gf in there talking about marraige. I thought I threw all that junk out. All my ex did was constantly pressure me to get married when I really never felt what I needed to for her. But being a dumb guy I went a long with it and just hoped for the best before I finally called it quits.

I stupidly never told the new girl because I knew she wouldn't understand and guess what, she doesn't :-/. We aren't over but she's definitely taking steps back which really blows bc our relationship was perfect.

I've tried talking to her about it but its hard to put what I was thinking in perspective with what I feel for her. I haven't felt this way about someone in 10 years. Before her I was just trying to find a good person I could learn to love but with her, I would hang the moon for her.
 
Aguirre said:
god forbid, but if you break up with her, i can be your rock and ... well, we'll see how things progress from there :)
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you are the most confusing person on GAF


and this woman isn't that stunning. as people said, it will fade, personality has it in the end.

and by that point we are all fucking people.
 
gatti-man said:
Well back to almost square one. Things have been great. I find her captivating and spend most of my free time with her. She came by late last night and I had to leave early for work. I left her a present in her bed side table. I sent her a text and she sleepily went to mine. Unbeknownst to me I had a card from my ex gf in there talking about marraige. I thought I threw all that junk out. All my ex did was constantly pressure me to get married when I really never felt what I needed to for her. But being a dumb guy I went a long with it and just hoped for the best before I finally called it quits.

I stupidly never told the new girl because I knew she wouldn't understand and guess what, she doesn't :-/. We aren't over but she's definitely taking steps back which really blows bc our relationship was perfect.

I've tried talking to her about it but its hard to put what I was thinking in perspective with what I feel for her. I haven't felt this way about someone in 10 years. Before her I was just trying to find a good person I could learn to love but with her, I would hang the moon for her.
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sorry to hear that man, life sucks

post more pics before you two break up
 
gatti-man said:
I haven't felt this way about someone in 10 years. Before her I was just trying to find a good person I could learn to love but with her, I would hang the moon for her.
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If telling her that doesn't melt the ice around her heart, and then engulf her heart in an unquenchable hellfire, I don't know what will.

Burn all your ex's shit while you're at it.
 
Not sure I get what happened. She randomly rummaged through your shit and then read a card from your ex talkin about marriage..? So? Unless you hadn't told her you were divorced?
 
Really? That sucks man. I find it hard to believe she's getting so worked up over this. It's not like you wrote that card to your ex. Who cares what your ex wanted, knowing that you were never on the same page and broke up over it should be enough for her to know that's in the past. Tell her you were sure you had thrown all that stuff away, but you missed that one card. Tear it up in front of her and say that's in the past and has no meaning to you, that she's the thing you care most about right now.
 
Sounds like you need to just calm down and breathe.

Don't sweat it, if things are going to happen they will happen.

No sense in driving yourself crazy worrying about if you are texting/calling too much.
 
I agree with the other posters saying that this really shouldn't be a big deal. It's not like the card was exchanged while you were dating this new girl, nor were you keeping it as a love memento from days long gone. You forgot it was in there, you don't want it anymore, you're going to toss it. OK, done.

Either there's more to the story that you haven't mentioned or she's flipping out for no good reason. If it's the latter then you may have dodged a bullet.
 
I think she's pretty. Just treat her as an equal. Relationships based on gender roles always kind of annoyed me. The person you're with should be your best friend too.
 
From what I gathered, he didn't tell her about the marriage and divorce which means she found out about it on her own. She is naturally upset about it.
 
It depends on the woman in question. But generally, I'd say:

Love yourself.
 
RedNalgene said:
I agree with the other posters saying that this really shouldn't be a big deal. It's not like the card was exchanged while you were dating this new girl, nor were you keeping it as a love memento from days long gone. You forgot it was in there, you don't want it anymore, you're going to toss it. OK, done.

Either there's more to the story that you haven't mentioned or she's flipping out for no good reason. If it's the latter then you may have dodged a bullet.
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It's us discussing marraige. I never told her I was engaged to my last gf. I omitted that bc I didn't feel like explaining that I was pressured into it and then ended the relationship soon after because I didn't think the new gf would understand. And she didn't.


FallingEdge said:
From what I gathered, he didn't tell her about the marriage and divorce which means she found out about it on her own. She is naturally upset about it.
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She knew about the divorce but I think if she knew about this broken engagement I had it would have been a deal breaker for her early on. Nows she's kindof stuck bc she likes me but thinks I'm kindof a idiot when it comes to relationships. Which could be true but I just didn't think I would ever find someone I'm so crazy about like her.
 
gatti-man said:
It's us discussing marraige. I never told her I was engaged to my last gf. I omitted that bc I didn't feel like explaining that I was pressured into it and then ended the relationship soon after because I didn't think the new gf would understand. And she didn't.
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discussing marraige? havent you only been seeing her for a couple of months?

yeah, that would put a lot of people off, ugly or beautiful.
 
chicko1983 said:
discussing marraige? havent you only been seeing her for a couple of months?

yeah, that would put a lot of people off, ugly or beautiful.
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My last gf I dated for 14 months. She was all about commitment and was always pushing for permanent commitment like marraige or getting her name on my house.
 
Rentahamster said:
That + pushiness is a red flag.
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That's why I dumped her. In the past I typically grew to love my partners so in the beginning I put up with stuff but with the new girl it was like instant feelings. She's basically freaked out that I was engaged recently and didn't tell her.
 
LuchaShaq said:
Confidence, good sexual skills, and a good personality.


You can replace one of the 3 with large amounts of fame/money.
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I have a curved for her pleasure penis so sexual skills aren't difficult. The rest is a matter of opinion I would say. I'm a funny guy and she loves to laugh.
 
So you're divorced and out of another engagement. Good on her for being cautious, especially if you kept it from her.
 
gatti-man said:
It's us discussing marraige. I never told her I was engaged to my last gf. I omitted that bc I didn't feel like explaining that I was pressured into it and then ended the relationship soon after because I didn't think the new gf would understand. And she didn't.
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Oh. Yikes. She's right to be upset, you held back a kinda big part of your past relationship. If you want to make it work with her you'll need to not only explain that fact about your previous relationship but also that you're not planning on keeping major secrets from her in the future.
 
Always put everything on the table, not at once but don't hold shit back, even if to you it's inconsequential it starts the whole train of "why was he hiding this from me." You don't want that.
 
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