PJV3
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If she understands that he wasn't really invested in the engagement, it should be fine, but yeah, be honest and upfront sbout everything.
How do you date a beautiful woman?
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If she understands that he wasn't really invested in the engagement, it should be fine, but yeah, be honest and upfront sbout everything.
Yeah. I agree. I had always planned on telling her I just was trying to figure out how. She already was pretty critical of my past. I was engaged for all of two weeks it was a terrible idea and I told her I regretted the entire relationship before hand but just had not gotten into details.
I don't have any other secrets. That was it.
I think she even understands why I didn't come out with it at first. It's tough to explain a situation like that to someone that wasn't there at the time. All my friends saw it happen and knew what I was trying to do. I was just trying to buy time to really decide if its what I wanted. My ex gf was an ultimatum machine. I should have walked sooner but I didn't.
Darth Tigris
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Personally, I don't understand this. Granted I have found myself flustered by a woman's beauty before, but if it got to the point of a date then that goes away because the of the mutual attraction at that point.
What intimidates me more is a woman that has it all and has done it all and is so brimming in confidence that she makes you feel like nothing. Like a woman that has traveled the world, speaks 5 languages fluently, was previously engaged to a prince and runs her own multi-million dollar company. Compared to that kind of stuff, beauty is easy to handle.
What intimidates me more is a woman that has it all and has done it all and is so brimming in confidence that she makes you feel like nothing. Like a woman that has traveled the world, speaks 5 languages fluently, was previously engaged to a prince and runs her own multi-million dollar company. Compared to that kind of stuff, beauty is easy to handle.
It's because I love her man. I've come to terms with it. I haven't loved like this in 10 years. Even then it was gradual, this hit me like a freight train. I think she feels it too or she would have left by now.
PigSpeakers
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Anticitizen One
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Show them your bronie collection. It worked for me
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Im 33 shes 31. I dont think she would mind these pics as they are in her FB but yeah i hope this doesnt piss her off. Im still in lalaland about everything. She is the coolest girl Ive ever been with.
Oh and give me some dap gaf I came through with pics!
Edit yes my pic is cheesey/dumb/lame etc im not photogenic and always feel like an idiot taking photos. I dont have any just random decent ones of me that are SFW
6/10 would not bang any of you, take some Beta-blockers and you may get a chance...
but really, a good personality coupled with some nice eye candy is all you need, just dont try to "act" a personality, if you are always thinking what you are going to do or say, you are doing it wrong, better find someone as insecure/secure as you.
She has every right to be upset. That being said, you need to (and it sounds like you did) explain yourself. Explain that you're sorry for misleading/hurting her and that it's never going to happen again. Which in itself is kind of laughable, because if you guys do end up working things out - everyone lies about something at some point. It's human nature. However, those words - planting that seed is necessary for any potential reconciliation right now.
Beyond that; just give her the space and time she needs to figure things out. You will only end up pushing her away even further if you -continue- trying to apologize or profess your love. If she feels the way you do about her, then she will forgive you. She will eventually come back and everything will work itself out. However, if she does not, then cut your losses because you learned an unfortunate lesson based on your calculated mistake.
Again, leave her be and wait for her to come back. You need to make her miss being around you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If she doesn't, then let her go. Truthfully speaking, if a 30+ year old woman isn't emotionally capable of forgiving someone they care about under these circumstances, then you likely dodged a real bullet my friend.
Beyond that; just give her the space and time she needs to figure things out. You will only end up pushing her away even further if you -continue- trying to apologize or profess your love. If she feels the way you do about her, then she will forgive you. She will eventually come back and everything will work itself out. However, if she does not, then cut your losses because you learned an unfortunate lesson based on your calculated mistake.
Again, leave her be and wait for her to come back. You need to make her miss being around you. Absence makes the heart grow fonder. If she doesn't, then let her go. Truthfully speaking, if a 30+ year old woman isn't emotionally capable of forgiving someone they care about under these circumstances, then you likely dodged a real bullet my friend.
At which point you get obnoxiously drunk and go find the nearest semi-attractive twenty year old
Darth Tigris
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Well I don't know you, but I'm happy for you, man. I know that feeling and the only scary part for me was being afraid to believe, because I was afraid it wouldn't last. And, for me, every time I have believed, shortly thereafter it fell apart. Not because of anything I did, just ... things outside of my control and, being completely honest, being a bit of a hopeless romantic in believing in things that didn't have a high likelihood of succeeding.
Anyway, enough about me. Again, good for you. Enjoy every moment of it, even the occasional fights and disagreements (and subsequent make-ups), if it last a month, 3 years or 5 decades. Enjoy it. Being in mutual love is ... to feel alive.
FallingEdge
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congrats?
stufte
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Well that escalated quickly...
Oh shit. Have you guys had the talk yet? Good luck sir.
It all started with good intentions. Took her downtown to the Driskill hotel and we had dinner there and partied all night. Came back to the hotel (walked its right on downtown). Did it all night and used protection. But after about 4am my memory gets pretty spotty. We used the morning after pill just to be safe and no dice. She just tested positive.
Yeah I know there is a possibility it isn't mine by cheating but we spend almost all our time together and we were having sex 2-4 times a day so I sincerely doubt it. I'm 34 and can support a family but wow this is really soon!
Yeah I know there is a possibility it isn't mine by cheating but we spend almost all our time together and we were having sex 2-4 times a day so I sincerely doubt it. I'm 34 and can support a family but wow this is really soon!
What were you thinking...
She's not on some form of BC?
Dr.Palutena
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Congrats or something. Good luck.
Nope. She wasn't sexually active before me according to her.
Congrats then? Get a paternity test once the child is born but who is going to be listed as the father on the birth certificate?
You want the play by play or in general? It's not like I just go throwing cum everywhere man.
Lasthope106
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In this case you did. Congrats!
That's bad news bears.
Messofanego
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You mentioned how she had just moved to Austin so I believe her. Especially if she doesn't seem to have friends or any kind if social life since she's moved. Her being mad at you about the marriage thing seemed to be another sign of her commitment (although I'm sure anyone would be mad about that). I hope you guys are doing well since your last fight. Oh, and congrats.
It's not that bad man. Kids aren't the end of anything especially just one. That being said I really really hope I'm right about her bc child support and broken homes aren't something I ever planned on.
Yeah she's well over that. We don't really fight.
Oh shiiiit
That's kind of a dark place to go with this news.
She's having twins. You got that sperm all over the place!
ThoseDeafMutes
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OP, you can't just leave us hanging like that.
Fill us in like her uterus.
He did, reaaaaad
Blood Diamonds
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With tons of Swag.
oh my.
Blood Diamonds
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AhahahahahahahahHAHAHAAHAHAHAHHhahahahahah
Just read this, lol.
Good luck or whatever with dat child support.
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Im 33 shes 31. I dont think she would mind these pics as they are in her FB but yeah i hope this doesnt piss her off. Im still in lalaland about everything. She is the coolest girl Ive ever been with.
Oh and give me some dap gaf I came through with pics!
Edit yes my pic is cheesey/dumb/lame etc im not photogenic and always feel like an idiot taking photos. I dont have any just random decent ones of me that are SFW
wat. you're like a solid 7/10 if you're 6 feet +, fairly handsome. she's like a 5/10, maybe even a 4/10. you can do better.
KingofGourds
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That's a bingo! Congrats I guess.
This thread has been amazing, and actually insightful. I know it's still the internet and all but I'd never have the guts to lay out my life to people like this.
4/10? Hahaha come on man.
What would you like to know? We are talking about it right now. She may not keep it.
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I don't even..
Inflammable Slinky
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Dude she isn't outstandingly gorgeous or whatever words you used in the OP. Don't get me wrong she's cute as hell but I'm pretty sure you see her as the pinnacle of beauty due to whatever reason you are attracted to her. So don't worry about it or get a weird complex (that said you seem like dozens of time more down to earth than the rest of the losers (myself included) on this site so I wouldn't worry about it)
That said good luck with the baby or the abortion, whichever comes up. Luckily, being crazy into your partner helps alot with both of those options.
even still, 4/10 is looooooow balling, lol. She's about his league honestly which isn't in the 4's at all.
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