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Actually that's the most poignant thing on the list made especially true by the sexual reproduction laws that many states are shoving through right now. If you don't think that having an elected body of most males is a bad thing, then maybe this list isn't such a bad idea afterall.

Mostly it's got some obvious privileges that we enjoy, but I'm not sure about the efficacy of it among men who don't already recognize their advantages. To them it will just be inflammatory, as shown by the reactions in this thread.

What are the reproductive laws for men that these men in power are pushing through? I haven't seen anything to suggest that men are making laws in their own interest.

The only thing I've seen is lawmakers limiting the time frame of abortions because they believe young fetuses to have human rights. That's not exactly pro-male or anti-female.
 
Yeah, that one is really poorly worded. Better would be "You're less likely to be sexualized and objectified in the media."

The way she worded it it sounds like her solution would be to have both genders heavily sexualized and objectified.

That would be a good solution in my opinion. I think male beauty standards should be brought up on par with women.
 
What are the reproductive laws for men that these men in power are pushing through? I haven't seen anything to suggest that men are making laws in their own interest.

The only thing I've seen is lawmakers limiting the time frame of abortions because they believe young fetuses to have human rights. That's not exactly pro-male or anti-female.


I suppose what you need to ask is: if men were in the same position as these women, would their positions hold? I'm not convinced.
 
Yeah I mean backwards laws towards abortion are evidence of this. Look at Ireland for example.

Woah there. Our laws are supported by a large majority of the populace. We've had several referendums on various aspects of the subject. Women are some of the most strident supporters of the abortions laws in this country.

I support many of them myself. You can't pin the under representation of women in our parliament as a reason for those laws.
 
Woah there. Our laws are supported by a large majority of the populace. We've had several referendums on various aspects of the subject. Women are some of the most strident supporters of the abortions laws in this country.

I support many of them myself. You can't pin the under representation of women in our parliament as a reason for those laws.

Oh well then Ireland as a whole has gone down in my estimation. All of the Irish people I know find it embarrassing that their government isn't more progressive.
 
I thought feminism includes men's rights. Isn't that the reason many femenists say MRAs don't need to exist?
Well yes, but feminist isnt the same as womens issues, and so discussing mens issues in a womens issues thread is kind of off topic. Theres no reason to bring up mens issues everytime we talk about women. Some people like to use that "feminists say feminism is about equality" line to derail threads though :/
 
Had to fact check two of them, which I suppose proves #46 correct
5. I am far less likely to face sexual harassment at work than my female co-workers are.
My only contention was on the use of the word "far" and checking the explanation showed that originally the author claimed it was a negligible amount, which is far from accurate.
43. If I am heterosexual, it’s incredibly unlikely that I’ll ever be beaten up by a spouse or lover.
The hetero caught my eye here. Checked the source and couldn't find anything at all identifying gay couples reporting more violence.
 
Privilege!:

http://www.startribune.com/nation/120750509.html

WASHINGTON - For the first time, American women have passed men in gaining advanced college degrees as well as bachelor's degrees, part of a trend that is helping redefine who goes off to work and who stays home with the kids.

http://www.education.com/magazine/article/the-gender-gap/

For decades, it’s been a prevailing belief: girls are at a disadvantage in the classroom, especially when it comes to certain subjects. But the classroom gender gap might not be what you expect. These days, it’s more likely to be male students that just can’t seem to keep up with their female counterparts.
 
the strangers telling you to smile thing has happened a few time in my life, and every time I felt like punching them in the face. how fucking obnoxious is that?

Cause its legit bro.

I don't mean to be all pro life but you'd be surprised how much smiling can change your day. Learn to smile, keep smiling, make others smile, profit.
 
I wonder what it is that has allowed girls to get ahead of boys in schooling. Has something changed since girls were allowed to attend, and then encouraged to excel? Ive often heard that school is too monotonous for boys, but since school has been that way for a long time, has the system always favoured females, even before they were a part of the system?
 
Oh well then Ireland as a whole has gone down in my estimation. All of the Irish people I know find it embarrassing that their government isn't more progressive.

There is certainly some work to do in that area to bring the laws in line with public opinion on the matter, but there is no broad support for elective abortions here. The topic is pretty divisive, as with anywhere else, it makes movement on it very sporadic as most politicians avoid it like the plague.

We'd need another referendum to change our constitution. I'd guess that we might have one in a few years on loosing it up for some particular cases, but I don't think I'll see elective abortions available here in my life time.
 
What are the reproductive laws for men that these men in power are pushing through? I haven't seen anything to suggest that men are making laws in their own interest.

The only thing I've seen is lawmakers limiting the time frame of abortions because they believe young fetuses to have human rights. That's not exactly pro-male or anti-female.

It could be considered that this is a backdoor means of getting women to carry a child for a man that she does not want to carry - keeping that woman's life forever entangled with that man.

I'm sure many do it because they believe fetuses have human rights, but I am sure many also do it to lockdown a female, where she will face much societal pressure to stay with the father.
 
If I remember correctly was there actually some statistic that, in the US, there are more male rape victims than female ones because of prison rape.

edit: Ah, here it is http://www.outsidethebeltway.com/men-outnumber-women-among-american-rape-victims/

These type of facts have fascinated me for a while now. I'm not out on some crusade to prove quality of life isn't overall worse for women than it is for men, but I would very much appreciate to see a study that included all members of the human race, not just members of everyday society. The truth is there are far more male outcasts than female outcasts, and I see no reason to discount them when trying to make an extensive claim about average quality of life.

Furthermore, if equality is really the underlying concern behind the feminist approach, I think it should also address the problem of much more men than women at the bottom of the social ladder, not just the problem of much more men than women at the top.

Men are more likely to commit suicide, have mental illness, and serve prison terms. They're more likely to drop out of school, less likely to attend or finish college, and do worse academically on the whole. Males are more likely to be victims of violent crime than females (the only exception is rape). Men are more likely to die from getting struck by lightening. On health issues, women outlive men. Men are more likely to die of a heart attack and many other things. This can go on and on.
this is part of what I'm saying.

This isn't really list of societal privilege. This unfortunate things happen on a higher occurrence to men, but its not really directly because of women or anything.....
Its a pretty ineffective list for female privilege.
honest question: don't you think it's problematic to say that if men are the majority of one social extreme it's due to "natural" causes, but if they are the majority of the opposite social extreme it's due to "unfair\unnatural intervention"?

Roughly 82% of people killed by lightening between the years of 1995 and 2008 were men. This also ties into why men are more likely to speed and get into car wrecks: recklessness.
Is it taboo to suggest that when comparing a reckless group to a less reckless group, you'd find more cases of extreme failure in the former, but also perhaps more cases of surprising hit-it-out-of-the-park successes?
 
This isn't really list of societal privilege. This unfortunate things happen on a higher occurrence to men, but its not really directly because of women or anything.....
Its a pretty ineffective list for female privilege.
But the OP list is a pretty poor list of male privilege. In fact it is almost entirely a list of issues women face not privileges men have, and most are not brought about directly by a male dominated society.
 

Damn. That's a devastating response against the feminist agenda.

It has long felt like feminism forces you to only consider the plight of females without equal or fair consideration for the difficulties that men shoulder.

As far as I can tell, shit's different for both sexes. There are some perks for been men, some perks for been women. And if that video is accurate to any degree, what I've thought previously as perks for been a man... is no perk at all! (i.e. men getting paid more; they get paid more because the other factors that affect the gender causes them to put themselves into situations that will earn them more... including working longer hours in crappier (less fufilling jobs).

It'd be great if we could strive for equality in the true sense... by eliminating gender expectations and gender roles (with exception of childbirth) (the roles and jobs that are considered gender specific would obviously still exist - just not specific to gender) from life. But equality is kinda best reflected in the name of the movement; feminism - in which we strive for equality for the perceived underclass without taking into account the validities of the growing and increasing difficulties that occurs on the other side of the fence.
 
absolutely not.

Absolutely yes.

Women have ton of shops with prices varied from cheap to expensive and same with quality of material. We men have usually 1/3 or 1/4 of shop and less brands overall and most of the time we pay a lot more for simple things. Getting something cheap with good quality material is hell for men.
 
I wonder what it is that has allowed girls to get ahead of boys in schooling. Has something changed since girls were allowed to attend, and then encouraged to excel? Ive often heard that school is too monotonous for boys, but since school has been that way for a long time, has the system always favoured females, even before they were a part of the system?

Yeah. You know, I actually think there is an element of truth in that. Boys tend to just want to play. They need something that is actively stimulating. I guess one difference is that schools aren't quite as strict as they were 30-50 years ago. Perhaps parents aren't quite so hard on their children either.
 
Damn. That's a devastating response against the feminist agenda.

It has long felt like feminism forces you to only consider the plight of females without equal or fair consideration for the difficulties that men shoulder.

As far as I can tell, shit's different for both sexes. There are some perks for been men, some perks for been women. And if that video is accurate to any degree, what I've thought previously as perks for been a man... is no perk at all! (i.e. men getting paid more; they get paid more because the other factors that affect the gender causes them to put themselves into situations that will earn them more... including working longer hours in crappier (less fufilling jobs).

It'd be great if we could strive for equality in the true sense... by eliminating gender expectations and gender roles (with exception of childbirth) (the roles and jobs that are considered gender specific would obviously still exist - just not specific to gender) from life. But equality is kinda best reflected in the name of the movement; feminism - in which we strive for equality for the perceived underclass without taking into account the validities of the growing and increasing difficulties that occurs on the other side of the fence.

Whenever I have this argument on GAF, it eventually comes down to some people's refusal to accept the idea that men and women are different, not just in the physical sense or ability to become pregnant, but also in other senses, related to social and cognitive skills.

Usually whenever the cognitive claim is brought up, it's automatically seen as an insult in disguise. The idea that "different" immediately implies "unequal" and the idea that men and women should have identical behavioral patterns and ways of thinking because "it's only fair" seem to be deeply ingrained.

What is the point of this?
For me personally, this thread serves a very important purpose. It offers me a place to raise legitimate questions I have about the way society views and treats certain gender related issues. In the past, bringing up such questions in a more feminist-oriented context has usually been seen as inappropriate or non-constructive.
 
I wonder what it is that has allowed girls to get ahead of boys in schooling. Has something changed since girls were allowed to attend, and then encouraged to excel? Ive often heard that school is too monotonous for boys, but since school has been that way for a long time, has the system always favoured females, even before they were a part of the system?

I've heard various theories but nothing proven. It's set up to stifle any expression and boys that tend to learn by activities are at a big disadvantage and even get labeled as troublemakers.

Another is that boys were (are) seen as"the privileged sex" and get overlooked. Which is why the OP article here is so annoying to see.

Not sure what it is but the numbers are certainly trending towards girls.

Christina Hoff Sommers writes about this a lot, but there are article on it all over.
http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2000/05/the-war-against-boys/304659/

I have a son and daughter and I'm more concerned about him being treated fairly than her.
 
honest question: don't you think it's problematic to say that if men are the majority of one social extreme it's due to "natural" causes, but if they are the majority of the opposite social extreme it's due to "unfairunnatural intervention"?

I would agree completely normally but in the context of the list he gave I don't think that's what I did. The op list is a list of social norms set up for women. "I am not expected to blank because I am male" so it's essentially a list saying that "as a woman in this society I am expected and judged by these double/sexist standards. Now an equivalent list for men would garner the same respect as understanding for men.
If the list that the poster I was referring to said,
"As a woman my woman hood is not questioned for allowing my husband to make more income" than that would be totally fine and within the context of the concept of social privileges.
My issue with the list is that yes men are at the majority of these troubling statistics, but without context, or a similar framing in regards to social issues, it's not a good counter example.
"As a woman, I do not typically feel the societal pressure of being the sole provider, and because of this I am far less likely to commitsuicide" fits the nature of the list and discussion much more. The poster may have been implying this, (if its even true, just a hypotetical for me as I don't know the primary reason for suicide in men) but he/she did not say this. Therefore his/her list simply sounded like a list of unfortunate naturally occurring statistics as opposed to something that is a result of our social structure, making it a pie rebuttal
 
I was okay with the first 7 or so items in the list before it started getting further and further out there. Several items on the list are perfectly valid points and real issues, but most are really reaching, and the list just got more and more passive-aggressive as it went on.

There are better ways to talk about gender equality. I mean, yes, there is still a lot of gender bias in the world, and people do need to be made aware of it. But creating a list of accusations and "You don't know what it's like because you have it so much better without knowing it!" statements stirs up so much animosity that it becomes counterproductive to the original intention of the post, which (I assume) is to raise awareness of the valid issues.

The whole article would have been a lot better if the list was kept much shorter and left to just the main points.
 
When I was a kid and my brother got the extra cookie and I would complain, my mother would respond with, "Life isn't fair, deal with it kid." Well I dealt with it alright, because now I eat the fucking cookies I want. NOM NOM NOM
 
But the OP list is a pretty poor list of male privilege. In fact it is almost entirely a list of issues women face not privileges men have, and most are not brought about directly by a male dominated society.
I would disagree. Alot of the issues in the list are a direct result of our male dominated culture. And although they are a list of female strifes it also put into context the day to day struggles women face simply because they are female and te privelege that males have by not experiencing them.
 
I wonder what it is that has allowed girls to get ahead of boys in schooling. Has something changed since girls were allowed to attend, and then encouraged to excel? Ive often heard that school is too monotonous for boys, but since school has been that way for a long time, has the system always favoured females, even before they were a part of the system?

Genetics and a taller thinner bell curve vs a flatter wider one for males (intelligence).

Yeah I went there.
 
I would disagree. Alot of the issues in the list are a direct result of our male dominated culture. And although they are a list of female strifes it also put into context the day to day struggles women face simply because they are female and te privelege that males have by not experiencing them.


And of the day to day struggles that men face because they are male and the privilege females have for not having to face them, what about them?

Painting a one sided picture is fast track to people being less receptive to legitimate issues women face, a lot of these things paint a picture that only women have problems, or minorities etc ........... if you are white and male how could you possibly have anything to worry about?


I'm sorry but plenty of men, of any colour or ethnicity have legitimate issues that effect them based on their gender ....... this ain't all one way traffic.
 
And of the day to day struggles that men face because they are male and the privilege females have for not having to face them, what about them?

Painting a one sided picture is fast track to people being less receptive to legitimate issues women face, a lot of these things paint a picture that only women have problems, or minorities etc ........... if you are white and male how could you possibly have anything to worry about?


I'm sorry but plenty of men, of any colour or ethnicity have legitimate issues that effect them based on their gender ....... this ain't all one way traffic.
no one is suggesting that it is.
 
And of the day to day struggles that men face because they are male and the privilege females have for not having to face them, what about them?

So, what is the answer? Are women obligated to talk about men's issues, whenever they want to discuss the unique problems they face? Or are women suppose to stop talking about their problems all together? Your response is common, so I'm asking honestly. Which one is the ideal?
 
And of the day to day struggles that men face because they are male and the privilege females have for not having to face them, what about them?

Painting a one sided picture is fast track to people being less receptive to legitimate issues women face, a lot of these things paint a picture that only women have problems, or minorities etc ........... if you are white and male how could you possibly have anything to worry about?


I'm sorry but plenty of men, of any colour or ethnicity have legitimate issues that effect them based on their gender ....... this ain't all one way traffic.

Nothing about this list implies that men have no problems. Nothing at all. It simply a list of women's issues that exist. Anyone can make a list of men's issues and it would be equally legitimate and should insight thoughtful discussion. I know and fully believe that being male carries its own negative social standards.
However that's not what this list is about.
It's specifically about women. And to take it as an undermining of male issues is a misinterpretation. To be put off by this list is the fault if the reader, not an inherent flaw of the list itself
 
So, what is the answer? Are women obligated to talk about men's issues, whenever they want to discuss the unique problems they face? Or are women suppose to stop talking about their problems all together? Your response is common, so I'm asking honestly. Which one is the ideal?

I know this question was directed at someone else, but I'd say we all have to talk about everyone's problems, not just our own. It's the only way we will ever reach understanding.
 
I know this question was directed at someone else, but I'd say we all have to talk about everyone's problems, not just our own. It's the only way we will ever reach understanding.

The way to reach an understanding, is for people to talk about their own problems (which they inherently have a better understanding of) and for others to listen. In this context, it means that men, instead of complaining every time a woman talks about problems she faces (because they feel ignored), should listened to the conversation. And, obviously, women should listen when men talk about the issues they face.
 
I know this question was directed at someone else, but I'd say we all have to talk about everyone's problems, not just our own. It's the only way we will ever reach understanding.

There shouldn't be a problem at all about one group talking about the issues it faces. To make sure to include every bodies problems every time we want to raise a social issue is alt don't you think? It should be ok for a woman or a minority or a man or a Caucasian to say, hey, I feel uncomfortable/against/ oppressed by this aspect of society and this is why it bothers me without having to preface the conversation with every other social issue that plagues us. Everyone is always trying to tell their story, and the problem is that people don't want to listen
 
I would agree completely normally but in the context of the list he gave I don't think that's what I did. The op list is a list of social men's set up for women. "I am not expected to blank because I am male" so it's essentially a list saying that "as a woman in this society I am expected and judged by these double/sexist standards. Now an equivalent list for men would garner the same respect as understanding for men.
If the list that the poster I was referring to said,
"As a woman my woman hood is not questioned for allowing my husband to make more income" than that would be totally fine and within the context of the concept of social privileges.
My issue with the list is that yes men are at the majority of these troubling statistics, but without context, or a similar framing in regards to social issues, it's not a good counter example.
"As a woman, I do not typically feel the societal pressure of being the sole provider, and because of this I am far less likely to commitsuicide" fits the nature of the list and discussion much more. The poster may have been implying this, (if its even true, just a hypotetical for me as I don't know the primary reason for suicide in men) but he/she did not say this. Therefore his/her list simply sounded like a list of unfortunate naturally occurring statistics as opposed to something that is a result of our social structure, making it a pie rebuttal

I see where you're coming from, but the bottom line is when arguing about gender differences the starting point really should be the facts, not what some people feel.
After these facts are agreed upon, then we can start looking at individual causes, be they emotional or social or whatever. This is true just as much for women as it is for men.

As a man who isn't naturally aware of what it feels like to be a female in society, I rely on factual evidence to tell me there is a problem with gender equality. Studies can show this empirically by looking at employment rates, salaries, etc.
In this sense the OP was somewhat sarcastic because the examples he chose to include where closer to anecdotal evidence than empirical ones, which is perhaps why some of the discussion in this thread started off on the wrong foot.

With that said, if we do start with the empirical evidence rather than anecdotal, it's true there is a major gap between men and women at the top end of many (probably even most) fields. This in itself is legitimate cause for concern.

But just like any other empirical claim, there is room for criticism, and the prevalent criticism against the claim that men occupy top positions in society due to unfair or unnatural intervention is well known to be that it is based on a sample of society that is not entirely representative of the whole.
This is why I said earlier that I'm eager to see a more extensive study, in order to get the complete picture. Personally, I believe this complete picture won't reveal how one gender is superior to another, but instead demonstrate how innate differences in how we perceive, communicate and learn need to be taken into account in order for both genders to excel and reach their full potential.

In case you're interested, my guiding intuition based on previous knowledge, is that at the end of the day, as smart as we humans think we are in many areas, nature is still smarter than us when it comes to life, which shouldn't be all that surprising as it has had billions of years of trial and error whereas we've only been thinking about this stuff for a few short thousand years. And the idea of certain genetic traits being distributed among men differently than the way they are distributed among women seems to not only fit with what we see around us, it also seems to be a better construct than the alternative, when it comes to ensuring long term survival of the species.
 
Men don't like to talk about their problems. Women like to talk to men about their problems. Men leave women because they don't like to listen to people talk about their problems. Then women talk to women about their problems, which are now men for not listening to their problems.

It's the cycle of life.
 
Men don't like to talk about their problems. Women like to talk to men about their problems. Men leave women because they don't like to listen to people talk about their problems. Then women talk to women about their problems, which are now men for not listening to their problems.

It's the cycle of life.

you should change the last sentence:

"Then women talk to women about their problems, which are now men for not listening to their problems, while men go and drink to deal with theirs (which are now women)."
 
11. If I have children and provide primary care for them, I’ll be praised for extraordinary parenting if I’m even marginally competent. (More).


This is actually annoying. It sucks being lauded with praise for being able to change a diaper... the implications are quite rude.


18. As a child, chances are I got more teacher attention than girls who raised their hands just as often. (More).

Not in my second grade class! I ALWAYS wanted to be the one who got to take the attendance down to the office each morning, but Mrs Lind would always pick Sarah, or Alex, or any other girl in my class. I never got to do it.
 
So, what is the answer? Are women obligated to talk about men's issues, whenever they want to discuss the unique problems they face? Or are women suppose to stop talking about their problems all together? Your response is common, so I'm asking honestly. Which one is the ideal?
Women aren't obligated to talk about men's issues and certainly don't have to stop talking about their issues. What they do need to do is listen to men's lived experiences and not hand-wave (gaslighting) away any complaints/problems just because they're men or instantly label them as MRAs, "Nice Guys", or neckbeards if they don't conform to their belief system. In addition, there is such a thing as female privilege and it should be talked about by women because the dominant (almost only) narrative we hear is about male privilege and it's a toxic environment for both.
 
The way to reach an understanding, is for people to talk about their own problems (which they inherently have a better understanding of) and for others to listen. In this context, it means that men, instead of complaining every time a woman talks about problems she faces (because they feel ignored), should listened to the conversation. And, obviously, women should listen when men talk about the issues they face.

There shouldn't be a problem at all about one group talking about the issues it faces. To make sure to include every bodies problems every time we want to raise a social issue is alt don't you think? It should be ok for a woman or a minority or a man or a Caucasian to say, hey, I feel uncomfortable/against/ oppressed by this aspect of society and this is why it bothers me without having to preface the conversation with every other social issue that plagues us. Everyone is always trying to tell their story, and the problem is that people don't want to listen

Sorry, I should have worded that better. I assumed that listening was a given when it came to having a dialog.

There definitely has to be a conversation, and everyone should feel welcome and safe to express their concerns, and part of that welcoming/safe space should include for people to be attentively listened to, and have their concerns addressed.

I think since the OP added mens issues into the mix that they should also be discussed here, but I do think there is a bit of dishonesty in the form of the title and original post.

tl;dr - Everyone needs to speak and listen, not over each other, but with mutual respect.

Terrible excuse for bad original post and this terrible post as well: I'm battling a cold at the moment so you will have to (ought to/it would be kind if you would) forgive me.
 
Women aren't obligated to talk about men's issues and certainly don't have to stop talking about their issues. What they do need to do is listen to men's lived experiences and not hand-wave (gaslighting) away any complaints/problems just because they're men or instantly label them as MRAs, "Nice Guys", or neckbeards if they don't conform to their belief system.

Agreed. Every thread about women's issues is derailed by male posters "hand-waiving (gaslighting) away women's lived experiences and complaints/problems just because they're women." Let's all stop doing it.
 
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