Wolfgunblood Garopa
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Yep. That note is embarrassing, and no way to treat someone.
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Yep. That note is embarrassing, and no way to treat someone.
I would be amazed if the note you left got you anywhere. I'm throwing my vote in the creepy/not a good approach basket.
Edit: you've got to understand that your intent with the note is completely unknown to the recipient. How long has he been watching me? What type of person is he? Will he leave more notes? What does he want from me? There are likely countless questions - leaning towards the side of caution and worry - going through this persons head. You have to understand even leaving your business card still makes you a complete stranger - someone she knows absolutely nothing about is leaving messages on her car.
It's creepy, or at the very least, likely an uncomfortable or weird position to be in.
Edit: you've got to understand that your intent with the note is completely unknown to the recipient. How long has he been watching me? What type of person is he? Will he leave more notes? What does he want from me? There are likely countless questions - leaning towards the side of caution and worry - going through this persons head. You have to understand even leaving your business card still makes you a complete stranger - someone she knows absolutely nothing about is leaving messages on her car.
It's creepy, or at the very least, likely an uncomfortable or weird position to be in.
nope. my close group of friends all refused to go so we all dressed up, went up to a car park in the downtown area of town and jammed good music and fucked around. good times.
Didn't care for it at all at the time, and still don't. That said, our prom is nowhere even close to what you see in American movies. Ours was just a massive waltz dance in an indoor hockey arena in fancy clothes and that's it. My graduation "party" sucked ass though. But no use dwelling on the past, is there?
Didn't care for it at all at the time, and still don't. That said, our prom is nowhere even close to what you see in American movies. Ours was just a massive waltz dance in an indoor hockey arena in fancy clothes and that's it. My graduation "party" sucked ass though. But no use dwelling on the past, is there?
It's a weird feeling when you know you don't care but people who like to reminisce about high school keep bringing it up as if it were necessary to live and it starts to nag at you after a while.
PsihoPerihelion
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I don't think the note is that creepy. Is something that the user thought it was "cute" and "playful" but in the end, its something that kills any single chance if you ever had one.
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No regrets!People like to glorify their experiences as something that is some sort of necessary life experience to make themselves feel more important and fulfilled. Just ignore it.
Kung Fu Jedi
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Eh... don't let that shit bother you. High School is only consequential while you're in it and maybe for a few years afterwards. Otherwise, just move on and don't let much that took place then have an impact on your life.
As for me, I went to prom both my junior and senior years with two different girls. Had a great time but it was hardly that important in the greater scheme of things.
(Glad to help make a change of subject over "the note")
I suck at learning how to let go of stuff that I don't need to worry about. If I could, my life would be infinitely better. Lately things have been functioning like a sitcom, with me learning something new every week, so who knows? Maybe that's the next lesson.
Never went to any school function. No fucks given.
Kung Fu Jedi
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I know it can sometimes be hard to let that stuff go but it will certainly serve you better in your life if you can. It is also something that comes with age. When I was in my 20's it was a lot harder to do. In my 30's I learned to be more patient and not sweat a lot of that crap. Now I"m 44 and I really don't let much bother me any more unless it is truly important. It's all about priorities and being comfortable with yourself.
Ghost_Protocol
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Well, she parked in exactly the same spot that she did yesterday, the note wasn't ripped up into little pieces and scattered all over the ground, and company security wasn't waiting for me at my desk, so I'm gonna go ahead and count that as a win for now. No email, text, or call or anything. But I don't really expect to hear much.
The Artful Dodger
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I arranged for some of my buddies and I to stay at home play poker, drink whiskey, and smoke cigars all night. When word got out, most folks were jealous because what we did was waay more fun.
We ended up doing it again cause all the prom goers were so bummed they missed out.
you count nothing happening as a win?
Ghost_Protocol
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Actually, yes. I'm starting to worry about all my work info in the hands of a stranger coming back to bite me in some way. The goalposts have moved. I'm past expecting to hear from her and now I just hope she doesn't say/do anything to hurt my reputation.
a hobo probably took it
The Artful Dodger
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If this Hobo calls you. Definitely take him out for a meal. (In this scenario, the hobo looks like Bubbles from the Wire)
Kano on the Phone
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If you're awkwardly creeping on a coworker the way he was, then nothing is as good as you can hope for.
Im sure shes more scared than you are.
Kano on the Phone
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A. Why on earth are you checking that parking spot again? It was already creepy, now its borderline stalkerish. Just stop...
B. How on earth is this a win? The moment you put that note down, your reputation plummeted. Screw HR coming after you - Id be more concerned with her passing around your name to people (epecially management/higher ups) in your complex, telling them shes scared and to avoid you. Word travel quickly.
B. How on earth is this a win? The moment you put that note down, your reputation plummeted. Screw HR coming after you - Id be more concerned with her passing around your name to people (epecially management/higher ups) in your complex, telling them shes scared and to avoid you. Word travel quickly.
Qwerty710710
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I finally got this girl number yesterday. I'm probably paranoid today I sent this text and I haven't heard back from her in over 2 hours. I've learned my lesson from previous girls I don't want to be push. But it is annoying though that I haven't heard from her
how he can banned? lol
Don't get paranoid about it. You don't want to send the wrong message by blowing up her phone with multiple texts. If you keep texting her constantly it reflects poorly on you. Just give it a while. Find something else to occupy your thoughts. Sitting there the entire time waiting for a text will only make the wait seem like an eternity.
So I somehow worked my way into friendzone/boyfriend material-level stuff? That sounds depressing.
TheVampire
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How am I supposed to go in for the first kiss?
Im on date #3 with this girl tonight and I really want to kiss her.
I have to. Its the third date already.
We are meeting up to have dinner after work but when its finished I assume we will go for a walk for a bit and then part ways. ( I cant have a late one since Im working early tomorrow morning)
But the way I see it we will walk around breifly after dinner, slowly making our way back to the car park. Stop, chat a bit more then.....say bye and part ways? But how am I supposed to initiate a kiss / makeout session there in the parking lot?
Im on date #3 with this girl tonight and I really want to kiss her.
I have to. Its the third date already.
We are meeting up to have dinner after work but when its finished I assume we will go for a walk for a bit and then part ways. ( I cant have a late one since Im working early tomorrow morning)
But the way I see it we will walk around breifly after dinner, slowly making our way back to the car park. Stop, chat a bit more then.....say bye and part ways? But how am I supposed to initiate a kiss / makeout session there in the parking lot?
The Artful Dodger
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Liu Kang Baking A Pie
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Oh God, you're serious.
It's a third date. She's into you. When you're saying bye, just move in and do it.
-ImaginaryInsider
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Met a 20 year old girl while hanging with my friends, we hit it off, she asks for my number... later on in the week she contacts me and we have another great conversation, she asks if she can hang out with me, and we make plans.
We hangout, it goes well, I ask her if she wants to go out on date when I get back in town the next week, she agrees, we then make out, we cuddle and talk, she leaves. She comes over to my friends the next day and is friendly, but a bit reserved... I give her space and don't text, I see her two days later, she's friendly but reserved.
I wait a few days, text her and ask if she's free for a call after she gets out of class that night, but she says she has to work all night, she is friendly and texts back a bit, but still seems reserved.
Now it's been 4 days with no contact, should I contact her again, or just let it go and figure she's no longer interested?
We hangout, it goes well, I ask her if she wants to go out on date when I get back in town the next week, she agrees, we then make out, we cuddle and talk, she leaves. She comes over to my friends the next day and is friendly, but a bit reserved... I give her space and don't text, I see her two days later, she's friendly but reserved.
I wait a few days, text her and ask if she's free for a call after she gets out of class that night, but she says she has to work all night, she is friendly and texts back a bit, but still seems reserved.
Now it's been 4 days with no contact, should I contact her again, or just let it go and figure she's no longer interested?
NeOak
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Let it go for now. Something is up.
I played Smash Brothers with my friends. I don't regret a thing.
don't force it. it sounds like it probably won't happen. you've just made a great friend!
electricshake
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Or she's wondering why he hasn't tried to kiss her yet.
Ethics Gradient
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WAT? If he's feelin it, he should go for it. No regrets and all that.
Kung Fu Jedi
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I'm curious as to why you think this based on what he wrote? They are up to a third date, which is a good sign. She may be waiting for him to make a move and the third date is a good time for a kiss.
I have to say though, I put more thought into a first kiss. I wouldn't want it to be in a parking garage after a quick dinner date.You only get one first kiss after all. If you're walking somewhere together, suggest taking a stroll somewhere else and go for it there. Like in a park or along the beach or something.
MacGurcules
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I'm pretty sure what Miss Riot is getting at is that guys can put way too much thought into it. If you're indecisive about it and wait until it's just the right time, you're going to lose her interest.
If there's an awkward pause in the conversation and she's just kind of looking at you, chances are she's waiting to see if you'll make a move. Make a move. Especially if you're on the third date by now.
-ImaginaryInsider
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That's my feeling too... she's younger and she came on to me awfully strong, I'm thinking she over did it and crossed some kind of internal comfort level and is panicking.
n64coder
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That happened to me. If the first date went well, you should definitely do a quick kiss. On my very first ever date many years ago, I didn't give my date a kiss. I found out from my co-workers that she was disappointed. So I never made that mistake again.
CorporateClown
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Kissing is so fucking tricky. I'll usually not kiss on the first date, but my current gf repeatedly brings up that I didn't try to kiss her and asked what the hell was wrong with me. At the end of the day, though, I'd rather play it safe than be awkwardly rejected going in for a kiss.
Kung Fu Jedi
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Agreed. It totally depends on the situation and circumstances, but if you're meeting someone for the first time, say through online dating, I'd play it safe and not go for it. It takes some time to learn the signals and they can vary from person to person.
NeOak
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Pretty much. Don't chase her, keep it casual and try to be fun without pushing it or even mentioning the subject.
beat
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I choose to look at it like a chance for personal growth. No one's perfect; I have a friend who seems to handle dating really easily but other aspects of his life aren't running so awesome. Everyone has issues.
The Artful Dodger
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Everybody's got problems at some point or another.
n64coder
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Agreed on reading the signals but if you're having a great time with the first date and she is sharing the same reaction, then I think a nice quick kiss on the lips is pretty safe. It also signal your intentions that you're pursuing a relationship, not a friendship.
If the date is not going well, then yes, don't give a kiss.
Personally, I've never came across a case where a woman turned away from me when a date was going well.
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