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The problem is that she has a boyfriend. Though she has mentioned it twice or thrice that she is not serious about him. Still, it does make things complicated.
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The problem is that she has a boyfriend. Though she has mentioned it twice or thrice that she is not serious about him. Still, it does make things complicated.
May indicate that she isn't looking for dates, but would be DTF? Just go for it, otherwise you'll never know. Give less fucks
Damn. The girl at my salsaclass is really cute, really funny and really intelligent. And a really great dancer. It's been a long time since I immediately liked somebody as much as this. Can somebody please slap me through the internet so I can pull myself together? The worst part is I only realised how much fun it was after I headed home. Gonna ask for her number next week and set up a date. And now to cool down. Dating age, tell me to relax!
NeOak
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*slaps*
bobs...onGaf
Member
Edit: Sod it!
Word of advice - The buzz you are feeling right now is a distraction. Moments like this where you get the WoW Factor can be inspirational because the opposite sex appears as a beauty muse.
The other day I was about to step in inside the train and even though everyone was wearing winter shit, this blond female with police glasses and short grey skirt popped in out of nowhere. Great body and legs.
Anyway I wish you good luck but always try to keep your head straight. That phase can run out pretty quickly either with time (getting to know her better and losing that magic) or be re-supplied by a new Muse.
Vigilant Walrus
Member
ran into ex-gf from one and a half year ago today = mind blown. Feels weird. I think both of us were sizing each other up. "how good is he/she doing since we were together?".
It's a weird feeling. you had such a deep connection with this person, and now it's awkward to be in there mere presence.
It's a weird feeling. you had such a deep connection with this person, and now it's awkward to be in there mere presence.
Indeed. I'm having on and off convos with my ex on fb and I think we're both doing the same sizing up. It's weird, I don't know what her game is. Well I do but you know.
hydragonwarrior
Member
Really depends on the girl. But the more you stay in the typing phase, the more chance you might type something dumb (I've been there). You want to get to the point where you talk on the phone or just arrange a date and get your discussion in person with her.
Thanks, I needed that
My head is on straight again.Well, the thing is, she's not exceptionally beautifull. But she is really spontaneous, we have a great connection dancing together (every step and every move happened automatically), after three dances it felt really comfortable and intimate, she really made me laugh a lot. She did the most hilarious impression of a clapping seal, and we just gravitated to eachother naturally.
And those aren't really superfluous things that will quickly vanish. At least not on the dancfloor.
Now I spent enough time here in dating age, and had enough dates to not immediately put her on a pedestal. But I can objectively say I there's not a lot of people who are so cool to be around. Fuck, that sounds pretty bad.
AdventureRacing
Member
Really liking someone isn't putting them on a pedestal. Sometimes you meet someone and you just really click with them, it's natural and it seems like you're handling it well. Hopefully things go well.
It IS the holidays, after all.
NeOak
Member
Oh I'm in love again ^_^
PS4 bought AND I got to play the TGS demo of Dark Souls 2 for over an hour at Dreamhack Winter
Add meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee
lol
But I haven't opened the ps4 package yet because of dh 
Deadly Cyclone
Pride of Iowa State
As of today I officially have a girlfriend. I've gone on dates with 3 different girls this year and finally got the one I've been trying for since January.
After losing 30 lbs 2 years back, and getting my style straight with help from Manshion Gaf this has been the best year in a long time. I'm finally clicking, and the confidence shows.
It's good to be back.
For those struggling, keep pushing. I hadn't dated anyone since high school (I'm 27 now) and only had a few flings here and there over the years. This year (with some online dating help) I went on those dates with 3 girls and hooked up with a 4th. Last year at this time I'd have never dreamed it was possible. So get your shit straight, get looking your best and feeling good and go for it. Things will happen.
After losing 30 lbs 2 years back, and getting my style straight with help from Manshion Gaf this has been the best year in a long time. I'm finally clicking, and the confidence shows.
It's good to be back.
For those struggling, keep pushing. I hadn't dated anyone since high school (I'm 27 now) and only had a few flings here and there over the years. This year (with some online dating help) I went on those dates with 3 girls and hooked up with a 4th. Last year at this time I'd have never dreamed it was possible. So get your shit straight, get looking your best and feeling good and go for it. Things will happen.
Nice one mate. Hope it's just a matter of time for me.As of today I officially have a girlfriend. I've gone on dates with 3 different girls this year and finally got the one I've been trying for since January.
After losing 30 lbs 2 years back, and getting my style straight with help from Manshion Gaf this has been the best year in a long time. I'm finally clicking, and the confidence shows.
It's good to be back.
For those struggling, keep pushing. I hadn't dated anyone since high school (I'm 27 now) and only had a few flings here and there over the years. This year (with some online dating help) I went on those dates with 3 girls and hooked up with a 4th. Last year at this time I'd have never dreamed it was possible. So get your shit straight, get looking your best and feeling good and go for it. Things will happen.
Deadly Cyclone
Pride of Iowa State
Could very well be. Last year at this time I hadn't been with anyone (one night stand or otherwise) in years, hadn't been on any dates in years, etc. This year I've been on multiple dates with three great women, hooked up with a fourth, and am now dating one of the three.
No way I could have called this in a million years. It can come out of nowhere. Just get yourself up to par (feeling good, looking your best), try some online dating if needed, and go for it.
As of today I officially have a girlfriend. I've gone on dates with 3 different girls this year and finally got the one I've been trying for since January.
After losing 30 lbs 2 years back, and getting my style straight with help from Manshion Gaf this has been the best year in a long time. I'm finally clicking, and the confidence shows.
It's good to be back.
For those struggling, keep pushing. I hadn't dated anyone since high school (I'm 27 now) and only had a few flings here and there over the years. This year (with some online dating help) I went on those dates with 3 girls and hooked up with a 4th. Last year at this time I'd have never dreamed it was possible. So get your shit straight, get looking your best and feeling good and go for it. Things will happen.
Awesome! Sooo great to see someone progress and get a girlfriend. And in only a year. That it only took you four dates is also really cool. Congrats!
I think I had like twelve dates in the last year and a half, and still didn't find someone really worthwhile. Only a matter of time though. Things will happen
trab pu kcip
Member
As of today I officially have a girlfriend. I've gone on dates with 3 different girls this year and finally got the one I've been trying for since January.
After losing 30 lbs 2 years back, and getting my style straight with help from Manshion Gaf this has been the best year in a long time. I'm finally clicking, and the confidence shows.
It's good to be back.
For those struggling, keep pushing. I hadn't dated anyone since high school (I'm 27 now) and only had a few flings here and there over the years. This year (with some online dating help) I went on those dates with 3 girls and hooked up with a 4th. Last year at this time I'd have never dreamed it was possible. So get your shit straight, get looking your best and feeling good and go for it. Things will happen.
nice!
stuff you said is some good motivation too :3
I really hope I can one day say this.
Lemon Crest
Member
Had a girl cancel a date today due to some family issue.
She told not to think she was brushing me off.
Next I time I see her in person, I see if we can reschedule.
Not dating for half a year has made me so rusty.
She told not to think she was brushing me off.
Next I time I see her in person, I see if we can reschedule.
Not dating for half a year has made me so rusty.
Still bummed over my situation. She was absolutely girlfriend material but I needed to give her more time to build trust and she was coming around. That fucking text!
Spent some time looking on OKC and POF this afternoon and I am not seeing anyone that interests me: read I'm attracted to.
Sheeeiiittttt
Spent some time looking on OKC and POF this afternoon and I am not seeing anyone that interests me: read I'm attracted to.
Sheeeiiittttt
Tomorrow I will meet a really nice girl I meet a couple of weeks ago online. We chatted daily since then and she really soon started to say that I am really nice and symphatic and the last thing we do every day is wishing to other a good night and such stuff. (Yes, to be honest, I know this sounds a little bit childish)
We meet a few days ago for the first time in person and had a lttle walk together, in which we agreed to meet again tomorrow and go to the christmas market. I am kind of worried because this will be my first date (?) and I really dont want to fuck it. In this moment I am really nervous...
Problem is, that I am really worried of having no topics to talk about with her and creating a akward silence. I asked a lot of personal stuff in the chat-session wit her and so I cant go on and ask the usual personal. This happened on our walk for a short moment because of my nervousity. I really had always such kind of problems in presence on women I had (at least somekind of) feelings for. This all comes from my low self-confidence which was the result of a bad time a couple of years ago in school.
I really, really like her and for the first time in my live, I have the feeling that the girls really likes me, too and it could get a good ending...
What really confuses me, is that the lied to me about some topics. Not very important stuff, things like her surname and the school she goes to, but it gives me not a good feeling. But maybe this is only because I asked this stuff a little bit to early and she didnt wanted to say such things to a guy she had not met in person before... But I dont dare to ask about that...
GAF, wish me luck...
We meet a few days ago for the first time in person and had a lttle walk together, in which we agreed to meet again tomorrow and go to the christmas market. I am kind of worried because this will be my first date (?) and I really dont want to fuck it. In this moment I am really nervous...
Problem is, that I am really worried of having no topics to talk about with her and creating a akward silence. I asked a lot of personal stuff in the chat-session wit her and so I cant go on and ask the usual personal. This happened on our walk for a short moment because of my nervousity. I really had always such kind of problems in presence on women I had (at least somekind of) feelings for. This all comes from my low self-confidence which was the result of a bad time a couple of years ago in school.
I really, really like her and for the first time in my live, I have the feeling that the girls really likes me, too and it could get a good ending...
What really confuses me, is that the lied to me about some topics. Not very important stuff, things like her surname and the school she goes to, but it gives me not a good feeling. But maybe this is only because I asked this stuff a little bit to early and she didnt wanted to say such things to a guy she had not met in person before... But I dont dare to ask about that...
GAF, wish me luck...
Mind refreshing my memory? What exactly did you text her?
It was pretty passive-aggressive and douchey. Then what followed was kind of a rant, or that is how she read it. Didn't give me an opportunity to apologize, told me not to contact her.
She said that she has put up with crap in the past but no more which is good for her. I was exhausted after a couple of nights of 3 hrs of sleep.
Have an apology written up. Short and to the point and might eventually send it. It will be 2 weeks since on Tuesday.
Don't send it dude. Delete her number(and Facebook, if you added her), delete whatever apology you wrote and just move on. You'll find someone else, and you've learned from your mistakes so next time will be better.
I'm a bad person, GAF. I see so many people in this thread complaining that they can't find someone, and here I am in the other spectrum being ungrateful that I actually had someone to date.
Here's what happened today:
I was meant to be seeing Spamalot tonight with 'Roxanne'. I sent her message on WhatsApp at 1328 which said it got delivered. I waited a bit and checked my phone after I finished in the bathroom and it said she was last online at 1330, so I thought she must have at least seen/read my message. An hour later with no response I send her a 'Yo Roxy', but this doesn't get delivered. So I'm just moping at home hoping it gets delivered and waiting for her to get back to me. It gets to like 5pm and and fast approaching a time that we'd need to leave (although it only takes me an hour to get into London, I also booked a restaurant so we could eat before the show...if we didn't leave ASAP we weren't eating).
During this time I've been chatting to a mate on Skype and telling him about this situation and I sort of jokingly asked if he'd go with me if I don't hear from Roxanne (no homo). He's extremely reluctant at first because he doesn't want people to think it's weird, but eventually he gives in. It got to about 6pm so the restaurant thing wasn't happening even if Roxanne did respond. I then start walking down to the train station to catch the 1823 train to London (I had decided to go with my mate instead). After getting on the train I check my phone and see that I've received several messages from Roxanne. She was saying stuff like how she's so sorry and that she was asleep and that I should have called her to wake her up. She's probably right: if I cared enough I should have called her to find out what's going on, but I didn't care enough and so I didn't call her. I blocked her on WhatsApp and blocked her from calling me. I was cold and ruthless, and I used this whole situation as an excuse to swiftly end things. She was really into me, but I wasn't feeling it at all. I know what I've done is bad and dickish, but I don't feel anything from doing it. I actually felt like I went out with her twice before just for the sake of it and that I had nothing better to do on a Friday and Saturday night.
Although I should probably call her to apologise, I doubt she'd want to hear from me after this ordeal. Even if I did call she'd probably just be like "Sorry bud, but you're just another arsehole like the rest of them. You blew your chances." I've never done this to a girl before so am inclined to not agree, but what I have done I realise is really bad. I guess actually I'm just being cowardice for not being forthcoming with her, but even if I wasn't into her I just enjoy female company.
Meh.
/Dons flame jacket
Here's what happened today:
I was meant to be seeing Spamalot tonight with 'Roxanne'. I sent her message on WhatsApp at 1328 which said it got delivered. I waited a bit and checked my phone after I finished in the bathroom and it said she was last online at 1330, so I thought she must have at least seen/read my message. An hour later with no response I send her a 'Yo Roxy', but this doesn't get delivered. So I'm just moping at home hoping it gets delivered and waiting for her to get back to me. It gets to like 5pm and and fast approaching a time that we'd need to leave (although it only takes me an hour to get into London, I also booked a restaurant so we could eat before the show...if we didn't leave ASAP we weren't eating).
During this time I've been chatting to a mate on Skype and telling him about this situation and I sort of jokingly asked if he'd go with me if I don't hear from Roxanne (no homo). He's extremely reluctant at first because he doesn't want people to think it's weird, but eventually he gives in. It got to about 6pm so the restaurant thing wasn't happening even if Roxanne did respond. I then start walking down to the train station to catch the 1823 train to London (I had decided to go with my mate instead). After getting on the train I check my phone and see that I've received several messages from Roxanne. She was saying stuff like how she's so sorry and that she was asleep and that I should have called her to wake her up. She's probably right: if I cared enough I should have called her to find out what's going on, but I didn't care enough and so I didn't call her. I blocked her on WhatsApp and blocked her from calling me. I was cold and ruthless, and I used this whole situation as an excuse to swiftly end things. She was really into me, but I wasn't feeling it at all. I know what I've done is bad and dickish, but I don't feel anything from doing it. I actually felt like I went out with her twice before just for the sake of it and that I had nothing better to do on a Friday and Saturday night.
Although I should probably call her to apologise, I doubt she'd want to hear from me after this ordeal. Even if I did call she'd probably just be like "Sorry bud, but you're just another arsehole like the rest of them. You blew your chances." I've never done this to a girl before so am inclined to not agree, but what I have done I realise is really bad. I guess actually I'm just being cowardice for not being forthcoming with her, but even if I wasn't into her I just enjoy female company.
Meh.
/Dons flame jacket
Never added on Facebook, numbers already deleted. This one particularly sucks because things were going good after she reached out to me after I initiated no contact. We saw each other 3 times in 6 days and I just totally fucked up when things were going well.
It happens man. Honestly, good relationships should just work. If you're putting this much thought into the relationship and are stressing this much over it then it probably wasn't a good relationship.
When a person really likes you and you two just click you can be as dumb as you want when things are starting out and the other party won't mind if they're really into you. Just wait it out and you'll find another girl that you felt the same way about, and it will just work. No overthinking involved.
Yeah, the problem is that she told me that she had dealt with abuse in the past and she was in her shell. She wasn't going to rush into anything with anyone. She did say that she really liked me but affection is very hard for her before there is a certain level of trust.
I'm 30 now, and haven't dated in years and my long term relationship ended 5 years a go.
We clicked really well.
P.S. FUCK texting
hmmm im back again
so yesterday morning she sent me message apologizing about not able to reply my msg because she was really busy at work, and i casually just told her its ok and kept on doing my things.
Until later the night, she sent me another msg again saying she just finished her work, and was thinking if she should go for a drink, and i took that as she's asking me to meet? so i went out to meet her, for the first time after the time we met at work. But instead of grabbing a drink, we walked around the area, talk, and had dessert, Because she lives really far from the city, so she has to catch the last train home, and while we were walking toward the station, she asked me if i'm still going out tonight, and i was not sure why is she asking if she has to go home? i told her theres a party i was thinking of going, so i asked her if she wanted to go, and she said she can't, it's ok, no big deal but then she just kept asking me if im gonna go so i wonder why.
After i sent her off from the train station, i just realized that MAYBE she was thinking maybe we could take the train together? (Because the party i was going to is the same direction with the train she needs to take to go home) I don't know so i called her anyway, asking if she gets on the train yet or if she can wait for me and i can meet her at the platform. So we spent a little more time together and that ends the sudden meet up of the night.
I think the night was pretty good, casual, relax, and at least we did finally hang out, so it makes thing less awkward now even if we just text each other during our busy work weeks.
one thing tho, while we were out, she kept mentioning about her ex-bf, and her boss, how rich he is and how tall he is and stuff, and i just listen
thats it lol
so yesterday morning she sent me message apologizing about not able to reply my msg because she was really busy at work, and i casually just told her its ok and kept on doing my things.
Until later the night, she sent me another msg again saying she just finished her work, and was thinking if she should go for a drink, and i took that as she's asking me to meet? so i went out to meet her, for the first time after the time we met at work. But instead of grabbing a drink, we walked around the area, talk, and had dessert, Because she lives really far from the city, so she has to catch the last train home, and while we were walking toward the station, she asked me if i'm still going out tonight, and i was not sure why is she asking if she has to go home? i told her theres a party i was thinking of going, so i asked her if she wanted to go, and she said she can't, it's ok, no big deal but then she just kept asking me if im gonna go so i wonder why.
After i sent her off from the train station, i just realized that MAYBE she was thinking maybe we could take the train together? (Because the party i was going to is the same direction with the train she needs to take to go home) I don't know so i called her anyway, asking if she gets on the train yet or if she can wait for me and i can meet her at the platform. So we spent a little more time together and that ends the sudden meet up of the night.
I think the night was pretty good, casual, relax, and at least we did finally hang out, so it makes thing less awkward now even if we just text each other during our busy work weeks.
one thing tho, while we were out, she kept mentioning about her ex-bf, and her boss, how rich he is and how tall he is and stuff, and i just listen
thats it lol
TurboLibre
Member
A friend of mine has been talking about how well I'd get along with one of her friends. I've been acquainted with her friend long enough to know she's right. Problem is this girl rarely hangs out with all of us, and in the rare chance she does, she hides behind our mutual friend the whole night and I never get a chance to talk to her. Happened again last night, and she was gone fifteen minutes after I arrived at the party. :/
I can't think of a casual way to say "Invite this specific friend" without looking a little bad.
Maybe directly asking my friend to set us up is needed? I don't know, I've always struggled with stuff like this.
Man. I know you're right, but that's probably why it bums me out. That just never happens to me. I'm confident in who I am and everything, but I almost never run into a woman I just "click" with. Shit sucks.
I can't think of a casual way to say "Invite this specific friend" without looking a little bad.
Maybe directly asking my friend to set us up is needed? I don't know, I've always struggled with stuff like this.
Man. I know you're right, but that's probably why it bums me out. That just never happens to me. I'm confident in who I am and everything, but I almost never run into a woman I just "click" with. Shit sucks.
DarkChronic
Member
Hey GAF. Had a really strange night.
First major night out to bars since I was single (gf of 5 years broke up with me a little more than a month ago).
Went out with some close friends and for the most part had a few beers and had a good time.
However, the thing that worried me was that i had zero desire to talk to ANY girls. I didnt want to approach anyone. I didnt find anyone attractive and had no desire to hook up with anyone.
My friends kept pushing me to try and just hook up casually with someone to help speed the process of getting over my ex, but I just didnt want to.
Is this normal? I feel like there is a rush to put myself back out there and hook up with some people but I just don't feel ready.
How long before the desire comes back? Should i put more effort into getting back put there asap to help get over my ex?
Its such a weird feeling... Ugh.
First major night out to bars since I was single (gf of 5 years broke up with me a little more than a month ago).
Went out with some close friends and for the most part had a few beers and had a good time.
However, the thing that worried me was that i had zero desire to talk to ANY girls. I didnt want to approach anyone. I didnt find anyone attractive and had no desire to hook up with anyone.
My friends kept pushing me to try and just hook up casually with someone to help speed the process of getting over my ex, but I just didnt want to.
Is this normal? I feel like there is a rush to put myself back out there and hook up with some people but I just don't feel ready.
How long before the desire comes back? Should i put more effort into getting back put there asap to help get over my ex?
Its such a weird feeling... Ugh.
Dude, I was infatuated with agirl for a c ouple of weeks and when she turned me down it took a whole month for me to get over her.If you've just ended a five-year old relationship then that's perfectly normal.
Continue to focus on having a great time first and enjoying yourself, that desire'll come back.
chicko1983
Member
Still haven't had he cajoles to ask this coffee shop girl out yet. I hate myself for it.
I found out she is young though, I didn't want to ask her age specifically but it came up in conversation that her mum is 38 years old. So I'm guessing she is 18-20. I'm 30.
Is this age gap too big or what?
This is part of my problem, I think too much about all the bad things about why I shouldn't ask her out instead of the good things.
I found out she is young though, I didn't want to ask her age specifically but it came up in conversation that her mum is 38 years old. So I'm guessing she is 18-20. I'm 30.
Is this age gap too big or what?
This is part of my problem, I think too much about all the bad things about why I shouldn't ask her out instead of the good things.
Would you say you're a cool guy? Age won't matter then. There's always a chance she's not into older guys, not that 30 is old, but people also tend to take their cues from you and your body language and if they sense that you are worried about something, they'll be worried too. So own your age and let it be the small thing it really is. Her loss if she disagrees! I'm 28 and have gained four new lady friends on facebook in three days, all of which are between 18 and 22 I believe, one of which would be considered a "hired gun" or simply club staff. Age and *insert your favorite insecurity here* are only as big of a deal as you make it.
Edit: Granted, she might be too young for you, not the other way around xD 18-20 isn't really an age where maturity is all too common, I'm afraid.
Edit: Granted, she might be too young for you, not the other way around xD 18-20 isn't really an age where maturity is all too common, I'm afraid.
AdventureRacing
Member
For me personally? Yeah that's a straight up deal breaker. It's not the same for everyone though, there is a nurse at my work who is 23 and just got married to a 34 year old and they seem pretty happy. Only one way to find out for sure.
Soooooo... I'm flirting pretty heavily with this girl, or should i say; this mom. Relax, she's not older than me, in fact she's younger. She's funny, she's gorgeous, she's creative (paints, draws etc etc) and i like the way she dresses (super important to me) - and she's got a son. I'm not sure what age but i'd guess he's about 5 or 6 years old.
The thing is, i'm super uncomfortable with kids. I got a brother and he's 11 now but man, fuck, was i a mess when i had to hang out/watch over him when he was younger... I mean, one time we were at the mall and my dad had to do some stuff and my brother stayed with me and i got all super protective - "stay close to me, sit down next o me, you okay?".
Looks like i got off track, so uh, i guess i'm looking for advice from any of you guys that have dated or even made it work with a girl - with a kid, that's not yours.
The thing is, i'm super uncomfortable with kids. I got a brother and he's 11 now but man, fuck, was i a mess when i had to hang out/watch over him when he was younger... I mean, one time we were at the mall and my dad had to do some stuff and my brother stayed with me and i got all super protective - "stay close to me, sit down next o me, you okay?".
Looks like i got off track, so uh, i guess i'm looking for advice from any of you guys that have dated or even made it work with a girl - with a kid, that's not yours.
chicko1983
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I wouldn't say that I am cool, haha, but I have a lot of friends and lot of work colleagues who are passing by when I am at the cafe stop to chat so to her it probably looks like Im friendly and possibly "cool" I suppose.
Yep, there is only one way to find out. I got to man up.
chicko1983
Member
If you can't handle kids, I don't think it will work long term unfortunately.
However, because you havent really ever hung out or looked after children, you may be more worried about it than anything else.
I mate of mine went out with a mother of twins and he was worried at the start too.
My advice would be to give it a shot. You just have to be nice to him and don't try and be his dad straight up or buy his friendship with toys early on.
Yes, perfectly normal. I was the same way (and still am) after my recent break up. Not interested at all in any other girls and won't be for a while. And I was never the type to get into rebounds. It's just a process. Just try and work on yourself before venturing out and hurting someone else who's looking for a more stable relationship. You'll be ready when you're ready.
DarkChronic
Member
Thanks for the advice, guys. Good to know it's a normal process. When I'm ready, I'm ready.
And amen to bettering yourself. That is what I've been focusing on these past few weeks. Gotta keep focusing on me. Gym, eating right, catching up with old friends, trying to just be more friendly/helpful in general.
I want to be ready for when the right girl comes along!
And amen to bettering yourself. That is what I've been focusing on these past few weeks. Gotta keep focusing on me. Gym, eating right, catching up with old friends, trying to just be more friendly/helpful in general.
I want to be ready for when the right girl comes along!
That's good advice, actually. I forgot that I actually posted in here, but thanks for responding. And I've never been one to throw a tantrum anyway, but I also know that living like I've got a golden spoon in my mouth isn't going to prepare myself for the real world when it inevitably gets yanked out. As it stands, I'm probably going to spend the next two days or so sending out applications and looking for volunteer work as a baseline, and then just going from there.
I guess my biggest concern when posting was that what I was asking about didn't quite belong here. I'm approaching this like I need to be someone worthy of my own respect before I even dive into relationships. I've seen how various neuroses have screwed up relationships people I know have had, so I'm trying to avoid those landmines if at possible. I don't know if there's something like a "self-improvementGAF," so I was kind of worried about derailing the thread.
So, that girl has a boyfriend that she lives with, but something ain't right. She still wants to talk and we've been texting. I told her I didn't want to pressure or influence her or what she wants to do with her current situation.
Was I wrong to give her my number? Am I scummy by talking to her now?
Was I wrong to give her my number? Am I scummy by talking to her now?
Randomly Nameless
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So I went on a date with this wonderful girl. When I asked her out she seemed very excited, and we had a great date. We went to Tim Hortons and walked around the mall, all the while chatting it up. We have tons of things in common. Similar music and movie tastes, she even likes games. Not just casual ones, but stuff like the Legend of Zelda and Chrono Trigger. Physically she's definitely my type. She's the first girl I've had the confidence and drive to ask out. I'm pretty picky with women and she's pretty much perfect for me. So we go on our date. At the end of it I kissed her and she seems to have enjoyed the date as a whole. The next day I even texted her asking if she enjoyed herself as much as I had. She said yes.
That was the first day of the long weekend. Today at school she seemed evasive, as if she didn't want to talk to me. She's a very busy girl though. She takes piano and is in driver's ed, in addition to any school work she might have. I assumed she was just caught up in her own life. After school I texted her and struck up a conversation. Everything was going smoothly until I asked her what her schedule at school was like so I could see her between classes. She told me that she liked me as a friend, but wasn't ready for anything more. To be fair, she's a year younger than me and hasn't been in a relationship before. I'm still crushed though. Here I was thinking I had the perfect girl and my dreams are now shattered.
I don't really know what to do. I've never been in a relationship before. I know, I know. The bog standard "hit the gym, delete facebook" blah blah blah. I've actually been working out and eating better recently, doing so partly gave me the confidence to ask her out in the first place. I don't know what I aim to achieve by posting this, I just need to get it out.
That was the first day of the long weekend. Today at school she seemed evasive, as if she didn't want to talk to me. She's a very busy girl though. She takes piano and is in driver's ed, in addition to any school work she might have. I assumed she was just caught up in her own life. After school I texted her and struck up a conversation. Everything was going smoothly until I asked her what her schedule at school was like so I could see her between classes. She told me that she liked me as a friend, but wasn't ready for anything more. To be fair, she's a year younger than me and hasn't been in a relationship before. I'm still crushed though. Here I was thinking I had the perfect girl and my dreams are now shattered.
I don't really know what to do. I've never been in a relationship before. I know, I know. The bog standard "hit the gym, delete facebook" blah blah blah. I've actually been working out and eating better recently, doing so partly gave me the confidence to ask her out in the first place. I don't know what I aim to achieve by posting this, I just need to get it out.
NeOak
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Unless you've asked her to have sex with you, not really.
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