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Worst thing is I know its not even like she's that mad at me she's blocked me... she's just totally lost interest. Circumstances suck and have put geographical distance between us but that's potentially only temporary and I would have really loved to be able to at least text back and forth once or twice every so often with the warmth we had... but the total coldness. Man.

I have learnt a lot from knowing her, she totally twisted me and would not let go until I told her I liked her and then once she had the upper hand between us she totally took advantage of that. Ultimately initially for a few reasons I had no romantic interest in her... but she got totally under my skin more recently and as soon as she 'won' she dropped me. Sucks to get played like that.

Similar here, she dropped me like she was completely uninterested out of the blue.

How did she take advantage of the upper hand though? Because otherwise leading you on for a while and dropping you seems like a total nonsensical move.
 
Similar here, she dropped me like she was completely uninterested out of the blue.

How did she take advantage of the upper hand though? Because otherwise leading you on for a while and dropping you seems like a total nonsensical move.

I typed out a long post but it got a bit personal. All I can say is I know she is a total game player... and loves an ego boost. Not exactly someone I want to date... which is probably why I inadvertently played hard to get. I liked her a lot and enjoyed her company but would deflect relationship/ love talk. Thing is we would literally hang out constantly was at her house a LOT... to the point where I needed space and would decline her invites some days (for good reasons which she was cool with... I never left her hanging with texts and stuff - but she was really into me and I think because I seemed to be outside her grasp at times).

I cant quite explain why but I went from nonchalant to kind of falling for her (probably all the time we spent and getting close). I guess I made my feelings known expecting her to reciprocate... and then suddenly she was in the driving seat and seemed to enjoy fucking with me.

I honestly have to say I don't get why but... now that she has what she wanted I feel like she has no interest.

Circumstance certainly plays a part but maybe she is just all about the thrill of the chase (not that im even that amazing of a catch lol). Hurts to think about but maybe I was just always a side thing? :(
 
Circumstance certainly plays a part but maybe she is just all about the thrill of the chase. Hurts to think about but maybe I was just always a side thing? :(

That's such a downer. If her behavior turned around as soon as you admitted to having any kind of feelings for her then yeah, I would have to agree with you. Seriously though, hanging around her place that much is a huuuuuuge time investment just to get a bit of validation/ego boosting.

Regardless, sorry to hear that. I feel for you man, the way you were dropped hits close to home. I suppose you'll be abandoning all thoughts of her and moving on then?
 
I typed out a long post but it got a bit personal. All I can say is I know she is a total game player... and loves an ego boost. Not exactly someone I want to date... which is probably why I inadvertently played hard to get. I liked her a lot and enjoyed her company but would deflect relationship/ love talk. Thing is we would literally hang out constantly was at her house a LOT... to the point where I needed space and would decline her invites some days (for good reasons which she was cool with... I never left her hanging with texts and stuff - but she was really into me and I think because I seemed to be outside her grasp at times).

I cant quite explain why but I went from nonchalant to kind of falling for her (probably all the time we spent and getting close). I guess I made my feelings known expecting her to reciprocate... and then suddenly she was in the driving seat and seemed to enjoy fucking with me.

I honestly have to say I don't get why but... now that she has what she wanted I feel like she has no interest.

Circumstance certainly plays a part but maybe she is just all about the thrill of the chase (not that im even that amazing of a catch lol). Hurts to think about but maybe I was just always a side thing? :(

I don't mean to be too personal, and if I am feel free to not respond, but did things get physical with her? As a girl myself, I can say that from what I know of most women, that they can change their minds at any spontaneous instant.

When you say she was really into you, how do you know this? What did she say? What was her body language like?

She may be afraid of commitment of any kind, and the fact that you let her know you liked her may have made her back up a bit.

I suggest letting things cool down a bit and see if she texts you or communicates with you again. Put the cards in her hands and let them fall as they may for now. :)
 
That's such a downer. If her behavior turned around as soon as you admitted to having any kind of feelings for her then yeah, I would have to agree with you. Seriously though, hanging around her place that much is a huuuuuuge time investment just to get a bit of validation/ego boosting.

Regardless, sorry to hear that. I feel for you man, the way you were dropped hits close to home. I suppose you'll be abandoning all thoughts of her and moving on then?

No... its complicated but I plan on moving out of the area by Christmas (potentially just temporarily) so I am going to spend the next couple of weeks trying to be super cool and see if a spark re ignites. I don't even want anything romantically but it would be nice to leave with a strong enough impression on her to want her to keep in touch.

Foolish I know but I only have two weeks of motions to put myself through and I hope it lets me leave on a high note... Again, foolish I know but we have talked about the whole moving away thing before and it seemed likely we would be located near each other sometime soon again anyway. If the next two weeks don't go my way I suppose I will cut contact and even if we end up geographically close again... so what. If the next two weeks are good, will be glad the distance is only temporary.

Yeah its a huge downer and its weird how considering I had no intentions of liking this person... I ended up liking them and getting cut up. I mean logically I know I would never have been in it for the long haul anyway - just not cut out for each other, but to be dropped in this way makes me lose sight of the logic.

It is nice to have had some ego boosting... but that boosting feels like it was totally dashed, I have learnt a lot though so this wasn't a 'bad' experience. Just a mind bending one.

I don't mean to be too personal, and if I am feel free to not respond, but did things get physical with her? As a girl myself, I can say that from what I know of most women, that they can change their minds at any spontaneous instant.

When you say she was really into you, how do you know this? What did she say? What was her body language like?

She may be afraid of commitment of any kind, and the fact that you let her know you liked her may have made her back up a bit.

I suggest letting things cool down a bit and see if she texts you or communicates with you again. Put the cards in her hands and let them fall as they may for now. :)

Going to play around the question a little bit as I normally wouldn't say as much as I have without feeling awkward (but it helps to vent) - she would instigate a lot more physical contact than I would and quite frankly I was wary of reciprocating. I don't want to get into this too much but I think the fact she would literally phone me multiple times in a row but is now on radio silence shows that she was once more into me. Even if more is a relative term and potentially wasn't that high to begin with.

Considering the fact she was the one instigating relationship talk I don't think I freaked her out.It really feels like a power game, now that she got me to say what she wanted she doesn't care. I am planning to avoid contact until next week but I don't want to totally leave it too late as I only have a couple more weeks to hang with her (as a friend if nothing more) and if I never see her again would rather spend more time hanging out than game playing.

BTW Of course you are free to respond, I really appreciate it!

I'm a very giving person, and in that particular situation years ago I gave too much to someone who wasn't ever planning on giving it back. I don't need to go into a whole lot of details because I am sure lots of you have been with someone who raised all the red flags imaginable and you looked the other way for a time.

Funnily enough I find myself in this position with her and just cant stop myself.
 
I've dated people in that two year time frame, just the chemistry wasn't there. I got out of a really unhealthy relationship and I needed time to reconnect with myself and figure out who I was again. I'm a very giving person, and in that particular situation years ago I gave too much to someone who wasn't ever planning on giving it back. I don't need to go into a whole lot of details because I am sure lots of you have been with someone who raised all the red flags imaginable and you looked the other way for a time. And, I don't like being "that girl" who talks about the past.

So! That being said, I'd just like to find someone like-minded. I'm 28 years old.. and I'm tired of the bar scene and the night club scene. It's my own fault too for working so much, but in my free time I'd like to be around someone who makes me laugh, and possibly feel what it's like to be "liked" again by somebody. I've kinda forgotten what that feels like.

I remember having to wait until my ex left for work for me to enjoy some of the things he didn't, like particular movies or games, because he'd make fun of me otherwise or argue about how stupid it was. It sounds silly now but I lost who I was, because I was scared of what he'd do. He wasn't a very nice person, to put it simply. So, I guess when I posted earlier about finding a gamer, what I really meant was finding someone who I could watch the silliest of things with, try the weirdest food, read the oddest things, and travel to the most random places, together, because we respect each other and learn from each other and discover life together without judgement or ridicule.

This is what happened to me 3 years ago..Even now it hurts sometimes to think about but giving so much love and and dedication to someone who wouldn't do the same hurts and I know that feeling oh too well. Glad you got out of it because I know how much that scars. I'm 27 now and I find myself ready to try again but, I'm not a party kinda guy or bar scene guy to try to find a female especially since i'm a gamer myself and know the odds of anyone who are close to what I like and or my hobbies is slim especially in NYC. I'm just a home body who likes to enjoy the weekend with friends playing games watching anime or just watch a movie and chill.
 
Funnily enough I find myself in this position with her and just cant stop myself.

You can't change how you feel, and unfortunately you're gonna have to ride this one out until the feelings are gone, or you are just too angry to go on with her. Or best case scenario, things work out great. I just worry for you and don't want you hurt. From what I've read concerning your situation, my thoughts from a female perspective is that she wants something she isn't getting. Now I don't know what that is because I don't know the two of you, but if I were to push you physically and say I wanted things and then back away, I would either be wanting something from you I'm not getting and wondering if I ever will, or I am afraid I am ruining what we have of our friendship by putting the moves on you.

In the same situation, I also could have been burned before by someone and am very anxious and cautious about putting my heart into someone again. (From her perspective, generalizing).

This is what happened to me 3 years ago..Even now it hurts sometimes to think about but giving so much love and and dedication to someone who wouldn't do the same hurts and I know that feeling oh too well. Glad you got out of it because I know how much that scars. I'm 27 now and I find myself ready to try again but, I'm not a party kinda guy or bar scene guy to try to find a female especially since i'm a gamer myself and know the odds of anyone who are close to what I like and or my hobbies is slim especially in NYC. I'm just a home body who likes to enjoy the weekend with friends playing games watching anime or just watch a movie and chill.

Yeah I relate with you. I'm a home body too, and that's what makes meeting people tough. Anime, movie, video game nights at home are my favorite kind of nights. :)
 
From the lowest dungeon to the highest peak I fought with the Balrog of Morgoth... Until at last I threw down my enemy and smote his ruin upon the mountain side... Darkness took me, and I strayed out of thought and time... The stars wheeled overhead, and every day was as long as a life age of the earth... But it was not the end. I felt life in me again.

Life after bad relationships according to Gandalf.

This post made me laugh, GOOD!
 
You can't change how you feel, and unfortunately you're gonna have to ride this one out until the feelings are gone, or you are just too angry to go on with her. From what I've read concerning your situation, my thoughts from a female perspective is that she wants something she isn't getting. Now I don't know what that is because I don't know the two of you, but if I were to push you physically and say I wanted things and then back away, I would either be wanting something from you I'm not getting and wondering if I ever will, or I am afraid I am ruining what we have of our friendship by putting the moves on you.

In the same situation, I also could have been burned before by someone and am very anxious and cautious about putting my heart into someone again. (From her perspective, generalizing).



Yeah I relate with you. I'm a home body too, and that's what makes meeting people tough. Anime, movie, video game nights at home are my favorite kind of nights. :)

Its interesting you hear your perspective because I didn't really consider that I was maybe
not fulfilling something. I mean now that I have been more vocal and honest I would have thought it would have made her want to be in touch more... not less.

It honestly could be the friendship thing. Thing is she was the one that dragged those conversations about feelings on... and I don't want to get into it but she certainly seemed to take pleasure in knowing that I liked her. At this point I would be cool to just stick with the friendship... which wont happen... which takes me full circle and it sucks that we cant just keep up warmth in our texts to eachother and remain friends. I don't really care if I don't get anything romantic... but after so long it sucks that we communicate like strangers and not even friends now.
 
Hi guys. I'm fairly new to posting on GAF but have been visiting for quite a while.

I am a currently single female and am having the worst luck finding the right guy for me. I just want someone who plays a lot of video games, someone who is just as passionate about them as I am. I'd like a drinking buddy, so we can chill at night. I want to have fun with this person, and most importantly, I want to be myself around this person. I want to be able to talk endlessly about Hyrule's history (for instance) and have him join in and add spice to the conversation.

I'm really low maintenance, and I'm not stressing over whether or not this guy exists, but in your opinion, how do I find serious gamer guys who can bring something to a relationship? I've tried online dating stuff and they'll open with video game conversation and then it'll taper off.. Almost like they've run out of things to say.

Have any of you here had any luck finding your other half, and if so, how and where did it happen? I've been single now for two years and I'm lonely and sexually frustrated! :D

Girl, I hear ya. When I was actually interested in dating, I just ended up being seen as more of a guy than anything.
 
Its interesting you hear your perspective because I didn't really consider that I was maybe
not fulfilling something. I mean now that I have been more vocal and honest I would have thought it would have made her want to be in touch more... not less.

It honestly could be the friendship thing. Thing is she was the one that dragged those conversations about feelings on... and I don't want to get into it but she certainly seemed to take pleasure in knowing that I liked her. At this point I would be cool to just stick with the friendship... which wont happen... which takes me full circle and it sucks that we cant just keep up warmth in our texts to eachother and remain friends. I don't really care if I don't get anything romantic... but after so long it sucks that we communicate like strangers and not even friends now.

It would help me so much more if I knew more about her. Her age.. and as shallow as this sounds, her appearance.. how many friends she has.. her job.. I know this all sounds superficial but it's a girls way of figuring another girl out.

Regardless, what kind of person are you? What kind of person are you to her? If you can tell me these things, I think I can help a bit more.

Is she friends with people you know? Do you hang out in a group setting? Or do you hang out 1x1?

Once most girls cross that threshold from friends to lovers, it's hard to move back. Once we develop feelings, it can either be a wonderful thing or a terrifying thing. She may be afraid of what she is feeling, if she is not ready.

Girl, I hear ya. When I was actually interested in dating, I just ended up being seen as more of a guy than anything.

Girl.. I totally relate. So did you just take a hiatus on dating? That's what I've been doing for a while, and it's not bad.. just sometimes... ya know..
 
Yeah I relate with you. I'm a home body too, and that's what makes meeting people tough. Anime, movie, video game nights at home are my favorite kind of nights. :)

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It would help me so much more if I knew more about her. Her age.. and as shallow as this sounds, her appearance.. how many friends she has.. her job.. I know this all sounds superficial but it's a girls way of figuring another girl out.

Regardless, what kind of person are you? What kind of person are you to her? If you can tell me these things, I think I can help a bit more.

Is she friends with people you know? Do you hang out in a group setting? Or do you hang out 1x1?

Once most girls cross that threshold from friends to lovers, it's hard to move back. Once we develop feelings, it can either be a wonderful thing or a terrifying thing. She may be afraid of what she is feeling, if she is not ready.



Girl.. I totally relate. So did you just take a hiatus on dating? That's what I've been doing for a while, and it's not bad.. just sometimes... ya know..

This is getting a bit deep :P I might shoot you a pm tomorrow morning if that's ok with the information. Really appreciate the help but I want to be careful what I put out there and desperately need sleep. :P

By the way I am reading your posts and cant help but wonder how you are struggling to meet someone! I get the feeling the kind of people you want to meet are either intimidated by you or have no chance of even meeting you.

As a male I have no real advice... but you might have to be the one to instigate conversation. I hate to jump on the stereotype here but the kind of person you want to meet is stereotypically known to be more shy. Hell I know I am.

You might also have to purposefully put yourself into scenarios you are likely to meet like minded people. This is empty advice as I am giving you nothing concrete... but meeting people who enjoy chilling at home is hard, you really will have to go out of your way to see if there are groups near you who watch box sets together or see if there is a movie night near you. I know that kind of thing exists near where I live as a neighbourhood thing.
 
the odds of anyone who are close to what I like and or my hobbies is slim especially in NYC. I'm just a home body who likes to enjoy the weekend with friends playing games watching anime or just watch a movie and chill.
OK, yes, if your hobbies involve staying at home and not meeting new people, then you're not going to meet new people.

But there's 20 million people in the NYC metro area! The city by itself numbers over 8 million. There's a New York Comic Con for geeky interests and its attendance rivals SDCC! Your odds are already waaaaaaaaaaaaay better than my cousin who lives in a town of 5000 people. (I am not hyperbolizing about the size of that town either. It's not the life I'd choose, but hey.)
 
General question for the people in this thread: how open would you be to dating someone if there was no possibility of ever having sex with them?

To me personally I always see that as a common going into a relationship. It starts from dating to a form of trust over time. Now if they flat out told you ahead of time sex ain't happening but we can go out and do everything else it happens. Some people just aren't comfortable with the aspect of sex but want a relationship as well. All depends on both parties preferences and if they are both ok with that.
 
To me personally I always see that as a common going into a relationship. It starts from dating to a form of trust over time. Now if they flat out told you ahead of time sex ain't happening but we can go out and do everything else it happens. Some people just aren't comfortable with the aspect of sex but want a relationship as well. All depends on both parties preferences and if they are both ok with that.

Thanks that's kind of reassuring. I'm worried about how to go about this whole relationship thing(never dated), cause I don't want to lead someone on but I don't know if it's something I'd want to discuss early on.
 
OK, yes, if your hobbies involve staying at home and not meeting new people, then you're not going to meet new people.

But there's 20 million people in the NYC metro area! The city by itself numbers over 8 million. There's a New York Comic Con for geeky interests and its attendance rivals SDCC! Your odds are already waaaaaaaaaaaaay better than my cousin who lives in a town of 5000 people. (I am not hyperbolizing about the size of that town either. It's not the life I'd choose, but hey.)

Oh man I'v been to the Comic-con before it was the Comic-con (Anime Fest 2008-2010) I go to the Sakura Matsuri Festivals and many more places in NY. I'm a out going person and just don't stay home but if not much is happening I'll take walks around at night cause I just like seeing the night life and such. It was just after my last relationship things went kinda bad for me with personal family issues and such. I get what you mean though but I do try to meet new people always but bars and parties just aren't my thing but I have tried before.

Thanks that's kind of reassuring. I'm worried about how to go about this whole relationship thing(never dated), cause I don't want to lead someone on but I don't know if it's something I'd want to discuss early on.

Don't throw too much pressure on yourself (I know it's hard not too) But take it steps at a time. I'm sure others can give better advice than me but that was just my personal thought on it. Best of luck!
 
Hi guys. I'm fairly new to posting on GAF but have been visiting for quite a while.

I am a currently single female and am having the worst luck finding the right guy for me. I just want someone who plays a lot of video games, someone who is just as passionate about them as I am. I'd like a drinking buddy, so we can chill at night. I want to have fun with this person, and most importantly, I want to be myself around this person. I want to be able to talk endlessly about Hyrule's history (for instance) and have him join in and add spice to the conversation.

I'm really low maintenance, and I'm not stressing over whether or not this guy exists, but in your opinion, how do I find serious gamer guys who can bring something to a relationship? I've tried online dating stuff and they'll open with video game conversation and then it'll taper off.. Almost like they've run out of things to say.

Have any of you here had any luck finding your other half, and if so, how and where did it happen? I've been single now for two years and I'm lonely and sexually frustrated! :D
How about meet ups that aren't exactly geared towards dating but just meeting new people like going to play board games? That crowd tends to be older and the people a bit more outgoing since it's something that requires interaction.

General question for the people in this thread: how open would you be to dating someone if there was no possibility of ever having sex with them?
Can't say for sure, but my gut reaction is nope.
 
Girl.. I totally relate. So did you just take a hiatus on dating? That's what I've been doing for a while, and it's not bad.. just sometimes... ya know..

I've been on like...four dates my entire life, never had a real boyfriend.... And have come to the realization that I give no fucks haha. I'm happy on my own. I don't plan on ever changing that. :)

But yeah, when I thought I wanted to date, it was awful.

General question for the people in this thread: how open would you be to dating someone if there was no possibility of ever having sex with them?

THAT'S THE DREAM.

If I ever did want a ~mate~ I'd never want to be intimate lol
 
This is what happened to me 3 years ago..Even now it hurts sometimes to think about but giving so much love and and dedication to someone who wouldn't do the same hurts and I know that feeling oh too well. Glad you got out of it because I know how much that scars. I'm 27 now and I find myself ready to try again but, I'm not a party kinda guy or bar scene guy to try to find a female especially since i'm a gamer myself and know the odds of anyone who are close to what I like and or my hobbies is slim especially in NYC. I'm just a home body who likes to enjoy the weekend with friends playing games watching anime or just watch a movie and chill.
Plenty of nerdy girls in NYC. I don't know why you'd think otherwise. There's meet ups for board games, video games, and all sorts of nerdy interests.
 
General question for the people in this thread: how open would you be to dating someone if there was no possibility of ever having sex with them?
What constitutes sex? I'd probably be fine without intercourse but I'd definitely want want to go down on her or finger her, as well as receive oral.
 
General question for the people in this thread: how open would you be to dating someone if there was no possibility of ever having sex with them?


Ever? Hmmm.....

Well I guess for me it depends on the reason. If they simply weren't attracted to me but wanted to date me for other reasons, that would make me feel rather insecure and I don't think I could do that.

If they were just asexual or something then maybe I could manage, but that brings up other questions. Can I have sex with other people?
Also, I feel like it would get harder the longer the relationship went on. Once you really started to love this person, you'd want to have sex even more.

I've been thinking about something like this lately after that girl came over to my apartment the other night and clearly wanted to fool around and I didn't make a move and how I never make a move. It was so obvious what she was doing but I still couldn't bring myself to do anything about it.

I haven't heard from her since then. I was talking to my friend about it and he said that she probably thinks I was afraid and now probably suspects that I'm a virgin, so...

great. Just great.
 
Plenty of nerdy girls in NYC. I don't know why you'd think otherwise. There's meet ups for board games, video games, and all sorts of nerdy interests.
I tried 3 separate meet ups before and always ended with others in the group not being open or just not doing much at the meet up at all. I know there's plenty of people with my interest but im busy with work at the moment to make time to try again but I might check it out again soon.
 
What constitutes sex? I'd probably be fine without intercourse but I'd definitely want want to go down on her or finger her, as well as receive oral.

Yeah stuff like that maybe, but beyond that just kind of squicks me out lol

Ever? Hmmm.....

Well I guess for me it depends on the reason. If they simply weren't attracted to me but wanted to date me for other reasons, that would make me feel rather insecure and I don't think I could do that.

If they were just asexual or something then maybe I could manage, but that brings up other questions. Can I have sex with other people?
Also, I feel like it would get harder the longer the relationship went on. Once you really started to love this person, you'd want to have sex even more.

I've been thinking about something like this lately after that girl came over to my apartment the other night and clearly wanted to fool around and I didn't make a move and how I never make a move. It was so obvious what she was doing but I still couldn't bring myself to do anything about it.

I haven't heard from her since then. I was talking to my friend about it and he said that she probably thinks I was afraid and now probably suspects that I'm a virgin, so...

great. Just great.

Yep asexual. I know some aces do have sex, but it's just not for me. I guess it could make people feel insecure but it's definitely nothing personal.

Also I literally have no experience to base this advice on, but I'd have to imagine that she understands shit happens and there are any number of reasons why you didn't make a move. I wouldn't give up.
 
All the power to ya! You're a tough cookie. I like that.

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It's so much better than dating lol.

I wish you luck though and I hope that your dating period is short and you find someone ASAP.

I found I ended up hiding my nerd side though, because otherwise guys lost interest really quickly/I wouldn't be able to get them to meet me even once. I could out-nerd them maybe? It intimidated them? I don't know. I ended up only ever mentioning it in passing to see if they wanted to discuss at all, and pretty much never.
 
Yeah stuff like that maybe, but beyond that just kind of squicks me out lol


Yep asexual. I know some aces do have sex, but it's just not for me. I guess it could make people feel insecure but it's definitely nothing personal.

Alright well now I have a question for you -

How would you feel if hypothetically, the girl wants to be with you, but she wants to have sex outside of the relationship, because she has a sex drive?

Also, just how asexual are you? Could you at least do physical things with someone? Not necessarily sex, but I just mean....what is the extent of your interest in another person's body?

edit: oh, you kind of just answered that more or less.

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Also I literally have no experience to base this advice on, but I'd have to imagine that she understands shit happens and there are any number of reasons why you didn't make a move. I wouldn't give up.

I guess I'm just confused about what I want from her.
I am very physically attracted to her and that's what made me initially talk to her.

But as for her personality, it's a mixed bag. Sometimes I think she's really cool, but then at other times she can be really immature and kind of annoying (although now I'm kind of suspecting that when she does that it's because she's frustrated that I never make a move)

I was talking with my friend about her, and he casually said something like "This is just me, but I can't imagine having sex with someone I didn't truly love"

I found myself agreeing with him, but at the same time, as a 24 year old virgin, I feel like I need to bust a nut somewhere before much longer.
 
I found I ended up hiding my nerd side though, because otherwise guys lost interest really quickly/I wouldn't be able to get them to meet me even once. I could out-nerd them maybe? It intimidated them? I don't know. I ended up only ever mentioning it in passing to see if they wanted to discuss at all, and pretty much never.

This. I would think guys would be totally into talking about our inner nerds? I can relate with what you posted very well.

Are you into girls...?
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just kidding. ;)
 
I hope creep-GAF isn't being overly annoying tonight xD Keep it civil. Nice to see someone around my own age in here though :)

Leeness: Not to beat a dead horse or anything but come oooon, come out of your bloody shell and live in the same world as the rest of us!
 
I hope creep-GAF isn't being overly annoying tonight xD Keep it civil. Nice to see someone around my own age in here though :)

Leeness: Not to beat a dead horse or anything but come oooon, come out of your bloody shell and live in the same world as the rest of us!
Or move down to the desert.
 
This. I would think guys would be totally into talking about our inner nerds? I can relate with what you posted very well.

Are you into girls...?
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just kidding. ;)

We could be awesome nerd-buddies :D

I hope creep-GAF isn't being overly annoying tonight xD Keep it civil. Nice to see someone around my own age in here though :)

Leeness: Not to beat a dead horse or anything but come oooon, come out of your bloody shell and live in the same world as the rest of us!

I'm around your age, man. :p

I'm quite happy in my world, thanks :p I got a good job, putting down money on a condo soon, gonna go travelling (on my own :D) next year.

Don't need some stinky man dragging me down :p
 
Got a third date tomorrow night, going round to his to chill out, play some video games and maybe watch a film. Feeling a bit nervous about it, slightly worried that he is only interested in sleeping with me (though that's probably just my own insecurities). So if you're seeing a girl, do you treat her differently if you just want sex vs if you're interested in a relationship?
 
Uusally things just fizzle out for the girl or me on some things after a date or two has happened, but getting stood up is always a bummer. :/
 
Got a third date tomorrow night, going round to his to chill out, play some video games and maybe watch a film. Feeling a bit nervous about it, slightly worried that he is only interested in sleeping with me (though that's probably just my own insecurities). So if you're seeing a girl, do you treat her differently if you just want sex vs if you're interested in a relationship?

I think it is only natural for men and women to treat each other differently if they want a relationship vs. just wanting to have sex. If it is all about being physical, I'd tend to spend less time getting invested in the person and just finding ways for us to hook up when it is convenient. If I want to be in a relationship with someone I'm more willing to put in the time to get to know them better and put off sleeping with them until the time is right.
 
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