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You really have nothing to be insecure about. Look at you

Y'know, even very pretty people don't get everyone they want. I'm not even talking celebrities; my friend who I used to have a huge crush on, she went after some guy and got rejected. It happens to pretty much everyone at some point.

On the other hand, I know someone who initially ran into some reluctance with the guy she was after, but she managed to change his mind and they seem pretty happy together now.

 

[isny]

Y'know, even very pretty people don't get everyone they want. I'm not even talking celebrities; my friend who I used to have a huge crush on, she went after some guy and got rejected. It happens to pretty much everyone at some point.

On the other hand, I know someone who initially ran into some reluctance with the guy she was after, but she managed to change his mind and they seem pretty happy together now.

I'm not saying that they get everyone they want, I'm saying she shouldn't be insecure as she's very pretty, and if she's posting on GAF, probably pretty smart too.

 

[Leeness]

exactly. and it's a fear that was not completely absurd.
I tried to start a conversation but I got the feeling that I was the only one talking, if you know what I mean. just felt forced and I was the only one pushing it forward.
fuck. I never knew this would hit me this hard but it kinda does right now. just wondering what went wrong :/

That was the worst when I tried dating. No one was interested in talking and I don't want to carry any conversation, BYE. And the guy I didn't have to force conversation with ditched me after three meet ups lol.

You'll be okay <3

 

[TheExodu5]

Another 2 hour conversation with FB girl. Not a dull moment. Getting pretty anxious to meet her.

It's really going to suck if there's no physical chemistry...because fuck everything else is perfect.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

Another 2 hour conversation with FB girl. Not a dull moment. Getting pretty anxious to meet her.

Make it happen Cap'n.

Have you asked about meeting up with her yet?

 

[TheExodu5]

Make it happen Cap'n.

Have you asked about meeting up with her yet?

Well she basically invited herself over, but she's on a trip right now for the weekend so I'll ask her out somewhere for next week.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

Well she basically invited herself over, but she's on a trip right now for the weekend so I'll ask her out somewhere for next week.

Best of luck Dawg.

 

[hydrophilic attack]

There is no such thing as "when". That is some bullshit my generation grew up with and results are speaking for themselves - rise of the online interaction, lack of face to face interaction, and so on and so forth.

Anyway, your primary goal shouldn't be to "God I have to meet her as soon as possible". That is creepy. So do not ask these questions. Just build up the connection with her and make the move when you are both in that comfortable moment to make future plans.

OK, sounds good. I guess what I'm worried about regarding Internet dating is that most girls will be flooded by messages by guys and if you are too slow, they will be going with someone else instead. You snooze, you lose. But maybe I'm mistaken about this? Maybe someone who is more familiar with Internet dating knows how it would work.

Best advice I can give you is not to settle. If you think she's a "maybe not all the good-looking" it's something that will bug you for a long time and you probably won't ever be able to get this description of her out of your mind and it's just not worth the constant though of "I can do better."

Yeah, maybe. That would suck for both of us, would especially be unfair to her. But it's not like she is hideous or anything, and we seem to have connected pretty well. Some people just don't look all that good on photos (I'm one of them) so I think a date would still be good to see whether there is any physical attraction in person. For the girl I went on a couple of dates with earlier this year, I could feel there was a lot of physical attraction, but we didn't really connect at all, and I think maybe that's why she didn't want to go on a third date once she got home from her trip abroad. Heh, it's difficult to find someone who you can connect with while at the same time finding mutual physical attraction, I guess.

Regarding the other part of your post, I was going to say something about how OKCupid sucks and that it seems impossible for me to get any response out of anyone on there, but I just got an email that someone totally rated me highly, so I guess I should shoot them a message tomorrow. So I guess OKCupid doesn't totally suck, even if I have had a better experience, so far, with the paysite I have been trying.

 

[isny]

OK, sounds good. I guess what I'm worried about regarding Internet dating is that most girls will be flooded by messages by guys and if you are too slow, they will be going with someone else instead. You snooze, you lose. But maybe I'm mistaken about this? Maybe someone who is more familiar with Internet dating knows how it would work.



Yeah, maybe. That would suck for both of us, would especially be unfair to her. But it's not like she is hideous or anything, and we seem to have connected pretty well. Some people just don't look all that good on photos (I'm one of them) so I think a date would still be good to see whether there is any physical attraction in person. For the girl I went on a couple of dates with earlier this year, I could feel there was a lot of physical attraction, but we didn't really connect at all, and I think maybe that's why she didn't want to go on a third date once she got home from her trip abroad. Heh, it's difficult to find someone who you can connect with while at the same time finding mutual physical attraction, I guess.

Regarding the other part of your post, I was going to say something about how OKCupid sucks and that it seems impossible for me to get any response out of anyone on there, but I just got an email that someone totally rated me highly, so I guess I should shoot them a message tomorrow. So I guess OKCupid doesn't totally suck, even if I have had a better experience, so far, with the paysite I have been trying.

About OKCupid...it's all about being patient. Girls there have their choice of men, so patience is important. I can't even guess how many girls I messaged there, and how few actually responded. My patience paid off though, and I found someone who I think may be the best thing that's happened to me in awhile.

I've realized recently that it's not about just dating someone for the sake of dating someone. FWB exists for that reason. You either have a conventional relationship where you can't get the person out of your mind and you feel funny around them and they're the most beautiful looking person in your eyes, or you have something else where you may very much have feelings for each other or be attracted to each other, but in an unconventional way. Each person just needs to figure out what they want and need, as traditional or non traditional, either way, whatever makes you happy is important, but know that settling isn't something you have to do. There's always someone out there, you just have to look.

 

[bigfunkychiken]

I'm not saying that they get everyone they want, I'm saying she shouldn't be insecure as she's very pretty, and if she's posting on GAF, probably pretty smart too.

are you really flirting with women on GAF

 

[A Human Becoming]

I plan on moving half way across the US at the end of 2015. Should I approach dating any differently?

 

[The Artful Dodger]

I plan on moving half way across the US at the end of 2015. Should I approach dating any differently?

I wouldn't look for anything to tangle you up, just kinda go out and have fun. I had a pretty big move in September/October, and I found even though girls were interested, I just wasn't. I was moving to a different place and just moving on with my life. No sense in complicating things.

 

[Kung Fu Jedi]

I wouldn't look for anything to tangle you up, just kinda go out and have fun. I had a pretty big move in September/October, and I found even though girls were interested, I just wasn't. I was moving to a different place and just moving on with my life. No sense in complicating things.

I was in the same boat a few months back. I was planning to make a move in early summer of this year and wasn't feeling any inspiration to date or meet anyone. I certainly didn't want something to complicate matters, so I just decided I wasn't going to pursue anything or even try. Then I met an amazing woman completely out of the blue and when I wasn't expecting it. The result? I'm still moving, but now I'm moving to be with her. She changed my destination completely and I can't wait to be with her in a few months.

 

[SpartanForce]

So, I finally did. Deleted the girl I loved for one year; now that she has a boyfriend and ignores any msg from me anyway, I just didn't see the point. Hurts, but it will heal with time. I won't see her again ever and I use facebook a lot so it was necessary.

 

[Remyzero]

So, I finally did. Deleted the girl I loved for one year; now that she has a boyfriend and ignores any msg from me anyway, I just didn't see the point. Hurts, but it will heal with time. I won't see her again ever and I use facebook a lot so it was necessary.

She wont talk to you again, girls take that as a diss to them. This is my experience with deleting girls on Facebook.

You did the best thing you could.

 

[zeemumu]

exactly. and it's a fear that was not completely absurd.
I tried to start a conversation but I got the feeling that I was the only one talking, if you know what I mean. just felt forced and I was the only one pushing it forward.
fuck. I never knew this would hit me this hard but it kinda does right now. just wondering what went wrong :/

I've had that problem before. It feels like they don't want to speak to you because they seemingly refuse to contribute to the conversation. I've also been on the other side of that where I was the one not contributing. Sometimes it's because they don't want to talk, but maybe they just didn't have anything to add? Either way I agree with you, having to carry a conversation isn't fun.

 

[dochuge]

So I met this woman, went out Sunday and had a great time. It was our 2nd date. Ended up grinding in the back of my car for 2 hours. I invite her out for New Years and again great time, met my friends, were clicking and we head back to my place. We kiss, I go down on her, paying attention to her body, etc. Then it hits me, I had been drinking, it's late at night and my plumbing stopped working. Happens to the best of them, right? We still kiss, caress, etc. and then she wants to be taken home. And then she said, "this has never happened to me". Now granted she was drunk but that was a pretty shitty thing to say. All about her ego even though I tried to explain very honestly that it had nothing to do with her. Everything I did and said to her was done passionately up to this point.

Well she cooled off considerably. We texted and she would initiate but now I have to. She's still friendly but the flirting has gone way done. Here's my problem:

I'm picking her up for another date. Do I totally ignore what happened the other night or bring it up? I feel like it's like the 500 lb gorilla in the room. It bugs me what she said. Yeah, I know in the end I failed but only one of us intentionally hurt the other.

 

[Idde]

So I met this woman, went out Sunday and had a great time. It was our 2nd date. Ended up grinding in the back of my car for 2 hours. I invite her out for New Years and again great time, met my friends, were clicking and we head back to my place. We kiss, I go down on her, paying attention to her body, etc. Then it hits me, I had been drinking, it's late at night and my plumbing stopped working. Happens to the best of them, right? We still kiss, caress, etc. and then she wants to be taken home. And then she said, "this has never happened to me". Now granted she was drunk but that was a pretty shitty thing to say. All about her ego even though I tried to explain very honestly that it had nothing to do with her. Everything I did and said to her was done passionately up to this point.

Well she cooled off considerably. We texted and she would initiate but now I have to. She's still friendly but the flirting has gone way done. Here's my problem:

I'm picking her up for another date. Do I totally ignore what happened the other night or bring it up? I feel like it's like the 500 lb gorilla in the room. It bugs me what she said. Yeah, I know in the end I failed but only one of us intentionally hurt the other.

It might bug you what she said, but about the bolded, it might also bug her what happened. Sexuality is a really complicated matter. Perhaps she DID take it personal, thinking that she wasn't up to snuff, despite you trying to reassure her otherwise. I really wouldn't blame her. I happened to me a couple of times as well (who doesn't have the problem?) And only a couple of women didn't take it personal.

Even an ex of mine, despite us having an otherwise great sexlife, worried that she did something wrong, if I didn't find her attractive anymore. And it only happened once. So yeah, just continue like nothing happened, and show her it's gonna be great next time.

And my date for tonight just cancelled! So relieved. She said she was sick, and I believe her. We set the date up like three weeks ago, but in the meantime I met someone else, who I think is a bit more awesome, and we're going out next friday. So I wasn't really looking forward to tonight. This is the first time someone actually cancelled on me, and I'm sort of relieved

 

[Vermillion]

So, I finally did. Deleted the girl I loved for one year; now that she has a boyfriend and ignores any msg from me anyway, I just didn't see the point. Hurts, but it will heal with time. I won't see her again ever and I use facebook a lot so it was necessary.

If you were still friends I'd say bad move, but seeing as that doesn't appear to be the case, it's probably for the best. Now take your time, but don't get so wrapped up that you don't spot new opportunities.

I plan on moving half way across the US at the end of 2015. Should I approach dating any differently?

Have your methods been working for you?

It might bug you what she said, but about the bolded, it might also bug her what happened. Sexuality is a really complicated matter. Perhaps she DID take it personal, thinking that she wasn't up to snuff, despite you trying to reassure her otherwise. I really wouldn't blame her. I happened to me a couple of times as well (who doesn't have the problem?) And only a couple of women didn't take it personal.

Even an ex of mine, despite us having an otherwise great sexlife, worried that she did something wrong, if I didn't find her attractive anymore. And it only happened once. So yeah, just continue like nothing happened, and show her it's gonna be great next time.

And my date for tonight just cancelled! So relieved. She said she was sick, and I believe her. We set the date up like three weeks ago, but in the meantime I met someone else, who I think is a bit more awesome, and we're going out next friday. So I wasn't really looking forward to tonight. This is the first time someone actually cancelled on me, and I'm sort of relieved

Y'know, eventually you'll have to break it off, provided things go as you hope.

 

[Servbot24]

My ex texted me the other day saying she's depressed and misses me and that I should come over.

Dunno if I should really be going, but... we've been having better and more frequent sex ever since we broke up... so there's that

 

[sooperkool]

are you really flirting with women on GAF

Flirting is fun and harmless, nothing when with it if they are.

 

[dochuge]

It might bug you what she said, but about the bolded, it might also bug her what happened. Sexuality is a really complicated matter. Perhaps she DID take it personal, thinking that she wasn't up to snuff, despite you trying to reassure her otherwise. I really wouldn't blame her. I happened to me a couple of times as well (who doesn't have the problem?) And only a couple of women didn't take it personal.

Even an ex of mine, despite us having an otherwise great sexlife, worried that she did something wrong, if I didn't find her attractive anymore. And it only happened once. So yeah, just continue like nothing happened, and show her it's gonna be great next time.

Trust me, I understand where she's coming from. I totally get it. I just didn't like her snippy comment. I have a lot of female friends, and I asked a few of them. They said that's happened to them and everyone they know. I'm not a robot and most educated people know alcohol and being overly tired can kill the mood. So my trust in her has been shaken too. Up to that point it was fantastic.

 

[DTLIONS1013]

My ex texted me the other day saying she's depressed and misses me and that I should come over.

Dunno if I should really be going, but... we've been having better and more frequent sex ever since we broke up... so there's that

I just went to my ex's house....now I'm depressed and miss her

 

[Kinitari]

I worry I'm not really good at being a 'wingman' or whatever. My roomie/best friend of nearly 15 years is in a bit of a rut, been single for a while and I know he's looking - I just don't think he's really great at the finding part. I wanna help, but I have literally no idea how to.

I've been thinking about taking him out somewhere, maybe just me, him and another friend or two and... I don't know, try to do -something- to help push him in the right direction, but I don't even know what the right direction really is. I guess it's not super important that I help, and he'll probably get their on his own eventually, but I would just like it if he had some better luck!

 

[electricshake]

My ex texted me the other day saying she's depressed and misses me and that I should come over.

Dunno if I should really be going, but... we've been having better and more frequent sex ever since we broke up... so there's that

Why did you break up in the first place? What do you want from this - to get back together, or do you just want sex?

 

[Servbot24]

Why did you break up in the first place? What do you want from this - to get back together, or do you just want sex?

she dumped me because i wasn't magical enough or something (this was because i became extremely busy with work for a couple months. which she understands but she just lost attraction during that time. and i didn't handle it as well as i should have). i want to get back together with her. sex is fun too.

 

[Aegus]

So I'm meeting a friend for food and cinema on Tuesday.

I say friend, but I only met her last February because I was meeting my old Uni class for a night out and she was one my classmate/friend's girlfriend. And we hit it off really well that night and since then I've seen her fairly regularly (like going to concerts and stuff with her friends and her boyfriend). Even went to a music festival with her and her friend. (Without her boyfriend being there)

I did try to keep my distance during all this mostly. Like I really wouldn't message her unless it was something that we were doing as a group.

Which leads onto that her boyfriend broke up with her before Christmas and this is the first time we've arranged something without someone else being there. I'm not sure whether this is a date or just two friends going to the cinema... I feel like I should treat it like the latter and see what the mood feels like.

 

[isny]

are you really flirting with women on GAF

If your pic wasn't a chicken maybe I'd be complimenting you too! People like compliments man, and complimenting someone who is insecure about themselves is hardly flirting.

So I'm meeting a friend for food and cinema on Tuesday.

I say friend, but I only met her last February because I was meeting my old Uni class for a night out and she was one my classmate/friend's girlfriend. And we hit it off really well that night and since then I've seen her fairly regularly (like going to concerts and stuff with her friends and her boyfriend). Even went to a music festival with her and her friend. (Without her boyfriend being there)

I did try to keep my distance during all this mostly. Like I really wouldn't message her unless it was something that we were doing as a group.

Which leads onto that her boyfriend broke up with her before Christmas and this is the first time we've arranged something without someone else being there. I'm not sure whether this is a date or just two friends going to the cinema... I feel like I should treat it like the latter and see what the mood feels like.

Just clarify. Text her and be like "Hey, I'm really excited to be going to see the film with you this weekend."

See what her reply is, and if she replies similarly just ask her something like "I'm glad you're excited/looking forward to seeing the film with me. I know you just got out of a relationship, and I really like you, so I just want to make sure you're okay with seeing someone/going out on a date so soon after."

Or something in that vein. Just play it cool and make sure you clarify somehow that you like her and that you'd prefer it was more than just friends hanging out.

 

[electricshake]

she dumped me because i wasn't magical enough or something (this was because i became extremely busy with work for a couple months. which she understands but she just lost attraction during that time. and i didn't handle it as well as i should have). i want to get back together with her. sex is fun too.

Have you talked to her about what's going on, or asked her if she's interested in getting back together? If she isn't and just wants to have sex with you, how do you feel about it? If you're ok with it, you might as well keep going. If not, I'd be careful - you don't want her to hurt you again.

 

[SaskBoy]

I had a date cancel on me last minute yesterday. We were planning on going to the outdoor skating rink but she said she thought it was too windy to go. It was quite windy so I suppose it's a valid reason but I still feel like she she was just looking for an excuse to not go.

She did say we should try some other day. Should I leave it to her to reschedule?

 

[Servbot24]

Have you talked to her about what's going on, or asked her if she's interested in getting back together? If she isn't and just wants to have sex with you, how do you feel about it? If you're ok with it, you might as well keep going. If not, I'd be careful - you don't want her to hurt you again.

She knows I'm still in love with her. I know she still thinks of me as a possibility, but I'm not sure if I'm a back-up plan, or something to return to after she makes some mistakes she feels she needs to make, or what (it's been 3 months). I'm pretty sure she wouldn't be having sex with me if she didn't feel anything for me, and she definitely sounded like she was thinking about it when she texted me this week, saying things like "no one has ever been as good to me as you" "i remember when you did this and that for me" "i miss you really bad" etc.

 

[stn]

@SaskBoy

Yes, wait for her to reschedule. Onus is on her since she bailed.

@servbot24

I'm a firm believer of action and result. She can say she misses you and all that shit all she likes, its just posturing until she actually takes action. Also, don't think that her having sex with you means she misses you. For all you know she's doing it just to convince herself she's not lonely, undesirable, and so forth. Many people enjoy meaningless sex.

Words and all that shit mean nothing until something comes of them. The only reason you're caught up in this is because you're emotionally attached and are not allowing yourself to move on. She knows you love her and yet she's fine with having sex and not going beyond that?

I think you need to take a forceful stand for what you want immediately. No more letting her beat around the bush, no more giving her space to decide if she likes you or not. You don't want to give people choice in matters such as this, YOU want to be in control. Tell her that you need to move on and she can be either in or out. Don't entertain the idea of keeping her around just for sex, its obvious you have emotional feelings which will only deepen the more sex you have.

 

[dochuge]

I'm pretty bummed. You can follow my story in earlier posts. But hot back seat action on Sunday, Tuesday lots of action but had some err...problems. I had too much to drink. She said she needed to "reassess" the situation since that kind of thing has NEVER happened to her.

Today we were gonna get together and she agreed in the morning. But wanted to push our date further in the day. I agreed. Then she texted and said she needed to push the date further back, half and hour, and THEN finally called me when that didn't work, and said she would give me a "rain check". So she totally threw me under the bus. I felt a little mislead, and there's a reason I don't rush into things. Now I know why.

Next step? Or is it done?

 

[TheExodu5]

I'm pretty bummed. You can follow my story in earlier posts. But hot back seat action on Sunday, Tuesday lots of action but had some err...problems. I had too much to drink. She said she needed to "reassess" the situation since that kind of thing has NEVER happened to her.

The pressure we're under sometimes...and yeah, too much alcohol is a no-no for me as well. Bit of a double-edged sword.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

If your pic wasn't a chicken maybe I'd be complimenting you too! People like compliments man, and complimenting someone who is insecure about themselves is hardly flirting.
.

You should compliment me on my bust.

Spoiler

Ba Dum Psh

I'm pretty bummed. You can follow my story in earlier posts. But hot back seat action on Sunday, Tuesday lots of action but had some err...problems. I had too much to drink. She said she needed to "reassess" the situation since that kind of thing has NEVER happened to her.

Today we were gonna get together and she agreed in the morning. But wanted to push our date further in the day. I agreed. Then she texted and said she needed to push the date further back, half and hour, and THEN finally called me when that didn't work, and said she would give me a "rain check". So she totally threw me under the bus. I felt a little mislead, and there's a reason I don't rush into things. Now I know why.

Next step? Or is it done?

Yeah, It's rough sometimes drinking on dates when you meet up. I'd just text her own up to the fact you drank a bit too much, and if she wants to give you another go after that, good on her. If not, just move on and learn from the experience.

 

[TheExodu5]

Gonna meet up with FB girl this week. 4 hours into a conversation tonight. We've exchanged about 1100 messages so far...I hope there's still conversation left by the time I meet her. Then again, we talked for about 30 minutes about shadow puppet sex so I think we'll find something to talk about.

 

[Deleted member 80556]

Shadow puppet sex are not three words I would expect to ever see together.

 

[Ghizz]

Hi Dating-Age, don't normally post but really need to decide on what to do.

Long story short: High school sweethearts of 6 years, on and off, GF emotionally cheated + a peck around the 2nd year (probably due to a ton of arguments we had) and then we got back together and I revenge cheated (way worse than what she did) around the 5th/6th year.

Then we both went off to respective universities. Now when she fucked up, she tried really hard to get me back and it worked. She put in all the effort of texting, making dates, etc and I could just be a lazy gamer fuck, but now that I want to mend things between us, I only have the option of texting and not seeing her. And the way I see it, I have two options..

1) Just give up, move on, find other girls and forget about her and let our friendship fade.

2) Try to win her over again, but the problem with this is that shes quite unresponsive on texts due to attaining new best-guy friends I guess. Shes a bookworm, don't think shes too into casual flings outside of a relationshp, but I dunno.


Hmm, now that I typed it all out...might just go with option 1. What does gaf think?

 

[TheExodu5]

^ I don't know...sounds like some pretty bad history. I don't think I could ever mend it with all that.

Shadow puppet sex are not three words I would expect to ever see together.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_lTkDvbtH70

 

[TurboLibre]

Pro: Back in a good workout routine, my new job is finally starting to kick in and I'm fired up to make some career moves. Made some potential connections and revamped my resume, so I'm feeling pretty positive right now.

Con: I don't know any single women and that hasn't changed in months. And my friends are all coupled up. So not only are they refusing to do anything with me, it makes staying at home excruciating when I have to sit around with them getting all kissy face with each other and hear loud sex through the walls. I need to get out and go on adventures, but there's only so much you can do by yourself. So I'm stuck at home right now...

Even tried hit up a friend to try and get out the house today but she just made another excuse to bail. Feeling like I need to delete these people out my life. Sick of being surrounded by homebodies and flakes. That could get ugly though.

 

[NeOak]

Hi Dating-Age, don't normally post but really need to decide on what to do.

Long story short: High school sweethearts of 6 years, on and off, GF emotionally cheated + a peck around the 2nd year (probably due to a ton of arguments we had) and then we got back together and I revenge cheated (way worse than what she did) around the 5th/6th year.

Then we both went off to respective universities. Now when she fucked up, she tried really hard to get me back and it worked. She put in all the effort of texting, making dates, etc and I could just be a lazy gamer fuck, but now that I want to mend things between us, I only have the option of texting and not seeing her. And the way I see it, I have two options..

1) Just give up, move on, find other girls and forget about her and let our friendship fade.

2) Try to win her over again, but the problem with this is that shes quite unresponsive on texts due to attaining new best-guy friends I guess. Shes a bookworm, don't think shes too into casual flings outside of a relationshp, but I dunno.


Hmm, now that I typed it all out...might just go with option 1. What does gaf think?

The answer to all that is: do you think the reward (her) is worth the effort required to win her over?

On the other hand, why don't you experiment yourself for a while. Go out, meet other girls. You won't get another chance in life like the college years to do that.

 

[The Artful Dodger]

Hi Dating-Age, don't normally post but really need to decide on what to do.

Long story short: High school sweethearts of 6 years, on and off, GF emotionally cheated + a peck around the 2nd year (probably due to a ton of arguments we had) and then we got back together and I revenge cheated (way worse than what she did) around the 5th/6th year.

Then we both went off to respective universities. Now when she fucked up, she tried really hard to get me back and it worked. She put in all the effort of texting, making dates, etc and I could just be a lazy gamer fuck, but now that I want to mend things between us, I only have the option of texting and not seeing her. And the way I see it, I have two options..

1) Just give up, move on, find other girls and forget about her and let our friendship fade.

2) Try to win her over again, but the problem with this is that shes quite unresponsive on texts due to attaining new best-guy friends I guess. Shes a bookworm, don't think shes too into casual flings outside of a relationshp, but I dunno.


Hmm, now that I typed it all out...might just go with option 1. What does gaf think?

Move on.

 

[Tsukumo]

If your pic wasn't a chicken maybe I'd be complimenting you too! People like compliments man, and complimenting someone who is insecure about themselves is hardly flirting.

literal cockblocking. Now I can truly say I've seen them all XD

Funny you mention swingers xD If it's true that even those guys can't reach such numbers and these girls have in 4 years, maybe it's not true at all, indeed. There's a big difference between guys and girls though, girl 2 didn't seem phased at all about having managed to sleep with 5-6 guys in a month's time, as if it was low or average, nothing special at all. While a guy would kill for such a streak xD It might be a test though yeah. Seems weird though, sounds like a dangerous game to me for a young girl to be playing considering the potential backlash if the wrong person finds out, true story or not. But if it was a test, I think I passed with flying colors thanks to doing exactly what you mentioned; I always make a point to let them know I'm okay with whatever. I told them both that it doesn't matter to me how many they sleep with, you should be able to do whatever you want without slut shaming etc as long as nobody gets hurt. Hell, I'd more likely give them a hug and a high five for each lay than call them a whore, which they and many others have appreciated a lot. I even suggested partly as a joke to girl 2 last night that if she'd ever manage to sleep with 10 guys or girls in a month, I'd buy her dinner. As long as she could prove it, preferably with pictures So yes, I meant that I am more likely to be envious in a positive way than be angry at them, thanks. And no, these are very new acquaintances from my regular town. I did go on a date with a girl yesterday but I had never met her before and I didn't see a single friend from my old life during Xmas. Fuck that town

5-6 guys in a month, after some nasty break up's rebound, I believe. 40... I mean not even the tacky frat-boy keep count like that. People who are able to reach those numbers actually do so because they don't go around saying stuff like that.
As for swingers, in case you are interested, you can join the Fet-life community (don't know if the site is banned on Gaf but it's the usual dotcom address): it's more a Facebook site rather then an OKC for swingers/SM and the likes, but if you are looking into broadening your horizons that for sure is going to bring some cool acquaintances your way. Think of it as a place to get in touch with free-minded, free spirited people: it's more about friendship then dating, but it can introduce you in... interesting circles ;D
As for the gap between the way they introduced themselves to you and the way they qualified themselves later, I think that originates from the fact that you probably came off as a free-minded guy at first but after that you said something about your relationship history, attitude towards relationship that they perceived as "traditional", so they changed their tune.

 

[electricshake]

How do you guys feel about having sex with a girl on her period? Most of my female friends don't like it, but what do you guys think about it?

 

[zeemumu]

How do you guys feel about having sex with a girl on her period? Most of my female friends don't like it, but what do you guys think about it?

Most people I know don't like the idea of period sex, and the ones that do treat it like a fetish. *insert ketchup and hotdog pun here*

 

[potam]

How do you guys feel about having sex with a girl on her period? Most of my female friends don't like it, but what do you guys think about it?

Fucking awesome. Don't have to worry about a condom, assuming you're using it just for BC, and it adds a whole new level to how it feels (not necessarily better, but different).

And going down on her is no different either, assuming you're not tongue punching her.

All in all, just lay down a towel and do work. Plus it's kind of cool afterwards when you're dick looks like a murder weapon.

 

[Bilix]

Ya, having sex without a condom and a lot of blood involved seems totally safe.

 

[giga]

How do you guys feel about having sex with a girl on her period? Most of my female friends don't like it, but what do you guys think about it?

Feels amazing. Warm and very lubricated.

Ya, having sex without a condom and a lot of blood involved seems totally safe.

Wouldn't do it with a stranger. But with a monogamous GF who you know is safe, why not?

 

[Bilix]

Wouldn't do it with a stranger. But with a monogamous GF who you know is safe, why not?

Sure. I should have clarified. If you've been with her for a while, it's whatever. I wouldn't recommend it with a stranger. I was scared for weeks thinking I had an STD once because of it.

 

[potam]

Sure. I should have clarified. If you've been with her for a while, it's whatever. I wouldn't recommend it with a stranger. I was scared for weeks thinking I had an STD once because of it.

Yeah, I wouldn't pick some random girl up from a bar and part her red sea

Spoiler

unless she was really, really, really hot