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[Seanspeed]

So you think there has never been a heterosexual male that has given a blowjob?

Voluntarily, not for money and then considered it the greatest feeling in the world? No.

 

[potam]

So he's not just bi now, he's completely gay? Even if he still likes women?

Now you're just arguing semantics.

 

[SUPREME1]

People get curious about it all the time, and act on that. Though you might say the actual act of being a guy and blowing another guy is gay, it's kind of irrelevant if the person on either side identifies as straight.

Going down on a guy once isn't gonna make you gay for life.

You know what they say:


Once you go gay, you gotta stay!

 

[besada]

Now you're just arguing semantics.

Well, this entire argument is semantic, so yes.

 

[Savitar]

I would say he leans bi, if so hey go with it if you like it man.

Kinda what sex and sexual things are all about.

Do it if you like it, don't if you don't.

 

[Pillville]

This reminds me of something a (virgin) friend said the other day:
"Isn't weird that we label people based on what they put in their mouths"

Although, I think she was just frustrated that no one will touch her.

 

[brokenbeans]

If giving oral to a woman doesn't compare to giving it to a man OP I think you need to have a good think about things.

 

[commedieu]

tried this once.. the fellow couldn't get it up. I'll admit, I was a little offended.

 

[Zen_Arcade]

Psychologically someone could have a Blowjob fetish without being gay. Giving blowjobs stimulates him sexually, but it's not because he's attracted to men in anyway, but only attracted to the idea of giving a blowjob.

I think there's a difference there.

I dont know. If your fetish is something that can only be done to a man then I think that you just have a gay fetish.

 

[mantidor]

I don't see how it would make OP gay or by to be honest, it certainly depends on the kind of pleasure recieved, but enjoying this kind of sexual behavior is really no different than men enjoying pegging, some people like to suck stuff. Being gay is going one step further IMHO, like actually getting feelings for the other person.

 

[IHaveCandy]

I'm rather surprised how many people here have such a limited view on sexuality. It's surprising to see so many people I thought were more aware about sexuality think acts are what determine your sexuality. The whole "You did X so that means you are X sexuality" is absurd. It completely ignores what sexuality is. Sexuality isnt about what you do. It's not about if you're willing to have a penis in your mouth, drink semen, pleasure another man or anything like that. None of that is intrinsically related to sexuality. Sexuality is about what sexually stimulates you. There isn't anything more to it. You don't need to try and make up silly rules so you can have fun saying "oh if you do x, then you're totally gay." or other pointless things like that. A heterosexual person can do anything that a homosexual person does and still be only heterosexual. A homosexual person can do anything a heterosexual person does and still only be homosexual. What determines their sexuality is what sexually stimulates them. If you are not sexually stimulated by the act under your own power, then it doesn't matter what you did.

 

[joelseph]

I'm proud of the OP for being comfortable enough to make this thread, I just hope it is genuine and not a cry for attention.

 

[Wag]

Just by coincidence, I just got back from shopping at BJ's.

 

[iShouldGoPro]

Have the women arrived yet?

 

[xaosslug]

Voluntarily, not for money and then considered it the greatest feeling in the world? No.

did you even read the OP? He enjoyed the feeling of being desired by someone else like that and making someone feel that good, and was acting like a porn star basically.

he didn't say whether or not he physically got of himself (why would he leave that out, tho?)

the takeaway for OP wasn't the act, but the way it made him feel being in a position of control + desirability - and giving a BJ just so happens to be what gave him those feels.

 

[HUELEN10]

Can't we all just agree that:

1. Sexuality, orientation, sex, and gender are different things.

2. Labels and terms only exist to help describe oneself and don't necessarily define you.

3. People, as observers, can make their own interpretations on other people based on their observances; it's only natural.

4. And if someone labels themselves as something you don't see, you should respect their labeling of themselves at the very least since they know more about themselves than you?

Like others, I don't think OP's straight, but if he says he is, I respect that. After all, who am I to label him?

 

[EulaCapra]

It's not that gay for OP to enjoy giving. I know fellow gays who give girls--friends or not--cunnilingus just for shits. Though most don't want the girls to return the favor. They just wanted to give.

At the end of the day, everyone's a bunch of sluts.

 

[Dead Prince]

Just by coincidence, I just got back from shopping at BJ's.

is everything bigger there.

 

[joelseph]

http://www.extremesavingswithdivadesirae.com/wp-content/uploads/2012/06/bj_s-wholesale-club.jpg[IMG]

Just by coincidence, I just got back from shopping at BJ's.[/QUOTE]

And you are sharing this with us why?

 

[CaptainGyro]

You're confusing your unwillingness to put a penis in your mouth with sexuality. There is nothing else to it. Did you receive sexual stimulation from act x? That's all there is to answer. You can want to put a penis in your mouth for any reason. It has nothing to do with your sexual orientation unless it gives you sexual stimulation.

Enjoying isnt what matters. Its about whether it is sexually stimulating.

A bisexual doesn't necessarily have to have sexual stimulation while performing a sexual act to be considered bisexual. It can be an emotional thing too

 

[Maninthemirror]

First thing : you are bi not straight

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Did you have a boner when you gave him oral?

Problem with this question is you can get boners from power trips. So if he was having a power trip, he could have a boner that is a result of the power trip and not a desire for another man.

 

[Kevtones]

tried this once.. the fellow couldn't get it up. I'll admit, I was a little offended.

Calling him fellow isn't very sexy. You need to at least feed his desires, bro.

 

[dragonlife]

And you are sharing this with us why?

Relevancy.

 

[brokenbeans]

And you are sharing this with us why?

I think because we are talking about BJ's and he has been shopping at a store called BJ's.

 

[iShouldGoPro]

Just by coincidence I just got done eating at BJ's.

 

[marrec]

I dont know. If your fetish is something that can only be done to a man then I think that you just have a gay fetish.

Possibly, though not necessarily. Someone can identify as completely straight, be sexually attracted to exclusively females, and never find the thought of having sex with a man sexually interesting, but still get rock hard from giving some dude a BJ.

I mean, there are weirder fetishes out there.

 

[Kevtones]

I'm rather surprised how many people here have such a limited view on sexuality. It's surprising to see so many people I thought were more aware about sexuality think acts are what determine your sexuality. The whole "You did X so that means you are X sexuality" is absurd. It completely ignores what sexuality is. Sexuality isnt about what you do. It's not about if you're willing to have a penis in your mouth, drink semen, pleasure another man or anything like that. None of that is intrinsically related to sexuality. Sexuality is about what sexually stimulates you. There isn't anything more to it. You don't need to try and make up silly rules so you can have fun saying "oh if you do x, then you're totally gay." or other pointless things like that. A heterosexual person can do anything that a homosexual person does and still be only heterosexual. A homosexual person can do anything a heterosexual person does and still only be homosexual. What determines their sexuality is what sexually stimulates them. If you are not sexually stimulated by the act under your own power, then it doesn't matter what you did.

My lead in is usually 'it's all data, baby'.

 

[BadAss2961]

Psychologically someone could have a Blowjob fetish without being gay. Giving blowjobs stimulates him sexually, but it's not because he's attracted to men in anyway, but only attracted to the idea of giving a blowjob.

I think there's a difference there.

But being attracted to a man's dick is being attracted to him in some way. That someone could like giving head, but i'm sure he wouldn't just suck any dick. There has to be some level of attraction.

To blur the lines any further than this is just denial imo.

 

[Diablos]

I'd consider you bisexual.

Yeah, this is what I was going to say. You are somewhere in between gay and straight, OP. Nothing wrong with that, but if you go around telling people about your sex life but maintain that you are straight they aren't going to take you seriously... unless all of your friends/family are Evangelical Christians.

I've been really depressed before and felt worthless, but that did not compel me to go blow some dude I met online, because I'm not attracted to the male anatomy in such a way that I'd ever feel compelled to do it, even to feel better about myself or what have you.

You are likely bi. It's 2014, no big deal.

 

[brokenbeans]

Problem with this question is you can get boners from power trips. So if he was having a power trip, he could have a boner that is a result of the power trip and not a desire for another man.

I just wonder if he gets the same trip when he's with females.

Or is it just a forbidden fruit thing.

 

[BrokenEchelon]

It happened to me two years ago. I was feeling extremely depressed and lonely due to various personal issues (recovering from a suicide attempt, graduating college soon without a plan and having to move back home), got really drunk, and gave this dude I knew a BJ.

I consider myself to be straight, you know I'm not above admitting other men are handsome and sometimes I like to tease just for fun, but I'm physically and sexually attracted to women though. However, I won't lie, giving the BJ was a fun and empowering experience that made me feel powerful and in control of a "relationship", not to mention for once someone desired me. The next day I felt pretty upset, since I was a bit miffed when I looked things over and sort of felt like the dude basically took advantage of me (he was sober, and FaceBook messaged me despite us not being friends and basically invited himself over, I wouldn't say it wasn't consensual, but it was sort of shady on his end), but during the actual act it felt great. I had a lot of fun just pretending I was in a porno and joking around with stupid lines I made up.

I've yet to ever do something like this again, and if I ever get a girlfriend it's certainly something I probably won't reveal right away (although I doubt it'd be that much of a deal-breaker, I mean I bet a lot of girls might find that sort of sexy), but I'm not gonna lie, I've often sort of fantasized about it in a very taboo way.

So yeah, I used to think BJs were sort of this unfair thing guys get their girlfriends into doing for their own pleasure, but now I can see why someone would willingly do it. It was pretty fun.

 

[marrec]

But being attracted to a man's dick is being attracted to him in some way. That someone could like giving head, but i'm sure he wouldn't just suck any dick. There has to be some level of attraction.

To blur the lines any further than this is just denial imo.

Who's to say he wouldn't just suck any dick?

I don't think the OP mentioned any specific attraction to this particular man did he?

 

[Cow Mengde]

I'm rather surprised how many people here have such a limited view on sexuality. It's surprising to see so many people I thought were more aware about sexuality think acts are what determine your sexuality. The whole "You did X so that means you are X sexuality" is absurd. It completely ignores what sexuality is. Sexuality isnt about what you do. It's not about if you're willing to have a penis in your mouth, drink semen, pleasure another man or anything like that. None of that is intrinsically related to sexuality. Sexuality is about what sexually stimulates you. There isn't anything more to it. You don't need to try and make up silly rules so you can have fun saying "oh if you do x, then you're totally gay." or other pointless things like that. A heterosexual person can do anything that a homosexual person does and still be only heterosexual. A homosexual person can do anything a heterosexual person does and still only be homosexual. What determines their sexuality is what sexually stimulates them. If you are not sexually stimulated by the act under your own power, then it doesn't matter what you did.

It's probably him claiming it's the "greatest feeling in the world" that has people start classifying his sexuality. If he likes it, more power to him.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

Just by coincidence I just got done eating at BJ's.

You were able to choke that stuff down?

 

[rooflapimp]

I can only assume that the people claiming that the OP can be straight and still enjoy sucking on erect dicks are not straight themselves. Because if you are 100% straight (i.e. not the least bit bisexual or bicurious), your lips wouldn't come close to another man's dick, unless you are forced or doing it for money or something. It doesn't matter how drunk you are, you don't willingly suck off another dude.

 

[Reishiki]

I mean, there are weirder fetishes out there.

Hi there.

Spoiler

It's a lot harder to give a BJ when your hands are tied behind your back.

 

[Omegasquash]

Woah there, nobody is giving him greif or saying anything against being gay or bisexual. Calm down bro.

That's not what I'm saying...I'm saying that everyone is rushing to categorize him. THAT'S where I have a problem. Because I didn't feel like the point of the post was to question his sexuality. GAF isn't a hate based place, and that's not what I'm trying to say.

 

[ronito]

Have the women arrived yet?

Everyone knows its harder to get the women to come than men.

 

[Zen_Arcade]

Possibly, though not necessarily. Someone can identify as completely straight, be sexually attracted to exclusively females, and never find the thought of having sex with a man sexually interesting, but still get rock hard from giving some dude a BJ.

I mean, there are weirder fetishes out there.

I think getting aroused at the thought of sucking a dick is the main trait of being gay, or at least bi. You're essentially saying that a man can be aroused by other men and not be gay.

 

[freenudemacusers]

Just by coincidence I just got done eating at BJ's.

can't say I blame you.

 

[Wag]

Just by coincidence I just got done eating at BJ's.

They serve a lot of head cheese there?

 

[Charles Alan Ratliff]

I've yet to nut from a BJ. It is what it is.

how.....is that possible?

It's the same for me. Every one I've had has been pretty bad, though.

 

[Kevtones]

Who's to say he wouldn't just suck any dick?

I don't think the OP mentioned any specific attraction to this particular man did he?

No, it seemed like your average FB bro-blow.



I think the OP is probably more stingy with what he puts in his mouth now but considering his 'greatest feeling in the world' statement I'm inclined to friend him on FB (is that bi?).

 

[marrec]

I can only assume that the people claiming that the OP can be straight and still enjoy sucking on erect dicks are not straight themselves. Because if you are 100% straight (i.e. not the least bit bisexual or bicurious), your lips wouldn't come close to another man's dick, unless you are forced or doing it for money or something. It doesn't matter how drunk you are, you don't willingly suck off another dude.

I think you mistaking sexual attraction to men with sexual attraction to the power one gets from sucking off men. You're view of sexuality are fairly naive.

I just wonder if he gets the same trip when he's with females.

Or is it just a forbidden fruit thing.

And if it's just a forbidden fruit thing, does that further seperate himself from being sexually identified as Bisexual or Gay?

 

[Omegasquash]

I can only assume that the people claiming that the OP can be straight and still enjoy sucking on erect dicks are not straight themselves. Because if you are 100% straight (i.e. not the least bit bisexual or bicurious), your lips wouldn't come close to another man's dick, unless you are forced or doing it for money or something. It doesn't matter how drunk you are, you don't willingly suck off another dude.

What is this?

 

[PhoenixDark]

Pretty sure once you've given another guy a bj you have crossed streams, and are now on the other team. Unless it was done in a professional setting, like on a porn set.

 

[samus i am]

I love receiving blowjobs to completion. The only problem is, it has probably only happened to me two or three times. After a couple minutes I start to feel guilty because the girl is doing all of the work and I am just sitting there. My guilt gets the best of me and I usually stop the girl and try to payback the favor.

 

[marrec]

I think getting aroused at the thought of sucking a dick is the main trait of being gay, or at least bi. You're essentially saying that a man can be aroused by other men and not be gay.

No, I'm saying that a man can separate the idea of the dick he's blowing from the idea that he's blowing a man. Unless we're saying that men are essentially dicks with legs.

 

[NotTheGuyYouKill]

I love to receiving blowjobs to completion. The only problem is, it has probably only happened to me two or three times. After a couple minutes I start to feel guilty because the girl is doing all of the work and I am just sitting there. My guilt gets the best of me and I usually stop the girl and try to payback the favor.

Why would you stop her during? Why not just repay the favour after she's done with you?