You see a woman crying in the parking lot, do you ask her if she's ok?

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What, and get German Suplexed?! Nuhuh!

Seriously though, ya, and that's for everyone regardless of gender. But I'm a doofus.

Tenks said:
For someone named Confidence Man you sound like a pussy
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I don't think that means what you think it means..

It's the long version of Con Man
 
And to turn this around the other way, if for whatever reason I happened to be crying in public, I would want everyone to leave me the fuck alone.
 
Nope, no need to be an annoying fedora white knight who thinks women always need protection.

If they appear to need help and actually are searching for help, then yes, anyone of any gender.
 
I'd be fairly uncomfortable if someone did that to me, so I suppose it stands to reason that I'd be reluctant to ask strangers to discuss their emotional state without some kind of obvious context.
 
Yup. I've actually done it a couple times that weren't just someone crying.

There was once where I didn't because it was a guy who was shaking and angrily yelling to himself while crying which scared me.

Arde5643 said:
Nope, no need to be an annoying fedora white knight who thinks women always need protection.

If they appear to need help and actually are searching for help, then yes, anyone of any gender.
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Why would you even think that way? You know this question isn't just targeted at men, right?
 
Liquidsnake said:
What has happened to help and take care of your fellow mankind?

What would stop you from asking her if she is ok? Are you afraid she would be instantly scared of you because you are a stranger?


I wish we cared for one another more than we do now.
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Why does it matter if it's a man or woman? What a weird thing to specify. If it was a woman, all hands on deck, but a dude, you'd just walk off?
 
If a person approached me for help I would most likely help, but I'm not going to bother other people when they're crying by themselves. Usually, people cry because they are actually sad; it's not some distress signal.
 
Definitely. And i have done so before.

Most of the time people say they are fine, and you can move on.
But if ever someone is in real trouble, why not help?
 
BearPawB said:
Definitely. And i have done so before.

Most of the time people say they are fine, and you can move on.
But if ever someone is in real trouble, why not help?
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Yup. Pretty much. It takes two seconds and, honestly, very little effort.

But nope its totally a fedora paladin thing
 
Hell no. She could be fake crying to bait you into walking up to her. Then her boyfriend jumps out with a lead pipe. Don't talk to strangers in parking lots.
 
I had a bad experience last time I tried to help someone out. I was at the downtown disneyland parking lot once, and this distraught lady walks towards me and my friend and ask to use my phone. I let her use my phone, and she called her "dad" and said these two guys were following her and asked him to pick her up. Me and my friend were the only two guys around, so that's when I started to get suspicious of her. Then she asked which part of the parking lot we were at. She was crying while speaking to her "dad", but it was obviously she was faking the tears. She ask to make another phone call and I just got my phone back and was out of there. Not sure what she was trying to pull off.
 
theechrisfox said:
Hell no. She could be fake crying to bait you into walking up to her. Then her boyfriend jumps out with a lead pipe. Don't talk to strangers in parking lots.
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Then she gets on your horse and gallops away.

Eventually you just start lassoing anyone who asks for help. It's sad, really. :(
 
I gave a young woman a ride home the other day after I saw her shivering in the cold walking home. My good deed for the year is now complete!
 
I don't know, something about the parking lot makes me want to say no. If it was more.... "animated" or talkative space, I'd definitely ask and have asked people who looked distraught or lost.

I think it really depends if it's a large or a small parking lot. Those tiny parking lots next to small stores? I'd ask. Those giant ones in front of Costco or Walmart? Probably not. Also probably not at night time.
 
No, never. You never know if it could be a chick doing an experiment on the predatory, desperate nature of men and it could end up on tumblr.
 
MrDenny said:
I had a bad experience last time I tried to help someone out. I was at the disneyland parking lot once, and this distraught lady walks towards me and my friend and ask to use my phone. I let her use my phone, and she called her "dad" and said these two guys were following her and asked him to pick her up. Me and my friend were the only two guys around, so that's when I started to get suspicious of her. Then she asked which part of the parking lot we were at. She was crying while speaking to her "dad", but it was obviously she was faking the tears. She ask to make another phone call and I just got my phone back and was out of there. Not sure what she was trying to pull off.
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The twist is that it was all totally real and she was kidnapped seconds later, breathlessly mouthing "why...?" as she watched you walk away.
 
Yes, but you stay a healthy distance away until you can discern the situation.

That's a REALLY easy way to get robbed.
 
theechrisfox said:
Hell no. She could be fake crying to bait you into walking up to her. Then her boyfriend jumps out with a lead pipe. Don't talk to strangers in parking lots.
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Keep your distance. You don't need to be close to ask someone if they need help.

Ask "are you hurt"
Ask "Do you need the police"
Ask "do you need help"

None of those things require you to be close. You don't need to be the one to comfort. You just have to be the one to call the cops if you realize something awful just happened. Don't get close. Don't lend personal possessions. Be smart.
 
No. Ain't nobody want a stranger's comfort.
 
If I see anyone crying in the parking lot I stop and ask if everything is okay. I work in a courthouse. People crying is commonplace, but parking lot crying is a whole different beast so I check.
 
Yes. Doesn't even have to be a woman, just asking someone what's wrong can make they day much better without being too much of an inconvenience to yours. It's like holding a door open for others. An emotional door.
 
I drove by a woman crying at an intersection recently and felt bad for her. If I had been on foot, I'd probably have asked her if everything was okay.
 
BLunted said:
Of course. Why wouldn't you?
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Because the person could be honestly disturbed or dangerous.
That's not a joke, that has happened to a friend and he nearly got maced.

My uncle once stopped to help a woman with a flat tire and got stabbed trhough the hand. We don't know why she did it.

It's a crazy world, I would just keep walking. I know that sounds horrible.
 
BearPawB said:
Keep your distance. You don't need to be close to ask someone if they need help.

Ask "are you hurt"
Ask "Do you need the police"
Ask "do you need help"

None of those things require you to be close. You don't need to be the one to comfort. You just have to be the one to call the cops if you realize something awful just happened. Don't get close. Don't lend personal possessions. Be smart.
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Yes, these are perfectly reasonable things to do. I think I would be a little more open to offering consolation in certain context. Like if the ambiguous 'parking lot' became the parking lot of a concert or venue that she and I were obviously attending at the same time. Or if it was broad daylight. There are a lot more questions I would need answered before thinking of approaching a complete stranger in any capacity.
 
It depends. Sometimes when I see people distressed I just kind of walk away because I'm too nervous to say anything. Other times my sense of empathy overrides my anxiety and I'll ask if they are ok.
 
Macattk15 said:
Probably. Would ask if they needed help or something.

If they quickly said no or said they were fine, I wouldn't pry though.
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I´d probably do this too. Don't want to pry, but maybe they are just having a bad day and i can help them out with something.
 
If she didn't appear to obviously need immediate help (injury, being attacked, etc) or was actually asking for help I wouldn't stop.

I've learned the hard way that its best to stay away from emotionally disturbed strangers. You have no way of knowing what they might drag you into. The next thing you know you have a psycho stalker who traps you in a parking lot, alone, at night demanding you go on a date with them or they won't move their car so you can leave all because a few days before you were nice and asked them what was wrong.
 
Depends on the time of day and whether other people are around

Basically if I think I wouldn't scare her by approaching her then yes I'd ask
 
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