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embrace that you are now a supporting background character in a new, very important little protagonist's story
 
Details, mayne. You haven't even said whether you're the mother or father or what your relationship is to the other person.
 
Step 1: make your intentions clear. For example, "I don't want to have a family right now, and I don't have much to offer in terms of child support" is important information she should know. Even if your attitude towards these things is selfish, say it, she should know. Be honest. More honest than you have ever been about anything.

Step 2: stay out of her way and let her decide what to do with this information.

Step 3: be supportive, no matter what she decides.
 
Take a long walk and go really think about whether you're able to be a father/mother or not.

Sit down with baby daddy/mommy and get their opinion and see if you can't decide together.

Abortion
Give birth and raise
Give birth and give up for adoption

Abortion comes with its own stigma and consequences, but you can't let other people decide what's right about what you do in your relationship.
Giving birth and raising it is a good option but hard if you're young and not ready. If you really go this route, I hope the parents are involved and can be supportive.
Giving birth and then giving the baby up for adoption is hard, and pregnancy isn't easy and sometimes people change their minds at this stage too.

Good luck
use a fucking condom next time you dumbass.
 
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It starts today, OP
 
A couple of phone books and about 6-feet of sturdy rope should do it.

In all seriousness OP, you should have a frank discussion with your partner. This is one of the few occasions in which GAF can't save you, I'm afraid.
 
You should either commit to raising the baby well, or roast it on a spit and eat it while it is still the size of a rotisserie chicken. Babies are delicious because they make their own butter.
 
prepare to be more emotionally, financially, physically, and psychologically stressed than you were when you didn't have kids.

RIP OP
 
I mean, if you're not ready to have a baby and both parties are comfortable in doing so, you can just have an abortion.

But I've had the abortion talk with everybody I've ever been with really early on. I imagine it's harder to have the conversation NOW.

But, still, it's an option that exists for exactly this situation and there is no shame in seeking this alternative.
 
I just was in the same situation. Well, just is now 10 month ago. After being together for 7 months my SO got pregnant. Figure out if this is the right person for the sake of your child.

Have a meaningful and lengthy discussion if both of you are capable of having and raising a child together. Even if there is no future for the both of you, support your SO during the pregnancy or anything else. And if everything works out, care for your child. If you're the one pregnant, don't chose anything without talking to him first. Had a friend tell her SO on the very same day she had the abortion that she decided to do it. Ripped him apart. Be open about everything and listen to any concern.

It's hard but I am happy, but I also think I found the woman of my life.
 
Without knowing what role OP plays in the scenario, let me say:

1. Talk about it with the other person.
2. Decide if you are willing to sacrifice what's necessary to provide for a child in this world (money, energy, current lifestyle, time, even health).

Raising a child is an enormous responsibility that will consume upwards two decades of your life. Don't do it if you're not willing to commit to these things.
 
Mexen said:
What's the best way to handle an unexpected pregnancy?

Edit: well, I neglected the details because GAF nitpicks and I just wanted advice on how to deal with the pregnancy itself but here's the story. I regret typing this already.

My best friend of 11 years and I share a flat (apartment, you are welcome, America) since we work together and it's a five minute drive from the office.

Lately, she's been acting super girlfriend like and confessed her romantic feelings for me. However, I don't feel the same way and that caused a rift between us. Somehow, we got past it and started talking again.

And then about an hour ago, she was being really... She wanted to have sex and I resisted at first but eventually, I caved and she got a condom she had stashed somewhere in her room.

Now as I was pulling out, she resisted and that counter force pushed some semen into her canal. I base this on the load I ejaculated relative to what was in the condom... And my crotch. I immediately freaked out. I am still freaking out.

She has refused to take a morning after pill and says its unlikely conception took place and took the liberty to explain high school biology to me with respect to her cycle, but I just can't let it go.

If there is even an odd chance that she is pregnant, I don't where to start with being a father.

I am 26 and abortion is not an option. Sorry about thread title, I just didn't know what to say.

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Okay I'm not trying to minimize your situation op but you need to relax a little. Why won't she take a morning after pill?

Hate to say it because I know it's gonna be a burden but it sounds like you should probably move out.
 
Honestly suggest abortion. It's her choice though. But vote for abortion.

Edit: I just saw the update. Chill out. If abortion isn't an option and she gets pregnant then yes you are fucked.

Good luck!
 
unfortunately, you're basically at the mercy of her whims and biology at this point. assuming she does get pregnant, your options are: 1. bolt. 2. stay. Either way you're financially liable so you might as well stay for now.
 
Abortion IS an option, OP.

Explain it to her. You're too young, not financially able, etc.

Abortions are cheap in the states, not sure about elsewhere, but it's totally an option.
 
Dude what?

It took like 5 months of trying for us to get pregnant. And this was making sure everything about it was optimal.

There's like a 0.1% chance she's actually pregnant. Calm the fuck down.
 
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