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Another sad love story...
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Well you know what, that's the way I've been living my life and I couldn't be happier.
And Boogie, seriously I have no idea where you're coming from especially since you're still in school. If you're a decent guy and put a TINY amount of effort into meeting people you'll probably meet at least 1 new person a week. Like your guys from Jiu-Jitsu, are you friends with them? I'm sure they have friends as well.
What I'm saying, is if you're as good/decent a guy as you're making yourself out to be, and NOT stressing over girls and wallowing in your own self-pity and not horribly ugly/fat (superficial society) and still not meeting people/girls, then you live in a really messed up area. But I don't think this is the twilight zone where everyone else is wrong but you.
And Boogie, seriously I have no idea where you're coming from especially since you're still in school. If you're a decent guy and put a TINY amount of effort into meeting people you'll probably meet at least 1 new person a week. Like your guys from Jiu-Jitsu, are you friends with them? I'm sure they have friends as well.
What I'm saying, is if you're as good/decent a guy as you're making yourself out to be, and NOT stressing over girls and wallowing in your own self-pity and not horribly ugly/fat (superficial society) and still not meeting people/girls, then you live in a really messed up area. But I don't think this is the twilight zone where everyone else is wrong but you.
i wasnt quite kidding per se, i was just throwing around ideas. now if you dont like that, thats ok, whatever you do is your own choice. all i'm saying is, if you have never asked a girl out, dont moap around. its an action/reaction thing, if you dont act, ie, hit on girls, things will not happen to you.
if not acting is your choice, understand and be comfortable with that! understand that loneliness will be a consequence of not asking out females. or males. whatever.
im just really pointing out the obvious in a blunt manner.
another reason i gave that sort of an advice is, since you never had a relationship before, you'd fall for the first girl that shows any sort of interest in you, you'd fall head over heels too fast and consequently completely creep her out.
thats the way it is, i have seen it too many times and done it myself, i give myself as an example.
girls like sensitive guys and all that, but they dont want overly emotional guys. and you have a greater chance of being overly emotional since you wont have experienced this sort of companionship before.
only two ways to handle that situation.
one.
preemeptively desensitize yourself by sleeping around with slutty chics now. no shame in it. apparently in real life you're not getting anywhere, and by your own admittance you are being pathetic. so its not like you'll be even more pathetic by finding slutty online chics. theres no point in subdividing "patheticism" in echelons and tell yourself, "well, at least im not that pathetic" and then come to GA and post that you cant meet any girls. you see the irony there? anyway, should you choose this path, once you have gotten the hang of how the whole thing works and had some experiences, go meet a nice girl in real life. by then you'll have the confidence, and this time dont just go for the sex, get into a relationship.
two.
meet a girl in real life, ASK her out. have an immense amount of self control and dont show all your feelings to this first girl you start dating, dont come clean and say "i never had a girlfriend, you're my soulmate, noone knows me like you do". yaddi yadda. take it very very very slow, just relax, do the dating thing and when you guys get to that "serious" point, when she trusts...then tell her.
im no cubsfan, but i learned the hard way.
keep in mind, im not trying to be an asshole, i said what i honestly think. you may take it or leave it.
if not acting is your choice, understand and be comfortable with that! understand that loneliness will be a consequence of not asking out females. or males. whatever.
im just really pointing out the obvious in a blunt manner.
another reason i gave that sort of an advice is, since you never had a relationship before, you'd fall for the first girl that shows any sort of interest in you, you'd fall head over heels too fast and consequently completely creep her out.
thats the way it is, i have seen it too many times and done it myself, i give myself as an example.
girls like sensitive guys and all that, but they dont want overly emotional guys. and you have a greater chance of being overly emotional since you wont have experienced this sort of companionship before.
only two ways to handle that situation.
one.
preemeptively desensitize yourself by sleeping around with slutty chics now. no shame in it. apparently in real life you're not getting anywhere, and by your own admittance you are being pathetic. so its not like you'll be even more pathetic by finding slutty online chics. theres no point in subdividing "patheticism" in echelons and tell yourself, "well, at least im not that pathetic" and then come to GA and post that you cant meet any girls. you see the irony there? anyway, should you choose this path, once you have gotten the hang of how the whole thing works and had some experiences, go meet a nice girl in real life. by then you'll have the confidence, and this time dont just go for the sex, get into a relationship.
two.
meet a girl in real life, ASK her out. have an immense amount of self control and dont show all your feelings to this first girl you start dating, dont come clean and say "i never had a girlfriend, you're my soulmate, noone knows me like you do". yaddi yadda. take it very very very slow, just relax, do the dating thing and when you guys get to that "serious" point, when she trusts...then tell her.
im no cubsfan, but i learned the hard way.
keep in mind, im not trying to be an asshole, i said what i honestly think. you may take it or leave it.
nitewulf said:
Oh yeah, I've been through that shit a couple of times myself too.
Girls don't need their man to be emotional. They themselves are emotional enough as it is. They want a strong man who is always in control and who offers stability. Outpouring of feelings are a massive no-no, especially if you've just met her.....
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StoOgE said:
Exactingly, you're way to quick to fall in love without knowing the person.
RULE OF THUMB: When you see a girl that you're interested in, START taking steps to ask her out IMMEDIATELY. DON'T LET THINGS DADDLE, DON'T PUSSYFOOT, MOVE YOUR ASS AND PUT YOUR PLAN IN ACTION.
#1) Get her info
#2) Ask her out. Use acquired info if you don't see her often or ask her briefly when you run into her.
Also, never try to put life in a dead conversation.
Who am I kidding? I'm no replacement for Cubsfan...
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