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I have the serious hots for this girl at the local grocery, and we're always friendly/flirtish when I go through her line, but I've never tried to go out with a black girl before.

I'm not curious so much as to how one handles their friends, because the friends I have wouldn't mind, and even if they did, it's not up them anyway. What I wonder about is, if any white guys here have hooked up with a black woman, how did it go when you met her family?

Probably a silly thing to have as a hangup, but :shrug:

Anyone?
 
I am a product of a black and white marriage!! So I say go for it!
 
I am black(born in Jamaica, West Indies) and my wife, Tiffany is white...

We have been married for 5 1/2 years, have 2 beautiful children and I could not be happier:)


Colour doesn't matter...trust your heart :)
 
I sure am, and it's fantastic. You can see pics of us in the post your pic thread. It shouldn't matter at all as long as you two wanna do it, and as long as nobody's racist or anything it should be all good.

My gf's parents welcomed me no problem, we did shots together the first time I met them. :D
 
I've dated a black girl before, and while my family didn't have any problems with it she did tell me that her father didn't like the idea of her dating a white guy. He was always very nice to me in person, however.
 
I'm dating a chinese girl now. She, uh, won't even tell her parents about me due to her parents' thoughts of americans. Yay!
One day I was sitting on a bench with my girlfriend, my arm around her, and this old black man gives me a thumbs up and says "Keep up the good work son." and walks off. I'm not sure why this happened, but I'm glad my work is bringing us all closer together.
 
Heh I hate stupid chicks who won't stand up to their parents. Their relationships with their parents are so fucking fake and not real. They should be direct with their parents and try to convince them that their thinking is fucked.
 
RevenantKioku said:
I'm dating a chinese girl now. She, uh, won't even tell her parents about me due to her parents' thoughts of americans. Yay!
One day I was sitting on a bench with my girlfriend, my arm around her, and this old black man gives me a thumbs up and says "Keep up the good work son." and walks off. I'm not sure why this happened, but I'm glad my work is bringing us all closer together.
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that old black man was jesus
 
miyuru said:
Heh I hate stupid chicks who won't stand up to their parents. Their relationships with their parents are so fucking fake and not real. They should be direct with their parents and try to convince them that their thinking is fucked.
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Her visa expired and she's in Hong Kong again. Since she's low on funds right now, she's living with her parents. If it's stupid to keep up a facade so her parents don't kick her out for dating an American (Lord knows what they'd do.) then so be it.
Sadly, there's a time and place for fighting idiot thinking.
 
RevenantKioku said:
I'm dating a chinese girl now. She, uh, won't even tell her parents about me due to her parents' thoughts of americans. Yay!
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I have been in this situation a couple of years ago (except I'm Dutch). I couldn't cope with the pressure of it all. We split up because of the arguments we had over it, eventually. It just didn't feel right. I wanted her to be proud of me and it felt like she wasn't. :(
 
I tried to date a black girl once, I told her all about this black friend I had and then tried to talk with her about the NBA, but she didnt seem intrested.
 
I like how "American" = white for some reason.
When my mom wants to say "white", she uses "Canadian" similarly - haha.
 
StoOgE said:
I tried to date a black girl once, I told her all about this black friend I had and then tried to talk with her about the NBA, but she didnt seem intrested.
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Did you tell her your best friend was black?

Anyway, I'm black and married an Asian girl. She didn't tell her Mom about me initially. Obviously I was annoyed and frustrated, but keep in mind us Americans are used to telling our parents to shove it. But in many places especially in Asia parents and children have a formal relationship. Sons and daughters are suppose to honor and obey their parents otherwise it brings shame to their family. So it's not easy for them to openly dissent even if they know something is wrong.

That said, I eventually met my wife's family and we get along great. Both sides of our immediate families had no problem with our relationship and also got along. And even a few distant cousins warmed up to us once they saw our child. I think that's God's sole purpose of making mix kids cute so they can bring families together. :)

I swear, just the other week in a grocery store this old Asian lady gave my wife and I an ugly look. But then once she saw our son tag along behind, her face slowly but suddenly blossomed into a smile. Whatever prejudice she had, she forgot about it for that moment.

I love black women. But in a way I'm glad that I'm in a interracial marriage, instead of just sticking to my own race. My wife's family (which is HUGE) now has a totally different view of black people. Before their only image of black people was from movies, MTV, and the 6 o'clock news, none of which are very flattering. But now a lot of her family members are more comfortable around black people after spending time with me and my family. And what about the old Asian lady in the grocery store. If I was with a black woman, she wouldn't have given me a second look. But by me being with an Asian woman with a kid, it caused a reaction. It might be temporary, but you never know.

So I feel I'm playing a small part in paving a path for better race relations for the future. :) So if I occasionally get funny looks in public or ridicule from black people, then so be it.
 
Himuro said:
Wow, a horny asian chick? Never seen this before.
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How does the fact that I have a white boyfriend make me a horny asian chick?

I was just responding to the topic, not making a comment as to my level of sexual desire.
 
My wife is Filipina. She's a godsend, however her mother doesn't like me too much. I've been told it's because I'm black (I'm "mullatto" to be exact). She acts as if I don't exist, but I've gotten used to it. From what I've been told it seems that most of the older Filipinos don't like interracial relationships, unless they're with a white person. Apparently in the Philipines having pale skin is considered beautiful, while brown skin is not.

From what I've been told the women over there use chemical creams to whiten their skin. And they also use umbrellas while outdoors to avoid getting tanned. I didn't believe it but my wife swears that's how it is over there. Anyway, it's unfortunate that her mother and I don't have any type of relationship, but oh well. I love my wife and my kids and that's all that matters.

So yeah, go for it. Even if her parents end up being racist about it, there's still a chance that you two could really hit it off. Who cares what others think?
 
A white guy from my highschool once tried to date a cousin of mine several years ago. Bear in mind, this guy was a complete asshole. His previous girlfriend was known as "The Screensaver" because he'd used to only fuck her between rounds of Quake. This girl also had a thing for strapping herself to a harness that was slung underneath a horse. Anyway I stayed quiet about it - I figured I'd let my cousin figure out what kind of guy he is on her own. The guy shows up at her doorstep on a Saturday during a family gathering. Bear in mind, my family is reasonably large - one grandmother guarded by 6 sons, three daughters, 6 daughters in law, 3 sons in law, 26 grandchildren and one slobbering 3 yr old great grandson. He shows up at the door looking like a complete twat, with floppy hair, yellow teeth and try-hard thrash-rock chains dangling off of him. He knocks at the door. My uncle opens up the door. I see him from the living space where we're playing mah-jong. He kind of notices me and I quietly give him a really sarcastic thumbs-up. Next thing you know, the door is slammed so hard in his face that he falls down the stairs and lands on his ass. He then begged me not to tell anyone at school the next morning :lol
 
Master Z said:
My wife is Filipina. She's a godsend, however her mother doesn't like me too much. I've been told it's because I'm black (I'm "mullatto" to be exact). She acts as if I don't exist, but I've gotten used to it. From what I've been told it seems that most of the older Filipinos don't like interracial relationships, unless they're with a white person. Apparently in the Philipines having pale skin is considered beautiful, while brown skin is not.

From what I've been told the women over there use chemical creams to whiten their skin. And they also use umbrellas while outdoors to avoid getting tanned. I didn't believe it but my wife swears that's how it is over there. Anyway, it's unfortunate that her mother and I don't have any type of relationship, but oh well. I love my wife and my kids and that's all that matters.

So yeah, go for it. Even if her parents end up being racist about it, there's still a chance that you two could really hit it off. Who cares what others think?
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Believe the umbrella outdoors thing. I'm guessing it originates from the working class being tanned from working outdoors, and the rich and privileged being indoors and bone white. You know, from traditional times. It's amazing, the differences cultures can have. Here in NZ, being burnt to a crisp is supposedly a good look. Anyway, one last thing about umbrellas outside - in China, during the summer, it's practically a necessity, whther you care about being pale or not. The sun is intensely unforgiving, and you can actually pass out if you don't have some shade for a few moments.

It's easy to say who cares what others think, but some cultures it is really important. Respect for your elders, and ESPECIALLY your parents is tantamount in Asian culture. Often, Asian parents slave for literally generations to give their son/grandson etc the best chance in life. And often, this chance happens to be in the form of moving to a western country. And often, in that country, they are raised with a western mentality. Tough for them, and tough for the parents. Neither side see what is going on - the child doesn't see what sacrifices their parents have made, or where their demands come from. The parents don't see that you can't raise a child in a foreign country without expecting some change.
 
bjork said:
I have the serious hots for this girl at the local grocery, and we're always friendly/flirtish when I go through her line, but I've never tried to go out with a black girl before.
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bjork said:
I have the serious hots for this girl at the local grocery, and we're always friendly/flirtish when I go through her line, but I've never tried to go out with a black girl before.
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bjork said:
I have the serious hots for this girl at the local grocery, and we're always friendly/flirtish when I go through her line, but I've never tried to go out with a black girl before.
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I don't get it.
 
mrkgoo said:
It's easy to say who cares what others think, but some cultures it is really important. Respect for your elders, and ESPECIALLY your parents is tantamount in Asian culture. Often, Asian parents slave for literally generations to give their son/grandson etc the best chance in life. And often, this chance happens to be in the form of moving to a western country. And often, in that country, they are raised with a western mentality. Tough for them, and tough for the parents. Neither side see what is going on - the child doesn't see what sacrifices their parents have made, or where their demands come from. The parents don't see that you can't raise a child in a foreign country without expecting some change.
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I don't care how many generations my wife's family had to work to get here, dissmissing me simply because I'm black is not acceptable. Thank god my wife did not respect her mother's views. And in most cases that I've seen, heard about or experienced it's the parents who just don't get it. If they really want their children to remain as traditional as they are then don't come to the west. Obviously if they raise their children here, the child is going to be exposed to and ultimately become a part of western society. If these traditional parents are going to come here and raise a family then they should get with the times and accept change.
 
Master Z said:
I don't care how many generations my wife's family had to work to get here, dissmissing me simply because I'm black is not acceptable. Thank god my wife did not respect her mother's views. And in most cases that I've seen, heard about or experienced it's the parents who just don't get it. If they really want their children to remain as traditional as they are then don't come to the west. Obviously if they raise their children here, the child is going to be exposed to and ultimately become a part of western society. If these traditional parents are going to come here and raise a family then they should get with the times and accept change.
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I tend to agree. It is obvious, but many foreign immigrants still fail to understand this. Many times, though, you can't blame them. If, for example, an westerner were to move to an asian country, and raise children there, it'd be difficult for them to shake off their own culture and adopt the new one. You can obviously say that they shouldn't move there then, but, again, it's never that cut and dry.

As always, a tough issue. You can't move to another country and expect to stay the same (or raise children in your old ways), but neither can you expect to give up traditions or old ways of thinking.
 
I'm white and my girlfriend looks white but she wont admit it (she is half puerto-rican and half italian)! Seriously, she actually gets offended a little if someone refers to her as white. I think that she needs to get the fuck over it cause it doesn't even fucking matter.
 
MIMIC said:
Racism isn't always the factor.
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This is very true. It’s not just about skin colour, but inter-racial relationships can often also mean different religious doctrines, different customs and different beliefs which can clash. My first husband was Sri Lankan, and my current husband is Greek. While both families have been welcoming to me, the concern regarding cultural differences was apparent on both occasions, particularly with regards to marriage and raising children. They weren’t being “racist” towards me, rather their concerns were really quite valid and were not based in hate or ignorance. “Racism” isn’t always the factor.

My father on the other hand was racist. I didn’t tell him the first time I got married.

He missed out.

Edit: I should add I am an Aussie white chick, but you already knew that.
 
*shrug* marrying my GF next year - japanese/portuguese. It's never been an issue of any kind here, although she was spat on twice in Liverpool and got the usual bog-eyed gazes in my home town.

But never a problem with family members on either side.
 
Japanese / Portuguese? She must be gorgeous. My fiance is Brazilian, with Portuguese and Arabian heritage.

Mixed race relationships are beautiful, as are the children born from them... I think it's a really wonderful thing.
 
Do it!!

My wife is Singaporean chinese. me = whitey (Spanish Irish background to be exact)

Works for us.

Worse than Drinky's wife, my wife likes sloppy girly asian songs uggghhhhh
 
I'm Korean and white, so every relationship I'm in is interracial. I've dated people from just about every race you can think of, and the only time I had a problem was with a Korean girl. Her parents didn't like that I wasn't full Korean. Asians don't fuck around when it comes to race.
 
Ill Saint said:
Japanese / Portuguese? She must be gorgeous. My fiance is Brazilian, with Portuguese and Arabian heritage.

Mixed race relationships are beautiful, as are the children born from them... I think it's a really wonderful thing.
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Amen.. can't wait to have my babies with someone.. just need to find the right woman.. :lol :lol :lol but no matter what they'll be mixed
 
what's wrong with U2? besides bono's preachiness i mean. their music, particularly their older stuff, is great. :P
 
Not had many problems myself (I'm a black man) -- although a Cantonese ex of mine had parents who wouldn't agree of her going with anyone who wasn't of her race. Didn't really matter in the end as we parted for other reasons, but perception of what others think isn't not the sort of thing that would stop me, especially after having a perfect relationship with my last g/f, who was white Scot/Irish. Personality and attraction wins over bullshit prejudice every single time (although her family is amazing anyway, and my family was mostly cool with it. Even if they weren’t, it's still my life and I'm old enough to make my own choices without them).

I agree with a lot of others here, go for it. Don't give in to potential racial friction.

I mean, there's so many people out there in the world, we're only really going to meet about 1% face to face in our lifetime. And even though that 1% is literally thousands, chances are we end up hating or disagreeing with over half of them. Or they're not within your attraction circle/preference. Or it's not mutual. Or something else that will stop you from ever having a relationship with them.

There's a million and one reasons why we don't get on with other people -- so hell, why limit your potential chances of meeting someone that you not only get on with, but also could have a future with. We're already fighting pretty big natural odds as it is to find a decent partner. Fuck the potential prejudice from others :)

C.
 
Depends on what you mean inter-racial. I dated a Jewish girl all through college, I was raised Catholic. My Mom was not exactly "happy". If I had dated say a Catholic Hispanic or Phillipino, she would probably would have been fine with it.

But what was worse, I ended up marrying a Protestant (white, Irish/German), and she was divorced (no kids tho). My Mom almost didn't come to the wedding......
 
I'm with a Singaporean (Chinese/Japanese descent) at the moment, and it wasn't until I met her father 6 months into it that everything seemed fine. Her family treats me real well - her father thinks of me as his own son that he never had, her sister is more of a sister to me than my own and her mother is still a bit hesitant about it all since she's so traditional but she's happy that her daughter is happy.
 
speedpop said:
and her mother is still a bit hesitant about it all since she's so traditional but she's happy that her daughter is happy.
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this means behind closed doors she hates you..
 
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