Are you a good neighbor? Do you have good neighbors?

Dacvak

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My fiancée and I were talking today and trying to figure out if we're good neighbors or not. I think, generally speaking, we are. The most egregious thing we do is occasionally leave our lawn a bit too long, but it's hardly the worst one in the neighborhood.

But, even though we mostly keep to ourselves (primarily because we're both always super busy with work), we always make a point to say hi to everyone in our neighborhood.

The neighbors that I'm specifically friends with, I'll often make them food randomly and bring it over. And I'll even offer that to random neighbors I don't know all that well.

Similarly, I feel like I've got great neighbors. I've never so much as had a package stolen from my porch, and I've never had a single issue with any of my neighbors. I consider myself quite lucky, because back when I lived in Baltimore, I had some ASS neighbors.

What about you guys?
 
I've had bad neighbors (shooting guns at my dogs, threatening to shoot my dogs), I've had bad roomates (steal your silverware out of your room, slamming doors at 3am).

I like to consider myself a good neighbor, I Wild Out once a month

I think you are doing just fine Dac, and I would like to have you as a neighbor.
 
I've got a terrible upstairs neighbor, straight out of hell and he's an absolute feebleminded nightmare

After months of complaining and submitting sound samples and logs, my housing organization finally put an end to the madness. However, even now, I still hear strange noises that I can't quite identify as normal household sounds.

I can't even begin to describe what I've been through, it's like something straight out of a dark comedy

I believe I'm a good neighbor. I live alone and rarely have visitors. I almost always use headphones when I listen to music or watch TV, so I keep the noise to a minimum.
 
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I'd like to think I'm a good neighbor, but people don't seem to want to be neighborly at all anymore.

Will probably end up going off on a tangent here but, oh well...

Growing up as a child in the 80's, everyone in my neighborhood knew everyone else. When my parents both got pneumonia, one of my neighbors took me in and made food for my parents for almost a week. Neighbors would come by and let us know they were going on vacation and ask us to take in their mail and newspapers, or watch after their dog while they were gone. But those days seem long, long gone. I ended up moving back to the same neighborhood in the early 2000s to help care for my elderly dad and barely no one interacted anymore. Everyone kept to themselves and didn't want to be bothered. By the time I moved in 2020, after both my parents had passed, I only knew one other person in my entire childhood neighborhood.

When we moved to where we are now, I made a concerted effort to get to know the people in my immediate neighborhood. But just like before, no one wants to interact. The landlord who owns the house immediately next door to mine is a slumlord so in the five years I've been here there's been four different families, only one of whom was ever cordial. The last set of neighbors who lived there accused me of stealing their kitten. They had left it outside for several days and I didn't know whose it was. I took it in, fed it, then asked them if it was their kitten when they got home that day. They called the cops on me. Thankfully the cops ended up chewing them out for neglecting their kitten but they spent a month trying to start shit with me on local community Facebook groups over it. (They were the only people I was glad to see the slumlord owner evict.)

Five years and only one person on my entire block has been neighborly. He's the only guy who checks in any time he sees an ambulance come around. Or who checks in regularly to make sure everything is okay. Everyone seems skeptical of everyone else, as if everyone has ulterior motives for anything they do.
 
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However, even now, I still hear strange noises that I can't quite identify as normal household sounds.

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I've got a terrible upstairs neighbor, straight out of hell and he's an absolute feebleminded nightmare

After months of complaining and submitting sound samples and logs, my housing organization finally put an end to the madness. However, even now, I still hear strange noises that I can't quite identify as normal household sounds.

I can't even begin to describe what I've been through, it's like something straight out of a dark comedy

I believe I'm a good neighbor. I live alone and rarely have visitors. I almost always use headphones when I listen to music or watch TV, so I keep the noise to a minimum.
That sounds so bad omg im sorry you have to deal with that, i would not be able to. If you ever need to vent dm me and I'll find that mf and rip em a new one.
 
I'd like to think I'm a good neighbor, but people don't seem to want to be neighborly at all anymore.

Will probably end up going off on a tangent here but, oh well...

Growing up as a child in the 80's, everyone in my neighborhood knew everyone else. When my parents both got pneumonia, one of my neighbors took me in and made food for my parents for almost a week. Neighbors would come by and let us know they were going on vacation and ask us to take in their mail and newspapers, or watch after their dog while they were gone. But those days seem long, long gone. I ended up moving back to the same neighborhood in the early 2000s to help care for my elderly dad and barely no one interacted anymore. Everyone kept to themselves and didn't want to be bothered. By the time I moved in 2020, after both my parents had passed, I only knew one other person in my entire childhood neighborhood.

When we moved to where we are now, I made a concerted effort to get to know the people in my immediate neighborhood. But just like before, no one wants to interact. The landlord who owns the house immediately next door to mine is a slumlord so in the five years I've been here there's been four different families, only one of whom was ever cordial. The last set of neighbors who lived there accused me of stealing their kitten. They had left it outside for several days and I didn't know whose it was. I took it in, fed it, then asked them if it was their kitten when they got home that day. They called the cops on me. Thankfully the cops ended up chewing them out for neglecting their kitten but they spent a month trying to start shit with me on local community Facebook groups over it. (They were the only people I was glad to see my slumlord of a neighbor evict.)

Five years and only one person on my entire block has been neighborly. He's the only guy who checks in any time he sees an ambulance come around. Or who checks in regularly to make sure everything is okay. Everyone seems skeptical of everyone else, as if everyone has ulterior motives for anything they do.
This situation seems kind of different than my situation, I hope you can succeed while walking in and through your past.
 
I'm a great neighbor. My neighbors like me too. One of my neighbors made a lot of money being a backup singer. His brother was Tina turner's guitarist. His wife was also a singer.

My other neighbor owns a lavender farm and I talk to them all the time.

I live in the country on a couple acres my house is well off the road and I like it.
 
I get that it's meant to be funny (and it actually is).

But there's no doubt this was aimed at me to provoke a reaction. I'm pretty sure he was trying to get under my skin, probably because I complained about his ridiculously loud music (which is a whole other story)

This guy is fucking nuts. On top of that he's pretty aggressive

Here is a small sample:



That sounds so bad omg im sorry you have to deal with that, i would not be able to. If you ever need to vent dm me and I'll find that mf and rip em a new one.
Thanks, my man! Luckily, it's (almost) completely over now.
 
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I get that it's meant to be funny (and it actually is).

But there's no doubt this was aimed at me to provoke a reaction. I'm pretty sure he was trying to get under my skin, probably because I complained about his ridiculously loud music (which is a whole other story)

This guy is fucking nuts. On top of that he's pretty aggressive

Here is a small sample:



Ah, I misunderstood, when you said the housing organization dealt with it, I assume you meant he had been evicted. So I was incorrectly assuming the noises you were still hearing couldn't be him specifically (but was likely another tenant).
 
They are great. In their 80s she has dementia. He likes to mow and walks our trashcans up the driveway while we are at work so he can get out.
Simple tasks absolve idle hands, in many of these situations it does well to allow and observe, you have a good heart.
 
I live next to a 96 year old widow. She calls me over all the time for tech support AKA change the tv input mode back to her cable box. I am happy to do it for such a sweet old lady. Sometimes she gives me homemade chicken soup and jams.
 
Let me tell you a bit about my neighbors lol

 
Ive got new neighbors they're young and have a baby, i suppose we'll share a hello here and there, that's all I'm good for, and maybe a casserole.
 
Great neighbourhood.

My neighbours on each side can mow my lawn or clear the snow on driveway/sidewalk. And I'll do the same back. Also had my neighbour across the street jump start the dead battery in my car. One of my neighbours who has a pick has also helped me pick up big stuff from Home Depot or Costco.

When I first moved in, I was popping back and forth with my old place as I carried both properties for a month as the new place got renovated before I moved in.

A neighbour noticed I'd be coming and going and came over and introduced himself. Good guy. One day he lent me some tools as he's a contractor.
 
My neighbours are top top blokes, doctor and his husband on one side and a sweet old lady on the other, we regularly call into each others houses for a drink and look after the others houses/pets when away, couldn't ask for better neighbours and have told them if they ever decided to move I'll be lying out the front of their driveway, band round my arm, needle in one hand to greet any wouldbe buyers, having great neighbours makes life a lot easier,

The best neighbour is my mates who has a horny as fuck old pensioner who blows his money on cam girls every nite and he can hear him through the walls lol, the shit he comes off with is hilarious and my mate has threatened to knock the shite out of him on numerous occasions if he doesn't fuck up or move his computer to the opposite side of the house from his, he has absolutely no shame and it's driving him up the walls
 
I'm probably not when it comes to being quiet, unfortunately. I'm active during evening/night hours and I can get pretty loud and curse a lot when playing a game and commenting on my progress.

Other than that I try to avoid any conflicts with my neighbors and help out the elderly ones if I can. We have a safe neighborhood with no vandals or pathological behaviors so that makes it much easier.
 
I've just moved, staying with my sister at the moment because about went south, but before I moved I knew the names of a couple of neighbours in my apartment complex. They kept to themselves and I kept to myself, the only time I heard anything from them was when they were watching the occasional footy match. I did enjoy getting home and seeing the parking spaces empty so I could crank up my music, but kept an eye out and turned it down when someone came home.
 
I don't have close neighbors and I love it. When I last lived in a neighborhood I had a great neighbor on one side and a terrible neighbor on the other. The terrible neighbor would have their visitors park in the street in front of my house so I would get the hate mail from the HOA.

I always tried to be a good neighbor. But it's nice living on some acreage and mostly having some quiet. The people who live to the left of me are pretty obnoxious, but their property line is at least 75 yards from mine so we don't really interact. They used to burn their trash behind their house every night and it smelled like burning plastic. During the last burn ban the people on the other side of them called the fire department on them a few times and it stopped when the guy got arrested.
 
I have wonderful neighbors. My next door neighbor is 82 with no living relatives, and I talk to her every day. I help dig holes so she can plant flowers and shrubs, randomly moving objects for her, and she asks for my input on nearly everything... I pick up trash in the community on the rare occasion it happens. I am fixing a fence with another neighbor so our hoa doesn't have to pay for it. I am on the hoa board.

I also clear her snow if the snow removal crew doesn't come.

I converted all of my space and the hoa space to native plants to support pollinators and be more xeric, and I have no turf grass. I would never want to use the height of someone's lawn to determine if they are good neighbors or not.
 
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now that i'm finally living alone, i have an asshole uncle as a neighbor

he's always drunk and breaking the nuts about my gaming passion
 
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Neighbors told me I couldn't rent my house out. Always been nice to them, used to give vegetables out of my garden to them.

Told her to fuck herself. Some people are just miserable unless they try to control others
 
I fucking hate living in an apartament complex. Loud neighbours below, loud neighbours above and loud neighbours behind a wall. I found a very stupid solution, I turn my fan on and the white noise does the rest. But it feels so weird as it is not even summer yet and I'm wasting electricity.
 
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