Your thoughts on this game basically mirror my own. Having been told the umpteenth time that ACC was the most sim like racing game available on console, I eventually gave it a shot.
What a shit show. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate wheel support as much as the next guy. But there's incredibly little there to definitively crown it as any more "sim" than either Forza or GT. Having a bevy of options to inaccurately adjust whatever cliche setting the devs could remember from old Speedvision reruns, and tracks that aren't as 1 to 1 as either Forza or GT doesn't feel all that immersive. But that's just me.
Ok, so maybe my thoughts aren't all that much like yours. Lol