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[Koshiba]

What will you do when you want to get married?
will you just choice to not be "bi" anymore?

What do you mean what will I do? I'll just be with the person I want to be with. I'm a firm believer in not cheating. Alot of girls I know think it's alrigth to have a bf and a gf at the same time, but that's not how I see it. Since cheating is cheating, no matter what the sex is. Also I don't get in "moods" where I want chicks. I'm attracted to both. If I was straight, you'd have to say the same there. There's really not much of a difference between bisexuality and being hetereosexual. Only difference is the rules include both sexes.

 

[callous]

But it sucks though. Specially when you are married.

I don't see how it sucks any more than if you were only attracted to men. You'd still be expected to remain faithful to your husband.

 

[Alyssa Hu$tle]

I don't see how it sucks any more than if you were only attracted to men. You'd still be expected to remain faithful to your husband.

You are right, it is still cheating and hence not something I am looking to do. It sucks because I have confusion at times as to what my orientation is, and now that I am married I cannot pursue and explore this side of me to alleviate that confusion.

 

[Fixed2BeBroken]

So....do the Bisexual women rock the rainbows too?

 

[Pellham]

You are right, it is still cheating and hence not something I am looking to do. It sucks because I have confusion at times as to what my orientation is, and now that I am married I cannot pursue and explore this side of me to alleviate that confusion.

there's always porn

 

[FoneBone]

Apologies for bumping a 2-month-old thread, but I saw this, and figured that it might be somewhat enlightening to some of you. And I didn't want to post a new thread.

Something the friend I alluded to earlier in the thread wrote:

I identify as bisexual, and I don't lean particularly one way or the
other. Also, my sexuality doesn't "fluctuate" like many believe is the
basis of bisexuality. I'm not Gay on Tuesday and Straight on Wednesday;
I'm Bi the whole damn week long. While I understand this is not the case
for some people, I do feel that this notion of "fluctuating sexuality" is
part of what's giving bisexuals a bad name right now. Yes, there are times
I may be in the mood for some cunt/cock specifically, but that doesn't
mean that I can't sustain a stable, monogamous relationship with someone
of a specific sex. It's not like one day I'm going to say, "Your genitalia
bore me. Time to go back to the other side!" Maybe a friend of mine was
right in in defining a new orientation known as Fluxual to encompass this
very phenomenon, cause it's just not the same.

Let's be honest, male bisexuality is probably the least popular of the
major orientations (LGB, T being a much smaller and newer [at least in
terms of visibility and vocabulary] group). Why is that? Straights think a
fag's a fag (wouldn't Brecht be amused [sorry, obscure theater
reference]), and Gays think one of two things: a) If it breeds, it ain't
one of us, or b) Bi now, gay later. So at the moment, the problem I find
isn't that we're hated, it's that no one really believes we exist.

"Bisexuality" among women is a fad. Every teen girl you meet in liberal
areas these days seems to be claiming bisexuality, mainly because the
heteronormative male society tells them "Dude, lesbian's are hot!" and
they say, "If guys like it, I'll give it a try to get one..." And thus,
the majority of girls I've met who claim to be bi just....aren't. With men
it's quite different. It's not popular among any population to be a
bisexual male. Straight/Bi girls don't often run around going "OMG, guys
who fuck guys are totally hot!" So there's no real draw to be bi to get
chicks. And as I mentioned earlier, straight men and gay men don't seem to
particularly trust us either.

In general, I guess one of my biggest issues is that most people don't
seem to believe that bisexuality is a truly distinct orientation. Faux
bisexual girlies give us a bad name, as do guys who claim to be bi just
cause they can't deal with the fact that they're actually gay, or guys who
will only get "involved' with girls but every once in a while like to give
it to a dude. So we've already established that most of the people who
claim to be bi just aren't. That's the first problem. As such these people
give us a bad name to the rest of the world who then think that
bisexuality is merely a "phase," or some basic "experimentation," or a
subset of Gay and Straight.

Also, I have to address the issue of identity versus action. I define
myself as bisexual as part of my identity. Yes, I hook up with a lot more
men than I do women, and if we were living in the late 1800s, I could
easily be accused of being a sodomite, a homosexual. But we're not. We're
living in a time when the concept of identity based on ideology and theory
is being born. I hook up with more men than women because I am more
comfortable around them. That doesn't mean I don't absolutely love having
sex with women. In fact, it proves that I hold my standards of women
higher than I do men. When I fall for a girl (really fall, not just
crush), I fall hard. When I sleep with a girl, it is because she achieves
the loftiest standards of beauty I can express. Or because she's a
beautiful person. I really have grown to a point where I'm attracted to
personality as much as appearance, as sentimental as that sounds. But I
digress. The point is thus: my actions may in large be homosexual, but
that does not define my identity like it could have once upon a time.

And relationships! If I'm dating a guy, that doesn't make me gay! If I'm
dating a girl, that doesn't make me straight! No matter who I'm currently
in a relationship with, I am still ATTRACTED to members of both sexes! If
I were single, there would be a chance I would get with a girl or a guy,
not just a person of the same sex as my current partner. Therefore I am
not Straight or Gay depending on my significant other's sex/gender.

I had a revelation a few months ago, and ever since then I've come to the
discovery that Bisexuality is NOT an orientation derived from some mix of
Gay and Straight (Fill highball glass with ice. Pour 3/4 oz semen and 3/4
oz vaginal secretions. Fill with sour mix. Box. Garnish with Lemon twist
and straw). It is it's OWN thing. True bisexuals PHYSICALLY CANNOT GRASP
the very concept of not being attracted to members of both sexes. It's not
that I'm straight but appreciate a tight male ass, or that I'm gay and
feel the need to cave into the societal pressures of a heteronormative
world (yeah, that's right, I used the H word). I'm not just greedy and
horny and willing to stick my dick into any willing receptacle. I am
BISEXUAL. I am attracted to men and women. At all times.

That ok with you society? No? Too fucking bad.

 

[maharg]

I like how he goes from saying the biggest problem for bi men is that people don't believe that orientation doesn't exist to saying bi women don't exist. Way to show solidarity there.

The stereotypes that lead to demeaning the orientation vary by gender, but that doesn't mean they're justified one way and not the other.

 

[Gantz]

I believe that we're all bisexual and society has forced us into being heterosexual. I bet if if bisexuality and homosexuality were accepted in society more people would come out.

 

[aoi tsuki]

I bet if if bisexuality and homosexuality were accepted in society more people would come out.

Obviously. i also think more people would experiment, possibly calling themselves bi or gay, then realize it was essentially just experimentation.

 

[ForzaItalia]

Sounds like someone is bi-curious and wants to justify their guilty feelings by blaming it on their genetic make-up.

Go forth young woman and just munch on that rug.

 

[aoi tsuki]

Sounds like someone is bi-curious and wants to justify their guilty feelings by blaming it on their genetic make-up.

Go forth young woman and just munch on that rug.

Does the Montreal BJ Queen go both ways? Could be totally win-win.

 

[shuri]

Well, I lived in Québec, so the place is really female-centred, and many women here prefer to have gay sons, because they dress better, don't have daughters in law, and can go shopping with them...

Yes, it's stupid.

You must be thinking about Quebec City people, maybe :lol

As for bisexuality, I have no problems with that, and never did. Sex is just sex, and I think that sexual preferences are just like what color you like or what topping you like having on your pizza. That's it. There's nothing wrong with it. Except for maybe some fruity subsets of sexuality, like pedos, furries and other extremist sexual life style. Those people are like the freaks who like Broccoli on their pizza.

We are in a modern society, and I think that religion and the State should have no power to rule over what people want to fuck (except for pedos and such, burn those fuckers), and that people shouldnt have to feel wrong or shameful about their practicices, especially since I think that one's sexual identity is 70% of their personality, since it has so many effects and links to the way they live their life.

 

[ForzaItalia]

Does the Montreal BJ Queen go both ways? Could be totally win-win.

:lol

 

[Naked Snake]

I like this thread... kinda.

 

[OpinionatedCyborg]

I believe that we're all bisexual and society has forced us into being heterosexual.

If we're all bisexual, why would humankind create societies embracing heterosexuality? Wouldn't it make sense for the norm (which you argue is bisexuality) to be more socially accepted than one definitive end of the spectrum?

I bet if if bisexuality and homosexuality were accepted in society more people would come out.

I agree that more people would come out -- society's growing tolerance of gays, lesbians, and bisexuals has shown this to be true.

This thread's quite interesting --particularly the Kinsey scale-- in what it connotes for religion. I generally tell religious fundamentalists, who believe homosexuality is wrong, that people don't choose to be homosexual -- they just are. They reason that homosexuals make that choice. They also say that a homosexual act, even in a situation like prison, makes one gay. Bisexuality opens up a whole new can of worms because it means people can legitimately choose male or female partnership since they're attracted to both sexes. If there really are quite a few people whose sexuality isn't clearly defined, perhaps there's more to their arguing position than I saw before (even though I don't agree with it, this revelation makes it more logical).

 

[Gantz]

If we're all bisexual, why would humankind create societies embracing heterosexuality? Wouldn't it make sense for the norm (which you argue is bisexuality) to be more socially accepted than one definitive end of the spectrum?

Procreation and religious entities in power. Animals practice bisexuality naturally. They just do it. We're no different except that we have certain people in power who through history have made it bad to like the same sex or both.

 

[ToxicAdam]

I have watched alot of nature programs and I have never seen where bisexuality is a common theme in the animal kingdom.

Since everyone is throwing around crackpot ideas .. here is mine. You can fall into four groups: Dominant masculine, Submissive masculine, Dominant feminine, Submissive feminine. Generally, you are attracted to the opposite of your proclivites. (A lesbian who is dominant masculine will be attracted to another lesbian who is submissive masculine or submissive feminine. A hetro submissive male (or: GAF member) would be attracted to a dominant female (or: subject of a dating thread)).


Sexuality preference is all in the genes. Bisexuality is more a reaction to societal/internal pressures, rather than a baseline sexuality.

 

[ATJaguarX]

If it's two guys... they're gay. Come on... all genders are attracted to women. They are definately the better looking gender.

Girl on girl action... that's hot.

 

[dskillzhtown]

I knew this girl who had a "g/f". I looked at their situation and it seemed to be more experimental/"Ohh, I am cool I got a g/f" type of situation. Both were fucking other guys and doing 3-somes involving each other and guys. So it just seemed like they were horny and they were around each other so much, they just did each other.

 

[Juice]

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexuality#Social_status_of_bisexuality

Wikipedia, like Samuel Adams -- "Always a good decision"

 

[Bluecondor]

I think sexuality is a pretty wide open, highly individualized thing. For example, in my case, I find athletic women to be the most attractive. I would choose Mia Hamm or Sue Bird over any "hot" female singer, actress, etc. in a heartbeat. There are girls in my coed basketball league that many guys would not find attractive that just blow me away. I have always found this fascinating, because it is really clear in my mind.

I think bisexuality is like this. Some people are attracted to specific types of people from the same sex - and for specific reasons. For example, my friend is a lesbian, but she has also always been attracted to tall, dark athletic guys. Her partner, on the other hand, isn't into guys at all, although even she can clearly state which men are attractive and why.

 

[ATJaguarX]

oops

 

[sprsk]

did you have a good reason to bump this or what.

 

[Ruzbeh]

ATJaguarX
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