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[Days like these...]

I met this girl back in august... Cute, nice figure, smart, funny so we get to talking and she was real cool what i had been looking for and we just vibed u know? So we went out a couple of times and had a good time (bowling alley, movies, coffee)

Then suddenly at the end of august she stopped talking to me out of the blue, wouldn't call me, wouldnt return calls, text msgs, etc... Finally she texts me and says she getting married and that we shouldnt be friends anymore cause she's starting to have feelings for me. WTF?

So we stop talking for about 3 months. Early december she calls me says she wants to know how I've been and that she's missed me... WTF? We've been out a couple of times since then... Nothing more than a nice lingering kiss has ever happened.

I asked her why she's getting married and she responded: We've been together 2 years and i already said yes and the wedding is in May! WTF?

So basically what i want to know is the following: Keep going out with her in hopes of banging her at the risk of getting attached to her or Move on?

P.S. I could see myself with someone like her i just dont if i should even try....

P.P.S. the rest of you guys feel free to chime in with advice

 

[bjork]

If she's messing around on a fiancee with you, she'll mess around around on you with someone else.

I speak from experience. It's not worth the headache.

 

[aoi tsuki]

Just do nothing. Let it eat at you, then crash the wedding. When she turns you down, post the details here and ask for melancholic music suggestions.

 

[Saturnman]

You got used and played. Move on.

 

[Days like these...]

Shits already gnawing at me like a rabid pack of wolves on a rotting carcass.... I mean wtf? I'm asking for advice on video game msg board! If that isn't a tell-tale sign.....

 

[Lakitu]

Just don't get involved, that's what I say.

 

[Boogie]

Here's some advice for you:

RUN THE FUCK AWAY. SHE'S GETTING MARRIED FOR CRYING OUT LOUD, ARE YOU REALLY DENSE ENOUGH TO THINK THAT MESSING AROUND WITH HER IS A GOOD IDEA?!?!?!?!?!

 

[Incognito]

days like these, i'd like you to take a minute and contemplate the replies by the people above me. the same people who're in every dating thread wondering how and why they've been getting it wrong.

nevertheless, hit it. who cares? she doesn't, you shouldn't either.

 

[Boogie]

days like these, i'd like you to take a minute and contemplate the replies by the people above me. the same people who're in every dating thread wondering how and why they've been getting it wrong.

nevertheless, hit it. who cares? she doesn't, you shouldn't either.

SAME PEOPLE = ME

 

[aoi tsuki]

i was in a similar situation a couple of years ago. The only differences was that her current boyfriend knew something was going on between us, although we never kissed. She ended up leaving him and we consumated our relationship the next day. Things were great until one day she tells me she's moving (she couldn't pay for her apartment without him) to join the National Guard and that. A few months later, i email her to see how she's doing and she says that "the parameters of [their] relationship had changed", ie. marriage.

i got laid, but played too. It hurt. i moved on and haven't contacted her since. i can't say i wouldn't mess around with her again, but i wouldn't torture myself by trying to have a real relationship with her either, not after all the bullshit i let her put me through and the fact that, whether we kissed or not, she was essentially cheating on him with me.

 

[boutrosinit]

I met this girl back in august... Cute, nice figure, smart, funny so we get to talking and she was real cool what i had been looking for and we just vibed u know? So we went out a couple of times and had a good time (bowling alley, movies, coffee)

Then suddenly at the end of august she stopped talking to me out of the blue, wouldn't call me, wouldnt return calls, text msgs, etc... Finally she texts me and says she getting married and that we shouldnt be friends anymore cause she's starting to have feelings for me. WTF?

So we stop talking for about 3 months. Early december she calls me says she wants to know how I've been and that she's missed me... WTF? We've been out a couple of times since then... Nothing more than a nice lingering kiss has ever happened.

I asked her why she's getting married and she responded: We've been together 2 years and i already said yes and the wedding is in May! WTF?

So basically what i want to know is the following: Keep going out with her in hopes of banging her at the risk of getting attached to her or Move on?

P.S. I could see myself with someone like her i just dont if i should even try....

P.P.S. the rest of you guys feel free to chime in with advice

Dude. I speak from experience on this one (I had a 5 year on and off relationship of ultimate pain with a textbook similar girl):

GET THE FUCK OUTTA THERE AND PUT YOURSELF IN FRONT OF SOME OTHER WOMEN. MOVE ON.

While you do this, change your phone number so she can't contact you. Ignore all her communications that slip through.

Extreme I know but it's the only way to move on if you have any kind of feelings for this very troublesome, girl.

If you want more detail, PM me man.

 

[automagnus]

 

[Folder]

If she's messing around on a fiancee with you, she'll mess around around on you with someone else.

It is true usually.
Though there's always the risk that she ended up in a shitty relationship with her fiance and now she wants out. This place can be too judgemental sometimes. I mean, what if you are supposed to be together and you fuck her off and miss out on a possible future together. My advice would be go for it until the end. It's only until May and you know, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. If you feel it in your heart do it. Though your reference to wanting to bang her indicates this is more of a feeling it in your balls kinda moment...

PS - Boutrosinnit is a jaded old fucker. Also, his penis is out of action right now so he's prolly feeling bitter! (Love ya man) xxx

 

[Days like these...]

Dude. I'm dating 2 other women I'm just really into this one particular girl... We have a thing!!! We vibe you know what i mean? Chemistry for teh white folk.

 

[boutrosinit]

It is true usually.
Though there's always the risk that she ended up in a shitty relationship with her fiance and now she wants out. This place can be too judgemental sometimes. I mean, what if you are supposed to be together and you fuck her off and miss out on a possible future together. My advice would be go for it until the end. It's only until May and you know, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger. If you feel it in your heart do it. Though your reference to wanting to bang her indicates this is more of a feeling it in your balls kinda moment...

PS - Boutrosinnit is a jaded old fucker. Also, his penis is out of action right now so he's prolly feeling bitter! (Love ya man) xxx

Jaded? Old? Me?

You motherfucker...

P.S. Re: My old chap, he is now back in action, though still recovering. It's like having sex for the first time again though as I gotta go a bit slow to begin with.

 

[boutrosinit]

Dude. I'm dating 2 other women I'm just really into this one particular girl... We have a thing!!! We vibe you know what i mean? Chemistry for teh white folk.

Oh yeah. Exactly the same shit I had man. It's hard, but if she's jerking you around now, it ain't gonna change when she's more involved with you. EVERY relationship I've known that started like this ended much the same way. Including my own...

P.S. Folder's on a love high as he just got married - pay no attention to him

 

[Boogie]

My advice would be go for it until the end. It's only until May and you know, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger.

But what if Days like these is a pansy, and the fiance finds out, and beats the everloving crap out of him?

 

[Particle Physicist]

Dude. I'm dating 2 other women I'm just really into this one particular girl... We have a thing!!! We vibe you know what i mean? Chemistry for teh white folk.

well, my advice just changed. forget this girl. you seem to have other options already.

 

[bjork]

This place can be too judgemental sometimes.

It's not being judgemental. It's more of a "fool me one, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me" thing.

I don't know anyone who likes to be fucked around like that.

 

[Days like these...]

But what if Days like these is a pansy, and the fiance finds out, and beats the everloving crap out of him?

Ha ha ha me pansy? He can bring it... You know what they say if you're feeling froggy jump!

 

[Boogie]

Ha ha ha me pansy? He can bring it... You know what they say if you're feeling froggy jump!

You're seeing two girls on the side while she's cheating on her fiance? Nevermind, you two are perfect for each other

 

[aoi tsuki]

You're seeing two girls on the side while she's cheating on her fiance? Nevermind, you two are perfect for each other

i don't see how dating two girls at once is equal to cheating on your fiance. Unless you have a mutual agreement to date exclusively, it's fair game.

 

[alejob]

Keep seeing here and when the wedding they comes, when the speak now or forever hold your beef moment comes up tell her you love her. You know like in the movies

 

[Kabuki Waq]

umm why dont you ask the girl WTF she is thinking?

 

[bishoptl]

Just do nothing. Let it eat at you, then crash the wedding. When she turns you down, post the details here and ask for melancholic music suggestions.

I like this suggestion a lot.

 

[Days like these...]

umm why dont you ask the girl WTF she is thinking?

I did ask her and she said they've been together 2 years and she already said yes. she never uttered the word L O V E. Seems to me like she's just gonna settle for that guy. I think she's making a big mistake.... Oh and she invited me to mexico in mid to late january

 

[boutrosinit]

I did ask her and she said they've been together 2 years and she already said yes. she never uttered the word L O V E. Seems to me like she's just gonna settle for that guy. I think she's making a big mistake.... Oh and she invited me to mexico in mid to late january

This is *so* like me and the girl I mentioned previous (though replace marriage with loser who pretty much suggested marriage), that it's uncanny. Her name isn't Ellen perchance?

 

[Days like these...]

This is *so* like me and the girl I mentioned previous (though replace marriage with loser who pretty much suggested marriage), that it's uncanny. Her name isn't Ellen perchance?

No her name is Nohemi and i'd post a pic but.... you know...

 

[Doth Togo]

I met this girl back in august... Cute, nice figure, smart, funny so we get to talking and she was real cool what i had been looking for and we just vibed u know? So we went out a couple of times and had a good time (bowling alley, movies, coffee)

Then suddenly at the end of august she stopped talking to me out of the blue, wouldn't call me, wouldnt return calls, text msgs, etc... Finally she texts me and says she getting married and that we shouldnt be friends anymore cause she's starting to have feelings for me. WTF?

So we stop talking for about 3 months. Early december she calls me says she wants to know how I've been and that she's missed me... WTF? We've been out a couple of times since then... Nothing more than a nice lingering kiss has ever happened.

I asked her why she's getting married and she responded: We've been together 2 years and i already said yes and the wedding is in May! WTF?

So basically what i want to know is the following: Keep going out with her in hopes of banging her at the risk of getting attached to her or Move on?

P.S. I could see myself with someone like her i just dont if i should even try....

P.P.S. the rest of you guys feel free to chime in with advice

Edited because it's not funny.

 

[The Shadow]

I know people here are strongly against it but I'd say this is a prefect opportunity for blackmail. If she calls your bluff and you ruin everything for her, the guy she's cheating on doesn't have to marry someone that's sleeping behind his back. If she falls for your blackmail, more sex for you.

It's win-win. Do it for the Kipper.

 

[calder]

Oh Shadow.... blackmail? That's your answer to everything! :/

GAF has never had a member who suggested or asked for advice about extortian as much as The Shadow. :lol What ever happened to the girl you caught cheating on her exam? Still giving you an envelope stuffed with $20's on the first of every month?

 

[The Shadow]

Oh Shadow.... blackmail? That's your answer to everything! :/

GAF has never had a member who suggested or asked for advice about extortian as much as The Shadow. :lol What ever happened to the girl you caught cheating on her exam? Still giving you an envelope stuffed with $20's on the first of every month?

She was paying me with sex and no, I released her a while back.

 

[Drozmight]

I donno what this is about really and I've no advice to give, but I laughed at how many "WTF?" 's you used.

 

[bishoptl]

She was paying me with sex and no, I released her a while back.

Seriously - when I grow up I want to be just like you.

 

[NLB2]

She was paying me with sex and no, I released her a while back.

Holy shit that's awesome. Are you her teacher or are you just some other student?
:lol

 

[Koopa]

How old is she? 22 or 35, which spectrum?

She could also be in a shitty relationship, engaged to someone who might have changed after he gave her the ring, it happends. She also has a financial situation to worry about if it does end between them, does she live on her own or do they share a place, how financially intwined are they?

This can be one of the biggest mistakes young couples have is to get financially dependent on one another. Ive been married for close to 9 years and me and my wife didnt become fully finacially codependent until we had our first kid.

Anyway, she knows shes in trouble, she's either looking for another cock tell may or shes looking for a out.

Thats on you man, noone can tell you what to do, i dont know your moral fiber. The right thing to do would be to be a no bullshit dicussion where you throw the cadance at her harder then ever or you can take it slow, press her buttons then BAM!! FHUTA and let her decide on her future, with him, you or someone else.

Whatever happends happends, dont dwell over it and dont let it deture your life, its too short believe me or not but I guarantee there is someone cooler and hotter out there who isnt in her situation. thats why girls get jealious when your sitting infront of a firepit on new years eve in the middle of noowhere with a 22 year old girl on your lap drinking champainge while your wife which is pregnant with twins, due in march. is sitting next to you rubbing her nipples telling the girl on your lap to start grinding into my crotch while her friend sits across the fire absolutly pissed that her friend is on my lap until she realizes in staring at her so she opens her legs showing me her family shrub.

 

[GamerDiva]

This girl sounds young, immature, confused, naive, doesn't know what she wants and isn't ready to get married. If you are looking to seriously date her, I'd say no. If you are looking to seriously bed her, I'd say yes.

 

[Guzim]

Another cover!