I have four kids. I drove my wife to the hospital for three of the births, a friend of hers did for one of the births, because I had to look after the other kids and take them to school.Our baby is due in a few weeks and I'm interested in your experiences. I find it hard to find no-bullshit stories in the internet without phrases like "overwhelmed by emotions" blabla. I need some hard facts here.
Was there a lot of cursing in the delivery room? Or - God forbid - poop?
Did you rush her to the hospital herself or did you take a taxi? How long did the whole thing take?
Oh and, did you have to take off your shirt and put the baby on your naked chest? I saw a lot of pictures of topless guys with their babies on their small chests. So is that a thing? Is that mandatory?
There’s really no non-ideological, non-feminist reason why the husband is even supposed to be there. I had a friend who told me, as a secret, that he couldn’t screw his wife for like 6 months after the birth because of how grossed out he was by seeing her like that. Ain’t a sight meant for husbands, and mankind knew that for millennia before like the stupid 1970’s.As someone who never wants kids, I salute each and every brave and hardy cunt here who has endured/enjoyed the birth of their child.
Sounds fucking gross, lads.
Yes, she is really incredible (my wife, but yours as well). We changed hospital for the second baby since we moved and were afraid we won’t make it in time the second time. That was also when they wanted to keep her the day before but she said she has work to do and she will hold the night. She did , came back in the morning, 20 minutes, done.Wow! My wife said she's jealous LOL!!!
Oooh "the caul", I know that from that show "Hemlock Grove". I'm glad everything turned out fine!I prefer to be called GAF Daddy thanks, has a nicer ring to it.
Jokes aside my wife was built to have babies, she didn't get sick or vomit once over two pregnancies. Other mums curse her out when they hear about how easy she did pregnancy and delivery. No pain meds and no c-sections to deliver our kids to us. She tried gas and hated it but she didn't want our baby affected by the epidural as it can sort of "space" them out when born. She went for it and has the strength of a mountain, I've never had so much respect for women and what their amazing bodies can do.
Kid #1, our son -
Total time from pains at home to delivery was about 6.5 hours. It's weird the first time as the misses and you are sort of unsure as "when" to go exactly. They offered wifey a warm bath and there was some cultural Indian music playing in that bathroom for some reason (we're not Indian BTW). I could not resist a joke during a moment when we were alone. Big mistake, she wasn't in the mood for jokes and I got snapped at. The raw energy comes out somewhere. Just be there to get things, take things, pat/wipes heads, bullshit them about breathing and pull that dad face like you're doing something. Wife opted to donate her placenta blood, which took about 20mins right after birth and she recalls that being quite uncomfortable and cold etc but she's happy she did it. Nurse asked if I want to see the baby crowning and that one is staying with me forever. You may wish to google that beforehand or pay attention in parental class (if you do that) so you don't have a stupid reaction for your wife's sake.
Kid #2, our daughter -
This was fucking wild, no pains and misses was asleep while I had our son and neighbour's daughter in our backyard playing that morning. Wife crawls out our backdoor and couldn't yell or barely move/speak at the time and I just happen to see her halfway lying out the door and basically throw my neighbour's kid over our fence back to their dad. We get in the car and just gun it as we're aware she's quite far along all of a sudden (by comparison to the last time). We pull up to the hospital and I don't care where we park and I grab one of those wheelchairs on standby outside and stack the misses in. One hand pushing her wheelchair and the other pulling my son out of the back seat and running them inside. I shit you not my son's legs were flapping in the wind cartoon style like when characters are pulled off stage really quick, misses has the same memory of it today. His feet never touched the ground from car to inside hospital. I get everyone to the maternity ward at the check in desk and just gun it right past that shit into an empty room and transfer my wife to the bed while just yelling...baby coming, baby coming. A nurse had taken our son back out to the check in desk as I had brought him into the room. Total time from seeing the wife crawling out the back to baby arriving was 37mins. We nearly had her in the car.
My daughter was born "in the caul" which is where the embryonic sac doesn't break and she came out looking like the underwater helmets with lights on from that movie The Abyss. Clear as day I have that mental image of the first time I saw my daughter's face inside of purple water helmet bubble. My wife didn't get to see it as she had haemorrhaging from the rapid birth and needed attention. I was sent outside with my baby girl after a quick wipe down and wrap as they had 4 nurses sorting out the misses. My mum had arrived from the nurses calling her and was watching my son, she was really surprised I had my daughter in my arms in the hallway immediately but she got to see her and loved that she was there.
So we had a thing that the misses names our first born and I get to name the second, things change when your wife has just given birth. I was going to call her Sienna. Nurse asked my wife what is her name for the wrist identifier/birth certificate and the misses just blurts out "Indiana", we never even discussed that name at all. So my brother rings up an hour after hearing the news from my mum I guess and without saying a word starts singing the Indiana Jones theme song down the phone on speaker. Classic end to a fast and furious morning.
My advice is just be in the moment and remember to take pictures during pregnancy and when your child is born. You don't get those moments back for a second photoshoot. Best wishes and we'll punch your dad card for you too.
So they really ask you to take off your shirt, haha. Seems odd, to say the least. Even If you do, don't share pictures of it. It looks weird.I have four kids. I drove my wife to the hospital for three of the births, a friend of hers did for one of the births, because I had to look after the other kids and take them to school.
When the first kid was born, I felt an emotion coming up, but repressed it because I didn’t want to cry like some wuss. It was the closest I got to being « overcome by emotion »; for the three other births I wasn’t emotional at all.
For the second one, I fell asleep like 2 minutes after he was born.
For the third, I missed the birth because, like I said earlier, a friend of my wife drove her, and I got there too late. I was happy the whole thing was over by the time I showed up.
For the fourth birth, it was business as usual.
The thing about putting the baby on the father’s naked chest is lame, it’s based on pseudoscience and it’s the least virile and based thing a man can do. I laughed at the nurse when she asked me to do it, and she was surprised as I guess most modern fathers go for that kind of effeminate stuff. I cringe at guys whose first contact with their children is basically them playing mothers.
Ha, that's exactly the information I was curious about! So that's really a thing?There’s really no non-ideological, non-feminist reason why the husband is even supposed to be there. I had a friend who told me, as a secret, that he couldn’t screw his wife for like 6 months after the birth because of how grossed out he was by seeing her like that. Ain’t a sight meant for husbands, and mankind knew that for millennia before like the stupid 1970’s.
It wasn’t a thing for me, the thing that kept us from having sex was my wife’s nethers were all rearranged and it was extremely painful for her. She had to actually go to a physical therapist after a few months to understand what sort of exercises and stretches/relaxation stuff she needed to do to handle my insanely massive, but below the GAF average, penis. Thankfully with the second kid it wasn’t nearly as bad, we got back to it in like 6 weeks instead of 6 months.Ha, that's exactly the information I was curious about! So that's really a thing?
But you guys sound all so devoted to your wives.
I didn't even think of that honestly. I don't think that would be a factor for me. But I do think that the father literally just sits there doing nothing, and its awkward and weird for them. Kind of like asking your wife to come in and watch your colonoscopy. Might as well just wait until I'm done getting my rectum explored by a team of strangers, but I guess that's just me lol.Ha, that's exactly the information I was curious about! So that's really a thing?
But you guys sound all so devoted to your wives.
See, that's kind of the problem. I don't want my husband to think of me as the stretched out cut open poopy lady for the next year. But I actually don't believe he will. But I guess you'll never know for sure....I didn't even think of that honestly. I don't think that would be a factor for me. But I do think that the father literally just sits there doing nothing, and its awkward and weird for them. Kind of like asking your wife to come in and watch your colonoscopy. Might as well just wait until I'm done getting my rectum explored by a team of strangers, but I guess that's just me lol.
I'm sure it's a beautiful experience for some.
Trauma counseling.Daddys of GAF sounds like the name of either a band, or a support group
I seen my wife reenacting the chest burster scene from Alien only with more blood, once the shock had subsided and we where back home I was pawing at her like a love sick teenager on a hormone high and she was beating me off with a stick so seriously don't worry about that shitSee, that's kind of the problem. I don't want my husband to think of me as the stretched out cut open poopy lady for the next year. But I actually don't believe he will. But I guess you'll never know for sure....
Haha when my dad dropped my mum upto the hospital the nurse politely told him to fuck off and he went and waited in the bar until he got the phonecall, but tbh I wouldn't have missed both of my kids births and would've moved mountains to be there but tell me to take my top off and bond and you'd be getting laughed outa the fucking ward, we're men ffs like I said our job is to be there for the real superstars giving birthThere’s really no non-ideological, non-feminist reason why the husband is even supposed to be there. I had a friend who told me, as a secret, that he couldn’t screw his wife for like 6 months after the birth because of how grossed out he was by seeing her like that. Ain’t a sight meant for husbands, and mankind knew that for millennia before like the stupid 1970’s.
That gives me hope. Thank you, my friend!I seen my wife reenacting the chest burster scene from Alien only with more blood, once the shock had subsided and we where back home I was pawing at her like a love sick teenager on a hormone high and she was beating me off with a stick so seriously don't worry about that shit
Sitting there and doing nothing is one possible beneficial role. Or not even being there.I didn't even think of that honestly. I don't think that would be a factor for me. But I do think that the father literally just sits there doing nothing, and its awkward and weird for them. Kind of like asking your wife to come in and watch your colonoscopy. Might as well just wait until I'm done getting my rectum explored by a team of strangers, but I guess that's just me lol.
I'm sure it's a beautiful experience for some.
Honestly, I don't think most people have that issue lol. We're kind of messing with you.See, that's kind of the problem. I don't want my husband to think of me as the stretched out cut open poopy lady for the next year. But I actually don't believe he will. But I guess you'll never know for sure....
You wont be able to have sex for at least 2 months. for some women, it can last 6 months to a full year depending on post natal depression and surgery pain. I can promise you one thing, He will on you like Harvey Weinstein 6 weeks in. you will be the one saying no.See, that's kind of the problem. I don't want my husband to think of me as the stretched out cut open poopy lady for the next year. But I actually don't believe he will. But I guess you'll never know for sure....
Haha, okYou wont be able to have sex for at least 2 months. for some women, it can last 6 months to a full year depending on post natal depression and surgery pain. I can promise you one thing, He will on you like Harvey Weinstein 6 weeks in. you will be the one saying no.
we're men ffs like I said our job is to be there for the real superstars giving birth
Nah I thought she was a dude too. I had no idea until she mentioned the husband on this page.lmfao OP I just realized you’re the woman here, that’s what I get for posting in the middle of the night while feeding the baby (which is the most obnoxious post-partum activity). I wouldn’t have made that GAF penis size joke if I knew that.
Anyway, I recommend the PT for your birthin parts afterward, my wife didn’t know about it for the first baby until months later which prolonged her recovery, second baby went much smoother in that regard because she proactively sought it out
Come on man, we know each other from Meta. You told me the story of your wife ruining the carpet because you didn't make it to the hospital. Remember?lmfao OP I just realized you’re the woman here, that’s what I get for posting in the middle of the night while feeding the baby (which is the most obnoxious post-partum activity). I wouldn’t have made that GAF penis size joke if I knew that.
Anyway, I recommend the PT for your birthin parts afterward, my wife didn’t know about it for the first baby until months later which prolonged her recovery, second baby went much smoother in that regard because she proactively sought it out
They offer it, and the way the nurse seemed taken aback when I said no seems to indicate most fathers go along with it. There was a wall of pictures of fathers with their slimy newborn babies on their naked chest. A real wall of girlie men. And the justification was such pseudoscientific nonsense : "babies get extra feels from the touch of the naked skin, so it's important fathers touch them this way as well as mothers". Yeah, I'm sure it's been demonstrated scientifically that me not spending 5 seconds at the age of 2 minutes on my father's hairy chest has made a noticeable difference in my psychological development over decades...So they really ask you to take off your shirt, haha.
Come on man, we know each other from Meta. You told me the story of your wife ruining the carpet because you didn't make it to the hospital. Remember?
Besides nothing wrong with a good penis joke.
Giving birth was seen for thousands of years, by people just like me and you, as strictly a physical process that was a difficult, potentially deadly but necessary part of nature and marriage, and that women took care of themselves with midwives, or with a doctor who saw the birth as a purely medical event. It's only very, very recently in human history that childbirth has become associated with all of this almost mystical reverence, in which fathers are supposed to partake. For centuries, women would usually have many children over many years, and being pregnant and giving birth was both "no big deal" in the sense that it happened all the time, and a big risk in the sense that many women and newborns died in childbirth. A good birth was anytime the woman and the child survived, and people wanted nothing more out of it than that.If you're not extremely emotional then you are either dead inside or things went too fast/easy and you're in shock. It's a big undertaking and highly stressful for both partners.
Ok Mr. Spock, some of us felt some profundity in becoming a parent or other events where our lives change forever and that’s not exactly a modern human experienceGiving birth was seen for thousands of years, by people just like me and you, as strictly a physical process that was a difficult, potentially deadly but necessary part of nature and marriage, and that women took care of themselves with midwives, or with a doctor who saw the birth as a purely medical event. It's only very, very recently in human history that childbirth has become associated with all of this almost mystical reverence, in which fathers are supposed to partake. For centuries, women would usually have many children over many years, and being pregnant and giving birth was both "no big deal" in the sense that it happened all the time, and a big risk in the sense that many women and newborns died in childbirth. A good birth was anytime the woman and the child survived, and people wanted nothing more out of it than that.
As for me, I was neither nervous nor "extremely emotional": the births went well, there were no complications, and I was happy to have the new child in the family, but it wasn't like a religious experience. I was like, ok, let's go home now.
Wait the OP is a woman? I didn't think there were any women posting here. I phrased my posts assuming it was a guy asking the questions.
Minus the axe this is pretty much the action they use to pop a C-section baby out.So, from what I gather it's going to be bloody and noisy and dirty.
Kind of like an episode of Vikings. I think I can do that.
Also a big applause to your missuses and babies and youse of course.
January 5th but I have a feeling he'll be hatching sooner.When are you due anyways?
Not long now you must be at the stage of get this outa me lol, could end up with a Christmas baby!January 5th but I have a feeling he'll be hatching sooner.