Deep depression VS Videogames

MasterDerico

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Hi guys, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but here goes!

I had problems with women and fell into a deep depression, where I couldn't eat, shower or walk. I hurt myself, bad thoughts you know what they are.

A few days ago I'm better, but not that much. It seems like everything has lost its charm, even video games. I can't play, concentrate or be happy with any release.

Have any of you been through a similar situation? Does it go away?

I would like to end by saying that I love this forum and its members, you are wonderful people as I see in the general discussion, like a parallel family!

A big kiss and a hug from your friend MasterDerico!

Love you guys!

(And yeah..I have been undergoing psychotherapy for 26 years, and due to this sudden decline, I am taking 2 antidepressants and 4 anxiolytics per day)
 
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Der, I'm gonna put it simply:
No woman nor man is worth getting depressed over or hurting yourself.

In life, women come and go, she wasn't the 1st nor is she gonna be the last.

It's happened to most of us and it's something that can't really be avoided especially in the earlier years of our lives where we haven't amassed the necessary experience when it comes to anything love related.
One thing that has always worked for me is going in expecting absolutely nothing : it doesn't mean that you won't get dissapointed that way, just that you'll get less dissapointed.

Take your time, listen to so music, maybe exercise a little bit, go out, do anything that it'll take your mind off of it and you'll get better, it might take some time but, you will get better, it's not the end of the world man, there's other, SERIOUS problems in life that are way more important that some chick or dude.

Cheers
 
Yes it goes away. I've been single for a very very long time and it's the greatest thing to be honest(not to go too deep into things, marriage didn't work out, luckily no children involved. And what was done to me hurt so so much and for a long time I was hurt, bitter and questioned what I did wrong or could have done better. Even though I was the one wronged that caused me to ask for a divorce.). The pain goes away, what you can do if you want some pure joy. Get yourself a copy of any Katamari game, you'll feel better instantly. Also, you can play Signalis, it might seem depressing but it's so surreal it will somehow keep your brain occupied to help you get over the tough times. Stay strong man, it hurts but it does get better
 
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Giallo Corsa said:
Der, I'm gonna put it simply:
No woman nor man is worth getting depressed over or hurting yourself.

In life, women come and go, she wasn't the 1st nor is she gonna be the last.

It's happened to most of us and it's something that can't really be avoided especially in the earlier years of our lives where we haven't amassed the necessary experience when it comes to anything love related.
One thing that has always worked for me is going in expecting absolutely nothing : it doesn't mean that you won't get dissapointed that way, just that you'll get less dissapointed.

Take your time, listen to so music, maybe exercise a little bit, go out, do anything that it'll take your mind off of it and you'll get better, it might take some time but, you will get better, it's not the end of the world man, there's other, SERIOUS problems in life that are way more important that some chick or dude.

Cheers
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Thank you very much, your reply have some huge valid and important points!
 
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Yes it goes away. I've been single for a very very long time and it's the greatest thing to be honest(not to go too deep into things, marriage didn't work out, luckily no children involved. And what was done to me hurt so so much and for a long time I was hurt, bitter and questioned what I did wrong or could have done better. Even though I was the one wronged that caused me to ask for a divorce.). The pain goes away, what you can do if you want some pure joy. Get yourself a copy of any Katamari game, you'll feel better instantly. Also, you can play Signalis, it might seem depressing but it's so surreal it will somehow keep your brain occupied to help you get over the tough times. Stay strong man, it hurts but it does get better
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Its hard to concentrate in games, or any kind of entertainment...
I will try and thanks for your words!
 
First of all, how old are you?

You can't let a woman ruin your life like this. I know it hurts, but you have to be stronger. Pain is part of life, but you can't give someone that much power over you. No one is worth your peace, not even a woman.

Trust me, your mind will heal, and you'll start to enjoy life again. Just give yourself time. One thing to learn from this is to stop pouring everything into someone else. The less you chase, the more they value you. Keep your dignity, always

Hit the gym, build yourself back up, physically, mentally, spiritually. Grow closer to God. Jesus will help you heal and give you strength you didn't know you had. He did heal me and I am a new person, a better one

God bless you, man. You got this.
 
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Videogames are just a hobby. They are not a solution.
You might want to consider seeking professional help, if things are that bad.

Regarding women, or men, just remember there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Don't lose hope and your sanity over someone that doesn't love you.
 
MasterDerico said:
Hi guys, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but here goes!

I had problems with women and fell into a deep depression, where I couldn't eat, shower or walk. I hurt myself, bad thoughts you know what they are.

I few days ago I'm better, but not that much. It seems like everything has lost its charm, even video games. I can't play, concentrate or be happy with any release.

Have any of you been through a similar situation? Does it go away?

I would like to end by saying that I love this forum and its members, you are wonderful people as I see in the general discussion, like a parallel family!

A big kiss and a hug from your friend MasterDerico!

Love you guys!
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I've never been depressed,

But sometimes its ok to stay away from games. Read a book, go for a walk instead.

Or do like most people on GAF, just stare at the FPFs overlay
 
Gonzito said:
First of all, how old are you?

You can't let a woman ruin your life like this. I know it hurts, but you have to be stronger. Pain is part of life, but you can't give someone that much power over you. No one is worth your peace, not even a woman.

Trust me, your mind will heal, and you'll start to enjoy life again. Just give yourself time. One thing to learn from this is to stop pouring everything into someone else. The less you chase, the more they value you. Keep your dignity, always

Hit the gym, build yourself back up, physically, mentally, spiritually. Grow closer to God. Jesus will help you heal and give you strength you didn't know you had. He did heal me and I am a new person, a better one

God bless you, man. You got this.
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Thanks my brother.
Im 42, and had depression since 15...But this time got me hard.

And your words, tips are seriously good!
Thanks again!
 
OP sounds like he should seriously consider making lifestyle changes suitable to fighting depression instead of playing video games (or both, if games seem to help). The knowledge is out there for free. I'd start by doing some sport, preferrably outside, like a madman. Save your own life.
 
winjer said:
Videogames are just a hobby. They are not a solution.
You might want to consider seeking professional help, if things are that bad.

Regarding women, or men, just remember there are plenty of fish in the sea.
Don't lose hope and your sanity over someone that doesn't love you.
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Im doing therapy from the last 2 decades...But now im eating more medicine, things got worse...

Thank u brother for your words!
 
HerjansEagleFeeder said:
OP sounds like he should seriously consider making lifestyle changes suitable to fighting depression instead of playing video games (or both, if games seem to help). The knowledge is out there for free. I'd start by doing some sport, preferrably outside, like a madman. Save your own life.
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You are right brother...
Thank you!
 
nothing stays the same forever, be stubborn and get through it until the good times next come by.

force yourself to get some exercise everyday, allocate like 30 minutes and don't allow yourself to skip it no matter what.

You got this.
 
One thing that can help is to get out into the countryside - be around trees/nature, hear birdsong etc etc. Just walking around in a natural environment can help. Plus exercise, make use of your body's natural chemicals (endorphins etc).
 
SidViscous said:
nothing stays the same forever, be stubborn and get through it until the good times next come by.

force yourself to get some exercise everyday, allocate like 30 minutes and don't allow yourself to skip it no matter what.

You got this.
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Thanks for send me good vibes! I will follow the exercise tip, but now im too weak (mentally and physically) to do...
 
foamdino said:
One thing that can help is to get out into the countryside - be around trees/nature, hear birdsong etc etc. Just walking around in a natural environment can help. Plus exercise, make use of your body's natural chemicals (endorphins etc).
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You are completely right! Thanks man!
 
Fighting depression is a bitch, especially if you're older, so take your time, don't rush it, always remember it's a marathon, not a sprint and keep going forward, slowly but steadily. Get a good daily routine. Add healthy food and exercise. And add times of quality rest as well. Good luck brother!
 
vodka-bull said:
Fighting depression is a bitch, especially if you're older, so take your time, don't rush it, always remember it's a marathon, not a sprint and keep going forward, slowly but steadily. Get a good daily routine. Add healthy food and exercise. And add times of quality rest as well. Good luck brother!
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I know that fight my brother...Very well...
Thank you for your kind words!
 
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Time heals all wounds OP. Sometimes faster, sometimes slower. But you heal. How long it takes depends on your character.

Been there, you have my sympathies.
 
MasterDerico said:
Thanks man, from my heart!
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Just keep in mind that stuff like this is sometimes needed for growth. The last girl screwed me up real good and for several reasons I struggled for longer than I'd like to admit (1+ years) but in the process I learned a lot and came out of it a better man. I'd not like to go through it again but given the opportunity I'd still not want to erase that time. I'm glad I went through it.

And no, I'm not just saying this to make you feel better, believe me.
 
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Just keep in mind that stuff like this is sometimes needed for growth. The last girl screwed me up real good and for several reasons I struggled for longer than I'd like to admit (1+ years) but in the process I learned a lot and came out of it a better man. I'd not like to go through it again but given the opportunity I'd still not want to erase that time. I'm glad I went through it.

And no, I'm not just saying this to make you feel better, believe me.
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I have depression since i was 15. I know exactly what you talking about,
I grew up and became much more mature than people my age. Much more empathetic too!

"If you want to mature, suffer"

I can feel in my soul the good person you are!
Thanks again mate!
 
I've been living with depression since childhood. It's called Endogenous.

I'm at a point where i purchase hundreds of games cheap, play them for 1h at most and uninstall them with a very few exceptions.

I was pretty passionate during teenage but it has become incredibly difficult now that i reached 30.

However, judging by your depression factors, its exogenous and you should pretty much be able to recover as it seems to be quite sudden.
Are you sure the source is truly about women ? What happened to produce that burnout ?
 
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I'm so emotional right now, and I couldn't expect anything less from Gaf, you guys are amazing and give a lot of support!

A big hug to each of you! I'm going to try to sleep because it's 5:45am here in Brazil and I still haven't managed to.

If there are more posts, I'll answer as soon as I'm back online.

Thank you very much, from the bottom of my heart, you helped me a lot!

I hope to be happy and playing lots of games soon!
 
Nearly 40, struggle with mental problems since I was 14. For me it never went away. It only went to the background whenever I entered a new and exciting phase of life. But as soon is things start to feel normal my problems will come back. I have accepted this is just a part of me and most of the time tomorrow is a better but sometimes it's deeper then I think it is.

Maybe videogames doesn't appeal for now and life challenges you to find appeal in different things you are not aware about yet.

It's a cliche but true (at least for me); You will only get stronger the more you step out of your comfort zone.
Break habits and try to replace them with something new: something that will make you feel better about yourself. Maybe try to play an instrument if you're not already.

Good luck brother. Hopefully better times are ahead for you.
 
Rivdoric said:
I've been living with depression since childhood. It's called Endogenous.

I'm at a point where i purchase hundreds of games cheap, play them for 1h at most and uninstall them with a very few exceptions.

I was pretty passionate during teenage but it has become incredibly difficult now that i reached 30.

However, judging by your depression factors, its exogenous and you should pretty much be able to recover as it seems to be quite sudden.
Are you sure the source is truly about women ? What happened to produce that burnout ?
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Good question, but yes. It got worse after something that happened. But as i said here, like you i had depression decades ago, from lots of different reasons...i totally get what u said

Thank you my man!
 
Been there recently myself. I can relate to most of what you written here. Hang in there, bro.

I'm 41, and just last month or so, i managed to to get well enough to not need SSRI:s anymore. The recommendations in here are good.
Exercice and gym is of course great, if you can manage. I didn't manage to do that myself. That's hard to do on days when even a shower seems overwhelming.

But grabbing some headphones, and going out for a walk, preferrably in nature/forest will be my recommendation. The winter fuggin' sucked. Now you can atleast enjoy the outdoors without snow (hopefully, depending on where you live. I'm from Sweden)
Eat healthy. Make sure to get enough sleep (but not too much).
 
Videogames helped me a lot in dealing with relationship disappointments. And through the bad experiences I had, I basically came to a point I'm allergic to people now. Games with positive vibes, Okami and Dragon Quest XI in particular, helped me through the depression and through 2 specific situations with people I truly loved and one day discarded me like an old toy.

Videogames are still greatly helping me with good mood and relaxation, and I'm also building great memories with them.
 
Rien said:
Nearly 40, struggle with mental problems since I was 14. For me it never went away. It only went to the background whenever I entered a new and exciting phase of life. But as soon is things start to feel normal my problems will come back. I have accepted this is just a part of me and most of the time tomorrow is a better but sometimes it's deeper then I think it is.

Maybe videogames doesn't appeal for now and life challenges you to find appeal in different things you are not aware about yet.

It's a cliche but true (at least for me); You will only get stronger the more you step out of your comfort zone.
Break habits and try to replace them with something new: something that will make you feel better about yourself. Maybe try to play an instrument if you're not already.

Good luck brother. Hopefully better times are ahead for you.
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Wise words, and we have a VERY similar situation, if not the same... Everything you said looks like my life.

Thanks for the reply mate!
 
SleepMachine said:
Been there recently myself. I can relate to most of what you written here. Hang in there, bro.

I'm 41, and just last month or so, i managed to to get well enough to not need SSRI:s anymore. The recommendations in here are good.
Exercice and gym is of course great, if you can manage. I didn't manage to do that myself. That's hard to do on days when even a shower seems overwhelming.

But grabbing some headphones, and going out for a walk, preferrably in nature/forest will be my recommendation. The winter fuggin' sucked. Now you can atleast enjoy the outdoors without snow (hopefully, depending on where you live. I'm from Sweden)
Eat healthy. Make sure to get enough sleep (but not too much).
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Nature indeed helps a lot...
Thanks for your tips my bro!
 
Videogames give you pleasure, not happiness.

You want happiness, invest in yourself. Clean up, get RL stuff done, exercise, sleep enough, learn useful stuff, cook good food, go outside.
 
emivita said:
Videogames helped me a lot in dealing with relationship disappointments. And through the bad experiences I had, I basically came to a point I'm allergic to people now. Games with positive vibes, Okami and Dragon Quest XI in particular, helped me through the depression and through 2 specific situations with people I truly loved and one day discarded me like an old toy.

Videogames are still greatly helping me with good mood and relaxation, and I'm also building great memories with them.
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Yeah, helped me a lot too...but now, i cant even eat. Its all black and white!

Thanks ma man!
 
Hit the gym and strive to be the best version of yourself is the very first step.

There is only 1 you and millions of women. All women are replaceable and you should see them as something extra in your life.

You have to build yourself up in such a way that you can decide if someone else's opinion is allowed to hurt you.

All deeds in life are selfish. Every single one. So, with that taken into account you would do yourself a big disservice to think about someone else who has already moved on and is enjoying life without you.

Be the best version of yourself. Nothing matters except you. Time is ticking away mate. Is this how you want to spend your time on earth?
 
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As someone who has battled depression and anxiety sprinkled with a lovely side dose of ADHD I feel you.

This feeling will pass, I know it feels like nothing will help you but at the end of the day time will always be your best friend.

Be kind to yourself, know your worth and just remember you're here for a reason. Just because things aren't fantastic does not mean they're bad.

Your love for gaming will come back, and you'll eventually hit your stride and be better version of yourself, trust me!

My Inbox is always open if you'd like to vent :)
 
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I've often gone through similar phases and when even videogames seem like a chore, you know it's bad. It'll pass, but if it happens often and to this extend some professional help is adviced. I know people often hate the idea of talking about it or taking pills for mental issues, but in the end take all the help you can get in whatever form.
 
I'm kinda in your situation for some other reasons and am bored of almost every video games. I wish that to nobody, but when you're trapped in this, at least there's some things you can discover about yourself, find new hobby(ies) that can bring you passion.

Your interrest in games will maybe come back if you put them aside for some time and get better I guess.
 
Losing interest in things you enjoy is a key symptom of depression.

In fact, I now use struggling to game as an early indicator that my health is deteriorating.

I'm currently recovering from a bad episode and slowly getting back into games.

Even now, taking on any big games still seems overwhelming, so I'm just dipping in and out of pick-up-and-play type games, particularly retro arcade games, perhaps the occasional single race in GT7.

It takes time, but as you recover it will get better.

Remember, you are in control. Getting into a game can feel like a massive commitment you can't handle, but you can pause, save & quit, and return to it whenever you feel up to it.

Keep pushing forwards, but don't blame yourself if you have to take a step back. Don't demand too much of yourself. Be kind to yourself. You'll get there.
 
Everyone said what needs to be said. Everyone's struggle differentiate on the surface level but the feelings are the same. I have few things to add. They are easier said than done, I know it, but it is a tactic I try to use all the time.

First of all, human brain wants and tends to go back to the hurting or emotional point. It wants you to relieve your memories all the time, good or bad. Memories work like a screw. When you think them you go deeper to the thing screw attached. The more you think the more you go "screwed".

What I realized that if you don't put your thoughts in a circle (breaking the circle), if you don't enter the "screw path", your thoughts automatically continue to another and more straight path. Yes I'm fully aware that try to break the circle and awoid screw path is hard. Really hard.

But no one else can do that for you. Only ourselves are. Therefore you need to focus on good things in your life. Avoid screwing thoughts. They are the main reason of depression and the suspect is your brain. Take control of your brain, force it to think other, beautiful things. Mental struggles need your effort. Everything in this world needs effort. There are no magical bullets to forget everything in an instant.

Like I said, what I wrote isn't simple, I'm aware. Actually to take control of your brain and thought trains are really hard. But you need yourself to pull yourself from that position. No one can do that for you. Just be aware that your biggest enemy right now is your brain. It got out of control because of what you live. You need to take over control from it to yourself again.
 
That absolutely sounds severe enough that it would mandate a few sessions with a therapist rather than randomly hoping for distractions in whatever form to help....
 
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My personal picks, since I spend a lot on games, that are cheerful

Naughty Dog
Capcom
2K
R*
Bethesda
Bioware
Square Enix

I've found playing meaningful games helpful with coping. If you just play video games like it's the only way to escape I'd suggest seeking professional help. Get your shit together and don't let femininity get the better of you, be better than women and you could do it like me, even ceos look up to me, don't let them look down on you and prove them wrong from your doings, not your words.
 
MasterDerico said:
Hi guys, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but here goes!

I had problems with women and fell into a deep depression, where I couldn't eat, shower or walk. I hurt myself, bad thoughts you know what they are.

I few days ago I'm better, but not that much. It seems like everything has lost its charm, even video games. I can't play, concentrate or be happy with any release.
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If you are hurting yourself and feel that bad I'd advice to contact a doctor asap. Depression is very difficult to deal with on your own and if it goes untreated it might get much worse. Call your local medical center today. I've been so depressed that I couldn't even enjoy food or anything I'd normally feel pleasure from so not even a Switch 2 with Bananza will help with your gaming issues. Take care!
 
I might be a result of Vitamin D deficiency, do a routine check up.. get some supplement and you will feel charged in no time.

Don't sweat it, it can happen to all of us.
 
I'm sorry to hear that man. Wish you the best.

It's a little risky to try and rely on gaming because it's largely solitary, and sedentary. We know that regardless of someone's feelings, people do benefit from socializing, and from moving around or exercising and gaming does neither. Treat it as a hobby, and nothing more. You'd be better off hanging out with some friends and playing board games once a month so you hang out with people and crack some jokes. Exercise is better for your brain than any anti-depressant. Even if you're still depressed, it will work on a physiological level to help a bit releasing endorphins that help mood in the short term, while also helping health and fitness for the long term. Great for stress relief as well.

Of course you're probably going to still play games since that's all of our favorite hobbies. There's 2 schools of thought on gaming and depression. 1) Play the happiest game you can find to just override it, 2) Play the saddest game you can find to move you and find something that expresses what you're feeling. I say do both, maybe even at the same time. Just let it out and feel both I say. Happiest, play Hi-Fi Rush. Saddest, hard to say but I'd say try a slower introspective visual novel. Pentiment or Citizen Sleeper is my vote but only if you like very minimalist visual novels that take a while to get going.

P.S. Shinobi hitting in August and I know you'll want to play that, made from the Streets of Rage 4 devs. :messenger_bicep: Good luck with everything dude.
 
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