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[manzo]

A lot of good things in this thread, mainly from the FUCK HER part and understanding the fact that in the end, the only person in this world who makes you happy is YOU.

A woman should be a to a man like a hot plug-in upgrade module. Like additional RAM. You have your shit together and you work perfectly without that upgrade, life is good and you run your life as how YOU want to run it. Enter that upgrade, things get better (more enjoyable, fulfilling whatever), but if that module is unplugged at any moment, your system should not crash. It would continue chugging along like it did before. Of course it sucks to lose whatever niceness that upgrade brought you (and you can have that 24 hours of shit fucking sucks feeling, not more) but your life continues like without her.

What helped me after my depression was to get shit done. Video games is the exact opposite of that. It's like alcohol; feels nice to escape from the shit feeling you have, but in the end you gain nothing. The game ends and you feel like shit again. Of course, for some people, video games help - whatever helps you, try it. For me it was heavy training at the gym (this is what others said too, GO TO THE GYM!) and I fucking blasted it at work. I leveled up in both physically and through my career, that helped me to get over my shit as I had no time to worry about my sorry ass. But I'd still stay away from alcohol, drugs and video games. As you said, I also kinda had trouble on concentrating on games during my depression and that why I quit playing for a while.

Good luck man, depression fucking sucks, but you can get over it. Just don't let a woman to be the source of it, no-one deserves to live in your head 24/7 rent-free.

 

[MetalFreak]

Stay strong man.
I never been in that situation but I have friends who have and it is tough
Go outside and catch some sun if you can, start counting your daily steps and pay close attention to your diet. Get a gym buddy and go lift some weights.
All the best buddy.

 

[laynelane]

I deal with depression too. Mostly over loss and family matters. It's difficult to see past it when you're in the middle of it, but it sounds like you're getting help through medication and therapy. As well, reaching out like you did here, takes an incredible amount of strength and courage. I don't think I could do that and can only admire your fortitude.

When you're dealing with so much, just trying to get through each day, it's normal to lose interest in things you usually enjoy - like games. It may sound trite, but it takes time to deal with everything. Give it time, take care of yourself to the best of your ability, and you'll come back to yourself step by step.

Wishing you all the best.

 

[StueyDuck]

Hi guys, I don't know if this is the right place to post this, but here goes!

I had problems with women and fell into a deep depression, where I couldn't eat, shower or walk. I hurt myself, bad thoughts you know what they are.

A few days ago I'm better, but not that much. It seems like everything has lost its charm, even video games. I can't play, concentrate or be happy with any release.

Have any of you been through a similar situation? Does it go away?

I would like to end by saying that I love this forum and its members, you are wonderful people as I see in the general discussion, like a parallel family!

A big kiss and a hug from your friend MasterDerico!

Love you guys!

(And yeah..I have been undergoing psychotherapy for 26 years, and due to this sudden decline, I am taking 2 antidepressants and 4 anxiolytics per day)

Humans are social beings, and games have lost their charm and have absolutely become anti-social, which is ironic because we are more connected than ever, so you aren't alone in that boat.

Get out, find social situations which make you happy, whether it's wargaming meets, a sport, live music, etc.

I'm sure your therapy will be saying similar things, all I am saying is don't be depressed that games aren't appealing, you aren't the only one in that boat. The industry is just going through a bad time; maybe something will bring the spark back, but for now, invest your time in other things which do bring joy. Try anything, baking, brewing your own beer, growing plants, etc. Something will scratch the Itch.

You're going to laugh, but I downloaded the Pokémon TCG pocket app, and you get to pop 2 free packs of cards a day, and it scratches the itch. Sure it's digital, of course, but the fun is just seeing what you pull, so I enjoy doing that a couple times a day and not a single cent is spent on doing so.

 

[Shmunter]

Live a simple life. Discard possessions and dedicate your life to providing aid to the less fortunate. Build self worth, everything will fall into place.

 

[SleepMachine]

Think about yourself first, look after yourself first but never forget that helping others also helps yourself, that's why helping others can sometimes be a selfish act.
Also pay closer attention to everything around you and you'll be absolutely bloody amazed why things are the way they are.
The world will not be a better place if you're not in it.
I'm not a religious man but it blows me away sometimes when I pay closer attention to the little things.
Look after yourself and PM me if you want someone to talk to.

This. I'm glad someone brought it up. I found this very interesting. This (according to what I've heard) should actually help you build good seratonin, for long term improvement in mental health; As opposed to instant-gratification dopamine that you get from Video Games, Social Media, Masturbation etc. (which is straight-up harmful if done in excess).

And yes, it can be seen as selfish. But since you are helping both yourself and other people, I'm not sure I agree with that. It's a win-win for everybody IMO.

I've tried this to some extent myself, and I believe it's working.

 

[ViciousAgenda]

Sorry to hear of your situation. It's a tough battle but you can overcome it. I strongly recommend going to the gym. It won't cure anything but it may help you. It certainly does for me.

 

[belteshazzar]

Hey MasterDerico we've never interacted before, but please believe me when I say all will be OK. Right now it might not seem like it, but it will! As for depression, in my personal experience it was because of deeply rooted insecurities and falsehoods that I came to believe were 100% true. I was giving all the attention to the negativity in my life and every bad thing, no matter how small, was magnified under that magnifying glass of negativity. Not even my beloved video games, that gave me an escape from life my entire life, did anything for me. As for suggestions, first I would start by looking at all the good things in your life! Don't give them for granted. I was so focused in the bad that I was ignoring all the good things, and there were so many of them! I even felt silly when I realized this. Be grateful for them! Writing them down everyday might help. Second, take care of yourself, even if you don't feel like it. Take a shower. Eat proper meals. Like other people have suggested, go out for a walk or exercise. These things might seem meaningless, but they are massive in your own self-esteem, and they will make you feel better about yourself physically and psycologically. Not doing them only contributes to a negative view about yourself. Third, clean the environment were you live. It's similar to the last point. If often find my environment is a reflection of how I feel inside (mess and dirty, trash, all ignored for a long time because it's not worth cleaning, etc). By cleaning and organizing your environment, you will also feel better. You won't feel like a loser because you can't even make your bed. It really is therapeutic. Finally, and probably the most important thing you can do during these times, is forget about yourself. It might sound contradictory to what I said earlier, but what I mean by this is stop putting all your energy into "woe is me" and start looking into helping other people, whether it be family, friends or whatever. Depression thrives in loneliness. It's an endless selfish pit. It begins to lose it's power when when you forget about yourself and concentrate in others. You'll begin to see many of the things you were convinced were true are not true after all. The people around you will help you see that too, your own worth. Now, not everything will be perfect. There will be disappointments, but you will learn to be OK with it and move on. I'm sure there's a bright future for you. Take care, and best of luck!

 

[MasterDerico]