Describe your time in college
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Dorimukyasuto
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Well, let me explain something. I had this exact mindset going in. I figured I'm not really a partier, I don't smoke or do drugs and I don't have a lot of friends (despite growing up only living like 15 minutes from school by public transit). I spent my whole first year hating every minute of college. I hated it so much I had to leave after my 3rd semester and take a break. I cleared my mind, worked part time, went to a therapist (not totally related to school) and when I came back to school the next year everything seemed better. I still don't think college is amazing or even all that fun but I like it now. If I had some better friends here with me or if I could see my few actual friends (the school is huge) during the day at some point...it would be better.
sad...but this.
Evening Musuko
Black Korea
It depends. If you have the support of your friends, family and school, it'll help a lot.
I have none of those things so it's been pretty shit so far.
Whogie
Member
Very slow going since I'm splitting work and school part time.
Commute to class, then commute back home. WiFi is too crowded to work at school, and never I meet anyone.
Slowly easing my way out of prerequisite hell so I can finally study what I fucking care about.
Hard to get motivated to do homework, which is a constant stressor. Been at college for years, and still have a lot more to go. I started with low ambitions to get a certificate because I was such a shoddy student during high school. But then I saw that it wasn't much more work to get an AS. Then I saw it wasn't much more work to transfer. And now I'm working towards a BS.
Commute to class, then commute back home. WiFi is too crowded to work at school, and never I meet anyone.
Slowly easing my way out of prerequisite hell so I can finally study what I fucking care about.
Hard to get motivated to do homework, which is a constant stressor. Been at college for years, and still have a lot more to go. I started with low ambitions to get a certificate because I was such a shoddy student during high school. But then I saw that it wasn't much more work to get an AS. Then I saw it wasn't much more work to transfer. And now I'm working towards a BS.
Dorimukyasuto
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I can't drink because I take anti-d's and yeah, no social life either. I'm not supposed to smoke weed either, so I don't. Seriously, I ain't fuckin' with my meds (since they help). When you can't drink (or don't want to) you ain't gonna do much at my school either.
I can't drink either because of my IBS and yeah it's a downer, drinking would make some things easier, but you can have fun and be social all the same, even if it's a bid harder.
Delicious Waffles
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It was alright, I guess. Went twice and still have no job out of it.
WyndhamPrice
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I was in a 5 year program soooo
I spent the first year and a half still dating my high school girlfriend long distance and really only hung out with my roommates
Then we broke up at the end of my second year and I spent that summer relearning who I was by myself and who I wanted to be. I applied to become an RA, and when I got that job everything changed considerably. I had a steady group to socialize with. I discovered alcohol. I joined the school's men's acapella group giving me another group of people to socialize with. I started dating someone new. We broke up after nearly a year but still remained good friends after some time apart.
I made (and continued to make) new friends who are now more important in the grand scheme of things than anyone (save two or three) from high school.
I finished this year, and I'm a very different kind of person than when I started, but I feel like I'm the person I wanted to be all along, I just needed to let go of old stuff and put myself out there.
My degree is kind of pointless in retrospect for the work I'm doing now but I'm honestly not sure where I'd be without all the other extracurricular things I was engaged in for 3 straight years.
I spent the first year and a half still dating my high school girlfriend long distance and really only hung out with my roommates
Then we broke up at the end of my second year and I spent that summer relearning who I was by myself and who I wanted to be. I applied to become an RA, and when I got that job everything changed considerably. I had a steady group to socialize with. I discovered alcohol. I joined the school's men's acapella group giving me another group of people to socialize with. I started dating someone new. We broke up after nearly a year but still remained good friends after some time apart.
I made (and continued to make) new friends who are now more important in the grand scheme of things than anyone (save two or three) from high school.
I finished this year, and I'm a very different kind of person than when I started, but I feel like I'm the person I wanted to be all along, I just needed to let go of old stuff and put myself out there.
My degree is kind of pointless in retrospect for the work I'm doing now but I'm honestly not sure where I'd be without all the other extracurricular things I was engaged in for 3 straight years.
rudieboy77
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Ah 13th grade was soooo fun.
Iacobellis
Junior Member
It kills me because I don't know what I would be studying for. I'm not that social of a person, I have at most three friends. And even then, I barely converse with them outside of school. High school has been terrible for me between getting poor grades and just not feeling like I fit in. Elementary school and middle school were easy on my mind because groups of friends were almost non-existent. Nearly everyone talked to each other, there was little isolation. I'm ranked near the bottom of my class and don't see it going up much by June. Most of my peers are the drinking/smoking/partying type and that's just not me. I spend most of my time here on GAF or doing some other random shit on the computer.
I went from making YouTube videos in middle school to just playing video games, then photography and now I am stuck. I dread going to school each day and don't see how being in a bigger, more sophisticated environment would be better. Isn't the whole point of college is to study a field you are interested in to better your chances of landing a career there? It doesn't aid me (in my opinion) when I'm just a confused and indecisive kid.
Oh sure, but the reason I take issue with the way private art schools work is just makes them look a bit trashy. The more my school doesn't participate in these seedy practices, the more I take pride in my school. The more I take pride in my school, the more I take pride in my education. As a result, I'm not particularly proud to tell people where I got my degree from, just that I got it : / There's also the fact that I have $91,000 in loans to pay back...so there's a little more salt in the wound.
At the end of the day, there's a lot about art school that I wish someone had told me going in so I could have adjusted my expectations accordingly. The whole 5.5 year experience was one long kick to the balls.
Dorimukyasuto
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You sound a lot like me dude. I've got a few friends who I've been friends with outside of school and even though we all go to the same university, I never see them. We commute to school so that makes it even harder to meet up to chill or do whatever. I had shitty grades in HS mostly because I hated it and couldn't stand going and I pretty much spent/spend my time doing shit on the computer or playing some games.
I had no clue what the hell to do in college and I still don't. First, I was like shit I'll do film that's something I'm interested in but then I swayed myself away thinking I wouldn't be able to find work after school. Then I was like well, what about medicine or dentistry but then got slammed when I realized that I didn't really learn math in the shitty Philly public schools I went to and ended up bombing the classes.
Now I'm a psychology major and I like it, its pretty interesting from the neurological stand point but I still have shitty grades because I'm not really a fan of being in school or school work or just school in general. I'm no dumbass, I've been told I'm smart and was in that stupid gifted class in middle/highschool but shit I have had more D's and F's then you can imagine.
Cameron122
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I became very much a Loner and Depressed the time I spent in College.
I never made any friends or had a bf.
It was a community college.
I felt like I had no Freedom/Independence .
I could never find a part time Job so I had no $$$.
Pretty much most ppl were In and out. They already had there friends elsewhere or some kind of clique on campus and were not interested in anymore.
My campus was quite and didn't have much going on. Never heard about any parties.
I was never into sports so I didn't join a team and The only interesting club [videogame club] always ran when I had class. So I went to a few tourneys here and there but not enough to really no anyone.
It got to the point where I just went to class and then went home.
I wasn't even sure what to study anymore
I lost in touch with a lot of my hs friends unintentionally and also intentionally.
Dropped out this Semester and legit feel much better. I'm in the process of join USAF like I wanted to two years ago. Hopefully that will work out and I'll be able to continue my studies on my own terms.
zorlaczerohero
Banned
Went to nursing college in central London in the early 90's. Weren't many male nurse trainees back then, probably 10 men to every 100 (18-22yr old) women where I trained. Shared accommodation, I had a great time.....
Mr.Monitor
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I became very much a Loner and Depressed the time I spent in College.
I never made any friends or had a bf.
It was a community college.
I felt like I had no Freedom/Independence .
I could never find a part time Job so I had no $$$.
Pretty much most ppl were In and out. They already had there friends elsewhere or some kind of clique on campus and were not interested in anymore.
My campus was quite and didn't have much going on. Never heard about any parties.
I was never into sports so I didn't join a team and The only interesting club [videogame club] always ran when I had class. So I went to a few tourneys here and there but not enough to really no anyone.
It got to the point where I just went to class and then went home.
I wasn't even sure what to study anymore
I lost in touch with a lot of my hs friends unintentionally and also intentionally.
Dropped out this Semester and legit feel much better. I'm in the process of join USAF like I wanted to two years ago. Hopefully that will work out and I'll be able to continue my studies on my own terms.
Preach. Good luck with the future, man.
SlickShoesRUCrazy
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drunken blur.
the booze touched my lips 1 week into my freshman year and before I knew it was on stage receiving my diploma.
the booze touched my lips 1 week into my freshman year and before I knew it was on stage receiving my diploma.
Pops Maellard
Member
No, college is fantastic; don't let anyone here tell you otherwise. Yes, it's probably going to seem shitty if you decide to live an hour away, end up with terrible classes, put effort into nothing, and drive home to sulk after the end of a miserable day.
Live on campus, meet people, learn some cool stuff, have a good time. It's awesome.
Valkerionseven
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I became very much a Loner and Depressed the time I spent in College.
I never made any friends or had a bf.
It was a community college.
I felt like I had no Freedom/Independence .
I could never find a part time Job so I had no $$$.
Pretty much most ppl were In and out. They already had there friends elsewhere or some kind of clique on campus and were not interested in anymore.
My campus was quite and didn't have much going on. Never heard about any parties.
I was never into sports so I didn't join a team and The only interesting club [videogame club] always ran when I had class. So I went to a few tourneys here and there but not enough to really no anyone.
It got to the point where I just went to class and then went home.
I wasn't even sure what to study anymore
I lost in touch with a lot of my hs friends unintentionally and also intentionally.
Dropped out this Semester and legit feel much better. I'm in the process of join USAF like I wanted to two years ago. Hopefully that will work out and I'll be able to continue my studies on my own terms.
Literally think we went to the same college.
Good luck in the AF, was a dream of mine in highschool sadly cannot because of stupid medical reasons that do not affect me in the slightest...
I felt lonely because I didn't connect with my peers. The experiences I had in life already created a divide to those in my age range, and what I thought of vocations, how I didn't value money when our generation almost values it more than literally anything else, to what I thought of the world were all concepts people near my age always found bizarre or never resonated with. I connected more with professors who have "seen the world" compared to people in their early 20's. I could talk to people just fine, but those near my age were at best acquaintances, never friends. They never got me. I felt like a man who had the mindset of someone in his mid-thirties surrounded by people who still value things one idolizes at the age of 15. I hold no idea that those who think that way were "less evolved" than myself, but I felt like I had to play dumb around others to fit it, and even then I didn't fit in because I knew that wasn't me.
Where do I start?
First off, I realized that my current major may not be something that I want to do as a career, and the major that I want to change to is impacted so there's not much I can do about that. I haven't made very many friends, just people that I speak to in some of my classes, but nothing really beyond that. They only friends I have here are people that I knew prior to going to college. None of the clubs interest me all that much and I have no idea what the hell I'm doing. I really don't. How far into college did it take you to get a stable group of friends and a handle on what was going on around you?
First off, I realized that my current major may not be something that I want to do as a career, and the major that I want to change to is impacted so there's not much I can do about that. I haven't made very many friends, just people that I speak to in some of my classes, but nothing really beyond that. They only friends I have here are people that I knew prior to going to college. None of the clubs interest me all that much and I have no idea what the hell I'm doing. I really don't. How far into college did it take you to get a stable group of friends and a handle on what was going on around you?
Necromanti
Member
I just think I need to stop procrastinating seeing a therapist. My problem stems more from my sexual orientation. You know you're doing something wrong when even straight men and women show more interest in you.
I was at a community college for my first two years, so there was no dorming to be hard there, for better or worse. And then transferring to a bigger campus (and an actual 4-year institution) for my last year and a half or so means a lot of people have already formed their friendships. But it's only my first quarter, so I'm going to try to get involved as soon as I can.
All in all, though...I am thankful for the experience.
For the most part and for most people, the university experience is what you make of it. Some people may have to put in more effort to get there, and some will have to move out of their comfort zones to a greater degree--which may or may not always lead to success--but you need to be an active participant or things will fall where they lie.
I'm kind of the same way when I think about it. I think a lot of it has to do with going to work straight out of high school and being with people working manual labor in their 40s and 50s. I went from having this mindset that "damn, I gotta make 80k+ a year to have a good time" to thinking that I don't really care how much I make as long as it gets the job done and I'm not living on the street. I'm already a few years older than my peers thanks to community college and working, so it doesn't help that there's that little disconnect.
Isolation, uncertainty, stress, loneliness, silent rides on public transport, acquaintances who may or may not drop off the face of the planet, mostly empty lecture halls, can't afford that coffee, overhear comments on miley cyrus, smartphones, numbness, headphones, disengaged tutor, even more disengaged student, assignment due next friday, walking in the rain.
Epsilon-delta
Banned
I became very much a Loner and Depressed the time I spent in College.
I never made any friends or had a bf.
It was a community college.
I felt like I had no Freedom/Independence .
I could never find a part time Job so I had no $$$.
Pretty much most ppl were In and out. They already had there friends elsewhere or some kind of clique on campus and were not interested in anymore.
My campus was quite and didn't have much going on. Never heard about any parties.
I was never into sports so I didn't join a team and The only interesting club [videogame club] always ran when I had class. So I went to a few tourneys here and there but not enough to really no anyone.
It got to the point where I just went to class and then went home.
I wasn't even sure what to study anymore
I lost in touch with a lot of my hs friends unintentionally and also intentionally.
Dropped out this Semester and legit feel much better. I'm in the process of join USAF like I wanted to two years ago. Hopefully that will work out and I'll be able to continue my studies on my own terms.
You'll do fine just make sure to save as much money as you can. Use tuition assistance to get a degree while you're in the military and if you decide to get out, use the GI Bill for your bachelor's or master's.
ThisWreckage
Banned
It's a period in my life that I'm completely ambivalent about.
Vigilant Walrus
Member
im nearing my 30s and I am still in community college, just drawing it out.to me it's just an institution. institution can't learn me how to live my life man. its just like going to a post office.
a post office were they JUDGE THE HELL OUT OF YOU. FRACK! Another F? Really? wha- why?? Why? Because it didn't live up to their so called "standards". give me a break! and another year of pointless classes to get a paper like everyone else.
Look - I'm not into anarchy, but the way we do schools is beyond crazy. Posting TED Sir Ken Robinson again; http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iG9CE55wbtY (i know, i know). but it's true!
a post office were they JUDGE THE HELL OUT OF YOU. FRACK! Another F? Really? wha- why?? Why? Because it didn't live up to their so called "standards". give me a break! and another year of pointless classes to get a paper like everyone else.
Look - I'm not into anarchy, but the way we do schools is beyond crazy. Posting TED Sir Ken Robinson again; http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iG9CE55wbtY (i know, i know). but it's true!
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Deleted member 8095
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I really enjoyed it! Pullman will always hold a special place in my heart and I love going back to visit for football games. Graduation was somewhat bittersweet as you know you can never get those years back and it means it's time to enter the real world.
BakedSardine
Banned
Wish I had been more confident, got laid more, and smoked less weed. Also should have majored in computer science (late 90's) - I was in the perfect position to head to Silicon Valley and become a millionaire!!!
Now married with kids and making really good money, so life could be worse, I guess.
Now married with kids and making really good money, so life could be worse, I guess.
dont call it a comeback
Banned
Navy Barracks were my college experience. It is pretty much all the things great about college (freedom, living close to friends, easy to socialize) but without the abundance of woman, but that is what bars are for.
Currently a senior in college, taking 15 units and working 45~ hours a week. Eat sleep study work and the gf is it for me.
Currently a senior in college, taking 15 units and working 45~ hours a week. Eat sleep study work and the gf is it for me.
It's good so far. it's community college but still it's pretty good. I took a year off after I finished high school and started college this semester. I don't hang out with friends as much because I chose to go to a different CC than them. I honestly think that was a good choice, I'm much more focused on my work and I have good grades. I've met some cool people and some assholes. My professors are also great. I didn't do much in highschool which I regret a lot. I graduated late because I was lazy and didn't try and I honestly wish I could go back and fix things. I'm hoping to transfer to SJSu or Berkeley in 2 years.
I feel I disagree even with that. I don't care about the figures, nor do I even care about doing a job so I am not homeless. I do not adhere to the idea of work just for the self, to sustain the self, which is absolutely counterintuitive to nearly all Western living. I simply wish to do something that impacts anyone, any individual beyond myself, in a genuinely meaningful way. If I were to do that just once, I feel I have lived a full life and would absolutely be ready for death. My struggle is still to find that, though I think I am getting close. I hold very little in terms of genuine desire beyond that.
It sounds so simple, but in truth it is one of the hardest mines to find gold in. It's so easy to do whatever for money, but it is so hard to do something that is all about helping another in such a vocation. I guess that's what makes the hunt so important.
Etrian Oddity
Member
Best fucking time of my life the first year, but I ended up dropping out due to finances and stress.
Partied hard but studied hard. I learned a lot about myself as a person, and was fortunate to be in a lot of amazing adventures and establish some incredible friendships. I have a ton of wonderful memories that will bring a smile to my face for years to come.
That being said, I had to get out. Stress over working full-time to make ends meet on top of a full class load, combined with relying on loans to finance my education began to physically affect my body. I began to resent how much of a scam the higher education industry is, and dropped out to enter a professional field that didn't require a bachelors (cooking).
I regret that I never got to have fun with girls as much as I wanted, though. Despite rushing a fraternity, partying all the time, and -- most importantly -- growing emotionally and mentally into a man, I only fooled around with a handful of girls, never got laid, and never had a girlfriend. This was at a party school with literally twice as many girls as guys, and they are all beautiful. BEING REPULSIVE FEELS BAD MAN
Partied hard but studied hard. I learned a lot about myself as a person, and was fortunate to be in a lot of amazing adventures and establish some incredible friendships. I have a ton of wonderful memories that will bring a smile to my face for years to come.
That being said, I had to get out. Stress over working full-time to make ends meet on top of a full class load, combined with relying on loans to finance my education began to physically affect my body. I began to resent how much of a scam the higher education industry is, and dropped out to enter a professional field that didn't require a bachelors (cooking).
I regret that I never got to have fun with girls as much as I wanted, though. Despite rushing a fraternity, partying all the time, and -- most importantly -- growing emotionally and mentally into a man, I only fooled around with a handful of girls, never got laid, and never had a girlfriend. This was at a party school with literally twice as many girls as guys, and they are all beautiful. BEING REPULSIVE FEELS BAD MAN
Iacobellis
Junior Member
Film is something I have considered as well as something such as graphic design. I've had a couple people tell me to try photography but it seems like such an unstable job to me. Maybe it's just my train of though, but photography seems like a freelance career. Like, it just doesn't seem like such a well-paying job, especially since it's 100% up to you to find the clients. Film would seem less risky as I would more likely be employed by a company.
This is just the way I see it. Part of me thinks I'm in the wrong, though.
paparazzo
Member
Stressful, largely. Went to CC for 3 years, both full time and part time with no real direction for a while. Ended up having to drop a couple of classes and fail one due to motivation/procrastination/insecurity issues. I mostly have my shit together now but procrastination still bites more often than it should.
I've been at a university since fall 2012 and honestly I miss the CC since it was 10 minutes from my house. I've made a lot of acquaintances at both schools and had some fun group projects but never made any real friends. I've always commuted to school but my parents have offered to pay for a dorm next year and from reading this thread and others, I think I'm gonna do it.
I've been at a university since fall 2012 and honestly I miss the CC since it was 10 minutes from my house. I've made a lot of acquaintances at both schools and had some fun group projects but never made any real friends. I've always commuted to school but my parents have offered to pay for a dorm next year and from reading this thread and others, I think I'm gonna do it.
firebricks3
Member
I was drunk a lot and did well. I'd say it was amazing.
BananaBomb
Member
crazy hours studying. not a lot of non-academic related fun. large payoff. now some nostalgia.
Spent the first two years at a commuter college, and then finally went off to school for my last 4 years (took things slow). My school (GSU) was in downtown Atlanta, so not a real college kinda place, but a large city. Once I turned 21 it was great, partied with friends a lot and spent an entire summer stoned. It was a much more adult environment than most college experiences, being in the city you are exposed to much more than you get in college towns. The friends I made, the classes I took, and the things I did shaped me immensely.
Right after I finished I moved to NYC, which has been another huge step in growth.
Do it man, get yourself out there and start meeting people and having fun.
Right after I finished I moved to NYC, which has been another huge step in growth.
Do it man, get yourself out there and start meeting people and having fun.
Bam Bam Baklava
Member
College is a lot like life. Some people strike it big and lead a good one while others are miserable.
Freshman year: boring as all hell. very few friends, and all of them were boring.
Sophomore year: kinda fun. joined a frat and made some good friends.
Junior year: the most depressing year of my life by far. all of my friends had graduated and my housemate was a psycho.
Senior year: took a semester off after the shitstorm that was my junior year, so I'll start back up in January.
Sophomore year: kinda fun. joined a frat and made some good friends.
Junior year: the most depressing year of my life by far. all of my friends had graduated and my housemate was a psycho.
Senior year: took a semester off after the shitstorm that was my junior year, so I'll start back up in January.
Thats the plan. Finish my associate's while i'm in . Then try to do ROTC at a college when I get out to become an Officer if I enjoy my time in.
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