I'm wondering what to do regarding how to budget.
I live in Brooklyn, I work in NYC, I've been poor for most of my life, my family is working class and I've never been able to afford college.
I live in a big city for opportunity.
I really need clothes, like really bad, my wardrobe is like two or three years old, but comprised of good brands I got on sale years ago.
I can't find anything I like at a reasonable price, and I have really bad insecurities due to suicidal depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder.
All the stuff I find to be affordable is a bit too hipster.
I checked out search and destroy on St. Marks and thought that had some fairly quirky yet interesting stuff at reasonable prices.
If I buy clothes though, I feel inclined to limit myself on food. I have a cup of coffee everyday to help with the dread anxiety that makes me wanna cry and scream everyday before work.
If I buy clothes, I'll feel inclined to cut that out.
I'll deprive myself then I always one day "go crazy" and spend like fifty on food alone.
Also, as I work a really difficult job, fifty or so hours a week, I am tired all the time.
I regularly sleep until noon as I don't get out until midnight typically, then commute plus food, plus anxiety, all add up to make it so I can't sleep until before five am typically.
I feel really deprived socially and I don't have any outlet or anyone who cares about me, so I have found writing is the only thing that helps.
My old laptop broke, and I feel without it I feel so lost, with all these thoughts in my head getting bogged up, affecting my day to day.
So I need clothes, food, but I also need a way of writing.
I need a laptop for a sense of permanence.
I could buy another journal, but I worry that one day I'll just wake up and get into a mood and die.
Like a few days ago before work I had this really euphoric idea of going into this beautiful Park and just listening to music with my sunglasses on before slitting my wrists and dying.
So I don't know if one day soon I might just suddenly kill myself.
I feel like my illness controls and directs every aspect of my life, after examining my history, and as I get older I just get worse.
Despite all this, I function very well in work and I have a great resume someone said, so if I can just hold on I could be fine.
I've been hospitalized several times, been on every type of medicine,saw therapists all my life, and I've just realized none of that helps,
if anything it sets me back.
The only thing that ever has helped me is having lasting, real relationships, but most people, especially girls, see how poor I am, how quirky or eccentric I am, and choose to keep a very safe distance, which is very painful to me.
I have some friends I talk to for support, but I don't tell anyone how I really feel as it always pushes people away invariably, and I'm fully aware of why that is.
Anyway, so what would people recommend? I honestly need someone to tell me what to do at this point iny life.
Go see a movie? Buy a laptop, buy clothes? Continue to save.
Sorry for being dark and negative. I love you guys all so much you have all helped me get through so much just by being naturally you're great selves.
Thanks.
I live in Brooklyn, I work in NYC, I've been poor for most of my life, my family is working class and I've never been able to afford college.
I live in a big city for opportunity.
I really need clothes, like really bad, my wardrobe is like two or three years old, but comprised of good brands I got on sale years ago.
I can't find anything I like at a reasonable price, and I have really bad insecurities due to suicidal depression, anxiety, borderline personality disorder.
All the stuff I find to be affordable is a bit too hipster.
I checked out search and destroy on St. Marks and thought that had some fairly quirky yet interesting stuff at reasonable prices.
If I buy clothes though, I feel inclined to limit myself on food. I have a cup of coffee everyday to help with the dread anxiety that makes me wanna cry and scream everyday before work.
If I buy clothes, I'll feel inclined to cut that out.
I'll deprive myself then I always one day "go crazy" and spend like fifty on food alone.
Also, as I work a really difficult job, fifty or so hours a week, I am tired all the time.
I regularly sleep until noon as I don't get out until midnight typically, then commute plus food, plus anxiety, all add up to make it so I can't sleep until before five am typically.
I feel really deprived socially and I don't have any outlet or anyone who cares about me, so I have found writing is the only thing that helps.
My old laptop broke, and I feel without it I feel so lost, with all these thoughts in my head getting bogged up, affecting my day to day.
So I need clothes, food, but I also need a way of writing.
I need a laptop for a sense of permanence.
I could buy another journal, but I worry that one day I'll just wake up and get into a mood and die.
Like a few days ago before work I had this really euphoric idea of going into this beautiful Park and just listening to music with my sunglasses on before slitting my wrists and dying.
So I don't know if one day soon I might just suddenly kill myself.
I feel like my illness controls and directs every aspect of my life, after examining my history, and as I get older I just get worse.
Despite all this, I function very well in work and I have a great resume someone said, so if I can just hold on I could be fine.
I've been hospitalized several times, been on every type of medicine,saw therapists all my life, and I've just realized none of that helps,
if anything it sets me back.
The only thing that ever has helped me is having lasting, real relationships, but most people, especially girls, see how poor I am, how quirky or eccentric I am, and choose to keep a very safe distance, which is very painful to me.
I have some friends I talk to for support, but I don't tell anyone how I really feel as it always pushes people away invariably, and I'm fully aware of why that is.
Anyway, so what would people recommend? I honestly need someone to tell me what to do at this point iny life.
Go see a movie? Buy a laptop, buy clothes? Continue to save.
Sorry for being dark and negative. I love you guys all so much you have all helped me get through so much just by being naturally you're great selves.
Thanks.