Do people often misjudge you based on your looks?

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People seem to be surprised by my level of intelligence, I'm not even all that smart but I get complimented a lot on my intelligence. Kind of a weird feeling.
 
I've had some women tell me they thought I'd be an asshole because I guess I'm attractive and have a nice body.

This is basically an exact quote from a girl I was dating a few months ago:

"I think you're the sweetest guy I've ever met and you're attractive which is great because most guys who are sweet are ugly."
 
I dress pretty bummy and am pretty modest, so when people find out about my family's affluence things get awkward fast.

There is nothing I hate more than when people treat me like a rich kid who spends his dad's money, because that could not be more wrong.

I guess there are worse problems to have.
 
I get all kinds of misjudgements.

-Once they actually talk to me, everyone and their mom thinks I'm 17 despite the fact I'm 26.
-People expect me to have some southern slang type accent and then they shit themselves when I don't have an accent (I mean I only lived in SC for 3 years of my life D:). One lady asked me if I was from Africa...because of my "accent" (I don't even).
-This guy thought I was gay because I'm black but wore nice clothing as part of my daily attire...o_O

Basically the typical stereotypes associated with black people.

But thankfully I'm only 5'8" and 138lb so I don't usually get the clutched purses thing...at least not that I've noticed...PROGRESS!
 
I'm 24 with very little facial hair and people tend to think I'm like 18 or 19. I show them my ID and they're surprised. Also being tall, I get asked if I play basketball all the time. I actually kinda sick at it.
 
Az987 said:
I've had some women tell me they thought I'd be an asshole because I guess I'm attractive and have a nice body.

This is basically an exact quote from a girl I was dating a few months ago:

"I think you're the sweetest guy I've ever met and you're attractive which is great because most guys who are sweet are ugly."
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Then you dumped her ass, didn't you.
 
I'm 5'7" and slim. I can't tell you how many times people have been surprised by my ability to lift something heavy, as if strength is exclusive to tall bulky guys. I try not to dwell on the implications toward how attractive women may find me.
 
Dice said:
I'm 5'7" and slim. I can't tell you how many times people have been surprised by my ability to lift something heavy, as if strength is exclusive to tall bulky guys. I try not to dwell on the implications toward how attractive women may find me.
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What are your lift numbers?
 
Gilby said:
What are your lift numbers?
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I don't work out in the gym, but I do manual labor for various reasons in my life like moving furniture and appliances helping someone move, heavy luggage when helping an international student, large bags of soil for gardening, logs when breaking down a tree, etc. Random stuff that was apparently heavy to others (often females in group efforts like these) and not expected of me to handle comfortably.
 
Had someone who later turned out to become a good friend tell me that she was originally hesitant to approach me because she thought I was stuck up. Her reasoning was since I rarely talked or made eye contact with other people in our class that she figured I was self-absorbed. She got the polar opposite impression of how I really am -- just extremely shy.
 
I'm a 300+ pound guy who just wears a regular tshirt and maybe jeans. I'm not one for styling my hair or doing anything out of the ordinary.

Because of this, everyone assumes I'm the average dumb, fat hick.

You have no idea how many times a WEEK someone says "Oh wow, you're really smart/cultured...I thought you were the average loser who listens to top 40 music or extreme sporting/wrestling/fighting or goes muddin'..."


When I've said I'm a writer, I have had people laugh in my face.

I'm getting accepted more, maybe because I look and dress like Louie CK.
 
Maninthemirror said:
People think im hispanic in the way i talk and act, except my background is pakistani
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I've got the reverse of that, I'm Hispanic but people think I'm from South Asia. Apparently, the Italian in me giving me my hair and eyebrow size makes me look un-Hispanic. Who would have thunk.
 
I have the kind of appearance that makes people think I'm the spawn of Satan and quite intimidating and that I never smile.

But I'm actually really nice

until you stab me in the back and then I'll have to bite you.
 
Oh lord misread, too high. Yes, I'm a big guy 6'4, 250lbs and I'm not a particularly happy looking guy walking around. So I suspect some people feel threatened by me.
 
EMT0 said:
I've got the reverse of that, I'm Hispanic but people think I'm from South Asia. Apparently, the Italian in me giving me my hair and eyebrow size makes me look un-Hispanic. Who would have thunk.
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Also, I've had people think I'm both much younger than I am or much older. I'm 29, but some people think I'm in my early 20s. When I was in my early 20s I had people think I'm in my early 30s. When I was 12 I had someone think I was the wife of the house.


And I dress in very feminine clothes, primarily in 50s-60s style (no, not goth rockabilly or pin-up style either) and people never guess that I'm just a huge nerd. Though it can get a bit annoying when people ask if I need help picking out a game for my boyfriend.
 
Platy said:
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Yeah, but by other girls? You'd think they'd know better.

cloudwalking said:
Had someone who later turned out to become a good friend tell me that she was originally hesitant to approach me because she thought I was stuck up. Her reasoning was since I rarely talked or made eye contact with other people in our class that she figured I was self-absorbed. She got the polar opposite impression of how I really am -- just extremely shy.
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I'm always surprised by just how many people mistake shyness for this.
 
I have curly brown hair, a thickish strong body, and pale white skin. People look at me and know I'm Irish. Based on my demeanor at a particular time, people may think I'm crazy or nice.
 
My last girlfriend thought I was a Mexican Vagrant, I'm often told I'm middle eastern which I'm not, and I've been accused of sending a bomb threat to my school, and I used to be pulled over by police daily for walking down the street I think they assumed I was a drug dealer. So yes I am very often misjudged.
 
There's the obvious, where people assume I'm younger than I am based on how I look. I've had people say my interests or hobbies are broad, even though I think it's quite narrow. I just tend to pay attention to things and take casual interest in other stuff unexpectedly.

I leave confusing first impressions on people, especially with regards to personality..
 
cloudwalking said:
Had someone who later turned out to become a good friend tell me that she was originally hesitant to approach me because she thought I was stuck up. Her reasoning was since I rarely talked or made eye contact with other people in our class that she figured I was self-absorbed. She got the polar opposite impression of how I really am -- just extremely shy.
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I can relate to this.
 
Kiarushka said:
I have the kind of appearance that makes people think I'm the spawn of Satan and quite intimidating and that I never smile.

But I'm actually really nice

until you stab me in the back and then I'll have to bite you.
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Reminds me of how very single "goth" kid I knew growing up was actually very open and warm and kind. People would still judge them, despite the fact that one of them especially could make the most delicious pies...
 
Yes it's bad.

I look super serious and ueber German. I have wiry, dark hair and a severe, gaunt, hawk-like visage and have a really deep masculine voice.

In reality I'm very effeminate and almost pathologically sensitive.
 
I don't want to say people might think I look intimidating, which I don't really...but I can't find a better word. People assume I'm "standoff-ish" you know? But I'm actually pretty damn approachable/nice.
 
I had a beard and was a bit chubby for pretty much my entire twenties, so I looked older to most, which helped because of my job.

So right before I hit 30 I decided to lose the extra weight and shave, and now I look younger, which helps because of my job.

So the lesson here is, always looks like you're in your mid to late twenties if you want to be a valued professional.
 
Pau said:
Yeah, but by other girls? You'd think they'd know better.
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We live in a post Dark Knight trilogy/Avengers movie world .... if girls are bored in a nerd meeting it is because they have serious prejudice with the nerd culture as a boys club

bengraven said:
Reminds me of how very single "goth" kid I knew growing up was actually very open and warm and kind. People would still judge them, despite the fact that one of them especially could make the most delicious pies...
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Last week I saw a bearded dude with a metallica shirt and a pentagram collar say that the goth chicks looked evil.
 
I'm 31 but still look like I'm in high school. People accuse me of lying about my age all the time and I've even had people at bars accuse me of having a fake ID.

I'm also always mistaken for looking "really smart" (think this is a nice way of saying "god you're nerdy looking") when I'm actually pretty darn stupid. I also get mistaken for a woman when I grown my hair long.
 
The probably misjudge certain aspects. I think they know/assume right that I'm fairly smart, but I don't smile a ton or like my neutral expression is a bit of slight scowl, so I think they assume that I don't enjoy a lot of stuff or I'm just a sour person all the time. Which I guess it kinda true, based on conversations I've had with close friends about our personalities that each other see, but I think other people see it more that what my friends do.
 
I've often been labeled "the hot guy," and while that sounds nice it's frustrating when you're trying to get people to value other aspects besides your looks. They don't even listen to you. It's like you're an object, some kind of other thing. I have a coworker who calls me Fabio, and I'm sure it's in good fun, but every time it feels like a jab.

Sometimes I find people who are suspicious or afraid of me, I think because I like to keep my hair long and I sometimes let my facial hair grow. I've noticed security eyeing or following me around in stores, and even at work I've had security guards try to pin things on me, with the logic "just look at him!" I've had a couple of people comment to me that they'd be afraid if I was the only person in a room with them, or if they met me alone in an alley.

People sometimes make jokes that I look like Jesus. I was loading meds on the psych floor at work and had a patient ask me if I was Jesus there to see him.
 
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