Do you like being alone?
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Yes, I value my peace of mind.
I do like being around people who I like though, I've got no problems with socializing or anything like that, but you do get the odd one here or there, mainly strangers for that matter who talk too much, and I find it a bit draining when being talked AT instead of being talked TOO.
Unfortunately I'm not the passive type, so I either walk off or just tell them about themselves. i.e They're not that interesting for me to want to listen to them talk for hours non stop..
I do like being around people who I like though, I've got no problems with socializing or anything like that, but you do get the odd one here or there, mainly strangers for that matter who talk too much, and I find it a bit draining when being talked AT instead of being talked TOO.
Unfortunately I'm not the passive type, so I either walk off or just tell them about themselves. i.e They're not that interesting for me to want to listen to them talk for hours non stop..
PaddyOCanager
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I'm the only child of an only child of an only child. I have no cousins either. I am used to being alone, in fact I really enjoy it. That being said, I think this is partly the reason I have so many friends - people seem to gravitate to others who are comfortable with themselves. Because of this I also don't care what other people think of me, so it's easier to be confident and outgoing. I'm also perfectly fine jumping right into unfamiliar situations - like going to Costa Rica with twelve people I've never met before.
However, it wasn't easy getting to this point. I had seriously underdeveloped social skills until I went to college. It's still difficult for me to let people get really close, but overall I'm as happy as anyone - alone or otherwise.
However, it wasn't easy getting to this point. I had seriously underdeveloped social skills until I went to college. It's still difficult for me to let people get really close, but overall I'm as happy as anyone - alone or otherwise.
plasticpassion
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nVidiot_Whore said:
Don't let her go!
Sure...everyone needs some alone time.
Being alone all the time?
NOT GOOD.
edit: as far as the girlfriend/wive thing. I don't care if my wife and I don't share the same hobbies. I'm actually glad my wife doesn't care about heavy metal/wrestling/anime etc. She should be a normal girl that likes to do girly things. And we respect each others hobbies but still have plenty of things in common in between. Most important of all...is values. If you don't share the same values then you are fucked. Hobbies don't matter..
Being alone all the time?
NOT GOOD.
edit: as far as the girlfriend/wive thing. I don't care if my wife and I don't share the same hobbies. I'm actually glad my wife doesn't care about heavy metal/wrestling/anime etc. She should be a normal girl that likes to do girly things. And we respect each others hobbies but still have plenty of things in common in between. Most important of all...is values. If you don't share the same values then you are fucked. Hobbies don't matter..
Broder Salsa
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Yeah I do. My best guess for the reason is that when I went to middle school and high school I lived like 50 meters away from the school building which meant I constantly had several friends over every day, got me kind of overloaded with constantly having people around and now I really enjoy silence without people talking all the time.
I obviously like being with people too but just not all the time, I like having periods of time alone.
I obviously like being with people too but just not all the time, I like having periods of time alone.
gutter_trash
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same sentiment.jmdajr said:
when I stay alone for a long time, I start doing stupid things like spending sprees, skipping meals, wasting away doing nothing
i need some human connectivity to get me normalized into human behavior
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nVidiot_Whore
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lethial said:
jmdajr said:
Like I said.. never thought it seemed like a great idea, or even all that possible.
But it works for me personally, and then some.
It helps that I'm 32.. lived a life if debauchery and excess until I was 30 or so.. I am pretty content with a fairly stable life that consists of mostly just hanging out and having a good time.. good food.. good sex.. good entertainment via games and TV/film.. and other than that, just enjoying this beautiful area.
Also, my girlfriend is only 20. And hot. That helps a lot too. We are similar in good ways, but different in the right ways.. I'm a "take charge" type person for instance, and she's a "let him take charge" type person.
YES. I love being alone and being able to do what I want, when I want to. I see no incentive to ever get married or even have a girlfriend anymore, I can just get sex without the endless hassles of a relationship.
As I said in the young people getting married thread, I ended a 4 year relationship about a year ago (I'm 27 now for reference) because I was tired of coming home from work and being hassled immediately, as well as spending most of my free time and money on her.
This past year has been the greatest of my life, or at the very least since I was a kid. I can come home from work and put 5 hours into games and talk to friends if I want to, and no one can lecture me otherwise. I can put 10 on an offday if I want and nothing bad happens. It's been amazing and I had forgotten just how free you are when you're not shackled by a relationship.
As I said in the young people getting married thread, I ended a 4 year relationship about a year ago (I'm 27 now for reference) because I was tired of coming home from work and being hassled immediately, as well as spending most of my free time and money on her.
This past year has been the greatest of my life, or at the very least since I was a kid. I can come home from work and put 5 hours into games and talk to friends if I want to, and no one can lecture me otherwise. I can put 10 on an offday if I want and nothing bad happens. It's been amazing and I had forgotten just how free you are when you're not shackled by a relationship.
I'm used to being alone. Partly by choice and partly by things I can't control. Learn how to live with yourself, learn how to actually be alone, and then you'll learn how to be with other people. I'm still trying to work on living with myself. I have plenty of close friends, of course, and they help my loneliness.
EraldoCoil
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I enjoy my alone time, I like a quiet house where I can just read or relax without any noise or distractions. I do also like to balance it out by spending time with others though.
SneakyStephan
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nVidiot_Whore said:
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nVidiot_Whore
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jmdajr said:
Haha.. you don't have to keep your mouth shut. When I was 27 or so I dated a 19 year old.. and it was a nightmare.. and I swore off ever even talking to anyone that age. I'll just say she's different and leave it at that. Being young increases the chances she'll change a lot.. but she is also a happy person.. content with who she is and her life.
I really cherish the time I spend alone. With that said, being with friends and whatnot is equally great, but I have to admit, sometimes I get tired being around them. It's all about striking a good balance. I try to be with all of my friends at the very least once per week, as I feel that being with them is important. This is sometimes very hard, due to time constraints, but hey, sometimes you just gotta make some sacrifices to be with the ones you love.
I don't really mind if the people around me don't have the same interests as me, because most of the time, I introduce those very same people to the things I like and they end up getting into them. Sometimes, the opposite happens. Heh, I guess that's how most relationships grow strong, eh?
I don't really mind if the people around me don't have the same interests as me, because most of the time, I introduce those very same people to the things I like and they end up getting into them. Sometimes, the opposite happens. Heh, I guess that's how most relationships grow strong, eh?
bloodforge
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I prefer being alone since most people annoy the shit out of me by talking too much. I do not like having conversions, get to the point then shut the hell up and go away.
I'm sure this makes me sound like a complete dick.
I'm sure this makes me sound like a complete dick.
IcyBlueStrawberry
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I like my alone time.
Sometimes it's good to have other people around, but for the most part I'd prefer to be alone with my thoughts.
Sometimes it's good to have other people around, but for the most part I'd prefer to be alone with my thoughts.
SolidusDave
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I like being alone, I never feel lonely. I even hardly miss family or friends if I don't seen them for a longer period of time (but I enjoy seeing them again). There are a few people I would not mind having around as long as they like though, basically when I'm in love with a girl.
I don't like being bored though, but as I can fulfill most of hobbies&interests at home, that's never an issue.
However, at work I interact with a lot of people, also doing social stuff together etc. Plus discussing topics on a big forum like this kinda counts as interacting with other people I guess.
So that's also adding to me not wanting to be around people all the time.
(oh and I'm quite selective in deciding which people I really like and which people I don't care for / find annoying/stupid etc. The latter being the bigger group by far obviously and I try hard to not waste my time on them)
I don't like being bored though, but as I can fulfill most of hobbies&interests at home, that's never an issue.
However, at work I interact with a lot of people, also doing social stuff together etc. Plus discussing topics on a big forum like this kinda counts as interacting with other people I guess.
So that's also adding to me not wanting to be around people all the time.
(oh and I'm quite selective in deciding which people I really like and which people I don't care for / find annoying/stupid etc. The latter being the bigger group by far obviously and I try hard to not waste my time on them)
I dislike being alone, but I dislike finding myself in awkward situations more.
Being as socially-handicapped as I am, these awkward situations occur with the vast, vast majority of people I find myself sharing space with. I feel bad for inflicting that unpleasant - almost tangible - air of surfacing discomfort on people, triggering in them that specific ugh-how-do-I-extract-myself-from-this-person's-company-without-it-being-obvious? flight reflex. You know the feeling I mean, right? Well I am that guy, the one who causes it - and here's the thing: I'm completely aware that's what's going through your mind. Where some have a knack for polite conversation or banter or whatever your own particular brand of interraction is, I have a noisy void of thought, save for wanting to apologise for being an inconvenience. And, as such, awkwardness abounds.
So, as a rule nowadays, I keep myself to myself. It ain't ideal, but it's a damn sight easier to handle.
Being as socially-handicapped as I am, these awkward situations occur with the vast, vast majority of people I find myself sharing space with. I feel bad for inflicting that unpleasant - almost tangible - air of surfacing discomfort on people, triggering in them that specific ugh-how-do-I-extract-myself-from-this-person's-company-without-it-being-obvious? flight reflex. You know the feeling I mean, right? Well I am that guy, the one who causes it - and here's the thing: I'm completely aware that's what's going through your mind. Where some have a knack for polite conversation or banter or whatever your own particular brand of interraction is, I have a noisy void of thought, save for wanting to apologise for being an inconvenience. And, as such, awkwardness abounds.
So, as a rule nowadays, I keep myself to myself. It ain't ideal, but it's a damn sight easier to handle.
GhostRidah
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Pretty much summed it up, I love my alone time and I stay single for long periods of time until I find a women who has very similar interests as myself. Which is hard and can take years, but being alone makes it better when I do find those women.nVidiot_Whore said:
Toodles said:
It's all about finding the right company. Knew a guy exactly like you and, at first, I'd react exactly like you described, but as time went on, he turned out to be an awesome guy and that feeling went away. I imagine that sometimes it's hard to keep on trying, but don't ever give up, man.
revolverjgw
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I like being alone, I probably like it too much. I've always got an excuse ready to avoid having to go out, and I'm never bored or actively wanting company. I can't say I'm happy about it, though... I wish I was an extrovert, it would make things a lot simpler.
I love being alone, It gets so frustrating for me when friends bombard me asking me to do stuff 24/7. Usually after a week of doing stuff every single day I'll just start not responding to people asking to chill so I can do absolutely nothing and talk to no one (aside from texts but that barely counts) for a week or 2 weeks straight. Of course, after awhile I'll get a little lonely from being home for 2 weeks or whatever and then I'll start the cycle all over again.
lethial said:
22, my GF is 18. It's frightening how smart and levelheaded she is. I've dated girls much older than her who were dumber than dirt and acted like spoiled brats. She's beyond any girl I could ever dream about. She's wonderful. What makes her great and what makes her flawed I love equally. If she was absolutely perfect, there would no room for growth, no reason to explore and no capacity to learn. Even if a universally ideal woman existed, I could assure you that she'd be the most boring person on Earth. Everything about her would be predictable. Nothing would ever change. Nothing would ever be challenged. Nothing could ever improve. Believe it or not, it's the bad times that make the good even better. Without one, the other couldn't exist, or at least, wouldn't have meaning.
Anyway, I love what makes my girl who she is. Her body, her mind and her heart. Everything about her gives me sense of calmness I never thought possible. Somehow, almost every single day, she finds little ways to impress me. She tells me that I'm the reason she's the happiest she's ever been in her life. Our mutual adoration comes from our realization that niether of us are perfect. Our bond is as strong as it is because we're willing to work things out and make necessary sacrifices to make each other happy. We're both honest about what we want, our motives and go about things with as much logic and reasoning as possible.
Needless to say, she's everything I've wanted, and more. I'd never thought I'd meet a girl like her in a billion years, especially after my last relationship.
DjangoReinhardt
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I love being alone. I'm naturally an introvert, but can turn on the the extrovert button when necessary. Still, it's so much more draining to be "on" around people compared to how relaxing it is for me to be by myself. I also much prefer to hang out with one or two people, rather than a group.
BruiserBear
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dvolovets said:
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nVidiot_Whore
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lethial said:
Yeah.. 32 and 20 here.. met when she was 19. We joke about it a lot.. my family hasn't really acted strange about it at all.. which is nice.
Deified Data
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There's nothing I want more after a long day at work than to spend a few hours in total isolation - there's no feeling like it. I get sort of mad when people force themselves into my schedule - "Let's see a movie!" - how does one say "No, I'd rather be alone than hang out with you" without sounding like a douche?
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