Does online dating still have a stigma?

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I just finished watching Jimmy Kimmel's Pedestrian Question segment regarding the subject and the audience almost unanimously agrees on the person having sex with someone online when they're ugly or fat. The responses from some people are also appalling. The first person they ask calls it "creepy" and "disease fested." Really?

Surely more people are using services such as OKC and POF by now, but is this segment an accurate barometer of how things still are? Maybe "online sex" isn't comparable to "online dating" and this whole thread is pointless.
 
Absolutely. I mentioned it to a co-worker after she complained about a limited dating pool, and she said "I'm not that desperate yet!"
 
There's still a stigma with online dating being just for the "undateble" but it's lessening every year as it becomes a more popular/supplemental way of dating.

Everyone I know uses Tinder (you could say that's a form of online dating) and no one says it's creepy to use it. Sure, there's creepy people on it, but the act of itself isn't.
 
A female coworker once asked me how I met my girlfriend and when I told her, she exclaimed "you had to meet someone online?!", like I was too good to "resort" to that.
yes, it was a not-so-subtle and awkward
 
idk, i get it. the idea of finding a relationship through such a calculated method seems a bit weird but if it works for people who have trouble meeting people in the real, then it's something that works. i can't scoff too much, i've hooked up and dated many people through facebook, so i get the appeal.
 
Scroll through the profiles and check the variations on "Willing to lie about how we met" and "I don't even know why I'm here," and you'll probably be able to answer your own question.
 
Too youg to do online dating. My campus is filled with girls, especially my major.

Yes there is a stigma, nothing wrong with it though. Seems a lot more viable then meeting with randoms.
 
Well, I met my wife through an online dating website back in 2002, and I didn't care about any "stigma" then.
As far as now - who cares? Just do what you want.
 
In NYC, the percentage of single folks doing online dating is somewhere near... oh.. 97%.
 
I know a 19 year old that admits to having sex over 30 guys(separately) that told me that I'd only meet disease ridden skanks online lol I know lots of people that all met through Internet dating so I think generally it's looked on favourably nowadays. Especially in the 40+ bracket
 
Isn't online dating where the majority of couples meet nowadays? Most people only talk about it like it's weird because they think they're supposed to.
 
If you're a girl yes. If you're a guy... yes - unless you use it as a side-thing and not as your end-all solution to not being single.
 
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I haven't actually done it yet (too self conscious really) but I find it silly that online dating is so stigmatized. I feel like it can help better filter out shitty people you have few shared interests with.

idk someone correct me if I'm wrong.
 
I use it. I've met some cool people and gotten laid a few times. I moved to a new city and only have one other friend. What else am I suppose to do to meet people. Plus as a nerdy Jewish liberal guy in Oklahoma. The chances of me stumbling into someone who wouldn't hate me based on one of those traits is next to none.

Some of my female coworkers judged me when I mentioned I was doing it but they're all in their late 20s and single and lonely so they clearly don't have a better solution.
 
at least for people in my age range and circle, it's a non issue now. back when I was in college it was a little weird, but a lot of people hooked up through myspace so idk.

and it doesn't really sound like 'online dating' vs 'arranging dates online'.
 
i think the myspace era kind of cleared the stigma.. but there are still some who are kind of iffy about it, mostly older folk of course

in a lot of cases it's virtually the only way to meet other people
 
A lot of people feel if you have to resort to a "dating service", online or not, that carries a stigma. It implies a weakness that a person is not attractive or social enough to find someone through "normal" interactions.

Bottom line: don't worry about a stigma and give online dating a go. It might be awkward at first, but it can be a useful tool in meeting people you would never otherwise have met.
 
Surprisingly not from my experience.

The woman I've been dating for close to 6 months I met on OKCupid. When people ask how we met it was initially a little embarrassing to say online, but most people just say stuff like "huh, really? That's cool, I've have a friend or two that have tried that."

Other woman I had dated shorter term I would say we met at a coffee shop or something until I stopped being embarrassed about it enough to lie about something so minor.
 
Been online dating for 11 years now. Started on yahoo chat. I'm not a very outwardly social person. ... it works.

The people who look down on it are apparently a little oblivious its 2014 and the internet is prevalent. There's no way the average person meets all their potential mates in person. Let that shit go. If you have to lie about how you met someone youre happy with then that's just as sad.
 
Pffft. No. At least not where I live. It is just a nice convenient way to meet people. Is hitting on people at a bar somehow more dignified? LOL.

Edit: That said . . . it really depends on the service you use and how you use it. If you are just hooking up on Grindr then . . . well that is one thing. If you are just doing some dates on match.com, that is another.
 
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You'd be surprised. People still think it's something others that aren't "good enough" use to pick up girls in real life have to do, as if it's the easy out (when most of the times it's actually quite the opposite).
 
I guess some people don't want to tell their kids, I've met your dad on a dating site.

Also I had the worst luck on dating sites, I just feel like I was just constantly and constantly sending girls messages and when they responded, I had so much pressure of saying the perfect thing to make her interested. Is nerve racking for someone as easy going as me.
 
I dated online exclusively from 2000-2003. It had a pretty bad stigma then but I think it's pretty much gone now by comparison. Btw, it was fucking amazing and I loved it.

I met my wife online. One of my really good friends met his wife online as well. Pretty much every "single and looking" person I know has a dating profile on some site somewhere.
 
I feel its still there but far more accepted then say 5-10 years ago. I think people have just smartened up to the fact its not all bad to get some small chat out of the way online before you set up a date or just a casual get together when you both have nothing to do for the day. Also it opens up your area, specially if you live in a non-metro area. Instead of just your small towns, now you can easily meet up with people within your willing driving distance.
 
Match are running an advert here in the UK in which it's said one in four relationships now start on line. It's working quite well for me (which is to say it's added a bit of colour to my otherwise grey and miserable life). I couldn't give a rat's cock if it's looked down upon as a means of meeting a SO.
 
I'm not sure why it'd even be a problem in the first place. You met online and are probably happy. What's the problem?

People who lie about meeting their current partner are pretty bad. I know a couple dudes who would not be caught admitting that they found their gf online. I find it hilarious. If it's that bad they should stay single.
 
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