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[REE Machine]

Reference I have a 10 month old currently in the hospital with my wife with a high fever and vomiting. Due to covid I have to stay outside and wont be let in. But generally the scheer panic I feel because she is so younf and fragile at such a young age is breaking my heart. No idea how some of you do it, Im a sensitive ball of emotions right now. I know she'll be fine but god damn, just hits you hard. God bless all the parents who went through this and worse.

 

[epicnemesis]

My daughter fell when she was 2 and the tip of her right ring finger and middle finger was severed to the bone. It was the absolute worst day of my life, I remember every detail of it and I think I have what must be a mild PTSD from it.

That whole day, I knew the worst case scenario was whether the scar would be bad or not and I was still utterly devastated. I have no idea how parents of kids with cancer or something else that is equally severe do it. There is a parental strength there that I don’t think I have, and I pray to God I never have to find out.

 

[Flying Toaster]

When its your kid it is the worst. Once you have a kid you understand all the other parents. I know this seems hollow because of how impersonal message boards are but really best of luck and I hope you can get over this soon. Just tell yourself how you will feel when she moves out I would imagine that is going to be hard as hell. I imagine your daughter will be pinging off walls in a few days and you will be amazed at how things were just a few days prior.

 

[REE Machine]

When its your kid it is the worst. Once you have a kid you understand all the other parents. I know this seems hollow because of how impersonal message boards are but really best of luck and I hope you can get over this soon. Just tell yourself how you will feel when she moves out I would imagine that is going to be hard as hell. I imagine your daughter will be pinging off walls in a few days and you will be amazed at how things were just a few days prior.

Yeah most deff, hardest thing right now is I have to stay outside and wife is alone and I know little baby girl has some sorr of flu with high fever. Feels like an eternity to get her better, but granted we've been at the hospital for almost 7 and a half hours now so that makes it worse. Thanks for the kind words.

 

[Stiflers Mom]

My older son had severe breathing problems when he was around 8 to 10 months old. Sometime I even stayed in hospital with him for the night, while he was hanging on some machine that checked his pulse.

One time we even had an ambulance car at night bringing him there.

A couple of nights when this wasn't as severe, I slept in a sitting position with holding him upright, so he could breath more easily.

Stuff like this is so horrible...
Everything is fine now with him, though. Normal seven year old boy without any health issues whatsoever ever anymore.
You have to push through this shit, eventually everything will be alright...

 

[REE Machine]

My older son had severe breathing problems when he was around 8 to 10 months old. Sometime I even stayed in hospital with him for the night, while he was hanging on some machine that checked his pulse.

One time we even had an ambulance car at night bringing him there.

A couple of nights when this wasn't as severe, I slept in a sitting position with holding him upright, so he could breath more easily.

Stuff like this is so horrible...
Everything is fine now with him, though. Normal seven year old boy without any health issues whatsoever ever anymore.
You have to push through this shit, eventually everything will be alright...

Thanks for the words of encouragement, and glad your little man is doing well

 

[quickwhips]

Reference I have a 10 month old currently in the hospital with my wife with a high fever and vomiting. Due to covid I have to stay outside and wont be let in. But generally the scheer panic I feel because she is so younf and fragile at such a young age is breaking my heart. No idea how some of you do it, Im a sensitive ball of emotions right now. I know she'll be fine but god damn, just hits you hard. God bless all the parents who went through this and worse.

Sorry your having to deal with this. Stay strong be the rock the family needs and the place for the wife to vent. If you need to chat I’m available. A dad job is tough but making great children is worth it.

 

[MilkLizard]

My oldest son had a bad virus when he was 4 months old and had to spent 10 days in hospital. My wife and I split the "duty" of being there with him. I was a wreck and I was constantly scared but we all made it through and came out stronger and so will you. Stay strong brother, for yourself and your family.

 

[EverydayBeast]

You need something to stay focused, those are hard situations and being a "sensitive ball of emotions" isn't going to cut it.

 

[DeepBreath87]

My son had like 3 bouts of what, at the time, seemed like asthma, although might have been a reactive airways thing. We had 3 different ED visits and one overnight with O2. I was a ball of nerves for like six months after that. Every time he cough, I'd get this feeling of dread and being irritable. I'm finally getting over it. Plus, he has not had another issues for coming up on a year. There's nothing like your kid being in the hospital though. Its one of the worst things I've every experienced.

 

[SpartanN92]

I feel you. I also have a ten month old little girl. Last week she had a fever of 102 for about two hours and she was projectile vomiting. For three days I checked her temperature every hour on the hour. I would take her temp three times to get an average and I wrote it down in a journal. I think I went a little insane during that time. I was a ball of anxiety and I wasn’t behaving rationally.

 

[Cunth]

My kids take care of themselves

 

[Shizumapower]

Standing in a 20 people deep line waiting to get medication for my son's very rough whooping cough...

It'll rip your heart out.

The cough was so bad the entire line stepped aside for me to get the medication.

Your genetics kick in to high gear to protect what you created.

 

[synchronicity]

Yeah op, deeply loving another comes with fragility built-in. Just make peace with the fact that you know you will do all you can for your loved ones and surrender any idea of control about outcomes. Love fully and let go.

 

[Ceallach]

Oh my god. When my daughter was three she swallowed a Euro and could barely breathe. She said it was a penny so I thought naturally it would dislodge being so small, but a euro is much larger than a penny. I ended up taking her to the ER and she could barely breathe and was drooling everywhere, i was so worried. Nothing compared to all of these other things.

 

[Birdo]

Be thankful that you have emotions.

If I had a kid in hospital, i'd be outside playing Tetris on my phone.

 

[REE Machine]

She was running s fever of about 40 celcius, doc thinks its a viral infection so its good she got her vaccines at 6 months to help fight it. Fever comes and goes with the baby tylenol. Hasnt thrown up for atleast 10 hours so thsts good, wife and i have been giving her G2 as doctor requested to replace electrolytes. Shes only had 120ml since 7 this morning but atleast itll keep her hydrated and she is peeing as well

thanks for all the positive feedback, appreciate it.

 

[jason10mm]

Think about what pre-20th century folks (and current people in impoverished nations) must have felt. Very high infant mortality before 2 years of age. Have as many kids as possible so at least some survive to adulthood. Lose a wife roughly 1-2% of the time to childbirth.

Life is terrifying.

 

[BigBooper]

You do it because you don't have the option not to.

 

[Krappadizzle]

My wife came down with covid-19 a week before our date for induction on the 14th. I was so pissed as I figured I'd test positive and wouldn't get to see the birth of my daughter.

Some how I tested negative and we got to the hospital on Tuesday. Tried for 2 days to get her induced and her body just wouldn't do it. Finally settled on a C-section. Baby came out perfect. 8lbs. 10oz. 20inches long. Giant baby.

Wife having to deal with a brutal cough with incision cuts has been pretty brutal for her, but she's working through it. She had relatively mild Covid symptoms all together other than the cough and I've had no issues with it.

Still in the hospital. They have to do a Covid test on our daughter, if everything goes well we should be leaving in the next 2 hours or so.

Covid has made this whole process awful.

 

[King of Foxes]

Reference I have a 10 month old currently in the hospital with my wife with a high fever and vomiting. Due to covid I have to stay outside and wont be let in. But generally the scheer panic I feel because she is so younf and fragile at such a young age is breaking my heart. No idea how some of you do it, Im a sensitive ball of emotions right now. I know she'll be fine but god damn, just hits you hard. God bless all the parents who went through this and worse.

From one father to another i know and understand how you feel.

This might sound hard but its what my grandfather said to me when my 4 month old son was in intensive care.

Whats most important now is for you to look strong, go and cry alone if you must but your kids and most importantly wife must never see you cry or be unsure, they should always see you as their anchor. By nature the kids will look to her and then she to you.

This is what being a father is op, you stand tall and absorb the whole family's pain and grief.

Stay strong, this is your natural role.

 

[GAMETA]

I know the feeling very well, but they are tough little ones, man. It's part of their immune system development, she'll be alright.

My son had bronchitis from young age, every winter my wife and I were fearful because we knew he'd get sick and would need asthma bombs and maybe visits to the hospital, and the feeling you get seeing your kid struggle to breath at night is the worst thing ever, but as he got older he got tougher and doesn't need it anymore, and we as parents got tougher too... what I mean is, this won't be the last time your daughter get sick, but she'll get better every time, you gotta believe it and stay calm.

3 years ago my son broke his left foot playing soccer at school, he hit his head and needed stitches on his chin... the despair my wife and I felt when we got the call can't be explained, that shit was brutal, but the same goes for the pride in seeing him overcoming it as he did. They're tough little ones, they get through it. So will your daughter, she'll get better soon, man