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[Meadows]

I think that if he told his brother (who was/is in the army) he would literally kill him.

That's seriously fucked up though.

 

[KO Traveling Hobo]

I think that if he told his brother (who was/is in the army) he would literally kill him.

Or worse: himself.

 

[Meadows]

Or worse: himself.

the entire situation is like a powder keg of suicide, murder, murder/suicide

 

[Avixph]

This might end up with a triple suicide and an abandoned child.

 

[DrBo42]

It's a doozy. I slept with my brothers first g/f and future wife. We were both 16 at the time and my brother was 14. They weren't having sex, and she didn't know how to make it so they would and i sorta took advantage of it by telling her I could help. We had sex constantly, but, I never felt any love with her, and she sadly did love me. I felt bad, but, she was so damn hot and I was horny and lonely. When they finally started having sex, she lied and said she was a virgin to him and he believed it. She never really loved him but was too afraid to break his heart because she was very weak willed and shy. She grew up very socially awkward, had few friends and was just odd. After we graduated HS we both stayed at home and went to a Community College. her grades were terrible and she couldn't afford a university. I as well. Things got worse when my brother after graduating went off to join the army. He told me before he shipped out, he wanted to marry her before he left.

I didn't have anything to say, but, good luck. I wish I could have told him how she really felt. That night I got the worst news of my life when she told me she was pregnant. I asked her if it was ours or his, and she didn't know. I told her, she had to get an abortion. Im then told her we had to stop having sex, and just sorta end the relation between us. She cried, because she to my horror loved me. I managed to guilt trip her into getting the abortion by saying "if you really love me you'll do it and then we'll see what happens", despite her wanting to have the child. I knew she would be devastated but kept on pushing her. A couple days later she got the abortion, and that was the end of that. I felt it was probably a good time to fully tell her how i felt, and so I told her off and told her I never loved her and didn't want to keep on with the relation. It killed her inside, and all she said was "I hate you" in such a cold voice. She accepted his proposal, and they've been married ever since. She doesn't love him nor herself and you can tell she doesn't because she's lost her youthful charm, now she's bitter and depressed. She' lies and says she's just depressed and as such their relation suffers. they constantly fight, and my brother comes to me and tells me how he doesn't understand why she's so depressed. I ruined her life because I kept on sleeping with her instead of laying down the law and ending it before things got out of hand.

Nobody knows about this, and if they did find out I'd be no longer welcome with the family. My brother would probably kill me if he knew I was sleeping with his g/f and fiance and got her pregnant and forced her to have an abortion. It's been a few years, I'm nearing 30 and to be married in October. I regret every moment of it. She's been suicidal several times now, and has a child she doesn't care for, a husband she doesn't love and a life she didn't want. I do my best to avoid her, and likewise with her.

How did my brother or anyone never find out? Simple my brother was an idiot and we hid the relation. My brother knew we were friends, but, never figured out we were more then friends. We had a few close calls, but, we never really did anything but have sex. Sometimes we'd go out on dates, but, those were few and far between. Whenever he asked why she was so upset, she alway's made excuses on how she hated the world, pr just said her parents. She hated her dad, her mom had died during child birth and her dad blames her for it and has always been cold and distant and somewhat abusive.

You're a piece of shit. 14 or so fucking years you've kept this from your brother? You've doomed him to a shit marriage and doomed a child to a shit home. You're a shit tornado, Randy.

 

[Jea Song]

I had sex with my second cousin. She is 14 years older than me and seduced the shit out of me when I was 22.

She was hot, I was horny and we had sex dozens of times. It was a secret and it felt good in a very bad way.

I never had contact with her before I was 22. I only knew she was a second cousin and thought she looked attractive.

My confession is I actually enjoyed the sex as it was the best in my life and loved the fact that what I was doing was wrong.

Am I going to hell for this? Thanks!

 

[Equus Bellator Apex]

the entire situation is like a powder keg of suicide, murder, murder/suicide

Seriously. Either way he tells him face to face or the brother finds out on his own, there's like 90 percent he's is going to die. At the very least if he told the truth he could die less of a coward.

 

[The Anti-Monitor]

That's the kind of Confession that should come back to kick him in the ass. Holy fuck.

 

[KO Traveling Hobo]

I had sex with my second cousin. She is 14 years older than me and seduced the shit out of me when I was 22.

She was hot, I was horny and we had sex dozens of times. It was a secret and it felt good in a very bad way.

I never had contact with her before I was 22. I only knew she was a second cousin and thought she looked attractive.

My confession is I actually enjoyed the sex as it was the best in my life and loved the fact that what I was doing was wrong.

Am I going to hell for this? Thanks!

I won't do it. I won't be a slave to your puppeteering.

 

[viciouskillersquirrel]

I had sex with my second cousin. She is 14 years older than me and seduced the shit out of me when I was 22.

She was hot, I was horny and we had sex dozens of times. It was a secret and it felt good in a very bad way.

I never had contact with her before I was 22. I only knew she was a second cousin and thought she looked attractive.

My confession is I actually enjoyed the sex as it was the best in my life and loved the fact that what I was doing was wrong.

Am I going to hell for this? Thanks!

Second cousin is barely even a thing. Is it even illegal anywhere? At most you share, what, 12.5% of your DNA? A set of great-grandparents? You probably don't even share a surname.

Go ahead and feel naughty if that floats your boat, but you're not exactly breaking any taboos.

The dude who cuckolded his own damn brother though? He's going straight to the same hell they reserve for child molesters.

 

[Fracas]

It's a doozy. I slept with my brothers first g/f and future wife. We were both 16 at the time and my brother was 14. They weren't having sex, and she didn't know how to make it so they would and i sorta took advantage of it by telling her I could help. We had sex constantly, but, I never felt any love with her, and she sadly did love me. I felt bad, but, she was so damn hot and I was horny and lonely. When they finally started having sex, she lied and said she was a virgin to him and he believed it. She never really loved him but was too afraid to break his heart because she was very weak willed and shy. She grew up very socially awkward, had few friends and was just odd. After we graduated HS we both stayed at home and went to a Community College. her grades were terrible and she couldn't afford a university. I as well. Things got worse when my brother after graduating went off to join the army. He told me before he shipped out, he wanted to marry her before he left.

I didn't have anything to say, but, good luck. I wish I could have told him how she really felt. That night I got the worst news of my life when she told me she was pregnant. I asked her if it was ours or his, and she didn't know. I told her, she had to get an abortion. Im then told her we had to stop having sex, and just sorta end the relation between us. She cried, because she to my horror loved me. I managed to guilt trip her into getting the abortion by saying "if you really love me you'll do it and then we'll see what happens", despite her wanting to have the child. I knew she would be devastated but kept on pushing her. A couple days later she got the abortion, and that was the end of that. I felt it was probably a good time to fully tell her how i felt, and so I told her off and told her I never loved her and didn't want to keep on with the relation. It killed her inside, and all she said was "I hate you" in such a cold voice. She accepted his proposal, and they've been married ever since. She doesn't love him nor herself and you can tell she doesn't because she's lost her youthful charm, now she's bitter and depressed. She' lies and says she's just depressed and as such their relation suffers. they constantly fight, and my brother comes to me and tells me how he doesn't understand why she's so depressed. I ruined her life because I kept on sleeping with her instead of laying down the law and ending it before things got out of hand.

Nobody knows about this, and if they did find out I'd be no longer welcome with the family. My brother would probably kill me if he knew I was sleeping with his g/f and fiance and got her pregnant and forced her to have an abortion. It's been a few years, I'm nearing 30 and to be married in October. I regret every moment of it. She's been suicidal several times now, and has a child she doesn't care for, a husband she doesn't love and a life she didn't want. I do my best to avoid her, and likewise with her.

How did my brother or anyone never find out? Simple my brother was an idiot and we hid the relation. My brother knew we were friends, but, never figured out we were more then friends. We had a few close calls, but, we never really did anything but have sex. Sometimes we'd go out on dates, but, those were few and far between. Whenever he asked why she was so upset, she alway's made excuses on how she hated the world, pr just said her parents. She hated her dad, her mom had died during child birth and her dad blames her for it and has always been cold and distant and somewhat abusive.

I just came into this thread for the first time....holy shit, man. That's seriously one of the worst things I've ever read.

 

[Equus Bellator Apex]

I just came into this thread for the first time....holy shit, man. That's seriously one of the worst things I've ever read.

The only thing I can take solace in is that his marriage/future is completely dependent on his brother's wife keeping her mouth shut.

 

[viciouskillersquirrel]

The only thing I can take solace in is that his marriage/future is completely dependent on his brother's wife keeping her mouth shut.

Her silence is like the Sword of Damocles, only quite a bit more f*cked up.

 

[VanillaCakeIsBurning]

I did really poorly in school last semester so I have to delay my schooling at my university by a year because I'm on probation. I have no idea how I'm going to tell my parents.

This doesn't sound so bad to me. You just have to maintain 60 percent average and across courses registered during the probation period. At least at mine that's how they do it.

 

[Cuban Legend]

To the guy who boned his brothers gf/fiance'...

1. You're a Dick. If she kills herself, her blood and the suffering of her family will be on your hands.

2. You know for a fact that before you/she dies that she's going to spill it and the shit WILL hit the fan, it's life... and it's what I expect before the end of Season 5 of Breaking Bad too.

3. You're Fucked, Enjoy the false peace you have in your life while it lasts... you've got a secret cancer, Cancer is never 100% cured and will always be ready to come back and ruin you'r life before it's over.

 

[Sibylus]

What a doozy indeed. This situation is already a mess, it will get out, and the only real option for the author that lets him maintain a shred of human decency is to let these people off the hook for the share of the miseries he's helped create. They're already suffering in silence and in ignorance for the sake of shielding your mistakes and cowardice. Rise above it for once. It'll be ugly in the short term, and yeah, the social repercussions for you and them will be irreversible. It's still probably easier to live with and better in the long run than watching them run their relationship's course to its explosive end, kid in tow, and saying nothing until it's far too late to say something when it might have mattered and limited the fallout. Your legacy, everything you could hypothetically stand for and set example to, and the lives of three people (at minimum) are on the line here. Don't fuck it up even worse by doing as you've always done (ie. telling the truth only when it's convenient to you).

 

[abusori]

And here I was, thinking nothing anyone confessed at this point could actually make us care.

But damn..."doozy" doesn't fucking start to cover it. Multiple deaths wouldn't be bad enough for your sorry self.

 

[Danny 117]

I seem to have trust issues with my best friend. A 3rd person used to know him well and told me stories about him, but I just want to give him a chance and not shoot down everything he says as a lie. It's hard whenever I'm talking to said 3rd person and having to defend my best friend against him.

I'd like to think I'm a fair person, and I'm trying my best. He's probably the best friend I've had yet, no arguments, funny guy, lots in common.

 

[mescalineeyes]

He's probably the best friend I've had yet, no arguments, funny guy, lots in common.

I hope I don't actually have to tell you this, but that's actually not what makes a friendship -- it does help though.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

Doozy:

And this is the result of letting your penis overthrow your rationality.

 

[fanboi]

I had sex with my second cousin. She is 14 years older than me and seduced the shit out of me when I was 22.

She was hot, I was horny and we had sex dozens of times. It was a secret and it felt good in a very bad way.

I never had contact with her before I was 22. I only knew she was a second cousin and thought she looked attractive.

My confession is I actually enjoyed the sex as it was the best in my life and loved the fact that what I was doing was wrong.

Am I going to hell for this? Thanks!

*insert tag quote here*

 

[Salazar]

Second cousin is barely even a thing.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dyJ4RRCI7tE

 

[Danny 117]

I hope I don't actually have to tell you this, but that's actually not what makes a friendship -- it does help though.

Yeah I know that, sorry.

I'm comparing this one to the last best friend I had. That friendship had all of the ingredients that make a good one but with argument issues. I mean, every day we'd argue over pointless stuff. It was insane, we'd do it across the classroom in school, hurling abuse at each other yet still remain best friends.

This 'old' best friend has become a lot closer to me again recently, I like to think I've matured and he has too.

So yeah that's why I'm calling this new best friend as 'the best one yet' as everything is just great, .

 

[Feature]

Wow that story, fucking disgusting. How can you live with yourself...

Not really a confession of mine this, but something similar to that utterly sad story happened to me.

Me and my best friend for years now both had this girl we were deeply in love with. We made a pact about 5 years ago that there was 1 girl the other guy would never ever touch. The girl my friend told me to never touch was never into him. But the girl I told him not to touch was my girlfriend for 2 years until we broke up (my fault). She dated some other guy and I dated another girl, but I always kept loving her as I knew she was my 'one'. Even if that sounds lame, she makes me feel like no other girl could.

Anyways, the girl ends up breaking up with her new boyfriend after 2 years or so (he broke it off) and I end it with my new girlfriend because I love the other girl so much. So a year ago from now we end up back together and we love each other very much.

During this time me and my friends (including my best friend and the girl he always loved but could not get) go on a party vacation. During this vacation the girl my best friend told me not to touch in our pact, tries to get it on with me. Needless to say I say no because I love my girlfriend and because I respect my friend.

Fast forward to about 40 days ago...

Me and my male friends are returning from a party when all of a sudden my best friend and another guy have a little fight. He drops my best friend of at home and continue to drive me to my home. During this he states my best friend flirted with my true love closely after she broke up with her new boyfriend. I totally upset go to my girlfriend the next morning and ask her about it.

Me expecting to hear they flirted a bit suddenly hear that they had sex one time. She was 'depressed' from the other guy breaking up and my best friend took advantage of that because she thought nobody loved her. This broke my heart in multiple ways, I never felt that bad before. Not when someone closed died to me and not when she broke up with me the first time. People who truly love someone will understand. You have no idea how in love I am with this woman.

I ofcourse burst out in a rage. The 2 people dearest to me have betrayed me. She knew she was having sex with my best friend (depressed or not) and he knew what she meant to me and knew he was purely taking advantage of her. I tried breaking up with the girl but I can't do it because I love her so much and still do. I know it will never be the same and I haven't spoken or seen my best friend in the last 40 days. (we used to talk every day and play games). I had to go to the bathroom at work to cry for 30 minutes and drove for 50 minutes to work like a zombie. I would leave at home and all of a sudden be at work without remembering what happened on the road. This has changed my life for ever and I'm not sure if I can ever love this girl like I used to or trust her.

There are some other details I haven't written down because this is just me pouring my heart out a bit on the internet. Stuff like how they sometimes danced together at clubs with that shit in the back of their heads and knowing I didn't know and was standing there like the retard I feel I am for this.

But I'm trying to continue things with the girl. When I'm with her I forget everything and love her so much, but sometimes when I'm alone I still think of it. It's only been about a month and a half so that's normal I guess. I'm just glad I found out, because I'm afraid I would've found out after I ended up with kids and shit like that. That would be the ultimate backstab and I know if I would hear my brother touched this girl, I would kill him.

Sorry for the big blog post, just felt the urge to put this here.

 

[Jedeye Sniv]

yknow what's better than watching people have sex? reading about people having sex. literotica imotbh.

Hell yeah. I read one series on there that was so hot it made me kinda dizzy. I think it was called The Game or something similar and was just a very cleverly staged group story that I would KILL to see on film. KILL I tell you.

Actually, I have a buddy who is maybe about to get into the porn biz. We'll see if he has any contacts to help me realise my dream. (btw this is a different buddy to the one featured in my infamous thread...)

 

[Plywood]

doozy story

Fuck you and fuck the horse you rode in on. You are a terrible human being.

 

[Resilient]

Every now and then this thread pops back up, holy FUCK at that confession, that's crazy. But none of us here can judge, because guilt can do crazy things to a person - change them for the worst and force them into decisions they don't want to make.

 

[Jedeye Sniv]

Wow that story, fucking disgusting. How can you live with yourself...

Not really a confession of mine this, but something similar to that utterly sad story happened to me.

Me and my best friend for years now both had this girl we were deeply in love with. We made a pact about 5 years ago that there was 1 girl the other guy would never ever touch. The girl my friend told me to never touch was never into him. But the girl I told him not to touch was my girlfriend for 2 years until we broke up (my fault). She dated some other guy and I dated another girl, but I always kept loving her as I knew she was my 'one'. Even if that sounds lame, she makes me feel like no other girl could.

Anyways, the girl ends up breaking up with her new boyfriend after 2 years or so (he broke it off) and I end it with my new girlfriend because I love the other girl so much. So a year ago from now we end up back together and we love each other very much.

During this time me and my friends (including my best friend and the girl he always loved but could not get) go on a party vacation. During this vacation the girl my best friend told me not to touch in our pact, tries to get it on with me. Needless to say I say no because I love my girlfriend and because I respect my friend.

Fast forward to about 40 days ago...

Me and my male friends are returning from a party when all of a sudden my best friend and another guy have a little fight. He drops my best friend of at home and continue to drive me to my home. During this he states my best friend flirted with my true love closely after she broke up with her new boyfriend. I totally upset go to my girlfriend the next morning and ask her about it.

Me expecting to hear they flirted a bit suddenly hear that they had sex one time. She was 'depressed' from the other guy breaking up and my best friend took advantage of that because she thought nobody loved her. This broke my heart in multiple ways, I never felt that bad before. Not when someone closed died to me and not when she broke up with me the first time. People who truly love someone will understand. You have no idea how in love I am with this woman.

I ofcourse burst out in a rage. The 2 people dearest to me have betrayed me. She knew she was having sex with my best friend (depressed or not) and he knew what she meant to me and knew he was purely taking advantage of her. I tried breaking up with the girl but I can't do it because I love her so much and still do. I know it will never be the same and I haven't spoken or seen my best friend in the last 40 days. (we used to talk every day and play games). I had to go to the bathroom at work to cry for 30 minutes and drove for 50 minutes to work like a zombie. I would leave at home and all of a sudden be at work without remembering what happened on the road. This has changed my life for ever and I'm not sure if I can ever love this girl like I used to or trust her.

There are some other details I haven't written down because this is just me pouring my heart out a bit on the internet. Stuff like how they sometimes danced together at clubs with that shit in the back of their heads and knowing I didn't know and was standing there like the retard I feel I am for this.

But I'm trying to continue things with the girl. When I'm with her I forget everything and love her so much, but sometimes when I'm alone I still think of it. It's only been about a month and a half so that's normal I guess. I'm just glad I found out, because I'm afraid I would've found out after I ended up with kids and shit like that. That would be the ultimate backstab and I know if I would hear my brother touched this girl, I would kill him.

Sorry for the big blog post, just felt the urge to put this here.

This is perhaps very harsh of me, but if you're pining over a girl for years then the chances are you're never going to get with her. Especially if she's an ex. Or if you do it would be through some sleazy form of manipulation not too dissimilar from your mate.

My advice: cut your losses with the girl and move on, you're wasting your life. And then make up with your friend. Have a punchup if needs be, but best mates are rarer still than perfect women. And i think that a best mate who you've fought with could be the best friend you would ever have, you'll have that weird physical bond after the stormclouds have been dispelled, and a kind of honesty that is rare between anyone.

 

[Feature]

The thing is , I am with that girl now. Not sure if you misunderstood my post or I'm misunderstanding yours. But it seems like you think I'm still running after that girl?
I'll never make right with the guy, I told him everything like best friends but he stabbed me in the back the hardest way I could imagine. He knew what he had done to me and that's why he kept it secret for so long.

The woman is perfect for me if it wasn't for this shit though, I've learned that there is no such thing as best friends. I've lost all trust and care for my friends. I just see them as people who are nice to me but wouldn't wait a second to stab me in the back. It's just so typical that shit like this happens to me. I never lie to my girlfriend and never talk bad about my so called friends or shit like that. But I get made a fool and lied to , backstabbed etc... pisses me off and makes me bitter as fuck.

 

[Jedeye Sniv]

The thing is , I am with that girl now. Not sure if you misunderstood my post or I'm misunderstand yours. I'll never make right with the guy, I told him everything like best friends but he stabbed me in the back the hardest way I could imagine. He knew what he had done to me and that's why he kept it secret for so long.

Ah, I didn't realise you're with the girl now. Eeep. Enjoy it while it lasts!

I still think you should have a rough and tumble scrap with your mate though. Get it all out, punch each other a few time, go have a beer and get over it. Best friends are people too, they're not perfect.

 

[Feature]

Ah, I didn't realise you're with the girl now. Eeep. Enjoy it while it lasts!

I still think you should have a rough and tumble scrap with your mate though. Get it all out, punch each other a few time, go have a beer and get over it. Best friends are people too, they're not perfect.

I wish I could, would be awesome. But all my friends know me and my girlfriend. The horrors of a common group of friends I guess.
I wouldn't be able to stand him being around my girlfriend. No other dude that touched her for that matter, I don't want someone I hang out with to know how my girlfriend 'feels'. Probably stupid of me and possessive, but I'm just like that and I know that's not the best thing but if she wants to be with me she'll have to accept that and she does (for the time being).
I know best friends are not perfect, but there are lines you just do not cross as a best friend. This is just betraying someone who's been there for you all the time and never done shit too you in their entire life but partied with you and went through the best and the worst moments of your life. My head just can't wrap around it. If I knew he was an ass behind our other friends' back I wouldn't be so surprised, but he isn't.

 

[FlyingTeacup]

I think that if he told his brother (who was/is in the army) he would literally kill him.

That's seriously fucked up though.

welcome back, meadow.

 

[Awesome Animals]

Man, I'm totally stealing that confession and writing a screenplay based on that. What a fucked up and incredible story.

 

[HamPster PamPster]

The funny part (to me) about doozy is how self centered he sounds. The wife is depressed and it must be because of him. He slept with her, dumped her and it runined her life, all him.

Couldn't it just be she's depressed because of other shit in her life, no of course shes lying, how could she be over you! Get over yourself dude, they would have had an unhappy marriage with or without you... not that you helped matters of course. Maybe the wife hasn't said anything because she just doesn't care that much?

 

[shanshan310]

Ah, I didn't realise you're with the girl now. Eeep. Enjoy it while it lasts!

I still think you should have a rough and tumble scrap with your mate though. Get it all out, punch each other a few time, go have a beer and get over it. Best friends are people too, they're not perfect.

I don't think that's a good idea at all. He took advantage of the girl his best friend is in love with by sleeping with her while she was depressed. If that's not a friendship dealbreaker I don't know what is.

 

[Meadows]

welcome back, meadow.

good to be back, thanks

 

[Vermillion]

Is it bannable to suggest- no, I'll stop there. Doozy, your second choice - and allow me to be one of the first people to help you - changing your name, escaping the country and sending a letter detailing what you did? That's the only way you're getting out of this. And before you wonder about your wife - you don't deserve her. Not now.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

I don't think that's a good idea at all. He took advantage of the girl his best friend is in love with by sleeping with her while she was depressed. If that's not a friendship dealbreaker I don't know what is.

Yeah, his best friend betrayed him and took advantage of the girl.
Double combo right there.

 

[Keru_Shiri]

Doozy indeed. Christ.

The funny part (to me) about doozy is how self centered he sounds. The wife is depressed and it must be because of him. He slept with her, dumped her and it runined her life, all him.

Couldn't it just be she's depressed because of other shit in her life, no of course shes lying, how could she be over you! Get over yourself dude, they would have had an unhappy marriage with or without you... not that you helped matters of course. Maybe the wife hasn't said anything because she just doesn't care that much?

I see what you're saying, but his brother's wife did abort a child for him, if the story is to be believed. That implies that this guy is at least somewhat a big influence on her outlook.

 

[ronito]

The funny part (to me) about doozy is how self centered he sounds. The wife is depressed and it must be because of him. He slept with her, dumped her and it runined her life, all him.

Couldn't it just be she's depressed because of other shit in her life, no of course shes lying, how could she be over you! Get over yourself dude, they would have had an unhappy marriage with or without you... not that you helped matters of course. Maybe the wife hasn't said anything because she just doesn't care that much?

Yeah this is sorta why I'm against the whole "fess up and tell" advice. It would totally be centered around Doozy and not be a real way to try and fix things, it would be about Doozy further ruining people's lives to get rid of his guilt.

 

[Marleyman]

I am a bit of a sex addict..and I am married. I fill this addiction by watching porn nightly and sending pics back and forth with other women.

 

[SquiddyCracker]

Doozy indeed. Christ.



I see what you're saying, but his brother's wife did abort a child for him, if the story is to be believed. That implies that this guy is at least somewhat a big influence on her outlook.

Yeah, but after you're encouraged to abort because of "love" and then afterwards told that there is no love involved whatsoever, you probably end up changing your views of that someone big time.

 

[Magilla]

Hot damn. This thread is on FIRE!

/sub'd

 

[Keru_Shiri]

Yeah this is sorta why I'm against the whole "fess up and tell" advice. It would totally be centered around Doozy and not be a real way to try and fix things, it would be about Doozy further ruining people's lives to get rid of his guilt.

How else to move forward, though? It's clear that the kettle is only going to continue simmering. Maybe Doozy should seek the help of a professional counselor.

 

[Meadows]

I am a bit of a sex addict..and I am married. I fill this addiction by watching porn nightly and sending pics back and forth with other women.

you should talk to your wife about it and be open, but only if you want to stop/change your habits

 

[Little Old Man]

the entire situation is like a powder keg of suicide, murder, murder/suicide

I predict a Blood Brothers style ending to it.

The worst bit of it all is the child growing up in such a unstable environment. I honestly hope that 'doozy' suffers mentally every day with the anguish over his actions and choices. What you've done to your brother goes far beyond betrayal. To the woman, just utterly disgusting.

Suppose at least you've 'won' the thread.

 

[ronito]

How else to move forward, though? It's clear that the kettle is only going to continue simmering. Maybe Doozy should seek the help of a professional counselor.

Oh it'll move forward. That's the only certainty. I'm just saying let the others move it forward otherwise it'll just come off as selfish. It's to late now, all he can do is wait for the storm to hit.

 

[Marleyman]

you should talk to your wife about it and be open, but only if you want to stop/change your habits

I did yesterday actually, only AFTER I left an alternate email open I use to trade pics was found by her. I am now in counseling and trying to save my marriage.

 

[Meadows]

I did yesterday actually, only AFTER I left an alternate email open I use to trade pics was found by her. I am now in counseling and trying to save my marriage.

these kind of things are way easier if you own up before they find out and you indicate that you want to change (although I've never had the experience that you're having).

Do you think you were in the wrong? Do you feel bad about it? What happened when she found out? Please just take my mind off Doozy's story.

 

[FairyD]

It's a doozy. I slept with my brothers first g/f and future wife. We were both 16 at the time and my brother was 14. They weren't having sex, and she didn't know how to make it so they would and i sorta took advantage of it by telling her I could help. We had sex constantly, but, I never felt any love with her, and she sadly did love me. I felt bad, but, she was so damn hot and I was horny and lonely. When they finally started having sex, she lied and said she was a virgin to him and he believed it. She never really loved him but was too afraid to break his heart because she was very weak willed and shy. She grew up very socially awkward, had few friends and was just odd. After we graduated HS we both stayed at home and went to a Community College. her grades were terrible and she couldn't afford a university. I as well. Things got worse when my brother after graduating went off to join the army. He told me before he shipped out, he wanted to marry her before he left.

I didn't have anything to say, but, good luck. I wish I could have told him how she really felt. That night I got the worst news of my life when she told me she was pregnant. I asked her if it was ours or his, and she didn't know. I told her, she had to get an abortion. Im then told her we had to stop having sex, and just sorta end the relation between us. She cried, because she to my horror loved me. I managed to guilt trip her into getting the abortion by saying "if you really love me you'll do it and then we'll see what happens", despite her wanting to have the child. I knew she would be devastated but kept on pushing her. A couple days later she got the abortion, and that was the end of that. I felt it was probably a good time to fully tell her how i felt, and so I told her off and told her I never loved her and didn't want to keep on with the relation. It killed her inside, and all she said was "I hate you" in such a cold voice. She accepted his proposal, and they've been married ever since. She doesn't love him nor herself and you can tell she doesn't because she's lost her youthful charm, now she's bitter and depressed. She' lies and says she's just depressed and as such their relation suffers. they constantly fight, and my brother comes to me and tells me how he doesn't understand why she's so depressed. I ruined her life because I kept on sleeping with her instead of laying down the law and ending it before things got out of hand.

Nobody knows about this, and if they did find out I'd be no longer welcome with the family. My brother would probably kill me if he knew I was sleeping with his g/f and fiance and got her pregnant and forced her to have an abortion. It's been a few years, I'm nearing 30 and to be married in October. I regret every moment of it. She's been suicidal several times now, and has a child she doesn't care for, a husband she doesn't love and a life she didn't want. I do my best to avoid her, and likewise with her.

How did my brother or anyone never find out? Simple my brother was an idiot and we hid the relation. My brother knew we were friends, but, never figured out we were more then friends. We had a few close calls, but, we never really did anything but have sex. Sometimes we'd go out on dates, but, those were few and far between. Whenever he asked why she was so upset, she alway's made excuses on how she hated the world, pr just said her parents. She hated her dad, her mom had died during child birth and her dad blames her for it and has always been cold and distant and somewhat abusive.

Yeah that was pretty fucked up. You should feel bad dude.