Hey guys, how are you today? I've been wondering... has anybody here ever dated a girl who has already been married and then divorced? I met a really cool girl who is intelligent, cute, interesting and fun to talk to. Not really much of a gamer like my last g/f but oh well I'll live. We talk online a lot - went out to dinner together last weekend, and we're hanging out again this weekend. But the thing is... last year she got married and divorced 9 months later. And she just turned 21... so that's weird. I'm highly considering going for it, regardless (based on what all my real life friends say), but I'm wondering if anybody else did something like this and can recommend against it or tell about their experiences.
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GAF - have you ever dated a divorced girl?
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A 21 year old who got married and divorced within 9 months... just sounds like she made a mistake and quickly realized it. I'd be more into dating someone in this situation versus someone who was married for 5 years, lets say, and then got divorced.
Tommie Hu$tle
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djtiesto said:
I have, it's hit or miss just like anything in life. If you like her and you vibe then go for it. Realize this your real life friends are all haters. They don't have to like what you like as long as you like her and she likes you then it's all good.
happyfunball
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I dated a divorced chick before and I think you have to realize that if they are divorced so quickly, then they probably are a bit flakey. Just fair warning to ya man.
Kung Fu Jedi
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I've dated a couple of women who were divorced, and it's really just like dating any other person, provided they are normal and well adjusted. If their ex really screwed them up, than run for it. If they have kids, than you have to tread lightly as well, and decide if you can accept theh whole package. I'm not a kid person, and in your case, you don't have to deal with it.
Honestly, if she got divorced that quickly, than to me, that means she married someone she thought she was in love with, then realized it was just a big mistake, and corrected it. Either that, or she was helping him get that green card!
Honestly, if she got divorced that quickly, than to me, that means she married someone she thought she was in love with, then realized it was just a big mistake, and corrected it. Either that, or she was helping him get that green card!
When I was in the dating scene I steared clear of divorced women. First I should note that I hate cougers so this dosen't really apply to your case. But anyway why mess around and go for a women that's divorced and could have some wacko for an X or be damaged herself when there is so many fish in the sea.
dem said:
...real cute dem... real cute. Doesn't change the fact that most of these relationships threads are common fuckin sense issues... OMG she's divorced... OMG she says she doesn't like me... OMG she just grabbed my balls!
darscot said:
Yup cause all the normal women are single!
Fragamemnon
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Nothing at all wrong with divorced women-they aren't "damaged goods" or what not by any means, and in today's society of short "starter marriages" it's more and more common. I've been dating a divorced woman for over two years and it's never been a problem-the divorce was incredibly clean and simple (no kids, no huge financial splits, etc) and both parties walked away from it free of any long-term attachment.
Divorced women *with kids from the marriage* are a potential trainwreck for disaster and you better know what you are getting into if you start dating them. Kids bring around nasty issues like the "permanency" of the ex in the divorcee's life and the enormous time, resource and attention drain that kids bring to any relationship.
Divorced women *with kids from the marriage* are a potential trainwreck for disaster and you better know what you are getting into if you start dating them. Kids bring around nasty issues like the "permanency" of the ex in the divorcee's life and the enormous time, resource and attention drain that kids bring to any relationship.
Just a rule in the world of Darscot before I was married. Everybody has there rules I didn't date girls that didn't have a brother. Girls that grow up with out a brother are just two high maintence. You do something very typically "male" and they just can't comprehend it. Trying to explain is just painful. On the other hand if they had a brother when growing up. There kinda already broken in to the stupid shit men do. They don't go ape shit when you don't call them or stay out all night or get busted up doing stupid shit. It's all just par for the course.
Eh, okay then. Although I'm sure there are lots of exceptions.....lots of girls who grow up with brothers still turn out to be bitches; some girls without brothers have boy_friends growing up; etc etc.darscot said:
Also, how is a divorced woman still "not single"?
Once you get divorced you don't go back to single you go to the divorced group it's like a sub group.
Every rule has an exception. I personally just choose to live by certain ones. I didn't date girls that smoked. (Even when I was a smoker) Hypocrytical? Yes, but hey that's just me. People get way to worked up about relationships, there is always going to be another girl out there. If you ask yourself should I do this the answer is probable no.
Oh yah and one more thing. A girl having a boyfriend dosen't count. Some guys are way to whipped and do whatever a girl says. I've never met a guy that was whipped by his sister. Girls with a brother are used to there brother saying yah, yah yah whatever just relax.
Every rule has an exception. I personally just choose to live by certain ones. I didn't date girls that smoked. (Even when I was a smoker) Hypocrytical? Yes, but hey that's just me. People get way to worked up about relationships, there is always going to be another girl out there. If you ask yourself should I do this the answer is probable no.
Oh yah and one more thing. A girl having a boyfriend dosen't count. Some guys are way to whipped and do whatever a girl says. I've never met a guy that was whipped by his sister. Girls with a brother are used to there brother saying yah, yah yah whatever just relax.
Forgotten_Taco
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littlewig said:
You can't argue that.
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