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That would definitely affect my friendship with them.

I am against religion in general but I would still go to Church, Temple or Mosque if one of my friend was getting married.

Here it just seems to be a bad case of bigotry.
 
Meus Renaissance said:
Question. If you had a close friend whom was also religious and you invited him to your wedding but they told you that whilst they are glad to see you happy, cannot attend the event for religious reasons, would this affect your friendship?
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are you getting married?

also, fuck that person. a friend goes. my friend is mormon and getting married and i'm still going despite being against the religion. seriously, that's bs. you can miss the wedding because of previous plans or something has come up, but missing because of religious reasons is stupid to me. especially because a gay wedding most likely wouldn't have anything against their religion in it. they wouldn't be forced to do anything except sit there. it's not like a baptism of another religion or something.
 
btkadams said:
are you getting married?

also, fuck that person. a friend goes. my friend is mormon and getting married and i'm still going despite being against the religion. seriously, that's bs. you can miss the wedding because of previous plans or something has come up, but missing because of religious reasons is stupid to me. especially because a gay wedding most likely wouldn't have anything against their religion in it. they wouldn't be forced to do anything except sit there. it's not like a baptism of another religion or something.
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True that. A friend being there literally has nothing to do with the religion. It's about them being your friend and being supportive of you.
 
e...ehehehehehe <3

There's a guy asleep in my bed and he won't wake up to go get breakfast, so I have all my calculus books propped up on him and I may or may not be using him as a table to do my homework on.

I have no idea why this makes me so happy <3

being goofy is a damn good method of revenge for laziness.
 
Haven't been around much lately, since I'm still (and always been :( )single. Reading this thread makes me jealous happy for some of you. :p

I did went out with a guy around 2 months ago for like a month. But he said from the beginning that he wasn't looking for a relationship, was always checking out other guys and talking about how hot they were while we went out, talking about threesomes with other guys (obviously me, not included) and was..like obsessed to bottom (even when he
has HPV
).....made me a little scared; hehehe.

Yet, it was my fault since he "couldn't believe that someone like who talks about being alone and wanting someone, has someone offering his ass to him..and is reluctant".

But, silly me..for wanting relationships and not just quick-fucks. :/
 
Hi guys, I need a little bit of help. Is it normal to want space? Space as in alone time. Not being apart. Me and my bf has been together almost every single moment for the past month now(im unemployed atm, he isnt but his boss is in CA so he's not working until he comes back) and I havent had any alone time on my own. I usually like being by myself for a couple hours, just dong my own thing. I usually get this alone time when him and I was working.

Admittedly, this is my first 'adult' relationship and I am scared to tell him, for fear that he will take this is as us braking up, or that there is something wrong in the relationship.
 
There's nothing wrong with wanting some alone time for yourself. In fact I'd recommend it. You guys don't have to always be doing together. Mellow out and do your own thing for a bit. You should tell him instead of having this bottled up.
 
Jangaroo said:
There's nothing wrong with wanting some alone time for yourself. In fact I'd recommend it. You guys don't have to always be doing together. Mellow out and do your own thing for a bit. You should tell him instead of having this bottled up.
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This. Even if he doesn't immediately understand, he will, if for no other reason that it would make the relationship more functional. Since you've spent so much time together recently I'm almost surprised you both aren't more stressed out, because I'd think that that would put a lot of stress on any relationship. Anyone with introverted tendencies consistently needs some time to themselves to rest and recharge, or things generally start to unravel. And it's entirely impersonal because it has nothing to do with who the other person is, it's just a matter of regular maintenance (of sanity).

You're both still individuals and I think it's healthy to have time apart to pursue individual interests, etc. You don't want to get into a position where a relationship consumes the both of you, because then you both stop growing as individuals, which itself doesn't bode well.
 
Oh i am slightly unraveling. Today, he started asking if 'were still good' because he could tell something was up. I lied through my teeth and said that yes we are. Looks like I'll have a talk with the bf tommorow(and apologize for lying). It also stresses me out thinking there was something wrong with me and the relationship so that just adds up a little bit more. I'm glad it's normal.

It probably doesn't help that I just moved with him to a new city and we almost know noone here so were pretty much stuck with each other lately. I need new friends, I know that much.
 
So yeah that Happy Endings show just keeps getting better and better, and non-stereotypical adorable football-watching beer-drinking gay Max introduced the term 'gaycist' in Episode 6.

Gaycism is when you think all gays are the same, so obviously we're all compatible for each other.

And I KNOW A LOT OF GAYCISTS. I feel like this would be a good topic for discussion.
 
ZephyrFate said:
So yeah that Happy Endings show just keeps getting better and better, and non-stereotypical adorable football-watching beer-drinking gay Max introduced the term 'gaycist' in Episode 6.

Gaycism is when you think all gays are the same, so obviously we're all compatible for each other.

And I KNOW A LOT OF GAYCISTS. I feel like this would be a good topic for discussion.
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I caught an episode of this show on Hulu (Xbox Live Hulu Plus free week). Didn't totally grab me, but I'm willing to give it another shot. (Was the hipster/restaurant episode)
I did like Max as a character, though. There was barely any reference to him being gay at all. Come to think of it, I probably wouldn't have even known he was gay had I not heard about it on Gaf.
 
michaeltraps said:
I caught an episode of this show on Hulu (Xbox Live Hulu Plus free week). Didn't totally grab me, but I'm willing to give it another shot. (Was the hipster/restaurant episode)
I did like Max as a character, though. There was barely any reference to him being gay at all. Come to think of it, I probably wouldn't have even known he was gay had I not heard about it on Gaf.
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You have to have watched previous episodes -- his gayness is never central (bar two episodes that focused on his coming out + the gaycism thing), but it's always mentioned at least once an episode.
 
ZephyrFate said:
You have to have watched previous episodes -- his gayness is never central (bar two episodes that focused on his coming out + the gaycism thing), but it's always mentioned at least once an episode.
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This is more what I was getting at - I don't mind at all that his gayness isn't the focal point of his character - it's actually refreshing. He's interesting for other reasons, which is hard to find with most gay TV characters. I'm definitely going to give the show another shot, starting with episode 1 this time.
 
michaeltraps said:
This is more what I was getting at - I don't mind at all that his gayness isn't the focal point of his character - it's actually refreshing. He's interesting for other reasons, which is hard to find with most gay TV characters. I'm definitely going to give the show another shot, starting with episode 1 this time.
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They bring it up quite a bit in the show, other characters remark, "You're a straight dude who likes dudes" and "For a guy who acts nothing like a gay guy, you know next to nothing about how to act like a straight guy!"

He's the least-gay gay guy I've ever seen on TV, and for that he should be applauded. He's... completely different from every other gay male character I've seen.
 
ZephyrFate said:
They bring it up quite a bit in the show, other characters remark, "You're a straight dude who likes dudes" and "For a guy who acts nothing like a gay guy, you know next to nothing about how to act like a straight guy!"

He's the least-gay gay guy I've ever seen on TV, and for that he should be applauded. He's... completely different from every other gay male character I've seen.
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Ooooo ok, then I definitely watched a one-off episode.
 
michaeltraps said:
Ooooo ok, then I definitely watched a one-off episode.
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Yeah that episode focused solely on Dave's restaurant idea and Penny's hipster thing. Though that is definitely the first episode of TV I've seen where mocking hipsters was a central plot point.

Aside from something like Portlandia, I guess.
 
ZephyrFate said:
You have to have watched previous episodes -- his gayness is never central (bar two episodes that focused on his coming out + the gaycism thing), but it's always mentioned at least once an episode.
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Don't forget the one where Max found a gay husband for Penny because he wasn't gay enough for her. I thought that one was pretty good.
 
Zalasta said:
Don't forget the one where Max found a gay husband for Penny because he wasn't gay enough for her. I thought that one was pretty good.
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"We already have an offensively stereotypical gay guy in our group."

<cue to Penny screaming about Lady Gaga and her manicurist>

"You don't need a gay husband, because you're MY gay husband."
 
Aaaaaaaaargh I dated an unbelievably gorgeous guy last night and we had a great conversation and then at the end of the night he said he felt like it was more of a 'friendly connection, just to be clear.' fuck everything
 
went on a date with a friend of a friend. He's hot, but he acts way to feminine(no offense to those who are, just not my type). I felt i was getting straighter by the minute , he was so self obsessed , kept talking about himself and how great he is. I could not wait for it to end.
 
badcrumble said:
Aaaaaaaaargh I dated an unbelievably gorgeous guy last night and we had a great conversation and then at the end of the night he said he felt like it was more of a 'friendly connection, just to be clear.' fuck everything
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Fucking sucks. :(
 
idwl said:
went on a date with a friend of a friend. He's hot, but he acts way to feminine(no offense to those who are, just not my type). I felt i was getting straighter by the minute , he was so self obsessed , kept talking about himself and how great he is. I could not wait for it to end.
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haha, i know the type. Hope you split the check!
 
Teh Hamburglar said:
haha, i know the type. Hope you split the check!
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haha no I just paid for everything, even though he kept insisting. I ALWAYS order dessert. Today was the exception :P

Oh and the worst part was- he thinks he doesn't look gay. Even though i told him he screams gay. He's so flamboyant with his hands waving them around like there are flies everywhere. His hips sway waaaaaaay too much. He wears a bright blue watch. And he has the gay voice(you know the one :P) As soon as I saw him I was like ' oh jesus' and kept cursing my friend
 
Tangent: Anyone mind making a topic about the link I posted? It would make for good discussion on the forumz. I cannot for I am Junior'd (behind the tag).
 
badcrumble said:
Spent basically four hours after that lying awake and wondering what I did to fuck it up. :/
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I guess he just didn't click as much as you did with him if you feel it went well. At least he didn't string you along or worse, though he was a bit brutal about it. :/
 
runlikehell said:
I guess he just didn't click as much as you did with him if you feel it went well. At least he didn't string you along or worse, though he was a bit brutal about it. :/
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Yeah, it just feels shitty to have that happen when I start dating again after a year and a half.
 
Here is my dilemma.

I was going out with this great guy for over a month and i've known him for two months. We clicked and everything, but I guess we clicked too fast and he decided that he wasn't ready to be dating. The reason why is because he is still hurt emotionally from his ex of four years that he broke up with last august.

Now he still wants to be friends and so do I but it is really tough. I really don't want to move on but I am trying to give him time and hopefully he changes his mind.

I thought I found a great guy and I was truly happy for that month and I don't think I've ever been that happy before being with somebody.
 
badcrumble said:
Is there a Happy Endings thread in the OT? Maybe you guys should start one.
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If you paid attention to the OT, you'd see there is one. However, it's not a bad thing to mention a show with a non-stereotypical gay character in it in the general gay thread.
 
Dilemma:

I date dude last summer. First dude I ever date longer than two nights. I think I manage to fall perilously in love within a span of one month. Hadn't happened before; hasn't happened since.

We have strange falling out at the end of August, stop talking while we're two hours apart at separate colleges. And that's that.

Until, a month ago. He facebook pm's me, apologizes for basically causing the falling out (it was mostly all on his end), and I'm not one to hold grudges, and respect apologies, especially from people as typically bull-headed as him.

I agree to hang again. I can already sense he wants us to progress toward the romantic/dating angle again, and man, part of me wants that again because I haven't had it as intensely since I was with him last summer.

This is probably enormously stupid, right?

Fuck.

I already know I don't really want to do the long term thing with him, assuming everything actually goes well, but I miss the casual hangouts, cuddling, romantic times we spent together with no strings attached....I dunno.
 
Oozinator said:
is it homophobe if as a straight guy I dislike the idea of being hit on by gay men ?
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why do you dislike the idea? i like getting attention, whether it's from a girl or a boy.
i never get hit on :(
 
I know this has nothing to do here but I'm moving across the Atlantic to New York at the beginning of June and I was wondering if any of you lived there? (you can PM so as to not pollute the thread any more).

Also, realizing that a relationship is most likely gonna end up sucks. It sucks even more when it has nothing to do with any of the two persons involved but just a result of life getting in the way. Like I said, I'm moving to NYC this summer in order to start a PhD in the fall. The guy I'm currently seeing is finishing his masters in London and will then most likely move back to the US. Thing is, he doesn't know where yet. He's looking for jobs but it seems the best opportunities for his field are in SF or DC or even Seattle. NYC is still on the table but who can say where he'll end up? Since we decided we both do not want a long distance relationship, our relationship is doomed to end soon.
He's gonna be in NYC in June so we'll still enjoy each other company for that month, but then who can say?

This really sucks because since my break up almost 2 years ago, he's the first guy I've really connected with and I feel that we could really have something if circumstances were different.
 
Alcoori said:
I know this has nothing to do here but I'm moving across the Atlantic to New York at the beginning of June and I was wondering if any of you lived there? (you can PM so as to not pollute the thread any more).
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Winters are cold in NY! Give tip to everything! Subway is fun! lol
 
There was this guy I had a crush on back in high school for a few years. He was a jock type, cute smile, nice build, whatever. Back in grade 9, we had every class together, and I would stare at him all day and listen to everything he said. It was actually in my French class that I remember looking at him and thinking... "oh, I'm gay? Ok..." Anyway, I spent the next few years crushing over him. Obviously my obsession with him diminished, especially when I got a boyfriend, but I would still swoon sometimes.

Long story short, he's on my Facebook friends list, and I'm entering my third year of university, I've been with my boyfriend for five years, life is great, and I feel like I wanna message him about it. I feel like I owe him something, he made me realize so much about my sexuality and myself (and dealing with it afterwards wasn't the greatest). He didn't do anything, though. I guess for closure.
 
Holmes said:
There was this guy I had a crush on back in high school for a few years. He was a jock type, cute smile, nice build, whatever. Back in grade 9, we had every class together, and I would stare at him all day and listen to everything he said. It was actually in my French class that I remember looking at him and thinking... "oh, I'm gay? Ok..." Anyway, I spent the next few years crushing over him. Obviously my obsession with him diminished, especially when I got a boyfriend, but I would still swoon sometimes.

Long story short, he's on my Facebook friends list, and I'm entering my third year of university, I've been with my boyfriend for five years, life is great, and I feel like I wanna message him about it. I feel like I owe him something, he made me realize so much about my sexuality and myself (and dealing with it afterwards wasn't the greatest). He didn't do anything, though. I guess for closure.
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Don't :p
 
Yoshiya said:
Yeah, sounds like a bad idea.
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It is. Opening communication with someone you were hung up on years ago, while you're in a relationship is a recipe for disaster. Why would he bother unless he still had feelings for this guy?
 
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