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ZephyrFate
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Your boyfriend is hotter than him.xelios said:
Granger Danger
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I must say I enjoyed the little romantic tryst we had going on in the gay marriage thread, Zephyr.
michaeltraps
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Zephyr and Emonga, my current VG crushes exactly.
Mr. Redfield is one of the reasons I played through RE5 as many times as I did.
Plus casting Wentworth Miller as the character in the latest RE movie <3
Now I'd just need Jensen Ackles cast as the warrior in a FFXIV movie and my real life crushes would match my digital crushes.
Mr. Redfield is one of the reasons I played through RE5 as many times as I did.
Plus casting Wentworth Miller as the character in the latest RE movie <3
Now I'd just need Jensen Ackles cast as the warrior in a FFXIV movie and my real life crushes would match my digital crushes.
umop_3pisdn
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For a long time I sort of had a crush on Guts from Berserk, but mainly because he's basically the ultimate badass, and a lovable jerk with a heart of gold. He's had the shittiest life ever and he's still kind of a sap. That's all I can really think of off hand for fictional characters, though.
badcrumble
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I'm likely going to be in New York next weekend (my orbit's formerly been more around Boston, but I missed Boston Pride for a friend's wedding and decided New York would be plenty nice), but everyone's probably already got plans :/
dragonlife
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Fire Emblem is awesome.Emonga said:
Ike <3
I also like Geoffrey, but, yes, Ike <3
ZephyrFate
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Yeah that was pretty fun. But only if we can invite Max in on it <3Emonga said:
k my mind is weird as fuck. I mentioned wAYYYY back how i had someone who lived far from me but he liked me no matter what. I broke up with him for three months cause my mind told me "O he's better off with a handsome guy that is worthy of him"
Needless to say he hated me for doing that as his mind was already made up to come to the us and live with me. Hell he wants to be with me for the rest of his life and yet i broke it off. He took me back after a while but my mind keeps telling me "Hey he's better off with a sexy guy and not you" What's wrong with me :/
Needless to say he hated me for doing that as his mind was already made up to come to the us and live with me. Hell he wants to be with me for the rest of his life and yet i broke it off. He took me back after a while but my mind keeps telling me "Hey he's better off with a sexy guy and not you" What's wrong with me :/
Delio said:
You're too insecure. He may be insecure also or just be really attracted to you. It's all subjective. Neither of you is better than the other imo.
I also met my boyfriend online, over 8 years ago, and also think he looks way better than me. The difference is I just figured, "Hey, I'm pretty fucking lucky," and took advantage of the situation and look what happened.
You love him even with the unibrow and terrible haircut, so I'd say that's true love mang and you should go for it.
CHEEZMO said:
Just to prove your point, this is my bf from not long after that time period (compared to last page = now), lol.
The bigger point is people can make some pretty amazing transformations. My bf kind of looked like a bum when I met him, which was somewhere in between these two photos.
I wish the best for you both Delio!
Cosmic Bus
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xelios said:
Oh my lols. But yeah, what the other guys have said is true, Del. Insecurity is a bitch and can, as you've seen, do plenty of damage between two people. I think a large chunk of 'mos have to deal with it at some point or another and in varying degrees of severity. Having your mind working against you pretty much sucks, but hopefully you can work through it!
Delio said:
It wasn't mean-spirited; it was meant to make you feel a bit better about yourself in comparison. Everyone has flaws so don't be so down on yourself. He looks fine, and definitely not like a bum.
P.S. I was told I looked like the Lemonheads mascot once, it didn't feel very good.
Delio said:
You can make him happy. Just remember to make an effort every day. It'll be easy in the beginning but easy to become complacent as time passes. Then the bad stuff happens, take it from me.
Also you have to learn to be a little selfish. You deserve to be happy too.
Cosmic Bus said:
^Another totally cute GAFfer who shouldn't have (had) this problem.
Seems like it's an epidemic with gay men just as much as women. I dunno about straight men, I haven't met many who really seemed that insecure about their looks in particular (but other things in its place, like in the GAF girl-age threads). Both of my brothers for instance are really confident in that area.
Cosmic Bus
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xelios said:
Maybe it's fueled by my own insecurity, but the challenge to avoid complacency is one of the most appealing things to me about [theoretically] being in a relationship. I want to always feel the need to put forth that effort, to find myself paired up with a guy who's kind of needy... How's that for a somewhat warped upside to never thinking you're good enough for anyone? Heh.
xelios said:
Oh, I have this problem. Very much present tense. Never past!
Well I finally had my first (blind) gay date. It was disappointing to say the least. He rarely talked and when he did it was about himself. He was also too skinny, hipsterish, and flamboyant for my taste, but he at least payed for the food, which I tried to argue against but w/e.
sublime085
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I always liked Basch from FF12. And Wakka from FFX as long as he keeps his mouth shut. (kinda like some other guys I know)
Cosmic Bus
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Good can still come it, Marius: perhaps suggest that Mr. Skinny H. Flambo come visit me in Seattle... 
ZephyrFate
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Wakka's tanned, toned chest gave me boners in FFX.sublime085 said:
Yeah Wakka is ridiculously hot. I love his Japanese voice (Kazuya Nakai <3). My favourite from that game is Jecht though. Auron is also pretty hot.
In fact I have a special place in my heart for Auron because I met my boyfriend in an anime convention 8 years ago when he was cosplaying Auron. The ladies were all over him but in the end he chose me. Next September is our 6th anniversary.
In fact I have a special place in my heart for Auron because I met my boyfriend in an anime convention 8 years ago when he was cosplaying Auron. The ladies were all over him but in the end he chose me. Next September is our 6th anniversary.
umop_3pisdn
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He's so annoying/stupid, though. His hair is stupid, too. I like the character designs in FFXII more.
red_13th said:Yeah Wakka is ridiculously hot. I love his Japanese voice (Kazuya Nakai <3). My favourite from that game is Jecht though. Auron is also pretty hot.
In fact I have a special place in my heart for Auron because I met my boyfriend in an anime convention 8 years ago when he was cosplaying Auron. The ladies were all over him but in the end he chose me. Next September is our 6th anniversary.
That's a neat story, congrats.
Mister Wilhelm
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Curious question: it seems like all of my male gay friends are promiscuous. Big time. Even the "married" couples like to play around.
However, I only know one lesbian couple and they are highly monogamous.
Is this a common contrast in the gay community? I don't mean to generalize, just curious how you guys/girls see things from your perspective.
However, I only know one lesbian couple and they are highly monogamous.
Is this a common contrast in the gay community? I don't mean to generalize, just curious how you guys/girls see things from your perspective.
ZephyrFate
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Dudes like sex a lot. Pretty much covers the whole issue right there.
umop_3pisdn
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Mister Wilhelm said:
Being gay shatters some gender roles. If gay men are more promiscuous, it is because they think "why not try an open relationship?", and being outside of the standard sexual and romantic framework, and most common reasons to the contrary being pretty weak, the answer to that question is inevitably often "why not?" And honestly, why not try it? There are less problems for gay men to do so. Also, they're men and with the desire for sexual variety to match, so it may have something to do with that.
I have no problem with promiscuity. I went through an "open" phase. But it was exploratory, basically figuring out my own values the hard way and seeing what works for me. It doesn't work for me, and I've since then become a strict monogamist, but it's a personal decision. I don't really care what other people do, and I think a lot of people approach monogamy in a dangerous way, like just as insurance that your partner won't cheat. This seems extremely dependent and warped to me, ultimately I became a monogamist because I wanted to be a monogamist.
Monogamy is dangerous when followed out of immaturity, it leads to disaster. But open relationships are arguably unwise, at least from a spiritual perspective. The only love we can share with many people indiscriminately is platonic love. But sexual desire is inherently conditional, it depends on the other person being sexually desirable to us (and some more than others). Personally I believe for lust to be made into anything useful at all, it has to be channeled into higher forms of love, but this was an entirely personal decision made for spiritual reasons. Everyone is different.
That has more to do with you being friends with gay guys who are promiscuous more than anything else. Even if just skim this thread from pages to pages, you'll find most Gay-GAFers are not into ditching their partner/BF when they see another hot guy. Ditto if you go to other gay-related sites like gaygamer or realjocks.Mister Wilhelm said:
At the end of the day just like the straight population, it all comes down to personality. If a person is the cheating type then he'd fool around with as many people as possible. But then you go online and you see all of these other guys asking "Why can't I be in a relationship? So there's a balance between those who want to be monogamous and those who don't want to.
Mister Wilhelm said:
Monogamy seems to be more difficult for men in general (not just gay men). Some couples have arrangements for messing around and I don't see anything wrong with it if that's what they both want. Cheating sucks though.
I've never cheated in 8+ years, my bf has once (oral). I like and have sex just as much as anyone, I just prefer all mine to be with the same person.
As far as promiscuity I'd say it's even around the board. Why it ends up being with different people may be that not everyone gravitates toward partnering up with one person, especially early in life, or it takes them longer to find the right fit so to speak than for someone like me. Or they're easily bored or want more variety. Or they're lonely and take what they can get in the meantime, and many other reasons.
I edited my post as to not generalize too much and want to state I don't necessarily see promiscuity as a character flaw (pending consideration of other factors). Of course there are a lot of guys (like me) who if not with someone would still choose to not be indiscriminate and rather find one person. But like I said sometimes you end up dating/sleeping with multiple people to do that.
I don't have much data on lesbians, sorry. lol
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