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[ciD_Vain]

"Excuse me sir, would you accompany to the deliberating chamber for a cross-examination?"

And then you set your briefcase down in front of him, flexing your fingers around the handle ever so slightly.

LOL

"I have some legal briefs to show you."

"Legal."

"...Briefs."

You know what's funny, we actually had a conversation about our underwear LOL.

I've been able to spend the last few days with my boyfriend and it's been really great.

We went to see Super 8 at the cinema last night. Awesome movie.

Awwwwwww! That's cute! I'm happy for you I want a boyf to go to cinemas to!!

 

[Erebus]

So I went out with this new guy who I've been talking to online for about a week now. Without a doubt, he is the most talkative and interesting gay guy that I've met so far. We talked about various topics and somehow I felt rather comfortable around him really fast; usually I'm kinda coy the first time I meet a guy that I've never seen in person before. Luckily, there weren't any of these awkward moments of silence and I even lost track of the time while being with him. Evidently, I'd say there was some sort of natural chemistry between us.

Anyways, we ended up having sex and I slept over to his place the whole night. We had a great time and I believe he enjoyed it as much as I did.

So far so good, now the bad news is that he had made it pretty clear from the beginning that though he's the relationship type of guy (he specifically said this was the second time he ever sleeps with practically a stranger and he's 24), he isn't looking for a relationship at this time because he's still fresh from the break up with his ex (who paradoxically didn't really love and told me they should have split up a long time ago) and needs some time before he attempts it again. When I asked him what it is that he's looking for then, he said "friends" that may potentially end up into something more serious in the long term.

With all that being said, when I left his place I was 99% sure that I wasn't going to hear from him again, judging from my other similar experiences in the past. Surprisingly enough for me though, he talked to me again last night on MSN and seemed really happy about it. We didn't say much to be honest because we were both tired and it was late. Although I'm sure we will talk again tonight.

I know it's still early and all but here is me getting utterly confused and not knowing how to proceed. Do I just play along and see where this gets me? Or do I keep my distance before becoming too attached to him (I know for a fact that I like him, want to see him again and get to know him better) and risking to be hurt if eventually it turns out that all he wants is a fuck buddy to mess around with.

Any tips or advice is more than welcomed guys.

 

[ZephyrFate]

Don't get too involved and let him surprise you. Sounds more like friends with benefits, don't let it stray too much further on your end.

 

[Dr. Malik]

Tell him "I have enough friends, thank you. Call me when you are ready for something more"

Got to be fierce

 

[Odinson]

Since he made contact with you afterwards maybe he sees something in you that he likes as well. Being fresh out of a relationship though you don't want to be the rebound guy. I would keep him at a distance until he really knows what he wants. So that you don't get to attached and get hurt when he's on to the next one.

 

[ciD_Vain]

Keep your guard up. I've this thing happen to too many of my best friends and they almost always get hurt in the end. I'm not saying it won't work because I have seen this type of thing work before; all i'm saying is it's better to keep a distance and guard up so as to not get hurt if things don't go as you hope. Good luck though! And congrats on scoring

 

[SpaceBridge]

So I went out with this new guy who I've been talking to online for about a week now. Without a doubt, he is the most talkative and interesting gay guy that I've met so far. We talked about various topics and somehow I felt rather comfortable around him really fast; usually I'm kinda coy the first time I meet a guy that I've never seen in person before. Luckily, there weren't any of these awkward moments of silence and I even lost track of the time while being with him. Evidently, I'd say there was some sort of natural chemistry between us.

Anyways, we ended up having sex and I slept over to his place the whole night. We had a great time and I believe he enjoyed it as much as I did.

So far so good, now the bad news is that he had made it pretty clear from the beginning that though he's the relationship type of guy (he specifically said this was the second time he ever sleeps with practically a stranger and he's 24), he isn't looking for a relationship at this time because he's still fresh from the break up with his ex (who paradoxically didn't really love and told me they should have split up a long time ago) and needs some time before he attempts it again. When I asked him what it is that he's looking for then, he said "friends" that may potentially end up into something more serious in the long term.

With all that being said, when I left his place I was 99% sure that I wasn't going to hear from him again, judging from my other similar experiences in the past. Surprisingly enough for me though, he talked to me again last night on MSN and seemed really happy about it. We didn't say much to be honest because we were both tired and it was late. Although I'm sure we will talk again tonight.

I know it's still early and all but here is me getting utterly confused and not knowing how to proceed. Do I just play along and see where this gets me? Or do I keep my distance before becoming too attached to him (I know for a fact that I like him, want to see him again and get to know him better) and risking to be hurt if eventually it turns out that all he wants is a fuck buddy to mess around with.

Any tips or advice is more than welcomed guys.

Dump him, and go out with me.

 

[Vazra]

After a week of sitcom material, dramatic final works and not sleeping for a whole week I finally have a 1 week vacations. (that sucks...)


I wont think much things and go with the flow whatever happens happens. I'm tired of almost everything at the moment.

 

[SpaceBridge]

After a week of sitcom material, dramatic final works and not sleeping for a whole week I finally have a 1 week vacations. (that sucks...)


I wont think much things and go with the flow whatever happens happens. I'm tired of almost everything at the moment.

Why does it suck to have 1 week off?

Any plans in mind?

 

[Dr. Malik]

I hate one word texts

 

[SpaceBridge]

I hate one word texts

Details please. Was this about the chest hair dude?

 

[Phonomezer]

I hate one word texts

ok

 

[xelios]

I hate one word texts

Why?

 

[Phonomezer]

lulz

 

[Dr. Malik]

Details please. Was this about the chest hair dude?

yeah,
I mean do I just leave it at that, when I do that it means I no longer want to speak so I am assuming the same.

ok

>:[

 

[xelios]

Repeated one word text responses means the person is either bored or boring. Pick...

 

[_Isaac]

yeah,
I mean do I just leave it at that, when I do that it means I no longer want to speak so I am assuming the same.



>:[

For me, it sometimes means I have no idea what else I'm supposed to say. I'm not good at talking though, so it happens a lot. It doesn't mean I want to stop talking.

 

[SpaceBridge]

yeah,
I mean do I just leave it at that, when I do that it means I no longer want to speak so I am assuming the same.



>:[

Details. What happened. Last we heard you had a hot date, it went well, with the promise that you would get together again. But you left it in his court. So what are the new developments.

 

[xelios]

I'm hopeless. I'm tired of hearing I'm cute, but all the guys near me won't give me the time of day. Maybe its Texas men, has to be, cause all the guys that show any interest in me at all live in other states.

Oh my god, this was me except at 17. Eventually I did wind up with someone from another state. Texas is terrible for gays unless you're in San Antonio, Houston etc. Good luck though!

 

[Dr. Malik]

Well I was having a shitty day, yesterday and today. I wasnt confident that I will do good on my final so I been debating whether to drop the class, which I eventually did today and now I'm like fuck it if its going to be a shitty day I might as well text this dude and either end it or hopefully it goes somewhere, which I'm doing. Its looking like its not going nowhere, oh well

/livejournal-age

 

[jgwhiteus]

Edit: I think I need to gay this post up a bit so that's it not too off topic... so, uh tell me guys, what's the best way to let a guy down gently? See, since I've started using Grindr I'll have a chat with most people who ping me, but I suppose that gives a lot of people the impression that you want to sleep with them or go on a date, despite the fact you have told them that you're just chatting and that you're seeing someone etc. I don't want to start telling people that I'm not interested in them in that way, that would sound kind of arrogant of me I would think, but perhaps that's just what you have to do? How do you phrase that without sounding full of yourself or a total prick?

If you've already told them that you're "just chatting and that you're seeing someone", shouldn't that be enough? Seems like they shouldn't have false expectations. Unless they think you're looking to fool around on the side - and, well, to be a bit blunt, if you're seeing someone but you're on Grindr, that would be my assumption as well. I'm sure there are plenty of profiles where people say they're just there to chat or make new friends, etc., yet they'll pursue guys they're interested in. In those cases, the "just here for friends" thing is kind of a convenient excuse to maintain distance.

But if you're looking for a way to let someone down easily without coming off as arrogant, just casually work in the "I'm seeing someone" and "I'm just here to chat" stuff in your conversations. Hopefully they get the hint.

And yeah, I'm sort of learning the hard way from online dating that if you're not interested in someone from the start, you should either find a good way to let them down easily - but clearly - or just not respond to their messages.

 

[SpaceBridge]

Well I was having a shitty day, yesterday and today. I wasnt confident that I will do good on my final so I been debating whether to drop the class, which I eventually did today and now I'm like fuck it if its going to be a shitty day I might as well text this dude and either end it or hopefully it goes somewhere, which I'm doing. Its looking like its not going nowhere, oh well

/livejournal-age

Im confused. So, your trying to end things with the guy you liked via text?

 

[Dr. Malik]

Im confused. So, your trying to end things with the guy you liked via text?

was just texting to see whats up and maybe if he wanted to go out again, he hasn't replied to my last text after his one word one so I'm just reading into that

 

[SpaceBridge]

was just texting to see whats up and maybe if he wanted to go out again, he hasn't replied to my last text after his one word one so I'm just reading into that

Aww, dude. What was the one word text?

 

[Dr. Malik]

Aww, dude. What was the one word text?

ok

 

[SpaceBridge]

ok

What was the context though?

Did you text him, "Lets get together tomorrow, so I can run my hands through your chest hair."

"ok"

 

[_Isaac]

What was the context though?

Did you text him, "Lets get together tomorrow, so I can run my hands through your chest hair."

"ok"

This is bad?

 

[Phonomezer]

ok

oh

 

[Dr. Malik]

ok so there is still hope, I'm just going to sleep on it

Spoiler

I might have overreacted.. I think

Fake Edit: Got a smilie face

 

[fernoca]

Yeah I kinda hate it. Though my experience is limited to talking online. Like seeing a guy on a site, nice profile, says he likes videogames; so I send him a message saying "Hi,your profile got my attention and I like videogames too. Currently playing [insert current game I'm playing]" (or something like that).

Just to get a message back saying "Ok".

In the context of Marius_, hot/hairy-chest guy might be interested; but just don't know what else to say. So leave things at that. You did your part, he replied with an "enthusiastic ok", now wait for him to reply with "Hey, I'm free next wednesday if you want go out!!".

Fake Edit: Got a smilie face

He lurks GAF!!! :O!!

 

[Dr. Malik]

He lurks GAF!!! :O!!

Dont even joke like that, but I should probably never be as detailed...
Also no one quote me anymore in case I have to delete something, lol

 

[ciD_Vain]

Ugh! One word text messages are the worst!! >_<

 

[ZephyrFate]

This is bad?

Texting stuff like that is kinda odd. I'd rather say that in real life or over the phone.

 

[fernoca]

Dont even joke like that, but I should probably never be as detailed...
Also no one quote me anymore in case I have to delete something, lol

Hahaha.. XD

As posted on the MK thread:

'Zup guys!!

And even like that he looks quite great. XD

<3!

 

[Phonomezer]

Who is that and why does he look like that?

 

[_Isaac]

Oh I thought fernoca was joking about his looks again. Like you were trying to pass that off as yourself.

 

[Phonomezer]

Oh I thought fernoca was joking about his looks again. Like you were trying to pass that off as yourself.

fernoca looks like roadkill?

 

[fernoca]

Well, in some way yeah. Even with all that make up and the missing eye, he's quite hot.

That's Darren Shahlavi. Kano in Mortal Kombat Legacy. That's after the fight with Jax were he loses his right eye and ends as the Kano we all know.

fernoca looks like roadkill?

Yeah.

 

[Phonomezer]

I didn't mind the original Kano

>

Yeah.

haha I'm sure you don't!

 

[SpaceBridge]

haha I'm sure you don't!

He doesnt.

 

[Phonomezer]

He doesnt.

Another CASE SOLVED

 

[SpaceBridge]

Another CASE SOLVED

Get off my case Phonomezer.

 

[Phonomezer]

 

[ciD_Vain]

-__- Best friend keeps tweeting about hanging out, chilling, running, and eating with you know who. I think he's trying to make me jealous.

 

[SpaceBridge]

Im gonna pretend that your trying to be witty and stuff.

 

[Cosmic Bus]

-__- Best friend keeps tweeting about hanging out, chilling, running, and eating with you know who. I think he's trying to make me jealous.

Ohhh man, I see where this is headed:

 

[fernoca]

-__- Best friend keeps tweeting about hanging out, chilling, running, and eating with you know who. I think he's trying to make me jealous.

Well, seeing how he knows you like the guy and he claims he doesn't...yep.

Tweet back about random stuff you did.

 

[SpaceBridge]

Ohhh man, I see where this is headed:

Raise you one.

 

[Phonomezer]

Im gonna pretend that your trying to be witty and stuff.

No, I just thought it was an amusing picture of Jessica Fletcher.

-__- Best friend keeps tweeting about hanging out, chilling, running, and eating with you know who. I think he's trying to make me jealous.

Be polite; just say "okay, have a good time" and ignore the little games.

 

[fernoca]

Post the tweets to read them!!!