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xelios said:
I don't understand, what's so obviously wrong with your face that people from everywhere laugh? Acne? Acne scarring? I've never really known people to laugh at either (I don't laugh either). Is there something in particular you can point out?
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I don't know. :p
I don't have any deformation or anything. I do have acne-scarring, mixed with some skin conditions (dry but still oily face). I do keep them under control, but there are other things liek my skin sometimes turns-red-ish..but no actual condition, And the dermatholigists..well, the last 2 I went to got scared when they started seeing th red blemishes appear as if they ignored what caused them and started just giving me creams..that made things worse...to experiment.

Some say that my face is just normal..so I just don't know. XD
 
xelios said:
Well if his face was made fun of by everyone from school to work to the mall to random people on the street, there should be something he can point out or he's probably just extremely paranoid and insecure and it never happened.
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Im not denying his experiences, I think the majority of people have been made fun of when younger, especially gay teens, but its definitely appears to have affected his self esteem.
 
fernoca said:
I don't know. :p
I don't have any deformation or anything. I do have acne-scarring, mixed with some skin conditions (dry but still oily face). I do keep them under control, but there are other things liek my skin sometimes turns-red-ish..but no actual condition, And the dermatholigists..well, the last 2 I went to got scared when they started seeing th red blemishes appear as if they ignored what caused them and started just giving me creams..that made things worse...to experiment.

Some say that my face is just normal..so I just don't know. XD
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If that's it then I don't believe you. Not that I think you're lying intentionally, but people don't make fun of you your entire life for that. Odds are those people who were assholes when you were young (in school) caused you to develop extreme insecurity to the point of paranoia and delusion. People haven't been laughing at and making fun of you all these other times.
 
I know. I shouldn't be bitching. I don't think I'm that bad looking. I was once fat long ago, like 185lbs or something. I sure wish I had those to compare to my after pics.

me of today :P

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I will start the run part soon, I just don't want to overdue it with my asthma.
 
Looking darn good in there RPG! And you look way younger than 34! :O!

TheSeks said:
Neo's first problem is his lack of confidence. GAINING that would give him the ability to go "fuck other people, I'm awesome." He won't do that if he WON'T FUCKING BOTHER "growing a pair" and putting himself on GAF to get comments.

But no, let's feel sorry for poor poor neojubei because he's the only one that has been rejected and feels ugly.

Give me a break. I've been there, I've done that. I got the t-shirt and you know what? People suck. FORGET THEM. FORGET RELATIONSHIPS. WORRY ABOUT YOURSELF FIRST OF ALL. And since Neo's problem first of all seems to be his looks, he should POST HIMSELF UP to get comments to possible make himself look better and feel better after taking those peoples advice.
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Yeah, but some cases..well, "baby steps".
I didnt' had my first (but forced..ugh..and full of smoke..) kiss since I was 23 and I didn't openly posted pictures of me on a random website till I was 27...and I'm 29. XD

I sense also some sarcasm in some of his posts. Not as if he's actually crying and cutting himself while posting here, and I know that people get tired of the "well, here comes Mr. I'm ugly no body loves me"..again; but see his post also as a way to ..openly talk about it. Since, maybe he doesn't have other ways or places to talk about it.



xelios said:
If that's it then I don't believe you. Not that I think you're lying intentionally, but people don't make fun of you your entire life for that. Odds are those people who were assholes when you were young (in school) caused you to develop extreme insecurity to the point of paranoia and delusion. People haven't been laughing at and making fun of you all these other times.
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Yeah, but the stuff continued in later years too. The trash while walking in front of the elevators in college wasn't a fiction of my imagination; neither the multiple times I had to do "group assignements" by myself; because when picking people, noone picked me (kinda like in the movies when they pick teammates to play basketball and the nerdy-kid is left till then end..XD).

Or the guy I just talked online yesterday and technically wanted to go out in a date with me (ike videogames, movies, not much into pubs/bars), untill he aksed for cam and when he saw my face. He got all angry talking about "how I wasn't his type" and my pics (shirtless/faceless) led him to belive I looked different.

I know it sounds made up, and many other things..but no biggie. Over the last months I just don't mind. I'm like, instead of "I'm attractive!! Watch out!" ..I'm like "I'm ugly..watch out!!".. XD ..and have fun. (safe fun, not that kind of fun.. :p)
 
fernoca said:
I sense also some sarcasm in some of his posts. Not as if he's actually crying and cutting himself while posting here, and I know that people get tired of the "well, here comes Mr. I'm ugly no body loves me"..again; but see his post also as a way to ..openly talk about it. Since, maybe he doesn't have other ways or places to talk about it.
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I spent some time talking with jubei a couple of years ago, trying to help him during a particularly rough patch, and I'm sure I had suggested at least looking into seeing someone professionally because I know as well as anybody that sometimes it's just too difficult to do this on your own. Whether he was ever able to pursue that option isn't clear, but God knows I'd like to see the guy find some peace after all this.
 
TheSeks said:
Okay, now I need to see pictures of your bisexual(?) ass.
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LOL, maybe. I hate posting pics of myself online, it always seems reckless. Fuck it, here's one someone tagged me in on FB. All 240lbs of me. That's 110kg right? Multiply by 2.2? Anyway, here you go. And if this chubby bearish bastard can get some play, so can anyone.

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And yeah, I do swing both ways, but not at the same time any more!
 
But you look great Dead Man.
Well distributed I'd say, don't know if Im saying what I'm trying to say (english is not my first language :/); but that you look..balanced.What I like to call "big" in the sense that is not the "fat" kind of way when someone looks like he has two chins and this huge arms and belly...I don't know; I'll just stop talking. :p

Is part of my problem: I have no problems or favorites when it comes to guys. Chubby? Damn love your belly. Too hairy? Damn love that hair. Too skinny? Damn love those bones. XD


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And..hahaha... Sexy Nerd!! XD (NSFW ;p)
 
Sorry for being a downer how about I post pics of what I wished I looked like?


Edit: I'll post a photo when I return home formwork today. Hopefully I won't scare a bunch of you guys
 
fernoca said:
I tried talking to guys I saw with Game Boy Advances while waiting for the next class not only to be ignored and made fun of, but also made fun of by others when they saw me with a [lol kiddy] GBA (and ironically, they going to talk to other guys with GBA..about how" cool Pokemon was".)
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I hope you told them all to fuck off. Good lawd.
 
Just wanted to say hi and welcome the new guys. Finally some fresh blood in here.

On another note, I wanna see photos of fernoca and Replicant. :P
 
SpaceBridge said:
There's more than just me who'd like to see though.
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Well, I can't post it here since I'm not completely out yet. And God knows who lurk around here. But I'll send you PM if you're that curious. Hope you're not disappointed though.
 
Yoshiya said:
Nice to see the thread properly rise from the grave.
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Replicant said:
Well, I can't post it here since I'm not completely out yet. And God knows who lurk around here. But I'll send you PM if you're that curious. Hope you're not disappointed though.
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Replicant?!

This is your father. WE NEED TO TALK.
 
So GAF... About 2 months ago I met this cute guy; he's the first guy I was able to see myself in a relationship with. We hit it off right away... in fact we hit it off too well. We hung out every night for a week. I met his friends, he met mine etc.

Then one night we were out and he told me "we don't have to spend every night together, you know" and asked me to go home. We later talked and he said he'd freaked out about how fast things were moving. About a week after that incident, we randomly ran into each other and we were drunk and I ended up going to his place, and we had sex. The next morning he didn't remember anything happening. My memory was hazy but I do remember most of the details.

Eventually, I talked to him again, and said it's probably best if we "left things be" and we haven't really talked since. It's been a month now and I realize that I kinda miss him and I wanna contact him again, but I don't know if I should, or how I should do it. Any advice?
 
Nazgul_Hunter said:
So GAF... About 2 months ago I met this cute guy; he's the first guy I was able to see myself in a relationship with. We hit it off right away... in fact we hit it off too well. We hung out every night for a week. I met his friends, he met mine etc.

Then one night we were out and he told me "we don't have to spend every night together, you know" and asked me to go home. We later talked and he said he'd freaked out about how fast things were moving. About a week after that incident, we randomly ran into each other and we were drunk and I ended up going to his place, and we had sex. The next morning he didn't remember anything happening. My memory was hazy but I do remember most of the details.

Eventually, I talked to him again, and said it's probably best if we "left things be" and we haven't really talked since. It's been a month now and I realize that I kinda miss him and I wanna contact him again, but I don't know if I should, or how I should do it. Any advice?
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Hmm, interesting situation. Just for clarification, was it you who suggested you end this relationship? If so, how did he take it? And also, do you guys only have sex that one time?
 
SpaceBridge said:
Hmm, interesting situation. Just for clarification, was it you who suggested you end this relationship? If so, how did he take it? And also, do you guys only have sex that one time?
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It was him that ended things. I'd spent the night over, but nothing physical had happened. That was the only time we had sex
 
Nazgul_Hunter said:
Eventually, I talked to him again, and said it's probably best if we "left things be" and we haven't really talked since. It's been a month now and I realize that I kinda miss him and I wanna contact him again, but I don't know if I should, or how I should do it. Any advice?
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If you want, give it one last chance and contact him but if he doesn't respond much or if you have to contact him again next time then ignore him. If he wants you, he knows where you are. The more you contact him the more the relationship will be one sided.
 
Replicant said:
If you want, give it one last chance and contact him but if he doesn't respond much or if you have to contact him again next time then ignore him. If he wants you, he knows where you are. The more you contact him the more the relationship will be one sided.
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This. I would suggest though that you be honest with him, and tell him your true feelings, and regrets. I feel sometimes guys arent honest for fear of being hurt or seeming desperate. If you miss him, then let him know that. If he feels the same, then he'll let you know too. But definitely be a little cautious not to be played.
 
Nazgul_Hunter said:
So GAF... About 2 months ago I met this cute guy; he's the first guy I was able to see myself in a relationship with. We hit it off right away... in fact we hit it off too well. We hung out every night for a week. I met his friends, he met mine etc.

Then one night we were out and he told me "we don't have to spend every night together, you know" and asked me to go home. We later talked and he said he'd freaked out about how fast things were moving. About a week after that incident, we randomly ran into each other and we were drunk and I ended up going to his place, and we had sex. The next morning he didn't remember anything happening. My memory was hazy but I do remember most of the details.

Eventually, I talked to him again, and said it's probably best if we "left things be" and we haven't really talked since. It's been a month now and I realize that I kinda miss him and I wanna contact him again, but I don't know if I should, or how I should do it. Any advice?
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Sounds to me like too much too soon, mate.

If you want to continue to talk to him, then might I suggest the friend zone. He'll come around eventually if he is interested.

If you see him again it should be in a "non-threatening" environment (i.e. out with his friends and yours).

Actually, I honestly wouldn't bother with such an indecisive baby. Sorry if I sound rude.
 
Nazgul_Hunter said:
Thanks! Yeah, the biggest question in my mind right now was *how* much or what to say
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Id use measured words for sure, but then again, if the connection you two had was a genuine one, you shouldn't have to worry about pride. he'll let you know his feelings pretty clearly, either in a direct manner, or via the tone of his response.
 
One down, still need to see fernoca. :P
Btw, Replicant looks absolutely fine.

Nazgul, I'd try to be open and honest with him. Tell him how you feel and that you want to see him again.
 
DarkUSS said:
One down, still need to see fernoca. :P
Btw, Replicant looks absolutely fine.

Nazgul, I'd try to be open and honest with him. Tell him how you feel and that you want to see him again.
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Replicant is more than fine.
 
neojubei said:
I have a horrible fat body so i cannot show that online. lol im screwed either way. I have been going to the gym but i know in my heart even if i lose enough weight i still won't be attractive or met anyone.
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Been in the weight loss thread recently? Incredible transformations there. I was 325 at my biggest, on a 5'10" frame. Now I'm down to 253 or so and I'm gonna keep on trucking. Life's too short, I'm telling you.

Don't be too worried about what other people think, certainly not on the internet. The internet is vain beyond any reasonable measure.
Replicant said:
If you want, give it one last chance and contact him but if he doesn't respond much or if you have to contact him again next time then ignore him. If he wants you, he knows where you are. The more you contact him the more the relationship will be one sided.
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Pretty much. It's always a two-way street.
 
fernoca said:
But you look great Dead Man.
Well distributed I'd say, don't know if Im saying what I'm trying to say (english is not my first language :/); but that you look..balanced.What I like to call "big" in the sense that is not the "fat" kind of way when someone looks like he has two chins and this huge arms and belly...I don't know; I'll just stop talking. :p

Is part of my problem: I have no problems or favorites when it comes to guys. Chubby? Damn love your belly. Too hairy? Damn love that hair. Too skinny? Damn love those bones. XD


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And..hahaha... Sexy Nerd!! XD (NSFW ;p)
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I never looked balanced when I was fat - still don't (to a lesser extent) even while I'm lighter. Huge moobs. Double chin. Chubby cheeks. Thunder thighs. NO ass whatsoever. I didn't get one single solitary benefit from my genetics at all. I looked fat and I didn't carry it well. This will make you incredibly self-conscious, I guarantee it.

And it was the self-fulfilling prophecy. Go out, feel bad about your body, eat; go out, feel bad about your body, eat. Very dangerous cycle. I was just filling whatever holes I had in my life. No friends, no one to love, etc - and again, that fed back into the loop of self-hatred.

Thankfully I've seen the light and know what I want. It took hitting rock bottom
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and major bouts of depression, but I'm getting through it. Anyone else can here too. We're all important whether we know it or feel it.
 
Hello Gaf! I'm glad to see this thread is still alive and kicking :)

So there's this guy that I work with and I think he's gay, but i'm not entirely sure. I'm usually 9/10 with my gaydar but this one keeps throwing me off. He has a lot of the tendencies that I look for when trying to see if someone's straight or not. Many others at work thinks he's not straight, and one of my friends that i work with immediately declared he wasn't straight from their first meeting (she's been right about all the guys i questioned to be gay). However, one day we were talking about what his plans were over the weekend and he mentioned to me that he was going up north to see this girl he was talking to and interested in. Is there any way to ask him if he's gay without sounding awkward? Keep in mind that I'm not really friends with him; his older brother was in the same high school grad class as me though.

I'm interested in talking to him because he's really nice, good-looking, and we've had some interesting conversations. I wouldn't want to be wasting my time though so I'm just looking for a way to ask without making it awkward from now on. Also, i'm not sure if he knows that i'm gay or not as i've never hinted at it nor have i brought it up in any way. Thanks for your help guys and gals.
 
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