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Alcoori said:
Ok guys, just had a drink with a guy who contacted me on Okcupid. He is cute and from the little online chat we had I figured he should be interesting to meet.

Well, it didn't go well.
First of all, the whole date lasted only an hour. Second of all, this guy came off as extremely arrogant. The kind of guy who I wanna tell "Girl, get over yourself". Third, I had to ask most of the questions, I mean he asked me a couple but all were about my PhD: when do I start, how many PhD students am I working with, etc. It's fine for a while but he could have asked me questions about me such as where I'm from and all that.
He also made fun of my accent and went as far as to make me repeat "woman" several time so I could get the pronunciation right (WTF). Now granted I'm not a native English speaker but people on the Gaygaf Skype chat will confirm that it's far from being bad and I'm fairly confident that I know how to pronounce "woman". He also kept saying how French people were sketchy (at least twice) and I was like, hmm you know I'm French right?

I mean, what a douche. He must have felt that I was getting annoyed, hence why we ended up the date early. I do not understand what his problem was. He was the one who contacted me, he knew I was French from my profile and he was the one asking if I wanted to get a drink (and he didn't even drink, wtf lol).

Good think though is that I came home earlier and was able to do my P90X of the day!

None of this sounds that bad except maybe him not wanting to ask more questions about you. It's disappointing that the accent and French stuff offended you. He was probably trying to have fun, and that came off as arrogance to you. Maybe you guys just have a different sense of humor and that's why he left early.
 
_Isaac said:
None of this sounds that bad except maybe him not wanting to ask more questions about you. It's disappointing that the accent and French stuff offended you. He was probably trying to have fun, and that came off as arrogance to you. Maybe you guys just have a different sense of humor and that's why he left early.

Oh trust me, I can make fun of my accent without a problem. I have made so with other guys and they didn't sound arrogant at all. I wasn't offended or anything, I was just over it in the end. It's a date, you're not supposed to make fun of the other person the whole time. You're also supposed to want to learn about them.

Oh well, it's not like I don't have other people lined up and ready (I know, whore).
 
_Isaac said:
None of this sounds that bad except maybe him not wanting to ask more questions about you. It's disappointing that the accent and French stuff offended you. He was probably trying to have fun, and that came off as arrogance to you. Maybe you guys just have a different sense of humor and that's why he left early.
But the guy was making fun of Alcoori's accent and of french people.

Is like I meet a guy, that knows I'm from Puerto Rico and starts making fun of my accent when speaking english and saying that guys from PR are sketchy. Of course I'll be like "Okay..wtf?".
 
fernoca said:
But the guy was making fun of Alcoori's accent and of french people.

Is like I meet a guy, that knows I'm from Puerto Rico and starts making fun of my accent when speaking english and saying that guys from PR are sketchy. Of course I'll be like "Okay..wtf?".

This doesn't sound bad to me. If my accent is funny then my accent is funny. It also wouldn't bother me if he says that guys from Mexico are sketchy because.............well a lot of them are.
 
SpaceBridge said:
Accents are cute. They define character, like blue eyes, or a mole on the cheek, or cleft chin, or big ears. Dont let anyone say otherwise.
I have a friend who has the most clearest/deepest blue eyes I've ever seen :3 It makes it really hard to look at him directly though.

Edit: Also, I agree with Alcoori and whoever else agreed with him. It's definitely one think to make jokes about accents and whatnot, but if he was doing it consistently on a first date it's probably a bit too much.
 
This seems like the right thread to post the story of my relationship, and today seems like the perfect day to do it.

I'm happily engaged with my wonderful boyfriend, and today is our two year anniversary. (We've defined our "anniversary" as the day that we first met in person.) Although we've only been together in person for two years, we've known each other for over six. We met each other online—more specifically, on Animal Crossing. Yes, we met each other over six years ago on Animal Crossing: Wild World. At the time, I hadn't even come out of the closet. But shortly after we began talking, we became best friends. Then a lot of time passed, stuff happened, and I finally came out. That's when we officially started dating (though we were pretty much already in love with each other before that, I was just in denial), and I couldn't stand being apart from him anymore. I pretty much just ran away from my family (which I really regret doing, but it all turned out good in the long run) and flew across the country to be with him. And...we've been together every since. X3

So, I guess what I've learned from all this is... If you're looking for your soulmate, try Animal Crossing. It helps. XD

Just curious, are there any other Gaffers here who have met their significant other through a video game? I'm guessing there probably are quite a few, but I haven't heard too many stories like my own.
 
SpaceBridge said:
Accents are cute. They define character, like blue eyes, or a mole on the cheek, or cleft chin, or big ears. Dont let anyone say otherwise.
I've lost track of how many moles i have on me. there's probably like 5 on my face alone, one on my left ear lobe (like my brother and father), some on my both of my arms and body, and 2 on my private area.
 
Tyeforce said:
This seems like the right thread to post the story of my relationship, and today seems like the perfect day to do it.

I'm happily engaged with my wonderful boyfriend, and today is our two year anniversary. (We've defined our "anniversary" as the day that we first met in person.) Although we've only been together in person for two years, we've known each other for over six. We met each other online—more specifically, on Animal Crossing. Yes, we met each other over six years ago on Animal Crossing: Wild World. At the time, I hadn't even come out of the closet. But shortly after we began talking, we became best friends. Then a lot of time passed, stuff happened, and I finally came out. That's when we officially started dating (though we were pretty much already in love with each other before that, I was just in denial), and I couldn't stand being apart from him anymore. I pretty much just ran away from my family (which I really regret doing, but it all turned out good in the long run) and flew across the country to be with him. And...we've been together every since. X3

So, I guess what I've learned from all this is... If you're looking for your soulmate, try Animal Crossing. It helps. XD

Just curious, are there any other Gaffers here who have met their significant other through a video game? I'm guessing there probably are quite a few, but I haven't heard too many stories like my own.

Thats such an awesome story. :D
Unfortunately I havent met my soul mate during a game. Congrats on the engagement though.
 
_Isaac said:
This doesn't sound bad to me. If my accent is funny then my accent is funny. It also wouldn't bother me if he says that guys from Mexico are sketchy because.............well a lot of them are.
:O
Bitch! >:C

But you don't make fun of other people's accent on the first date, unless they start making fun of themselves. IMO

I hate when that happens, the other person barely knows you and they start joking and making fun of something about you, I don't find that funny :(
 
Jezan said:
:O
Bitch! >:C

But you don't make fun of other people's accent on the first date, unless they start making fun of themselves. IMO

I hate when that happens, the other person barely knows you and they start joking and making fun of something about you, I don't find that funny :(

I guess I don't know anything. People have made fun of my height before though. I should be offended more often.
 
_Isaac said:
I guess I don't know anything. People have made fun of my height before though. I should be offended more often.
Well I get offended easily, so I guess is a big problem I have than anything else :(
 
Kyon said:
Kyons lovely pic

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Werk!
 
SpaceBridge said:
Accents are cute. They define character, like blue eyes, or a mole on the cheek, or cleft chin, or big ears. Dont let anyone say otherwise.

Ahhh my bf has a aussie/british accent,kinda larger nose and clear blue eyes. All his features are so hot >.< And thank you Spacebridge! I try to be nice but the bitch does come out when it needs to.
 
fernoca said:
Why does young guys (and by young, I mean, not even legal yet) are so friendly towards me and initate conversations?

...Is like the example I said some weeks ago, about the movie Flipped. Watched it, found the main character (played by Callan McAuliffe) to be cute. Just to go online and see that he's 16 and I felt like a pedophile. :( .. :p

Younger people, male and female, are often very interested in feeling "grown up" sooner than is realistic, and befriending or trying to get involved with an adult is just one way of accomplishing that. There are, of course, those who are just looking for someone who'll buy them things and dote on them (my therapist once asked "He isn't asking you for money, right?" after we discussed the younger guy I had fallen for) but it's entirely possible that they might not identify as much with their peers and are looking for more legitimate conversation and less teenage drama (this has been my experience, fwiw).

It certainly doesn't make you a pedophile or ephebophile, in any case. That's such a popular knee-jerk reaction, and one I'm not going to bother getting into right now.

_Isaac said:
I guess I don't know anything. People have made fun of my height before though. I should be offended more often.

Nah, most people are far too sensitive about inconsequential stuff.
 
Cosmic Bus said:
Younger people, male and female, are often very interested in feeling "grown up" sooner than is realistic, and befriending or trying to get involved with an adult is just one way of accomplishing that. There are, of course, those who are just looking for someone who'll buy them things and dote on them (my therapist once asked "He isn't asking you for money, right?" after we discussed the younger guy I had fallen for) but it's entirely possible that they might not identify as much with their peers and are looking for more legitimate conversation and less teenage drama (this has been my experience, fwiw).

It certainly doesn't make you a pedophile or ephebophile, in any case. That's such a popular knee-jerk reaction, and one I'm not going to bother getting into right now.



Nah, most people are far too sensitive about inconsequential stuff.

God someone who gets it. I have a lot of younger friends and they just want someone older to listen to them. They dont ask for money or anything just someone to hear them out. You would be amazed at how many teens want conversations. (Also plus for putting ephebophile down. Most people just blanket put pedophile.)
 
Delio said:
God someone who gets it. I have a lot of younger friends and they just want someone older to listen to them. They dont ask for money or anything just someone to hear them out. You would be amazed at how many teens want conversations. (Also plus for putting ephebophile down. Most people just blanket put pedophile.)

As long as your intentions with them is as a friend, and not using your experience and advice to manipulate them into a one sided relationship with benefits. Like I said earlier in this thread, when I came out I met alot of older guys who wanted to "befriend" me, and "advise" me and show me the scene. But clearly, friendship wasnt what they were truly after.
 
SpaceBridge said:
As long as your intentions with them is as a friend, and not using your experience and advice to manipulate them into a one sided relationship with benefits. Like I said earlier in this thread, when I came out I met alot of older guys who wanted to "befriend" me, and "advise" me and show me the scene. But clearly, friendship wasnt what they were truly after.

Oh no my intentions are fully as friends. I would never want anything else out of them nor would i steer them into what i want. For the most part i end up staying quiet and letting them rant on about whatever silly thing they are into that week.
 
Alcoori said:
Ok guys, just had a drink with a guy who contacted me on Okcupid.
Yeah, I signed up for OKCupid last month and have gone on a few dates since then, and they've been hit or miss - but I guess that's just the nature of dating, whether you meet online or through friends, etc. Thankfully I haven't had any "bad" dates, just friendly chats with people that don't really go anywhere afterwards.

People's online behavior is so odd, though. Like, I've messaged a few people who haven't messaged back, which I take as a "not interested" - and that's fine; rejection is a part of dating. I've had to do my share of rejection as well, and in the end people hopefully just move on to the next guy. But then I'll see some guys who haven't responded still checking out my profile, multiple times - WTF? Like, if you're not interested, why are you still reading my profile over and looking at updates? So weird. But whatever, I guess it all goes with the territory, though I think after another few weeks I might disable my account and take a short break or something.
 
Darn awesome story Tyeforce! :O! And you met on Animal Crossing: Wild World? The one Animal Crossing I decided to stop playing AC game! XD.. :( .. :p

And yeah, agree about the "younger guys thing". Maybe is just that I'm so not used to people approaching to me; even less on random places (this guys; one was on a Wallgreens, another on McDonalds; another one on Gamestop...and so on...Wallgreens one even asked if I was going out with someone). I don't know; plus is not like they could learn a lot about me. XD


Anyway, you know what...
For a limited time (i.e. under an hour)* I'll leave this 3DS-quality pic in here. (and kinda related to the "do I look older" topic form yesterday..I'm 29) :p

Since I've scared a few GAFfers already, guess a few more is not a problem. Was experimenting with the pics, since I decided put newer/white lights instead of the traditional yellow ones; and I like it. For some reason the room feels less hot. too.

*Pic gone, one hour later :p*
 
jgwhiteus said:
Yeah, I signed up for OKCupid last month and have gone on a few dates since then, and they've been hit or miss - but I guess that's just the nature of dating, whether you meet online or through friends, etc. Thankfully I haven't had any "bad" dates, just friendly chats with people that don't really go anywhere afterwards.

People's online behavior is so odd, though. Like, I've messaged a few people who haven't messaged back, which I take as a "not interested" - and that's fine; rejection is a part of dating. I've had to do my share of rejection as well, and in the end people hopefully just move on to the next guy. But then I'll see some guys who haven't responded still checking out my profile, multiple times - WTF? Like, if you're not interested, why are you still reading my profile over and looking at updates? So weird. But whatever, I guess it all goes with the territory, though I think after another few weeks I might disable my account and take a short break or something.

It might also be the person looking at his inbox and noticing your message again after a while. "Did I forget to respond to this guy? Let me see," and then they look at your profile to refresh their memory. Sometimes, they forget how you look or what you're like and have to rediscover that maybe they weren't attracted to you or hate people that play Pokemon.
 
fernoca said:
Darn awesome story Tyeforce! :O! And you met on Animal Crossing: Wild World? The one Animal Crossing I decided to stop playing AC game! XD.. :( .. :p

And yeah, agree about the "younger guys thing". Maybe is just that I'm so not used to people approaching to me; even less on random places (this guys; one was on a Wallgreens, another on McDonalds; another one on Gamestop...and so on...Wallgreens one even asked if I was going out with someone). I don't know; plus is not like they could learn a lot about me. XD


Anyway, you know what...
For a limited time (i.e. under an hour)[jpg"] I'll leave this 3DS-quality pic in here[/URL]. (and kinda related to the "do I look older" topic form yesterday..I'm 29) :p

Since I've scared a few GAFfers already, guess a few more is not a problem. Was experimenting with the pics, since I decided put newer/white lights instead of the traditional yellow ones; and I like it. For some reason the room feels less hot. too.

When did you grow the mustache? It suits you. You look great.
 
fernoca said:
Darn awesome story Tyeforce! :O! And you met on Animal Crossing: Wild World? The one Animal Crossing I decided to stop playing AC game! XD.. :( .. :p

And yeah, agree about the "younger guys thing". Maybe is just that I'm so not used to people approaching to me; even less on random places (this guys; one was on a Wallgreens, another on McDonalds; another one on Gamestop...and so on...Wallgreens one even asked if I was going out with someone). I don't know; plus is not like they could learn a lot about me. XD


Anyway, you know what...
For a limited time (i.e. under an hour). (and kinda related to the "do I look older" topic form yesterday..I'm 29) :p

Since I've scared a few GAFfers already, guess a few more is not a problem. Was experimenting with the pics, since I decided put newer/white lights instead of the traditional yellow ones; and I like it. For some reason the room feels less hot. too.
Haha you know, I skimmed through this thread before posting here for the first time and one of the few things I recall reading is how bad you said you looked. You look fine dude ;D
 
SpaceBridge said:
When did you grow the mustache? It suits you. You look great.
A week or so. Experimenting with "looks". I really hated the mustache, so I always shaved it. Over the last week decided to do the opposite. Leave the mustache and shave the rest. XD

_Isaac said:
It might also be the person looking at his inbox and noticing your message again after a while. "Did I forget to respond to this guy? Let me see," and then they look at your profile to refresh their memory. Sometimes, they forget how you look or what you're like and have to rediscover that maybe they weren't attracted to you or hate people that play Pokemon.
Hahahaha..so true!!...which sucks. :(
 
_Isaac said:
It might also be the person looking at his inbox and noticing your message again after a while. "Did I forget to respond to this guy? Let me see," and then they look at your profile to refresh their memory. Sometimes, they forget how you look or what you're like and have to rediscover that maybe they weren't attracted to you or hate people that play Pokemon.
Yeah, that's probably the simplest explanation, though (and sorry if this is a bit catty) one of the guys had the "No one's contacted him this week" marker when I messaged him, so it's not like he was being deluged with messages and would have a hard time remembering who I was - "I'm the guy who messaged you this week". Ah well, seems silly to dwell on it.

And haha, even if I played Pokemon I'm not sure if it'd go in the profile - though I did exchange a couple of messages with a guy who reluctantly admitted he was still obsessed.

And yeah, it's nice to finally put a face to fernoca, after so many protests about never showing himself. I agree; you look good.
 
SpaceBridge said:
Thats such an awesome story. :D
Unfortunately I havent met my soul mate during a game. Congrats on the engagement though.
fernoca said:
Darn awesome story Tyeforce! :O! And you met on Animal Crossing: Wild World? The one Animal Crossing I decided to stop playing AC game! XD.. :( .. :p
Thanks guys!

Even after six years, it's still hard to believe that everything actually worked out like it did. Maybe it's fate, or maybe I'm just extremely lucky. =p The only disappointing thing is that I never got to have a proper dating experience because of it. I just kinda fell into the perfect relationship, no opportunity to really "date" anyone. But I wouldn't ever change it.
 
Tyeforce said:
Just curious, are there any other Gaffers here who have met their significant other through a video game? I'm guessing there probably are quite a few, but I haven't heard too many stories like my own.

I met my current BF of almost 3 years on a spinoff of a GameFAQS board ;P That's close enough! Our story is ridiculous. I haven't really thought about it too much, but I am incredibly to have him. <3
 
Tyeforce said:
Just curious, are there any other Gaffers here who have met their significant other through a video game? I'm guessing there probably are quite a few, but I haven't heard too many stories like my own.

I met mines on a random irc about Omegle. I've been with him two years now and it's been great. Not the same as Animal crossing but yeah.
 
shadyspace said:
How do you meet somebody in AC: WW? I thought it was all Friend-to-Friend contact.
Funny story, actually. My little brother and sister actually met him first. We had just recently gotten Wi-Fi, so we found an Animal Crossing forum online to exchange Friend Codes with people. My brother and sister were visiting someone who they had met on the forum, and my now fiancé also happened to be visiting the same person's town. My brother and sister added him to their Friend Roster (you can do that automatically if you meet someone you haven't added to your Friend Roster in someone else's town) and then he invited them over to his town. I caught a glimpse of his town from their screens (it was beautiful, flowers everywhere and awesome patterns on the ground), and I begged them to let me come over, too. So I gave them my Friend Code to give to him, he gave them his to give to me, and that's how we met for the first time.
 
Tyeforce said:
Funny story, actually. My little brother and sister actually met him first. We had just recently gotten Wi-Fi, so we found an Animal Crossing forum online to exchange Friend Codes with people. My brother and sister had were visiting someone who they had met on the forum, and my now fiancé also happened to be visiting the same person's town. My brother and sister added him to their Friend Roster (you can do that automatically if you meet someone you haven't added to your Friend Roster in someone else's town) and then he invited them over to his town. I caught a glimpse of his town from their screens (it was beautiful, flowers everywhere and awesome patterns on the ground), and I begged them to let me come over, too. So they gave him my Friend Code, they gave him mine, and that's how we met for the first time.
Okay. That is a pretty cute story :lol
 
Tyeforce said:
I'm happily engaged with my wonderful boyfriend, and today is our two year anniversary. (We've defined our "anniversary" as the day that we first met in person.) Although we've only been together in person for two years, we've known each other for over six. We met each other online—more specifically, on Animal Crossing. Yes, we met each other over six years ago on Animal Crossing: Wild World.


That's awesome! I'm happy for you, happy anniversary. I met my boyfriend on PSO and we've been together over 8½ years, so you're not alone.

I met my current BF of almost 3 years on a spinoff of a GameFAQS board ;P That's close enough! Our story is ridiculous. I haven't really thought about it too much, but I am incredibly to have him. <3

Aww that's sweet. It's always good to hear these stories, makes me feel less like a weirdo for the way I met mine. 'Course it's common and easier now, but in '02-'03 people thought you must be defective in some way if you met your partner online. I usually don't go out of my way to get into details when the average person asks how.
 
SpaceBridge said:
Just wanted let you know that I ended up picking up Baten Kaitos origins partly cuz of your thread.
HNNNNG.

You are now awesome. Right on! I got my friend into the games because of the streams, too. He's currently playing the original. I get so excited over this stuff, haha.

God, I love BKO so much. I even made a Twitter so I could use stuff I captured from the game. As in, just have an excuse to use that as my background. I'll see what to use the account for eventually, though.
 
dragonlife said:
HNNNNG.

You are now awesome. Right on! I got my friend into the games because of the streams, too. He's currently playing the original. I get so excited over this stuff, haha.

God, I love BKO so much. I even made a Twitter so I could use stuff I captured from the game. As in, just have an excuse to use that as my background. I'll see what to use the account for eventually, though.

I admit though, I picked it up a 3 weeks ago, but I havent started it yet sadly. Havent had the time. But I promise I will and let you know my thoughts.
 
xelios said:
That's awesome! I'm happy for you, happy anniversary. I met my boyfriend on PSO and we've been together over 8½ years, so you're not alone.



Aww that's sweet. It's always good to hear these stories, makes me feel less like a weirdo for the way I met mine. 'Course it's common and easier now, but in '02-'03 people thought you must be defective in some way if you met your partner online. I usually don't go out of my way to get into details when the average person asks how.

People still tell me i'm crazy meeting my partner online. Calling it not real and such haters i say.
 
Sai-kun said:
I met my current BF of almost 3 years on a spinoff of a GameFAQS board ;P That's close enough! Our story is ridiculous. I haven't really thought about it too much, but I am incredibly to have him. <3
xelios said:
That's awesome! I'm happy for you, happy anniversary. I met my boyfriend on PSO and we've been together over 8½ years, so you're not alone.
Wow, congrats to both of you! Good to see that I'm not alone. =)

shadyspace said:
Way better than that other Animal Crossing story about that dude's dead mom.
I remember that... So sad... My boyfriend was actually the person who originally showed it to me.
 
Delio said:
People still tell me i'm crazy meeting my partner online. Calling it not real and such haters i say.
I'll be more than happy if something like that happened with me. I started visitng "online dating sites" at 22; no such luck yet.
 
fernoca said:
I'll be more than happy if something like that happened with me. I started visitng "online dating sites" at 22; no such luck yet.

Pfft you have plenty of time. One big thing i'd say is to not give up i was on the virge of it when i met my guy. It scared me how far he was (He's a Aussie) but it was the right choice in the long run. So never stop trying.
 
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