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Alcoori said:
To be honest, and I don't wanna rain on your parade, but if a guy I barely know sends me text every morning that says "good morning" I would be freaked out a little bit.


There are a lot creepier things one can do. Seems fairly mild.
 
Granger Danger said:
There's nothing left of me but a puddle of goo now. That was so cute it literally made me melt.

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Hahaha..so true.


Darn, ciD's stories are so great; and the guy sound too awesome (I admit I'm like that too, in the sense of waiting for other to drive away..well, in my case I only do it with friends/family -I'm single, blah blah blah-; but it's something I got from my dad. I wait till the other person leaves, before going inside again. Good to see I'm not that weird. :p)

The "good morning" message(s?) is cute too. Again in my case I find it cute because I haven't been in that position yet; as said earlier not even a date. Maybe when I'm there; I'll be freaked out. But it's something I think I'll like. Someone you know, that makes me remember I'm there... and he's there.
 
Yeah. One guy used to wait and pick me up from work every day. No matter if I stunk or rushed to work and didnt shower, he would pull in front and pick me up for lunch or after work. I had my own car then too. That I found odd, like every once in a while is awesome, but EVERY DAY, even when I say 'no'?

That's when you go through their phone and computer and find reasons to dump them.
 
Alcoori said:
To be honest, and I don't wanna rain on your parade, but if a guy I barely know sends me text every morning that says "good morning" I would be freaked out a little bit.

I dunno that wouldnt bother me much.
 
So yeah.

My partner and I celebrate 15 years together today. Amazing morning and afternoon so far. Even though it was supposed to be a no gift day, he surprised me with a new Fender amp so I'm delirious. I'm pretty spoiled. He's my best friend and my true family. I couldn't ask for more. <3 <3 <3
 
Delio said:
I dunno that wouldnt bother me much.

Everyone's different, but for me personally something like the every-morning text would indicate an overeagerness that can sometimes be unattractive early on.

Reminds me of a friend who started dating a guy...and then promptly broke up with him when the guy record a video of himself badly singing "I'll Cover You" from Rent, dedicated it to him, and uploaded it to youtube. Oy, that video...

But yeah, if ciD likes it, then it's perfect. His romance. :)
 
Alcoori said:
To be honest, and I don't wanna rain on your parade, but if a guy I barely know sends me text every morning that says "good morning" I would be freaked out a little bit.
royalan said:
Everyone's different, but for me personally something like the every-morning text would indicate an overeagerness that can sometimes be unattractive early on.

Reminds me of a friend who started dating a guy...and then promptly broke up with him when the guy record a video of himself badly singing "I'll Cover You" from Rent, dedicated it to him, and uploaded it to youtube. Oy, that video...

But yeah, if ciD likes it, then it's perfect. His romance. :)
Haha, i appreciate your opinion. i've had a guy once that kept texting me good morning every day for like 3 weeks straight even after i had started to ignore him...he would follow up with what's wrong with me? what don't you like about me? why don't you like me? all these things. this guy seems pretty nice in comparison to that. haha.
 
krypt0nian said:
So yeah.

My partner and I celebrate 15 years together today. Amazing morning and afternoon so far. Even though it was supposed to be a no gift day, he surprised me with a new Fender amp so I'm delirious. I'm pretty spoiled. He's my best friend and my true family. I couldn't ask for more. <3 <3 <3
15 years? Wow, that's what want some day! That's really sweet. :)

Alcoori said:
To be honest, and I don't wanna rain on your parade, but if a guy I barely know sends me text every morning that says "good morning" I would be freaked out a little bit.
I would like it. :P Maybe not every day, but it's nice to know I'm the first thing he's thinking about in the morning.
 
ciD_Vain said:
Haha, i appreciate your opinion. i've had a guy once that kept texting me good morning every day for like 3 weeks straight even after i had started to ignore him...he would follow up with what's wrong with me? what don't you like about me? why don't you like me? all these things. this guy seems pretty nice in comparison to that. haha.

Haha fair enough. Yeah I was thinking of that overeagerness that can be a turn off and in some (very rare) cases, an early sign of him being a psycho.

As long as you like it, good for you :)

And for the record, didn't say I would not like it. If I wasn't really into the guy or still trying to figure out if I liked him or not, that would definitely be a bad thing for him to do. But if I was smitten (and it seems that it is was ciD is, then that would be awesome.
 
Alcoori said:
To be honest, and I don't wanna rain on your parade, but if a guy I barely know sends me text every morning that says "good morning" I would be freaked out a little bit.
Come on, it's just a text. It's called courtship.
 
Granger Danger said:
Come on, it's just a text. It's called courtship.

Not just one text. It's one text every morning, right when he wakes up.
Just seemed a bit excessive that early on, but as I said it all depends on the situation and clearly, I'm not in it.


I'll just wait for the next installment of our soap

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Granger Danger said:
Come on, it's just a text. It's called courtship.
I would kill for something like that and if the guy is handsome and everything Cid has been describing then I would kill ten times more

Fantastical said:
15 years? Wow, that's what want some day! That's really sweet. :)


I would like it. :P Maybe not every day, but it's nice to know I'm the first thing he's thinking about in the morning.

what happened with your facebook guy?
 
Just arrived home after a 12 hour drinking binge... saw Margaret Cho last night, turned an Algerian and am coked up to my eyeballs.

What an amazing night. Still buzzing. I have a new appreciation for my bisexuality. Cheers Cho!

You're all awesome.
 
Phonomezer said:
Just arrived home after a 12 hour drinking binge... saw Margaret Cho last night, turned an Algerian and am coked up to my eyeballs.

What an amazing night. Still buzzing. I have a new appreciation for my bisexuality. Cheers Cho!

You're all awesome.

Sounds like you had a great time! :)
 
So ZephyrFate has asked me to let you guys know that his e-book, The Dream Metropolis, is now available worldwide! Hot off the... online checkout of Smashwords and Amazon. :P

He has also been interviewed by an indie authors review site, which you can read here if you're interested.

Also, remember the whole 'gay is fabulous' thing?

Well gay is fabulous, and fucking cute to boot. :3
 
Alcoori said:
Haha fair enough. Yeah I was thinking of that overeagerness that can be a turn off and in some (very rare) cases, an early sign of him being a psycho.

As long as you like it, good for you :)

And for the record, didn't say I would not like it. If I wasn't really into the guy or still trying to figure out if I liked him or not, that would definitely be a bad thing for him to do. But if I was smitten (and it seems that it is was ciD is, then that would be awesome.
I agree with you. If I wasn't sure yet if I like the guy, then I would definitely take this as a bad sign. However, I feel only warmth, goodness and kindness from this one- it's this strange feeling I haven't felt before.
 
Phonomezer said:
Just arrived home after a 12 hour drinking binge... saw Margaret Cho last night, turned an Algerian and am coked up to my eyeballs.

What an amazing night. Still buzzing. I have a new appreciation for my bisexuality. Cheers Cho!

You're all awesome.

Is this serious?
 
So an old female schoolfriend (distance ed, but our families know each other in RL) contacted me more or less out of the blue yesterday. Great friend, we hadn't talked all that much in the past few years due her moving around a lot, but I definitely got the impression back then that she was really quite fond of me (she's said as much). It wasn't a worry then because she had a fiance down in Texas she was smitten with. Turns out that this more or less fell apart four months ago and that now she's picked up the pieces, moved back here and is presently doing other things. No cause for concern, except she's once again spoken of my importance in her life. She's stressed more than a few times that she wants to take me on a long walk, presumably to catch up and talk about things.

I can't be faulted for thinking, "Uh oh" in the back of my head, can I? Were it possible, it'd be a sensible match to pursue (given the compatibilities of humor, interests, enjoy each other's company, etc). To suppress those aspects for no apparent reason if it seemed like she wanted to get closer, I don't think I'd be comfortable doing that. And given my increasing distaste for explicitly lying or misleading people, I may be stuck with letting her into the loop before I really intended to.

Should it come to that: Near as I can tell she doesn't suspect, she's still religious, and nobody knows save my three sisters (who were understanding, or failing that, willing to hear me out and were quite calm and reasonable). She was lapsing in the faith when we first met, but I don't know if that's even the slightest bit indicative of her fervor at present. Hard to say if I can even plausibly omit personal aspirations of the past few years without that coming across in the worst way. I'm playing it by ear, I guess.
 
Dont lead her on when you meet her, try to friendzoned her. If you are not comfortable telling her the truth a white lie will suffice (talk about how you like someone etc).

I once had a friend of mine confess to me that she liked me and of course I was scared to tell her the true so I told her we shouldn't be friends anymore, it was idiotic(we are friends now), dont do that. If you just want her as a friend then just tell her that if she wants something else, no need to come out
 
Marius_ said:
This thread wants to get locked more than a bear addicted to S&M
Hahaha. XD


And yep, Botolf. Try to be as direct as possible in the sense of telling her that you both can only be friends. That if she wants something more that it might be better to stop seeing and talking to each other.
 
Marius_ said:
Dont lead her on when you meet her, try to friendzoned her. If you are not comfortable telling her the truth a white lie will suffice (talk about how you like someone etc).

I once had a friend of mine confess to me that she liked me and of course I was scared to tell her the true so I told her we shouldn't be friends anymore, it was idiotic(we are friends now), dont do that. If you just want her as a friend then just tell her that if she wants something else, no need to come out
Noted, and yeah, it's definitely a friendship I don't want to burn. Would be quite silly to do so on account of being a bit uncomfortable talking about these things. I did make a brief mention/rhetorical question of lifelong friendship, but time will tell if that fleeting clue stands out as significant.

fernoca said:
And yep, Botolf. Try to be as direct as possible in the sense of telling her that you both can only be friends. That if she wants something more that it might be better to stop seeing and talking to each other.
Directness and cutting people off, two things I struggle with :P. Given the two of us are very articulate, the latter should be avoidable. I'll definitely muster as much directness as I can (should it prove necessary). I don't like being lead on by people, so I'll try to remember what that would feel like from the other side.
 
Botolf said:
So an old female schoolfriend (distance ed, but our families know each other in RL) contacted me more or less out of the blue yesterday. Great friend, we hadn't talked all that much in the past few years due her moving around a lot, but I definitely got the impression back then that she was really quite fond of me (she's said as much). It wasn't a worry then because she had a fiance down in Texas she was smitten with. Turns out that this more or less fell apart four months ago and that now she's picked up the pieces, moved back here and is presently doing other things. No cause for concern, except she's once again spoken of my importance in her life. She's stressed more than a few times that she wants to take me on a long walk, presumably to catch up and talk about things.

I can't be faulted for thinking, "Uh oh" in the back of my head, can I? Were it possible, it'd be a sensible match to pursue (given the compatibilities of humor, interests, enjoy each other's company, etc). To suppress those aspects for no apparent reason if it seemed like she wanted to get closer, I don't think I'd be comfortable doing that. And given my increasing distaste for explicitly lying or misleading people, I may be stuck with letting her into the loop before I really intended to.

Should it come to that: Near as I can tell she doesn't suspect, she's still religious, and nobody knows save my three sisters (who were understanding, or failing that, willing to hear me out and were quite calm and reasonable). She was lapsing in the faith when we first met, but I don't know if that's even the slightest bit indicative of her fervor at present. Hard to say if I can even plausibly omit personal aspirations of the past few years without that coming across in the worst way. I'm playing it by ear, I guess.

I'm not quite sure what the problem is here. You two seem to really get along, so I say just give it a shot to see how it goes. It probably won't even turn into a serious relationship, but maybe it will, and do you really want to throw that away because you're afraid how she might react to you being bisexual? I have a feeling that if you two end up really hitting it off, that it won't really matter to her in the end. Right now, I don't think that's something you need to really tell her though.
 
Botolf said:
Directness and cutting people off, two things I struggle with :P. Given the two of us are very articulate, the latter should be avoidable. I'll definitely muster as much directness as I can (should it prove necessary). I don't like being lead on by people, so I'll try to remember what that would feel like from the other side.
Well, now that you put it tat way it does sound harsh. :p
But, just be honest...with each other. For all we know, she really liked been with you, but nothing more. So she missed all this years without you and want to catch up.

You can also say "Darn, check that guy's ass" to see if she think that's weird. :p
 
_Isaac said:
I'm not quite sure what the problem is here. You two seem to really get along, so I say just give it a shot to see how it goes. It probably won't even turn into a serious relationship, but maybe it will, and do you really want to throw that away because you're afraid how she might react to you being bisexual? I have a feeling that if you two end up really hitting it off, that it won't really matter to her in the end. Right now, I don't think that's something you need to really tell her though.
Few complications. Even if I were to have feelings for her (I've yet to, or for any woman really), as far as I can tell she's a "purity, love, and marriage!" Christian like most of the believers in our community. Physically, philosophically, those are two deal-breakers already, and remember we're also assuming for the sake of argument that I'm experiencing feelings that haven't manifested in so much as a "gooey tingle". Two, probably three giant reasons not to run with it.

fernoca said:
Well, now that you put it tat way it does sound harsh. :p
But, just be honest...with each other. For all we know, she really liked been with you, but nothing more. So she missed all this years without you and want to catch up.

You can also say "Darn, check that guy's ass" to see if she think that's weird. :p
Haha, perhaps in a PG-13 vanilla kinda way ;)
 
fernoca said:
Well, now that you put it tat way it does sound harsh. :p
But, just be honest...with each other. For all we know, she really liked been with you, but nothing more. So she missed all this years without you and want to catch up.

You can also say "Darn, check that guy's ass" to see if she think that's weird. :p

They can pick up guys together!!! Err :p
 
Botolf said:
Few complications. Even if I were to have feelings for her (I've yet to, or for any woman really), as far as I can tell she's a "purity, love, and marriage!" Christian like most of the believers in our community. Physically, philosophically, those are two deal-breakers already, and remember we're also assuming for the sake of argument that I'm experiencing feelings that haven't manifested in so much as a "gooey tingle". Two, probably three giant reasons not to run with it.


Haha, perhaps in a PG-13 vanilla kinda way ;)
Sounds like there are bigger problems than her sex, for sure.
 
SpaceBridge said:
I concur. Just keep his face pressed into the pillow and Im happy.

Go on..

:P

I used to like Vinny a ton but Season 4 has turned me off of him a bit. He just seems way more obnoxious than what I remember from Season 2. ( Did not get to watch season 1 or 3 :o )
 
No I'm right there with you. Especially when one of them is called 'smart' (do people not know what that word means anymore?)
 
You have to have at least an ounce of intelligence. I mean if you use it to mean that the person can make a sentence and communicate with you... then yeah I guess most people are smart.
 
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