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_Isaac said:
I have a horrible gag reflex. I sometimes can't even swallow pills.
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Well, damn. There goes Plan A. Guess I'll have to go with Plan B: Chloroform. ;)
 
SpaceBridge said:
What roles are you guys in bed? I mean, perhaps if he's being the submissive, but your also being submissive, then the sexual tension might be fizzling. Or maybe the other way around too, if your both being the dominant or aggressive roles during sex.
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Why is it that I always agree with your sex advice? lol
 
He's a bottom, he told me that a while ago.
He was blowing me, I have precum and everything but I just can't cum, I end up giving up.

However I think the problem might be that his bed is already so hot, it's a tempurpedic. Maybe if it was a nice cool bed I would be able to get off. :/
 
MidnightScott said:
He's a bottom, he told me that a while ago.
He was blowing me, I have precum and everything but I just can't cum, I end up giving up.

However I think the problem might be that his bed is already so hot, it's a tempurpedic. Maybe if it was a nice cool bed I would be able to get off. :/
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I hate labels and such, but are you a top? Have you guys tried on his sofa or couch, on on a table, or even the floor?
 
MidnightScott said:
He's a bottom, he told me that a while ago.
He was blowing me, I have precum and everything but I just can't cum, I end up giving up.

However I think the problem might be that his bed is already so hot, it's a tempurpedic. Maybe if it was a nice cool bed I would be able to get off. :/
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Have you tried other locations? Have you tried showering together? Have you tried turning on the fan? Have you tried opening a window? Have you tried getting naked? Have you tried watching porn together? Have you tried masturbating together? Have you tried masturbating yourself before the blow job, so you can get yourself close enough to the edge so he can push you over with his mouth?
 
I'm not sure what I am to be honest.
I've thought about getting fucked myself and get off to the thought. He told me a while back that he can top but also wants to bottom.
Not sure I'm ready for that part yet though...

I didn't sleep well the night before and was basically awake all night because his bed is so hot. So once again being tired may have been the cause...
 
MidnightScott said:
I'm not sure what I am to be honest.
I've thought about getting fucked myself and get off to the thought. He told me a while back that he can top but also wants to bottom.
Not sure I'm ready for that part yet though...

I didn't sleep well the night before and was basically awake all night because his bed is so hot. So once again being tired may have been the cause...
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Let me ask this: Do you have any "mental roadblocks," or "what the fuck am I doing?!" moments while you're with him? Naked before him? Having sex? Anything like that?

Think about this before answering. Is there anything on your mind while you're with him that is making you "what the fuck am I doing?"
 
MidnightScott said:
I'm not sure what I am to be honest.
I've thought about getting fucked myself and get off to the thought. He told me a while back that he can top but also wants to bottom.
Not sure I'm ready for that part yet though...

I didn't sleep well the night before and was basically awake all night because his bed is so hot. So once again being tired may have been the cause...
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Going by the posts you've left here...it just really seems like the two of you aren't sexually compatible. It sounds like you want someone a lot more passionate (read: dominant) than him...

Because I dunno, speaking for just me here, but if I'm with someone who really gets me going, and the chemistry is there, and we both want to do it...a tempurpedic mattress isn't going to stop us.

...hell, a "No Trespassing" sign isn't going to stop us.
 
MidnightScott said:
He's a bottom, he told me that a while ago.
He was blowing me, I have precum and everything but I just can't cum, I end up giving up.

However I think the problem might be that his bed is already so hot, it's a tempurpedic. Maybe if it was a nice cool bed I would be able to get off. :/
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I really doubt it's the bed. Maybe something in your mind is holding you back.
 
MidnightScott said:
I'm not sure what I am to be honest.
I've thought about getting fucked myself and get off to the thought. He told me a while back that he can top but also wants to bottom.
Not sure I'm ready for that part yet though...

I didn't sleep well the night before and was basically awake all night because his bed is so hot. So once again being tired may have been the cause...
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Forget about the bed. Answer this questions instead:
Are you sexually attracted to him? As in do you find him handsome/hot/do you get horny when you're with him?
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If the answer is no, then maybe you need to find another guy.
 
So, MidnightScott, stupid question? Were you lying down at the time? Try standing up. Some people find it harder to climax from head lying down, so try some different positions perhaps?

Try not read too much into all this stuff, just relax and go with the flow.

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So, we're finally here, my boyfriend is visiting tomorrow. I feel like... blue fire inside.

I love this feeling, being nervous, being excited; being on the cusp of something fantastic.
 
Damn it, so many hot guys in the gym.

There's my boxing classmate who looks like Jason Statham.

There's this hot El Salvador guy who I also regularly talk to.

Then there's this Thor look-alike. FFS even his gym shirt is that same green color Hemsworth wear while on Earth. Wish I have the balls to talk to him.

Finally, there's the hottest one, this guy who does kickboxing at the same time I do cardio.

With my luck, they'd all be straight. Even if they're not, they're out of my league.
 
Replicant said:
Damn it, so many hot guys in the gym.

There's my boxing classmate who looks like Jason Statham.

There's this hot El Salvador guy who I also regularly talk to.

Then there's this Thor look-alike. FFS even his gym shirt is that same green color Hemsworth wear while on Earth. Wish I have the balls to talk to him.

Finally, there's the hottest one, this guy who does kickboxing at the same time I do cardio.

With my luck, they'd all be straight. Even if they're not, they're out of my league.
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Are you at a straight or gay gym?
 
Replicant said:
How does one find that out? And I think it's a straight one since it's at uni.
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Go into the changing room or shower room. Are there men fucking each other? Check the bathroom. Is there a gloryhole?

If you answered yes to either of these questions it is a gay gym.
 
laying down, but I tried standing up and jacking off too and still nothing. When he was sucking me I was hard but I for some reason couldn't cum..
I notice when I'm tired from work that I can't get off too. And like I already said, I was really tired from lack of sleep that night because his bed was way too hot. So we need to try it somewhere else probably lol.
 
MidnightScott said:
laying down, but I tried standing up and jacking off too and still nothing. When he was sucking me I was hard but I for some reason couldn't cum..
I notice when I'm tired from work that I can't get off too. And like I already said, I was really tired from lack of sleep that night because his bed was way too hot. So we need to try it somewhere else probably lol.
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And rest the day before and during the day too. :p
 
Obsessed said:
Go into the changing room or shower room. Are there men fucking each other? Check the bathroom. Is there a gloryhole?

If you answered yes to either of these questions it is a gay gym.
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That didn't took long
 
MidnightScott said:
laying down, but I tried standing up and jacking off too and still nothing. When he was sucking me I was hard but I for some reason couldn't cum..
I notice when I'm tired from work that I can't get off too. And like I already said, I was really tired from lack of sleep that night because his bed was way too hot. So we need to try it somewhere else probably lol.
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Ok, this is going to sound harsh and I don't mean it in a bad way, but here it goes:

You're just not into him.

Sorry, but you're not.

I've been following your posts in this thread for a while now. People tell you that maybe you two aren't compatible, and then you try again and there are no sparks (again) and then you come back and rephrase the problem hoping for something different...but the result will always be the same.

You're just not that into him.

I mean, look at where it's gotten: you're blaming the bed now. Say the following sentence out loud:

"I really want to have hot sex with him, but the bed is stopping me."

If you can say that out loud and not feel absolutely ridiculous, then I'll turn in my Gay Card. But I don't think you can...

Because you're just not that into him.

And it's OK. What you're going through is really quite normal. Most people who have been sexually active and have dated before will attest to going through the same experience at one time or another. I certainly have.

Meeting the guy who seems great and caring and awesome...and you want to feel it for him...but you just don't.

And you CAN'T force it. And that's ok. It happens...

But continuing to try to force something that clearly isn't there is only going to make things worse and weird for you two in the long run.
 
Marius_ said:
That didn't took long
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It was only a week long ban thankfully.


MidnightScott said:
laying down, but I tried standing up and jacking off too and still nothing. When he was sucking me I was hard but I for some reason couldn't cum..
I notice when I'm tired from work that I can't get off too. And like I already said, I was really tired from lack of sleep that night because his bed was way too hot. So we need to try it somewhere else probably lol.
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Mechanical stimulation can get you hard.

People have been asking an important question and unless I missed it you still haven't answered it: Are you physically attracted to him?
 
royalan said:
Ok, this is going to sound harsh and I don't mean it in a bad way, but here it goes:

You're just not into him.

Sorry, but you're not.

I've been following your posts in this thread for a while now. People tell you that maybe you two aren't compatible, and then you try again and there are no sparks (again) and then you come back and rephrase the problem hoping for something different...but the result will always be the same.

You're just not that into him.

I mean, look at where it's gotten: you're blaming the bed now. Say the following sentence out loud:

"I really want to have hot sex with him, but the bed is stopping me."

If you can say that out loud and not feel absolutely ridiculous, then I'll turn in my Gay Card. But I don't think you can...

Because you're just not that into him.

And it's OK. What you're going through is really quite normal. Most people who have been sexually active and have dated before will attest to going through the same experience at one time or another. I certainly have.

Meeting the guy who seems great and caring and awesome...and you want to feel it for him...but you just don't.

And you CAN'T force it. And that's ok. It happens...

But continuing to try to force something that clearly isn't there is only going to make things worse and weird for you two in the long run.
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^^^This 100%

I dont know why royalan, but your smarts and blunt honesty turns me on.
 
Obsessed said:
Go into the changing room or shower room. Are there men fucking each other? Check the bathroom. Is there a gloryhole?
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o_0;

Who does that in their gym? I mean I understand it if it's sauna but at a gym?
 
Replicant said:
I expect gym to have a much higher quality of hygiene and health regulations?
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Why would a sauna not have the same standards? I seriously don't know, as I don't go to saunas or gyms. Maybe I should? ;p
 
In regards to gay gyms. They do exist. In Toronto, where I live, there two gyms within the gay village. In the downtown core, there are regular gyms, where alot of gay guys go to, and are openly gay. And no, they arent fucking on the floor or the machines. Its just gay friendly, meaning you can be femmy, or wear pink, or hit on guys and not get your ass kicked.
 
There's a popular gym in Philly (12th Street Gym) that's predominantly gay and used to have a very seedy reputation years ago. It's a good gym, equipment wise, and it's in a convenient location, but there used to be blatant fucking in the locker rooms/showers/sauna. The owner's really been trying to clean it up because it got so bad that no heterosexuals wanted to go there, and even the gays wanted to work out somewhere less scheezy.

Now it's one of the best locally-owned gym spaces in the city, but I hear that some sexin' still goes down there, just a lot more discreet.
 
RatskyWatsky said:
Why would a sauna not have the same standards? I seriously don't know, as I don't go to saunas or gyms. Maybe I should? ;p
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Because sauna is normally where guys hook up and it's normally not considered a place with good hygiene or health standards. In fact, IIRC many GAFfers here always warn people to stay away from saunas.

As for hitting on other guys, well, doesn't it happen in most gyms? Even straight guys 'hit on' other guys as in they come over and out of the blue talk to a stranger that they find attractive/have big muscles. Because in a place like gym, it's not your personality that shines the most. It's either your good-looking face or well-defined muscles.

EDIT: I also call dibs on this guy. I was already a fan before everyone jump on the bandwagon because of new Supes movie:

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Replicant said:
Because sauna is normally where guys hook up and it's normally not considered a place with good hygiene or health standards. In fact, IIRC many GAFfers here always warn people to stay away from saunas.
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Ah, that's too bad. Are all saunas like that?
 
Replicant said:
Because sauna is normally where guys hook up and it's normally not considered a place with good hygiene or health standards. In fact, IIRC many GAFfers here always warn people to stay away from saunas.
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Wait, are we talking saunas or bathhouses?
 
royalan said:
That happened to me before...conveniently around the time that I started to become aware that I gave good head. As a result, I became more conscious of what I was doing...which doesn't really help you "relax and go with the flow" (my Martha Stewart approved method for giving simply the best head).

Have you found yourself thinking about it more? Try to clear your head (ha!) a bit before you go at it...
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Well, it just naturally began getting worse. I first noticed it when I was brushing my back teeth and started to gag a little. Then again when I was sipping coffee or tea ( I try to put the straw nearer to the middle of my mouth as not to stain my teeth)

Then, well, over the course of dating the same guy for the last 4 months, it just got worse. I couldnt do stuff I once found EASY.
 
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