Fixed.
Kidding.
Maybe.
In this regard I've been very lucky. I've had sexual partners who run the gamut in the "hot" to "not-so-hot" scale, but I've found that the ones who really make my dick hard are the average Joes. And fortunately, there's no shortage of them. So I don't necessarily need to lower my standards to get some action, it just works out in my favor because of my tastes. Which isn't to say I'll fuck anything with a pulse, as I do find some features and attributes more attractive. But more than once I've had friends wrinkle their noses when I point out someone who floats my boat. But I don't care--I'm looking for me, not them.
Despite that, I too have had my share of unrequited attraction, frustratingly enough. But you just move on, plenty of fish in the sea. But you won't know that unless you put yourself out there.
So. Much. This.
You know what never goes out of style?
Confidence.
Show me a guy with confidence (NOT arrogance), and I'll show you a guy who's got my attention. I've met short guys, fat guys, twiggy guys, crooked-toothed guys, bald guys--you name it--who I've found amazingly fascinating (and oftentimes attractive) because they carry and express themselves in a confident manner. And because they don't necessarily fit society's beauty standards, I find their self-confidence is especially remarkable.
It starts with being comfortable in your own skin, by being able to say "I'm cool with who I am" when you look in the mirror. Even in my earliest days coming out/dating/tricking, I never hid who I was or what I liked to do from the guys I met. I remember once meeting a guy at a bar and taking him home to play Super Tennis on SNES (yeah, it was a looong time ago). He left me a note the next morning that said "Last night was weird, but fun." Another guy I showed my comic books to (including the Hulk issue where Jim Wilson dies of AIDS). And to this day I still display my cool LEGO around the house. Video games, comic books, toys--generally not taken as dating pluses for an adult, especially in the 90s. But at the end of the day, I gotta live with myself and do what makes me happy. And if I'm happy, everything else pretty much takes care of itself.
I remember once a guy told me he hooked up with me because I put in my profile: "Happily single." I guess that makes sense, because who's inclined to hook up with someone who's desperate, or unhappy?
I'm not saying that lack of confidence, desperation, or unhappiness are kisses of death. But if you find yourself in that situation, it might be more important for you to work on that before you look to a relationship. It's easier for people to be comfortable with you if you're comfortable with yourself.
Wish I had some of your confidence.
