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I do all my hook-ups online and never had a problem like that or those explained by fernoca here in Madrid. If anything, I'm the one that is disappointed but at least I have a coffee/beer out of pure politeness because I don't like treating people like shit. I guess I'm a lucky fella in that regard.
It took me a long time to get this, lol
Well yeah, when you drink something, or meet the guy in a social way, it generally turns out good for everyone cause you don't have to tell a guy "no" in his face, but when you begin to have direct hook up where you basically show up to the guy's flat, things can be more direct. But on the other side, meeting a guy, drinking a beer, blablablah and staying there a part of the evening when nothing will happen (short or long term) is somewhat of a time loss at some point, especially if you just want to fuck. That's why now i only "have a drink" when the guy actually interests me for more than just fucking.
Ollie Pooch
In a perfect world, we'd all be homersexual
SpaceBridge
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Ivy already lives in LA, right?
Hey guys, read the damn OP for details on how to get into the skype chat. Geez!
Or I'll just save you the trouble and say you can add me and then i'll throw you into the chat. Just make sure you put your username so I know who you are
technicolors.sai is my skype name
Tossing them hard into the chat.
Hehe, don't worry guys anyway. Plus I know that some may sound made up or fake, I've been told that multiple times too. Is not like I have evidence per se (well, I do have a like 1 inch scar on my left foot from when I was thrown this piece of cement to my left foot and while evading it, it passed too close and took the tip of my ankle and left it hanging, so I cut the tiny piece and put a piece of paper on it)..or the one time I was kicked in the face,....all because of "nerd!! you have glasses". Plus is not like saying it gets me friends, dates, etc.
Heck, there are worse things that happened but I think I've posted them throughout the thread and don't want to post them again to avoid the "boohoo here's fernoca with his sob stories again"..hehehe.
Like that one guy that told me that I shouldn't be wanting/asking/expecting relationships since I'm ugly and that I'll should be glad with just quick sex ..and similar things like that (I was technically bullied from elementary school until my third year of college..only that I didn't saw it as been bullied; but just..been rejected for not been good looking enough).
orioto's example about the deaf guy also made me remember a few similar examples, only that in my case were: a guy in a wheelchair that I wasn't hot enough for him and an HIV positive guy for which I was too boring by liking videogames and childish things like that...and then some more.
And many..many more; but in the end I understand anyway. When one's not other's type, well nothing can be done. Even when they see you, even when they have you in their face, and in some cases even seen you naked and had sex with; when they don't like you; they don't. It sucks that most whenever gave nay explanation at what went wrong, and the ones that did -in their own way- were too sincere (too ugly, too boring, etc.) [plus the ones I said that just ignored me or left me waiting at the mall]
Online and offline... but I don't mind.
With time I decided that if the other guy has any interest; even if it just a quick fuck..he's the one that should call/contact me. I got tired of been the one that called, contacted.. showed any interest, and then feel bad because I thought I did something wrong.
But enough of that, ..here's Omeed Isari!!!
Heck, there are worse things that happened but I think I've posted them throughout the thread and don't want to post them again to avoid the "boohoo here's fernoca with his sob stories again"..hehehe.
Like that one guy that told me that I shouldn't be wanting/asking/expecting relationships since I'm ugly and that I'll should be glad with just quick sex ..and similar things like that (I was technically bullied from elementary school until my third year of college..only that I didn't saw it as been bullied; but just..been rejected for not been good looking enough).
orioto's example about the deaf guy also made me remember a few similar examples, only that in my case were: a guy in a wheelchair that I wasn't hot enough for him and an HIV positive guy for which I was too boring by liking videogames and childish things like that...and then some more.
And many..many more; but in the end I understand anyway. When one's not other's type, well nothing can be done. Even when they see you, even when they have you in their face, and in some cases even seen you naked and had sex with; when they don't like you; they don't. It sucks that most whenever gave nay explanation at what went wrong, and the ones that did -in their own way- were too sincere (too ugly, too boring, etc.) [plus the ones I said that just ignored me or left me waiting at the mall]
Online and offline... but I don't mind.
With time I decided that if the other guy has any interest; even if it just a quick fuck..he's the one that should call/contact me. I got tired of been the one that called, contacted.. showed any interest, and then feel bad because I thought I did something wrong.
But enough of that, ..here's Omeed Isari!!!
Welp. Boyfriend of over two years.
-Last week started working out. Took it as a sign, cautiously joked about him getting ready to leave my dumb ass, and he reacted by telling me he'd never leave me and loved me, etc, etc, etc. Believed him.
-Started sending me messages every morning because I told him I was getting lonely (we're long distance, have been for a few weeks). I thought it was adorable, and our relationship was going really well. I had been having trouble... er.... getting attracted to him recently, as he'd been gaining some weight and not really taking care of himself before he went back to college (I obviously loved him enough that he was the only man I was attracted to. Just... less attracted). I figured the gym, the messages, etc, were his ways of making me feel better.
-Thursday night, he, unprovoked, tells me he loves me while we're camchatting. This isn't out of the ordinary, I just wanted to point it out. I'd been suspicious about his intentions (he'd been talking to other gay dudes on facebook more than me; I don't get jealous, but I knew something was up) despite crossing off the gym as innocuous. I tell him about my worries. He tells me everything's fine, he isn't going to leave me, etc etc.
-Friday, he goes to a party, sexts me repeatedly even while he's there, and kind of vanishes around an hour into the party, not responding to my last text. I ignore it, assume he's having fun and don't want to bother him.
Friday night he calls me and says he's lonely and feels like we've grown apart and doesn't know what to do. I tell him long distance is hard, that I've been lonely too, that I still love him, etc.
He says he still loves me.
I console him for nearly an hour, doing everything I can to cheer him up. He sounds like he's on the verge of tears. He really stresses the "feel like we've been growing apart" thing. I ask him if visiting him would help; I had the weekend off (having just failed a class) and he was only 5 hours away or so. He said no.
I ask him if he was planning to leave me. He said no.
Another half an hour, he says, and I quote
"I don't know if this is going to work out"
Cannot tell if I was just broken up with
"Sorry."
Welp. That's a "probably."
"C...can I see you over webcam?"
OKAY NOW I HAVE NO FUCKING IDEA IF YOU JUST DUMPED ME
I agree to see him on webcam, and asked him why he wanted to see me if he just dumped me. He kind of smiles; he just wanted to break up with me without actually saying the fucking words, so he'd be a better person in his own eyes.
He says some faux-supportive bullshit.
I rage at him for leading me on.
He changes the relationship status on facebook within SECONDS of this chat. Probably during it, and.... deletes it.
Then friends a gay guy.
Then blocks me and unfriends me on every service possible.
I did not know I was capable of this much hatred.
-Last week started working out. Took it as a sign, cautiously joked about him getting ready to leave my dumb ass, and he reacted by telling me he'd never leave me and loved me, etc, etc, etc. Believed him.
-Started sending me messages every morning because I told him I was getting lonely (we're long distance, have been for a few weeks). I thought it was adorable, and our relationship was going really well. I had been having trouble... er.... getting attracted to him recently, as he'd been gaining some weight and not really taking care of himself before he went back to college (I obviously loved him enough that he was the only man I was attracted to. Just... less attracted). I figured the gym, the messages, etc, were his ways of making me feel better.
-Thursday night, he, unprovoked, tells me he loves me while we're camchatting. This isn't out of the ordinary, I just wanted to point it out. I'd been suspicious about his intentions (he'd been talking to other gay dudes on facebook more than me; I don't get jealous, but I knew something was up) despite crossing off the gym as innocuous. I tell him about my worries. He tells me everything's fine, he isn't going to leave me, etc etc.
-Friday, he goes to a party, sexts me repeatedly even while he's there, and kind of vanishes around an hour into the party, not responding to my last text. I ignore it, assume he's having fun and don't want to bother him.
Friday night he calls me and says he's lonely and feels like we've grown apart and doesn't know what to do. I tell him long distance is hard, that I've been lonely too, that I still love him, etc.
He says he still loves me.
I console him for nearly an hour, doing everything I can to cheer him up. He sounds like he's on the verge of tears. He really stresses the "feel like we've been growing apart" thing. I ask him if visiting him would help; I had the weekend off (having just failed a class) and he was only 5 hours away or so. He said no.
I ask him if he was planning to leave me. He said no.
Another half an hour, he says, and I quote
"I don't know if this is going to work out"
Cannot tell if I was just broken up with
"Sorry."
Welp. That's a "probably."
"C...can I see you over webcam?"
OKAY NOW I HAVE NO FUCKING IDEA IF YOU JUST DUMPED ME
I agree to see him on webcam, and asked him why he wanted to see me if he just dumped me. He kind of smiles; he just wanted to break up with me without actually saying the fucking words, so he'd be a better person in his own eyes.
He says some faux-supportive bullshit.
I rage at him for leading me on.
He changes the relationship status on facebook within SECONDS of this chat. Probably during it, and.... deletes it.
Then friends a gay guy.
Then blocks me and unfriends me on every service possible.
I did not know I was capable of this much hatred.
MidnightScott
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They should've used this song instead of her new song: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EDwb9jOVRtU&ob=av2e
EDIT: Oh my god Lucario, that guy sounds like a fucking asshole. Take a picture of him and throw darts at it. Just get it out of your system.
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Movies on tonight yay
EDIT: Oh my god Lucario, that guy sounds like a fucking asshole. Take a picture of him and throw darts at it. Just get it out of your system.
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Movies on tonight yay
Ollie Pooch
In a perfect world, we'd all be homersexual
Lucario - that's stone fucking cold. WOW. Sorry to hear 
I'm glad I don't go to the same school as him. There'd be falsified positive HIV tests stapled to every tree, just to make sure he can't do that to anyone else ever again.
I'm pretty sure he lurks GAF, too, so just so he can be sure that he's the asshole outlined here:
Fuck you, Zack.
I'm pretty sure he lurks GAF, too, so just so he can be sure that he's the asshole outlined here:
Fuck you, Zack.
MidnightScott
Banned
God you are a fucking asshole Zack. Grow a pear and don't lead people on like that, you piece of shit. I'm sorry you had to go through that Lucario, I dread the day someone fucks with my heart like that. *hugs*
EDIT: Nevermind he had to cancel, dealing with baby mama drama (there's always Tuesday)
Coppertracks
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Aaaah Gaygaf I log on and there seems to be all sorts of drama! I'm fairly drunk so it's all like 'rawwwaaargh' to me but I'll read it properly later.
Bring it on is on in the background. SPIRIT FINGERS!!
EDIT: Lucario, that guy is a DICK!
Bring it on is on in the background. SPIRIT FINGERS!!
EDIT: Lucario, that guy is a DICK!
He's going to be at PAX East too, we almost booked rooms together >____>
I... have to find a way to get his badge pulled. There should be some sort of "you are too much of a piece of shit to visit this convention" clause, kind of like what the wwebsite as on the internet guy got.
If all else fails, I'll just find him, rip his badge off his neck, run like hell, and drop it in the Harbor.
I... have to find a way to get his badge pulled. There should be some sort of "you are too much of a piece of shit to visit this convention" clause, kind of like what the wwebsite as on the internet guy got.
If all else fails, I'll just find him, rip his badge off his neck, run like hell, and drop it in the Harbor.
You didn't do anything wrong. Other people responded poorly.
If that interest is reciprocated is what's important. If you constantly reach out to someone and they don't show anything in return, it's their misgiving and not yours. Communication is always a two way street, so being silent is being negligent and oftentimes rude.
Though you're not ugly. I don't think I've seen anyone in this thread who is, or most people in the world who are. That word is thrown around in here far too much. It makes Gay-GAF look awfully shallow, uninteresting, and immature.
Coppertracks
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Welcome to the club, unfortunately.
Someone I knew had their spouse cheat on them after 15 years of being together and 6 years of marriage. Hearing her go through that was scary to say the least.
Coppertracks
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I should get on this Skype business, how does one join the gaygaf group chat? *feels old*
Erebus
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Well, for starters you need Skype. Then add someone who already is in the group chat and he will invite you.
Yep, sorry about that Lucario.
Sounds like the usual "we're growing apart", that instead of "we" means "I"; since it's usually the other part that wants to end the relationship... but tries to go around ways of saying it...so that you can end felling as if it was your fault.
Sad that it was after all this years, but at least if anything things will just get better.
Sounds like the usual "we're growing apart", that instead of "we" means "I"; since it's usually the other part that wants to end the relationship... but tries to go around ways of saying it...so that you can end felling as if it was your fault.
Sad that it was after all this years, but at least if anything things will just get better.
Thanks, and no biggie...I know (about not doing anything wrong...at least).Yasae said:
Coppertracks
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SpaceBridge
Member
My bf of 8 years blocked me on FB after I found him posting topless shots of himself, I took that as a sign. This last story is opening up some old wounds I haven't resolved. Fuck this.
Coppertracks
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Heh, I bet it is
Downloaded! Do I 'add contact' to get invited to the group? Who do I invite? 
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For your own sake, don't try and contact him now. He's a cowardly son of a bitch, don't validate his cheap decision by being the guy who sends a million texts or what have you.
Too late =\ Sent him two texts today asking him to explain himself, both ignored.
I.. was actually already depressed prior to this due to my major not working out and failing some classes, and had decided in a fit of adderall withdrawal recently that I would... well, kill myself if he left me. (decided to myself.)
Took some strong adderall to cheer me up the morning he left me. I might be dead now if I hadn't. He knew I was depressed, and went through with it anyway....
Fuck, I'm not even sad anymore, I knew this relationship wasn't right, but I am fucking angry that my life means less to him than a fucking fling at a party, and that he wouldn't leave until he was comfortable with someone else. Just a sickening excuse for a human being.
I think I found a legit way to get his pax east pass pulled. That should be fun.
Oh! that sounds fun, keep us updated!! XD
Cosmic Bus
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Trying to find some vindictive little way of getting one up on him is a mistake. It's going to turn this into a bigger, messier conflict when you should be putting it behind you.
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Yeah, Cosmic is right. Be the bigger man.
The Broken Ska Record
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This. The way he acted is bullshit, but it's really not the answer.
Mystic Theurge
Member
I agree with this.
Lucario, it sucks that your ex wasn't a good guy, and I'm sorry that you had to go through that, but you shouldn't start messing with him.
The healthier road is to put him behind you.
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Deleted member 30609
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Don't say we didn't warn you.
How old are you?
Well, soccer guys wear shorts, that's objectively better. Nothing beats rugby, though.
You know if someone hits you on the cheek put on the other for the next hit. Let Karma fall on him and do not get your hands dirty.
It's not about being the bigger man, honey. It's about not allowing this person to control your emotions, your actions, and your soul in the way he did in the past.
Complete and total indifference is the best feeling you could have towards him, but it's understandable that you're not there yet. Don't give him anything that makes him believe that he was "right" to leave you in the way that he did. It will only make him feel self-satisfied.
ETA: You need time to really reflect on your emotions and feelings, and to calm down immensely. Your life isn't over because the guy you were in love with lied to you and dumped you unceremoniously. It's just getting started. You now know what a jerk that guy was, and you can move on to new and more important things.
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