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Graduating high school: depressing?

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cvxfreak

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For some reason, I can't help but feel depressed whenever I think about graduating. I'm going to graduate high school in June on time, and I'm going to college as planned.

But, the depression kicks in when I see my classmates and think that I won't be able to see them very much, and many of them never again. I think that overcomes leaving high school to more freedom.

Anyone else feel/felt the same way?
 

pops619

Member
I couldn't wait to get out of high school, but looking back it wasn't that bad, and I'll always miss those days. But I've kept in touch with everyone that really mattered, and I haven't had to see the people I didn't like, so it hasn't worked out too badly. I left high school with some awesome friends that I plan on having for the rest of my life.
 

jenov4

Member
Yes that has happened to me during all my graduations... I wonder how fast time flies and wonder what my friends and others will be up to in the future.

Good thing I've done school for a few years now and don't need to get all depressed thinking about that. Live goes on!
 
i finished high school a couple of months ago, got bad score, been getting way to drunk and way to poor since. can't wait til 18th jan, get uni offer then. Im making sure i keep in touch with friends, although we will probly only be 2-3 hours appart mostly.
 

Arluss

Member
I haven't really been able to keep up with the people I hung around with in high school. Looking back, I probably should've done a lot of things differently. But, the past is unchangable.
 

Matlock

Banned
Not as depressing as the end of RE4
when Leon dies due to wounds inflicted in the final battle.
 
Matlock said:
Not as depressing as when Matlock gets shot in the head for being an ass.
wth spoiler tags please. And warning.

OP: it's not so depressing if you hate it. You might want to keep connections for jobs/advice.
 

Arluss

Member
*bangs head against wall*

Must...*bang!* forget... *bang!*...what *bang!* I.... *bang!* ....just....*bang!* ...saw...*bang!*
 

Dyne

Member
Eminem said:
depressing? more like liberating

Yeah, I was the most happy I'd been in my entire life when I got out of high school! I still miss it from time to time (especially band) but I'm in contact with all my good friends.

My University is way more fun than my high school could've ever been.
 

cvxfreak

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I guess I have to chalk it all up to just having an unusually fun senior class. Being in California means there's tons of colleges for people to go to, so not being able to see certain people and teachers next year sucks.

That said, I'm inserting an email list paper into my yearbook and making sure it's filled to the brim.
 

xabre

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CVXFREAK said:
Anyone else feel/felt the same way?

Definitely. It's happened to me about five or six times now, from school and college to work. You never really get used to it either; people you've grown and developed bonds with over several years or even a lifetime just gone never to be seen again leaving you with memories, recollections and regrets.
 

border

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If it's already depressing, that's probably a bad sign. Usually it takes some time for people to lament how much better high school was than The Rest Of Life.

This forum might be a little skewed since a lot of people might have been social outcasts, but I think most people would gladly trade their current situation to go back to school over again. The work wasn't challenging, the romantic relationships were less complicated, and your living situation and financial affairs were more-or-less taken care of. If you had a nice girl and a social niche, it was awesome. It's interesting how after graduation it takes a lot of work just to get yourself to where you where in high school. I imagine that many people never wind up with as much free time as they used to have. Whatever homework you had outside of your 8-hour schoolday was probably less consuming than all the chores and bullshit required when living on your own -- most people's work follows them home too, so the 8-hour-workday is kind of a myth for most salaried workers.

The funny thing is that most of us were such overdramatic, arrogant little shits that we really couldn't hope to appreciate it at the time. What did we trade it all for? Jobs that allow us to buy stupid shit that we barely even have time to enjoy, and the freedom to drink or have sex in our own houses/aparments whenever we like. A little unsatisfying to me, at times.

There's always something sadly pathetic about people that say, "Yeah, I wish I could go back," but hey if it's true then what can you do?
 

Socreges

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Well, no. I hated my high school. It was pretty tiny and 90% guys. Everyone was mental, including myself.

For two and a half years afterwards, I went through some pretty trying times, but probably came out better for it. Travelled some, did a buttload of drugs, worked a regular shift at a restaurant until 4am, got fired, became a supervisor for a company for nearly two years and nearly drove myself into the ground. I ended up suddenly quitting and deciding I was ready to go back to school. So that's where I am now, after three semesters, and loving it. And looking back, I realize that I got more out of this one year at college than 2 and a half years away from school. But more out of the 2 and a half years than out of 5 at high school.

In short, I dunno, keep in touch with the people that matter, but look forward. Once you immerse yourself in college and meet tons of new people, maybe you won't miss high school so much. Though it sounds like you enjoyed yourself a whole lot more than I did.
 

xsarien

daedsiluap
Depressing? Hell no, hell fucking no. It ranks very near the top of "Best days of my life." Everyone I wanted to stay in contact with I stayed in contact with. Everyone else? If I'm somehow dragged to any reunion, that's when I'll next see them. Hopefully karma will have caught up to the ones who, at last check, needed a good, swift kick to the head.
 

Eminem

goddamit, Griese!
and for me at least, it wasn't that high school was bad at all....just that college is so much better and more fun
 

teh_pwn

"Saturated fat causes heart disease as much as Brawndo is what plants crave."
I wasn't depressed at all. F*ck HS. I took so many AP (college credit) classes and honors classes that I barely finished each night and had little free time. The one pay off tho is that I walked into college almost Junior status by hours.
 
My life has been falling apart since I've left high school, so I'd say I want to go back. I loved high school so much, and I never even managed to do anything with a girl. But for some reason, that didn't really get to me until senior year, but I was still having too much fun. The only stress came from college apps and crap. I played baseball, was friends with basically everyone in the school (or at least my grade), and I hardly ever did schoolwork. I did my homework as quickly as possible, never studied, and I managed to finish in the top 5% of my class out of about 250 kids. I got a 1530 on my SATs without studying. Worked a little bit to make some money. It was so fucking simple.

If you pick the right college for you though, you'll be fine. You'll have even more fun than you did in high school. Unfortunately for me, I didn't. Oh well.
 

pollo

Banned
PuertoRicanJuice said:
My life has been falling apart since I've left high school, so I'd say I want to go back. I loved high school so much, and I never even managed to do anything with a girl. But for some reason, that didn't really get to me until senior year, but I was still having too much fun. The only stress came from college apps and crap. I played baseball, was friends with basically everyone in the school (or at least my grade), and I hardly ever did schoolwork. I did my homework as quickly as possible, never studied, and I managed to finish in the top 5% of my class out of about 250 kids. I got a 1530 on my SATs without studying. Worked a little bit to make some money. It was so fucking simple.

If you pick the right college for you though, you'll be fine. You'll have even more fun than you did in high school. Unfortunately for me, I didn't. Oh well.

wait you go to college in bean town right?
I remember you saying something about being near the riots when they happened.
If so where?
 

Lambtron

Unconfirmed Member
Meh. I kind of hated high school. I made my 5 or 6 friends, we still keep in touch, but I've blossomed, and grown, and matured since then. I went through the graduation paces, I had 50 relatives over, I got my $500, and I basically talked to no one who came to my party, and instead hung out with my friends downstairs and ran the table in SoulCalibur.

I hate college just as much though.
 
pollo said:
wait you go to college in bean town right?
I remember you saying something about being near the riots when they happened.
If so where?
Wow, you remember me saying that? I'm impressed. I went to MIT. I'm going to a local college this semester though. I had some sort of mental breakdown up there. Looking back, I really don't know how it happened.

Do you go to college in Boston?
 

Blackie

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pops619 said:
I couldn't wait to get out of high school, but looking back it wasn't that bad, and I'll always miss those days. But I've kept in touch with everyone that really mattered, and I haven't had to see the people I didn't like, so it hasn't worked out too badly. I left high school with some awesome friends that I plan on having for the rest of my life.

My sentiments exactly.

What's really odd is that the only times I felt depressed about graduating was when I heard that Vitamen C track about graduating. Still makes me get teary eyed, actually.
 

Crow357

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I remember sitting in the graduation ceremony listening to the valedictorian blather on about bullshit and thinking to myself, "I'm finally out of this shit hole"!

One of the happiest days of my life was the day I never had to see those fucks again.
 

belgurdo

Banned
I found it liberating too. Graduating meant I didn't have to spend 8 hours a day in a dirty building with people I hated and authority figures that hated us for no rational reason.


But I'll get to do all of that again when I eventually get an office job after I get my degree...
 

demi

Member
I'd say it was, since CVXFREAK is a Resident Evil fanatic and all...

...and it's Matlock. He's just brimming with success nowadays, and it shows.
 

Hooker

Member
I was actually glad, I didn't like the school that much.




Looking back, I wish I had done more there. Like actually go to class and learn once in a while :/
 

psycho_snake

I went to WAGs boutique and all I got was a sniff
Ive got loads of HS left and Im happy for it. Im actually really bad at keeping contact with people, but that going to change when I grow up. Ive been with my friends for so long and they are very important to me.

Going out of HS would mean that I would have no spare time. When Im in Uni, I will probably have less time to do stuff, but it might be more fun since I will have a car and I can go to night clubs and bars.
 

Grubdog

Banned
belgurdo said:
This is about as real as "HERMIONE DIES." Calm down
sorry.. so it's fake? i'm calm now, just took me by surprise and there's always some jackass who likes to do this right before a major game release.

Graduating high school hasn't really sunk in for me yet, i'm just enjoying my freedom and playing as many videogames and doing as many things as I can right now, I haven't even thought about my high school friends, I see some of them regularly but it just feels the same as it always has.
 

ourumov

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You never cut contact with those that really matter. And this comes from a person with tons of sociability problems.
If there is true frendship you will continue being friends forever. It's weird to explain but when I face the old mates from High School there aren't any kind of shyness between us. In 5 minutes we feel like we felt back in the High School days.
That's something that never happened with the school guys which I rarely see. We were too different and when I think back in those days I remember great people but I don't remember anybody I could trust.
 

Hooker

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psycho_snake said:
When Im in Uni, I will probably have less time to do stuff, but it might be more fun since I will have a car and I can go to night clubs and bars.
Don't think too much of it. Costs a LOT of money and it isn't as fun what most people make it out to be. You either grow bored or broke (or both)


And girls can be picked up anywhere, plus, girls you pick up in a bar/night club aren't always the ones you want to take home and show your parents. If you just want to get laid... bars/night clubs it is!!
 

Gibbles

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I don't care too much about the classmate problem - I just don't like my classmates very much. Many of them I actually don't know the name of. I'll be keeping in touch with the few decent ones I like afterwards.
 

pollo

Banned
PuertoRicanJuice said:
Wow, you remember me saying that? I'm impressed. I went to MIT. I'm going to a local college this semester though. I had some sort of mental breakdown up there. Looking back, I really don't know how it happened.

Do you go to college in Boston?


Boston Uni...

you should have stuck w/ MIT sir.
 

Gantz

Banned
I couldn't wait to get out of high school. Grade school was the worst time of my life. Now graduating from college was depressing. Well not really. I still miss it though.
 

Chipopo

Banned
I welcome my forthcoming graduation with open arms. Peoples fascination and nostalgia for highschool is largely programmed, just like all that other meaningless shit we lament about when we're indulging in self-pity. That's not to say I'm not enjoying my time here...especially as a senior...but there's alot more out there for me to see before I'm willing to chalk up my best years to sitting in a desk learning things that, outside of one or two subjects, I'm completely uninterested in.

And of course when I'm standing up there in the auditorium and that triumphant graduation music reaches its pitch, I know I'll be holding back tears. Beyond my control, really.
 

DCharlie

And even i am moderately surprised
"For some reason, I can't help but feel depressed whenever I think about graduating. I'm going to graduate high school in June on time, and I'm going to college as planned.
But, the depression kicks in when I see my classmates and think that I won't be able to see them very much, and many of them never again. I think that overcomes leaving high school to more freedom.
Anyone else feel/felt the same way?"

Unfortunately, this is a repeating thing.

You go to school, you make loads of great friends, then you all go your seperate ways.
You go to uni, you make loads of great friends , then you all go your seperate ways.
You get your first job, you make loads of great friends, then you go your seperate ways...
etc etc...

the thing is you'll find that you'll keep in touch with really close friends, and a lot of people you simply won't contact again, with the power of the internet though, your generation is probably going to have it easier - i didn't have email until i got to uni, and even then, most people in 93 didn't have their own email account. So i lost touch with a lot of people from school.

The good news is that it actually makes the good relationships you have with people even more strong. And even better, you meet new people and make new friends - although it all sounds a bit daunting, it ends up being a fantastic laugh/experience if you take it in your stride.
 

lordmrw

Member
Well, I graduated almost 7 years ago, and there were alot of people that I knew I would never see again. Not people I was overly friendly with, but ones that I could start up a general conversation with or hang out with now and then. Those are the ones I miss. A good 70% of my graduating class went to the University of Rhode Island, so I knew if it came down to it, I could always go there and see them again. Now that I'm in my last year of college, the thought of having to get a job and striking out on my own is both exciting and terrifying.
 
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