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[Boogie]

Boogie see above post, true colors are starting to show.



Wrong, don't have to look like Brad Pitt at all to pull hot girls, sure it helps, but it is all in the game you spit.

I think it is something people are born with; some people have some intrinsic value that makes people gravitate towards them. It comes natural to some and it is hard to fake.

How is it being full of himself when he will readily admit to not being confident or self-assure in approaching women? If he says that his girl_friends have said that he's attractive, then that's what they say. There's no "being full of himself" about it.

 

[demon]

How is it being full of himself when he will readily admit to not being confident or self-assure in approaching women? If he says that his girl_friends have said that he's attractive, then that's what they say. There's no "being full of himself" about it.

Ignore him. He's just being cocky, but not funny.

Wrong, don't have to look like Brad Pitt at all to pull hot girls, sure it helps, but it is all in the game you spit.

Your reading comprehension skills leave something to be desired. That's the point I was getting at, that you don't need looks, and that you need to look like Brad Pitt to pull hot girls if you don't have any "game".

 

[Cubsfan23]

This place needs more threads like this

 

[Donkeypuncher]

So instead of approaching one girl, approach multiple girls at once. Roger that!
Right now I'm trying to meet people through/with my friend, and even that's been kinda tought since she doesn't know many girls and we don't go out to bars as much anymore. I feel really uncomfortable being "that guy" who goes to bars by themself just to hit on girls, though.

If you are alone I can see why it'd seem this way. However, even being out with that girl you know will help because more opportunities will arise for socialization with other women. If women see you with another woman then they are more at ease to talk to you because you appear less threatening. ie. have a woman already. Often times women will also say "Cute guy, I'm better than his girl friend". and might want to flirt with you, etc. Moreover, your girl friend can help too. Say for example if three women are sitting next to an open table. You sit right down next to them with your girl friend and if she's a good friend, she can easily have those other three women talking and before you know it, you're all introducing each other.

Approaching multiple women works (if you don't come off as an ass with dirty lines etc) because all women love the attention. For example, even if all three women might have husbands or boyfriends at home and you approach them, they won't be threatened by friendly conversation and like I said, it's experience and confidence building for yourself.

 

[Justin Bailey]

Guys Need to be More Confident, Funny, Direct & Talkative!

Look, the bottom line is that you can't tell someone to "be confident" or "be funny" like it's some kind of switch they can turn on. Confidence is something you gotta find on your own and no one can pretend to be funny. Direct and talkitive - sure, but not the other two. Cliche as it is, it's really best just to be yourself (even if you're shy and boring) if you actually want to find someone that you can have a meaningful relationship with (which is a helluva lot better than just getting a piece of ass IMO. . .sometimes .

But if you just want some random ass go ahead and do whatever you want. Hell, spend some time making your own character. Give him an accent (chicks dig the accents - french, italian, english, oh yeah - austrailian too) and a "mysterious" past. Maybe like a secret agent or something. Make sure to give him a cool name like "Castor Troy" or "John Spartan."

 

[Donkeypuncher]

Confidence can be built over time which can lead to naturally shy people being even less shy in the process. Funny doesn't mean making jokes all the time but can include being witty, quick to respond etc. These are things that everybody can work on and get better at with experience.

 

[Tonche]

My favourite technique when I started was to accidentally on purpose bump into a girl but rather than apologize, I'd act like she was kind of invading my space. Guaranteed, 19 times out of 20, I'd get a laugh out of this, or even better, a snappy smartarse return and then it was on. Just move the conversation into whatever.

Very easy way to start a conversation.

 

[Cubsfan23]

My favourite technique when I started was to accidentally on purpose bump into a girl but rather than apologize, I'd act like she was kind of invading my space. Guaranteed, 19 times out of 20, I'd get a laugh out of this, or even better, a snappy smartarse return and then it was on. Just move the conversation into whatever.

Very easy way to start a conversation.

:lol you can also say "Ow, you hurt me!" 9 times out of 10 they will touch you and then you can say "hands off the merchandise" or 'you can't touch me unless you tell me a joke/story"

And to get confidence, you have to recognize your insecurities and work on them with effort and action. There's no other way.

 

[etiolate]

I get the feeling we have a couple of guys in this topic that we've all seen at the bars or clubs. You know, the ones who usually spend two hours talking to a girl, buying her drinks and when all is said and done........have done nothing. Gotten nowhere. No game.

So do people actually go to bars to pick up girls/guys? It just seems so lame. It's fishing in the sewage line. I've been bar hopping and the type of girls, ehh ..just no.

It's funny how women want, like and respect confidence and yet do not often give the average male a reason to be confident. Of course, woman don't even really understand the confidence they love. You can pull of indifference and they mistake it for confidence. This is why I don't feel sorry when they end up with the cocky & funny, but asshole type.

 

[Boogie]

Look, the bottom line is that you can't tell someone to "be confident" or "be funny" like it's some kind of switch they can turn on. Confidence is something you gotta find on your own and no one can pretend to be funny. Direct and talkitive - sure, but not the other two.

I agree with this man.

 

[Cubsfan23]

I agree with this man.

of course you do

 

[levious]

Yesterday she texts me on my cell asking if I'm up for dinner and a movie. IMO, she wasn't dinner or movie worthy, so I said I'm up for sex. She replied saying she's not that type of woman and I replied saying "No probs...talk to u later". She then replied asking me if I was horny and from there we exchanged a few more texts and had sex later that night.

I'm all for casual sex and never judge others for it... but it makes me sad that some people don't think casual sex is worthy of a freaking date!

 

[Ned Flanders]

Donkeypuncher

WELL?

:lol
Wonder if anyone got that..

 

[Blackie]

I'm all for casual sex and never judge others for it... but it makes me sad that some people don't think casual sex is worthy of a freaking date!

Dates = Money. Money is not to be wasted if you can get the sex for free, right?

 

[kumanoki]

Dates = Money. Money is not to be wasted if you can get the sex for free, right?

Mathematical proof that girls are evil.

Girls require time and money.

g = t x m

Time is money.

t = m

Therefore:

g = m x m OR g = m2

Money is the root of all evil.

square root m = e

Therefore:

g = e

 

[tt_deeb]

Mathematical proof that girls are evil.

Girls require time and money.

g = t x m

Time is money.

t = m

Therefore:

g = m x m OR g = m2

Money is the root of all evil.

square root m = e

Therefore:

g = e

Source please.

 

[kumanoki]

Source please.

Where did I find that? I think you can do a basic google search and find it....

 

[snaildog]

Look, the bottom line is that you can't tell someone to "be confident" or "be funny" like it's some kind of switch they can turn on. Confidence is something you gotta find on your own and no one can pretend to be funny. Direct and talkitive - sure, but not the other two.

I used to be a shy nerd and I've turned myself around. You just have to be determined enough. Realise that nothing bad can happen from strolling up and talking to girls, and that each time you do it you'll grow in confidence. If they reject you then it's because they're stuck-up, and if they don't it's because you're getting somewhere.

Sorry if I'm "bragging", but a few years ago I couldn't talk to a girl; now I have a hot girlfriend (my third serious relationship) and my life is great. Oh and I don't really like pubs, but luckily they're not the only places that you'll find these mysterious creatures called womens.

 

[Fusebox]

Be more confident, funny, direct and talkative. You'll be surprised with what might just happen!

Relationship advice for 12 year olds from a guy who donkeypunches?

What is this forum coming to?!?

 

[Eminem]

Jews killed Jesus because he was too cocky, not enough funny.

:lol :lol :lol This thread was better on the first page when there were many jokes about jesus.

With all these relationship threads lately, someone should start a post a picture of your girlfriend thread again. Those are always good.

 

[Fresh Prince]

Sorry if I'm "bragging", but a few years ago I couldn't talk to a girl; now I have a hot girlfriend (my third serious relationship) and my life is great. Oh and I don't really like pubs, but luckily they're not the only places that you'll find these mysterious creatures called womens.

Where? Do not say Chruch, Clubs, University or Work

 

[Poody]

Source please.

As for me i'm in the same boat as demon. I'm kinda cute and alot of girls have been interested in me before, however i just dont have the confidence to make any moves. I should be hooking up with more girls with my looks but its the way some people are.

 

[Kuro Madoushi]

Speak no evil, hear no evil, see no evil

Yes I rearranged it.

And if girls and sex are evil then I'd sign up for a double helping of evil

Why?

Ahem...

 

[J2 Cool]

so wait, you didn't nail the hot one? What kind of message is that?

 

[XS+]

If a girl isn't "dinner or movie worthy," I'm not having sex with her. Not that dinner and a movie is prerequisite for sex, but I have to be attracted to anyone that I'd sleep with.

 

[XS+]

Don't go to clubs/bars for a serious lady, go for a fast piece of ass.

You can find a girlfriend at a club/bar. Stop generalizing.

 

[Boogie]

of course you do

Well, what do you want from me? I ain't a confident guy, and I haven't been able to change that.

 

[yoshifumi]

If you're going to give COCKY AND FUNNY advice,
the least you could do is CAPITALIZE seemingly
RANDOM WORDS and format your posts LIKE SO

edit: damn, beaten by demon.

 

[Justin Bailey]

I used to be a shy nerd and I've turned myself around. You just have to be determined enough. Realise that nothing bad can happen from strolling up and talking to girls, and that each time you do it you'll grow in confidence. If they reject you then it's because they're stuck-up, and if they don't it's because you're getting somewhere.

Sorry if I'm "bragging", but a few years ago I couldn't talk to a girl; now I have a hot girlfriend (my third serious relationship) and my life is great. Oh and I don't really like pubs, but luckily they're not the only places that you'll find these mysterious creatures called womens.

Exactly, I'm not saying someone can't turn themselves around, but being confident isn't something that is just going to happen one day.

 

[demon]

Well, what do you want from me? I ain't a confident guy, and I haven't been able to change that.

But I've always heard martial arts give you confidence. Have I been lied to? WTF?

 

[whytemyke]

actually this is all crap. girls like it the most when you walk around the club with your balls hanging out your fly. no cock... just the miracle bag. works best while wearing clogs.

 

[Cubsfan23]

Who does this guy think he is, cubsfan?

Well, this seems like a good place to share my sort-of success story from Friday night, since I didn't want to start my own attention whore thread.

WARNING ATTENTION WHOREDOM STARTS HERE, READ NO FURTHER YE OF LITTLE PATIENCE

So I went to this party where I didn't really know anybody, was kind of hanging out talking to random people. I start talking to this slightly attractive girl, and bust out the COCKY & FUNNY OMG. Just generally teasing and making fun. Wandered off to drink more Guinness and talk to some dude who seemed cool. Talked very briefly to this pretty hot Indian girl, who turned out to be several years older than I am (7 years, actually. O_O)

So then the hot Indian girl was going around asking guys how old they thought she looked-- she was apparently feeling insecure about being so damn old. So every time she asked me, I'd tell her 30 (she was 29). Then she'd say "no, seriously!" Eventually, she goes "What makes me look thirty? Is it the boobs?" *bounce bounce* Heh.

It was pretty funny. Finally, she came back over and was like "I like you, you're not such a liar like those other guys." I was like, "whoa, this stuff works." Then the first girl wandered in and was trying to discreetly (lol) sit on my lap. The hot girl came back and started whispering to me about how much hotter she was than the first girl. Which was true.

Unfortunately, the hot one eventually disappeared, and then the first girl kept trying to kiss me, at which point I realized I wasn't that interested in her.

Not quite sure where I went wrong-- I'm slightly hazy on the details. Better luck (and slightly less Guinness) next time!


Anyway, just wanted to see if I get the cubsfan thumbs up.

Should have arranged a threesome. I'm disappointed in you j/k

She obviously loved being in competition with the girl, so I would have raised the bar and whispered back "Yeah, but she is younger than you, I don't think you can keep up........."

Really though, there's like 1,000 different things you could have done in that situation, so just keep doing what worked in the first place.

 

[Boogie]

But I've always heard martial arts give you confidence. Have I been lied to? WTF?

It has given me the confidence to beat someone down if need be, but the goal is to ask the girl on a date, not kick her in the head.

 

[yoshifumi]

It has given me the confidence to beat someone down if need be, but the goal is to ask the girl on a date, not kick her in the head.

maybe both goals are one in the same.

 

[NLB2]

What do you train in Boogie?

 

[Socreges]

That would mean me making 5-6 topics and flooding this board.

No, then its obvious. Your best tactic would be to disguise the bragging as some kind of pseudo-'discussion' thread.

Oh wait.

 

[RevenantKioku]

Okay, here's a situation.
You're siting at a table in campus coffee shop, cute chick sits down at your table, starts reading a book. Where do I go from there? I spent a goddamned good 15 minutes trying to think of something to say. "hello" Who the fuck says hello to someone just because they're sitting there? I dunno, why is this so fucking difficult now?
I mean, shit, I never was good at socializing, and ever since college started, I've gotten worse, had a different girl first and second year, and since last year, nothing has gone well.
Sigh.

 

[Mama Smurf]

Okay, here's a situation.
You're siting at a table in campus coffee shop, cute chick sits down at your table, starts reading a book. Where do I go from there? I spent a goddamned good 15 minutes trying to think of something to say. "hello" Who the fuck says hello to someone just because they're sitting there? I dunno, why is this so fucking difficult now?
I mean, shit, I never was good at socializing, and ever since college started, I've gotten worse, had a different girl first and second year, and since last year, nothing has gone well.
Sigh.

That's such an easy one.

"Is it good?"

 

[mj1108]

:lol :lol :lol This thread was better on the first page when there were many jokes about jesus.

:lol :lol :lol Indeed it was.

Nothing like hearing about the Lord himself chasing that holy piece of ass.

 

[RevenantKioku]

That's such an easy one.

"Is it good?"

But its obviously not since its was Writing and Literature class book.
I think too much.

 

[demon]

Okay, here's a situation.
You're siting at a table in campus coffee shop, cute chick sits down at your table, starts reading a book. Where do I go from there? I spent a goddamned good 15 minutes trying to think of something to say. "hello" Who the fuck says hello to someone just because they're sitting there? I dunno, why is this so fucking difficult now?
I mean, shit, I never was good at socializing, and ever since college started, I've gotten worse, had a different girl first and second year, and since last year, nothing has gone well.
Sigh.

"Pull my finger"?

 

[Boogie]

What do you train in Boogie?

Started out in karate, did that for 7 years, got my black belt. Now it's mainly kickboxing and BJJ, with about four years of the kickboxing, and just over a year and a half of jiu-jitsu.

 

[NLB2]

Damn Boogie, how can you not be confident? If you see a girl with some other guy don't you just think to yourself "If we got into a fight he'd be on his back getting some serious gNp or he'd be choked unconcius in five seconds." I how does the fact that you can take 95% of the population in a fight (that is as long as you're not 5'5" 130) not give you confidence in every aspect of life?

P.S. Are you a white belt or a blue belt?

 

[Boogie]

Damn Boogie, how can you not be confident? If you see a girl with some other guy don't you just think to yourself "If we got into a fight he'd be on his back getting some serious gNp or he'd be choked unconcius in five seconds." I how does the fact that you can take 95% of the population in a fight (that is as long as you're not 5'5" 130) not give you confidence in every aspect of life?

P.S. Are you a white belt or a blue belt?

Heh, like I said. I'm confident I can handle any guy I come across, but you can't just choke out a girl. So yeah, I am confident in regards to possible confrontations, but I can't just knock out the other guy and then have the girl fawn over me ;P

And still white. I train under a few three stripe purple belts, and the black belt who we're under lives in Vancouver (I'm in Toronto), so he only gets to come out a couple times a year to grade us, and I wasn't around in the summer the last time he came by.

 

[RevenantKioku]

This won't work if you're one of those anti- cocky-and-funny people. I can't keep track of them all any more.

Its easy to say shit afterwards and think its great, but doing it on the spot is where it fails for me.

 

[RevenantKioku]

I dunno. It just seems wrong. Like, I was raised not to bother people without reason, and despite my urges to FHUTA, I just can't bring myself to bother people I don't know.

 

[soundwave05]

Its true though, girls like guys that are talkative and "fun" and confident (w/o being arrogant), but honestly I'm just not that kind of guy.

Girls like the attention, infact if they go out in a group they generally get pissed off if they don't get approached by someone.

I'm working on being a little more "forward" though, but its not that easy. I can be talkative and fun and confident, but just not cold turkey style where I don't know the person.

 

[Late Stage Marxist]

It takes me a while to warm up to most people, so it's very difficult for me to conversate with complete strangers. I just feel it's hard to relate to most people as I don't watch much TV, sports, current movies etc. so there's not much to talk about. Some of the advice in this thread has given me a few ideas, though. I've had relationships that have helped me out of my "shell" a tad, but it's been a while. Sometimes I can tell a girl is into me, but I don't want to pursue it out of fear of rejection. Guess I just need more practice and maybe take a few more chances.

 

[demon]

It takes me a while to warm up to most people, so it's very difficult for me to conversate with complete strangers. I just feel it's hard to relate to most people as I don't watch much TV, sports, current movies etc. so there's not much to talk about. Some of the advice in this thread has given me a few ideas, though. I've had relationships that have helped me out of my "shell" a tad, but it's been a while. Sometimes I can tell a girl is into me, but I don't want to pursue it out of fear of rejection. Guess I just need more practice and maybe take a few more chances.

I'm the same way; it's pretty much my main problem. I have a hard time relating to people, partly because I lived a good part of my past several years in a depression and not really doing anything, and because all my life I've never really been into some of the stuff lots of guys are, like sports and shit. When I'm with guys and they start talking sports, I just couldn't give two fucks and tune out.