Holding your SO's purse

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Put it on your shoulder and shimmy your hips in am exaggerated fashion until you embarass her enough to get her to ask for it back.
 
I never have been and most likey never will be a mr macho guy but I'd never walk around with my SO's purse. if she don't wanna hold it she shouldn't have brought it. I'd hold it for her for like a minute or something but theres no way in hell we're going to start walking and I'm still holding it. call it what you want but there it is.
 
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This has happened to me before, just clench the top of the bag in your fist, instead of holding it on your should with the strap. Atleast that's what I do. I don't really care anyways.
 
I wouldn't give two shits about what random people on the street think

EDIT: I wouldn't hold it if she was just being a lazy ass though.
 
Wow some of you are pushovers. Sure, carry it for a few while she adjusts for a second, but straight up carry it while you hang out? What? Why'd she bring all that shit with her?

This has nothing to do with masculinity, and everything to do with lazy girlfriends. I should know, I've dated them.
 
If she doesn't have her hands full or some other reason for me to carry it, then no way. Not because it's a purse, but because I'm not going to carry a bag of someone else's personal belongings like I'm their assistant.

I have no problem with dealing with feminine things for an SO. I've never balked at picking up tampons or anything like that, but carrying someone's bag just because they don't want to is weird.
 
entrement said:
I wouldn't carry a male friend's bag either, unless there is poor health or physically unable.

Grown able body adults should carry their personal bags.
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Pretty much how I feel. Whoever I'm with made the choice to bring that bag. If you're struggling, of course I'll help out. But I also expect who I'm with to not act like an idiot.

So in essence, I'll carry it for a bit. But I'm gonna give you lip, lol.
 
For me, it would depend on why she didn't want to carry it. If she's carrying other stuff or is in some kind of distress/physical pain, I don't have a problem. But if she just doesn't want the hassle - fuck that, neither do I, let's take it back to the car.
 
if she is trying to "test" you thats some awful kind of trickery. if she doesnt wanna carry a big ol purse tell her to carry a wallet
 
King Cobra said:
Yesterday while I was out with my SO she asked me to hold her purse, I say "of course" thinking she is probably just going to do something quick and ask for it back. But then she starts walking so I ask her, do you mean actually walk with your purse? When she says yes I hand her back her purse and tell her that if she doesn't want to walking with it or if it's too heavy we can go back to the car and leave it there.

She got pretty upset but I just didn't feel right walking around holding her purse. Today I asked a female co worker what she thought about that and she said she was most likely testing to see if I was willing to put aside masculinity for her. But she also said that doing so wasn't exactly in my best interest.

So my question is, what would or have most of you done when facing this situation, and was I really a jerk for not just holding my SO's purse? Also her purse really stands out this is what she has.]
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I hold my wife's purse all the time. In fact, sometimes when I know she's packed way too much crap in her bigger bag and I know it's getting heavy, I'll offer to carry it for her. It's great, she usually has some snacks or gum in there.

On a more serious note, why do people still do this petty bullshit? You, for refusing to carry a god damn bag and her, for presuming/testing if you would and then getting upset when you wouldn't? Are you guys like ... early 20s I guess? I hope you aren't still playing these games when you are older. Ain't nobody got time for that.

And why the hell are you asking a female coworker about it and not your god damn SO? That's like, relationship rule #2. Right behind don't stick it in the butt without permission. Don't talk to other people about your relationship, talk to each other about it. Other people will almost always side with you, because they know you and you are giving them your side of the story. And that's not advice, that's an echo chamber.
 
Arc said:
Wow some of you are pushovers. Sure, carry it for a few while she adjusts for a second, but straight up carry it while you hang out? What? Why'd she bring all that shit with her?

This has nothing to do with masculinity, and everything to do with lazy girlfriends. I should know, I've dated them.
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Yep.

The sexist comment was dumb as hell.
 
Arc said:
Wow some of you are pushovers. Sure, carry it for a few while she adjusts for a second, but straight up carry it while you hang out? What? Why'd she bring all that shit with her?

This has nothing to do with masculinity, and everything to do with lazy girlfriends. I should know, I've dated them.
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Part of OP's issue with it was clearly that other people would see him holding a purse. That's why people are bringing up the masculinity aspect.
 
I would have done exactly as you. I'd hold it for a moment if she had to go to the restroom or something, but if she came back and expected me to keep holding it then we either go put it in the car or she holds it. Its not a masculinity thing to me, but if she wanted to bring it with her then she can hold it.
 
The issue for me isn't the act of holding a bag, I wouldn't care really, it's the fact your carrying it for her because she apparently just doesn't feel like it.

We need to find out why she felt you should be responsible for carrying her stuff.
 
rifle though her purse, eating her lipsticks, nosing through her tampons, dropping her old drivers licenses and credit cards all over the place. She will never give you her purse again.

Pau said:
What if it was a Batman purse?
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put it around your neck and hang out at the food court, on the lookout for crimes and churros.
 
I always carried my ex's purses if they asked me to. I cared about them more than what strangers thought of me. Let go of your insecurities.
 
If my wife is actively doing something and needs both hands and her purse is getting in her way, I'll stand there and hold it for as long as she needs me to, no worries. But asking me to carry it for her while we are shopping or just doing stuff because it's heavy...

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Luckily my wife got tired of lugging that shit around enough on her own and now just packs it when it's a necessity.
 
If you don't want to carry the bag,you don't want to carry the bag. Nothing wrong with that.

That being said I normally carry my Mum or my girlfriends purse around if they want me to cause I don't mind a little extra physical labour and plus I don't really care what people think of me, doing something nice for someone I care for.

It's neither childish or sexist
 
I think that was perfectly fair. You were willing to hold it if she needed her hands for it or something but not carry it just because. You're not her valet. She can carry it herself.
 
Ah screw it it's a masculinity thing. Nothing says whipped more than a man holding a purse.

I'm not some sort of macho man, and the above sentence pained me to write, but there's something about a woman foisting a distinctly feminine item off on a guy that screams ownership. Like holding the purse is as close as the guy gets to his balls.

I feel gross typing that but I just can't help it.
 
Arc said:
Wow some of you are pushovers. Sure, carry it for a few while she adjusts for a second, but straight up carry it while you hang out? What? Why'd she bring all that shit with her?

This has nothing to do with masculinity, and everything to do with lazy girlfriends. I should know, I've dated them.
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How hard is it for you to hold a damn bag? If she just doesn't want to carry it on a whim, I get where you're coming from. But I've never had that happen in my 16 years of dating. Maybe they're tired or they need to check their phone or they ended up buying too much stuff. If they don't want to carry it because it is hassling them, then what's the big deal? Be a man and shoulder or hold the load of a small bag.
 
DiipuSurotu said:
You are childish as fuck as well as a sexist.
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There is nothing wrong with not wanting to hold a purse. If his GF honestly doesnt want to bother to carry her own bag, she should bring it to the car and leave it there. Where is the big deal here?

OP could pull the same thing with his girl and I would be opposed to that too. If you dont want to carry your things when going out, dont bring them around. Seems very child like to do so actually.
 
Lynd7 said:
The issue for me isn't the act of holding a bag, I wouldn't care really, it's the fact your carrying it for her because she apparently just doesn't feel like it.

We need to find out why she felt you should be responsible for carrying her stuff.
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Presumably because it's a relationship. And you do stuff for each other. Sometimes stuff you don't necessarily want to do.

Blowjobs don't just drop outta the fucking sky.
 
Not sure why it's such a big deal to hold her purse if she's just tired of carrying it all day. I wouldn't ask my boyfriend to hold my purse for no good reason or test his masculinity or whatever. That idea of test is equally as lame as how insecure you are with holding a purse for a bit.
 
atr0cious said:
It's callled being in a healthy relationship. This is getting into MRA levels of logic.
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Oh fuck off. Don't associate me with that because I'm not my girlfriends personal assistant. I'll carry it when it's helpful to her, but not because she doesn't feel like it. She shouldn't have brought it if she doesn't feel like carrying it.

Seriously, get the fuck out of here with that.
 
I don't get the whole masculinity thing. Either people know that you're carrying it for your gf or they're judging you but by that point you should just rock it because who gives a fuck what those other people think?
 
MikeyB said:
How hard is it for you to hold a damn bag? If she just doesn't want to carry it on a whim, I get where you're coming from. But I've never had that happen in my 16 years of dating. Maybe they're tired or they need to check their phone or they ended up buying too much stuff. If they don't want to carry it because it is hassling them, then what's the big deal? Be a man and shoulder or hold the load of a small bag.
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Cause its selfish on their end?

Why should I have to bare the load they have brought upon themselves?
 
Dave Inc. said:
Ah screw it it's a masculinity thing. Nothing says whipped more than a man holding a purse.

I'm not some sort of macho man, and the above sentence pained me to write, but there's something about a woman foisting a distinctly feminine item off on a guy that screams ownership. Like holding the purse is as close as the guy gets to his balls.

I feel gross typing that but I just can't help it.
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This is so fascinating to me. I feel like Steve Irwin or some shit reading this thread. I had no idea so many guys got so weirded out by holding a bag.
 
ScatheZombie said:
Presumably because it's a relationship. And you do stuff for each other. Sometimes stuff you don't necessarily want to do.

Blowjobs don't just drop outta the fucking sky.
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Sorry this is dumb. If there was a reasonable explanation, sure, but you don't let people walk over you. She shouldn't expect him to if he didn't want to, just because she couldn't be bothered.
 
MikeyB said:
How hard is it for you to hold a damn bag? If she just doesn't want to carry it on a whim, I get where you're coming from. But I've never had that happen in my 16 years of dating. Maybe they're tired or they need to check their phone or they ended up buying too much stuff. If they don't want to carry it because it is hassling them, then what's the big deal? Be a man and shoulder or hold the load of a small bag.
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I said I'd carry it for a bit in those circumstances.
 
I'd hold my girlfriend's purse for her even if it were just because she didn't feel like carrying it. She would gladly do the same if I had a backpack or something of the sort.
Sevarus said:
This is so fascinating to me. I feel like Steve Irwin or some shit reading this thread. I had no idea so many guys got so weirded out by holding a bag.
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Carrying a purse makes you perceived as feminine, vaguely akin to wearing a skirt.
 
Lynd7 said:
Sorry this is dumb. If there was a reasonable explanation, sure, but you don't let people walk over you. She shouldn't expect him to if he didn't want to, just because she couldn't be bothered.
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You must date the worst people if this is your view of your girlfriend, wow.
 
Kozak said:
Cause its selfish on their end?

Why should I have to bare the load they have brought upon themselves?
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that's true. i remember when my so asked me to pick up my step-daughter and i was all, "you brought that on yourself" and left her at school until 8pm when she got done walking home
 
Kozak said:
Cause its selfish on their end?

Why should I have to bare the load they have brought upon themselves?
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Kindness for one. If you aren't into that, I have found that purses often hold things I need, like gum, band aids, Kleenex, ChapStick, sunscreen, and my spare keys.
 
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