Holding your SO's purse

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Boof said:
If she doesn't wanna hold a purse... she shouldn't bring one.
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This exactly : I have no issue holding her purse a moment, you should be secure enough in your masculinity for that, but not carrying it for her just has to do with her laziness then anything; I wouldn't ask her to hold my wallet, keys, or hoodie I might want to wear at a later point.

giga said:
I've done plenty of shopping with girlfriends where either one of us feels lazy or tired and just don't feel like carrying the bags. She'll sometimes carry the bags or I will, depending on who's feeling up for it. It's mutual kindness, not being a pushover. I don't think the OP is talking about a girlfriend who always expects you to carry their purse or bags--that's an entirely different situation.
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At that point you have to ask her what's in her bag she even needed to bring it in; I'm not holding a bag of emergency gear while we shop, the car would have been fine, right next to my 3DS I didn't ask her to carry.
 
Zen_Arcade said:
You can be in a healthy relationship without carrying around someone else's belongings every time they feel like being lazy.
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Lynd7 said:
No, I help my G.F out plenty, I've even carried things for her when out and about before, it's never just because she is too lazy though.

Let's flip this around.

Say you bought a bunch of games or whatever when out shopping, you then turn around and say, can you carry this for me I can't be bothered. It's being unreasonable and frankly shouldn't be expected.
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You're adding your own variables the OP didn't mention. And îf we went shopping,and I had a lot of stuff, hell yes I'd give her something to carry, because she'd ask if I need help before the stuff was lifted. That's a healthy relationship, not this sitcomy idea ôf his and her roles.
 
giga said:
I've done plenty of shopping with girlfriends where either one of us feels lazy or tired and just don't feel like carrying the bags. She'll sometimes carry the bags or I will, depending on who's feeling up for it. It's mutual kindness, not being a pushover. I don't think the OP is talking about a girlfriend who always expects you to carry their purse or bags--that's an entirely different situation.
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I think most people would treat mutually acquired bags the same way you do. The debate is about a purse.
 
atr0cious said:
You're adding your own variables the OP didn't mention. And îf we went shopping,and I had a lot of stuff, hell yes I'd give her something to carry, because she'd ask if I need help before the stuff was lifted. That's a healthy relationship, not this sitcomy idea ôf his and her roles.
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You're comparing shopping bags, which is something that needs to be carried around, to a purse, which isn't something that is needed. If you just leave the shopping bags in the store, there was no reason to go shopping in the first place. You don't need a purse to walk around a mall. The only thing you'd really need is a wallet, and cash or a card could easily be held by the guy without making him carry around a bag for the entire trip. OP even offered to put the bag back in the car so no one had to carry it around.
 
Lynd7 said:
Well fine, that's her choice. Would you have got upset if she said no?
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Depends if she said it with a shitty attitude or made a big stink about how it's not her job to carry things.

Which I presume is what actually happened. No one gets upset for hours because you wouldn't carry something for them. That generally only happens if you were being a dick about it too.

I could be wrong, but if I am, then this isn't the first time crazy shit like this has happened, and the OP would know it.
 
InfiniteBento said:
If ball sacks are purses, what are vaginas?
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LOL, we don't even know why she asked him and people are throwing around servant, lazy, pushover... weird thread.

I make my wife carry my jump to conclusions mat all the time.
 
atr0cious said:
You're adding your own variables the OP didn't mention. And îf we went shopping,and I had a lot of stuff, hell yes I'd give her something to carry, because she'd ask if I need help before the stuff was lifted. That's a healthy relationship, not this sitcomy idea ôf his and her roles.
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Sure. I am assuming a reason because the OP hasn't outlined why she wanted him to or felt he should.

I agree that there isn't a strict set of rules, lots of shopping bags etc, of course people should offer and help each other. It's just, I find it unusual that she would get upset by him not wanting to carry her personal handbag for her, seemingly just because she doesn't feel like it.
 
Kenak said:
I'd hold my girlfriend's purse for her even if it were just because she didn't feel like carrying it. She would gladly do the same if I had a backpack or something of the sort.

Carrying a purse makes you perceived as feminine, vaguely akin to wearing a skirt.
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Huh. I'm trying to find a female equivalent and I don't think I can. Like if my girlfriend asks me to build a table for her or something. Or chop some wood.

Is this the part where I get to go, "Well, what's wrong with being perceived as feminine?! HUH? HUH?!" I'm kidding. Still interesting, though.

I don't usually carry a purse, but women's clothing doesn't tend to have big pockets (or sometimes any pockets!), and some of us have a lot of shit we like to carry. Sometimes it gets awkward or tiring to hold if we're out walking for a while. If she's asking you to carry her purse every time you're out, yeah, that's a little annoying. But once? No big deal.
 
hey_it's_that_dog said:
I think most people would treat mutually acquired bags the same way you do. The debate is about a purse.
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I'm talking about the lazy argument. Purse, bag, whatever. I'm OK with her being lazy every now and then, just like she should be with me.

Zen_Arcade said:
You're comparing shopping bags, which is something that needs to be carried around, to a purse, which isn't something that is needed. If you just leave the shopping bags in the store, there was no reason to go shopping in the first place. You don't need a purse to walk around a mall. The only thing you'd really need is a wallet, and cash or a card could easily be held by the guy without making him carry around a bag for the entire trip. OP even offered to put the bag back in the car so no one had to carry it around.
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Bruh…you're opening up a can of worms.
 
everything about this is fucking stupid

1) reading too much on her not wanting to hold the damn purse

2) the idea that you're somehow uncomfortable with other people seeing you with a purse

fucking.. I dunno, grab it differently? like with your hand

my girlfriends held my penis with their mouths. Im not gonna die holding a purse for a while.
 
JJDinomite said:
Put it around your neck and wear it like a backpack.
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This made me literally laugh out loud. Then I told my wife about this thread and read her this post and she laughed out loud. She suggested I wear it in front though like a necklace.

Oh, and when my wife asks me to carry her purse, I just bundle up the strap and grab the strap and top of the purse (like where the zipper is) all together and that makes me feel more manly than using the strap. Doesn't make any real difference, but makes me feel like I'm just carrying a thing and not a purse. But for real OP, just get over it. You aren't losing your metaphorical man-card by holding your lady's purse.
 
Soka said:
This made me literally laugh out loud. Then I told my wife about this thread and read her this post and she laughed out loud.

She suggested I wear it in front though like a necklace.
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Carry it on your shoulder like it's a boom box. Bonus points for bobbing your head.
 
giga said:
I'm talking about the lazy argument. Purse, bag, whatever. I'm OK with her being lazy every now and then, just like she should be with me.


Bruh…you're opening up a can of worms.
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I'm not saying the wallet should replace the purse and that women shouldn't carry purses. Most women I know have a wallet IN their purse. My point was that 99% of the stuff in a purse isn't needed while you're walking around a mall, and the few things that are could easily be carried in the man's pockets if the woman is wearing something that won't hold them. Plus the man wouldn't have to carry around a heavy bag of unnecessary items along with it.
 
My wife has health issues so I have to carry her purse a lot. If she just wanted me to carry it for no good reason I'd say no.
 
All these people saying woman don't need to bring purses, could you also start petitioning womans clothes designers to put working pockets in woman's clothes so we can actually hold shit without a purse, while you're at it...
 
dude is this seriously a thing

im so surprised at some culture shock stuff with the US or the whole manly men thing

I can swear that i've held purses, grabbing them like bags, many times, and no one even nocited it. No one.

im on a fucking mall or something and there's a girl watching shoes near me; the situation is obvious
 
hold it, start twirling it around, "Accidentally" smack it into the wall, start going through it, play around with some lipstick.

she'll never ask you to hold it again.
 
Hold it ? Sure. Carry it? No. Not unless there was a good reason, like perhaps we went shopping. But in that case, I would take whatever we bought and put it in a separate bag that I would carry.
 
I hold my SO's purse all the time, but that's because she is good enough in bed for me to tolerate it. It's sad I think that way but I'm sure she thinks similar to me in other scenarios.
 
Everyone knows that the key to a healthy relationship is making an issue out of ridiculous minutiae and keeping score about how many times you help someone. If you do carry a purse you should time it and write an invoice for your labor. Just be sure to complain loudly like a child so bystanders know that not a pushover.
 
I do it.
But not without giving her some lip.

I dont mind doing it in all honesty, i just dont understand why she would bring her big bag(she has a couple) if she wasnt/isnt planning on carrying it....i always like to tell her what if i wasnt here were you gonna carry a smaller one, or just leave it in the car?

If it isnt too much of a bother just do it...i highly doubt anyone will be judging you for carrying her purse if shes nearby, if anything other people who have been in similar situations will give you the nod of "i know that feeling".
 
JC Sera said:
All these people saying woman don't need to bring purses, could you also start petitioning womans clothes designers to put working pockets in woman's clothes so we can actually hold shit without a purse, while you're at it...
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Or you could just ask me to hold your phone and money, because the majority of the stuff that's in your purse probably isn't needed while you're walking around the mall anyway.
 
Zen_Arcade said:
I'm not saying the wallet should replace the purse and that women shouldn't carry purses. Most women I know have a wallet IN their purse. My point was that 99% of the stuff in a purse isn't needed while you're walking around a mall, and the few things that are could easily be carried by the man's pockets if the woman is wearing something that won't hold it without making him carry around a heavy purse as well.
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I won't speak for the women here, but I know my exes wouldn't agree with this. Because she never had pockets, she needed a place to put her wallet, phone, and keys.
 
I'll never get the "weirdness" about holding a purse.

With my ex she sometimes asked me to hold it... and sure? Why wouldn't I help? It's a bag, no big deal.
 
SalsaShark said:
everything about this is fucking stupid

1) reading too much on her not wanting to hold the damn purse

2) the idea that you're somehow uncomfortable with other people seeing you with a purse

fucking.. I dunno, grab it differently? like with your hand

my girlfriends held my penis with their mouths. Im not gonna die holding a purse for a while.
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I've held her purse while she does something quick and I don't have a problem, but the actual act of walking around with it for a couple of hours just didn't sit right. Keep in mind I didn't say she was testing me, that was something a female co worker said in response to why she might have insisted so much on me carrying it instead of leaving it behind.


Lynd7 said:
Sure. I am assuming a reason because the OP hasn't outlined why she wanted him to or felt he should.

I agree that there isn't a strict set of rules, lots of shopping bags etc, of course people should offer and help each other. It's just, I find it unusual that she would get upset by him not wanting to carry her personal handbag for her, seemingly just because she doesn't feel like it.
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We had just starting walking for 10 minutes when she asked me this, so being tired wasn't the issue. When I asked her why she was insisting on me carrying her purse her response was that she just wanted me to hold it for her.
 
My girlfriend is very gracious about letting me stow beers, my vaporizer, my phone etc in her purse when I need to so it evens out.

I have one friend sho doesn't carry a purse, she just carries a sleek mountaing climbing backpack and its hella badass. I want t get my GF on that boat.
 
giga said:
I won't speak for the women here, but I know my exes wouldn't agree with this. Because she never had pockets, she needed a place to put her wallet, phone, and keys.
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Did you completely ignore the part where I said the man could carry the few things you'd need while walking around the mall (Like a wallet, phone and keys) in HIS pockets so he doesn't have to lug around a bag of extra unneeded items? There's no reason that your ex girlfriend couldn't bring her purse with her in the car, take out the items you'd need for a trip to the mall, and ask the man to carry around those specific things instead of making him carry around a bag with that stuff, plus a bunch of stuff she would never need in the mall anyway.
 
JC Sera said:
All these people saying woman don't need to bring purses, could you also start petitioning womans clothes designers to put working pockets in woman's clothes so we can actually hold shit without a purse, while you're at it...
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For real. These pants I'm wearing right now... they're so nice. But look at these pockets! Oh wait! They're not even pockets! Just sewed-on pocket shapes!

Zen_Arcade said:
Did you completely ignore the part where I said the man could carry the few things you'd need while walking around the mall (Like a wallet, phone and keys) in HIS pockets so he doesn't have to lug around a bag of extra unneeded items? There's no reason that your ex girlfriend couldn't bring her purse with her in the car, take out the items you'd need for a trip to the mall, and ask the man to carry around those specific things instead of making him carry around a bag with that stuff, plus a bunch of stuff she would never need in the mall anyway.
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We would need a new GAF thread. "Holding your SO's tampons in your own pockets"
 
Zen_Arcade said:
Did you completely ignore the part where I said the man could carry the few things you'd need while walking around the mall (Like a wallet, phone and keys) in HIS pockets so he doesn't have to lug around a bag of extra unneeded items?
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I already have my own keys, wallet and phone in my pockets. (Keys in left pocket, phone in right, wallet in rear pocket.) I definitely don't have space for a woman's (usually larger) wallet in my pockets, let alone the other stuff.
 
King Cobra said:
I've held her purse while she does something quick and I don't have a problem, but the actual act of walking around with it for a couple of hours just didn't sit right. Keep in mind I didn't say she was testing me, that was something a female co worker said in response to why she might have insisted so much on me carrying it instead of leaving it behind.



We had just starting walking for 10 minutes when she asked me this, so being tired wasn't the issue. When I asked her why she was insisting on me carrying her purse her response was that she just wanted me to hold it for her.
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Then in that case, you are completely justified in not wanting to.

I am not really commenting on being uncomfortable with holding a purse, simply the act of being expected to hold something under these sorts of conditions. I wouldn't worry about holding a female purse or bag personally.
 
Zen_Arcade said:
Did you completely ignore the part where I said the man could carry the few things you'd need while walking around the mall (Like a wallet, phone and keys) in HIS pockets so he doesn't have to lug around a bag of extra unneeded items?
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So you want me to carry my keys, my phone and my wallet plus ...

Her keys, phone, wallet, chapstick, tampons, chewing gum, emergency snacks (that are ultimately for me), sunglasses, hair scrunchy, and hand sanitizer ...

In my pants pockets? Do you wear clown pants?

P.S. That's not everything in my wife's bag, that's just the things that are 'necessary'. If you disagree, you are wrong.
 
I don't mind carrying a purse because it's no big deal, I care about my fiancé, and I give no ducks about what random people I'll never see again think of me.

The responses in this thread are cray.
 
giga said:
I already have my own keys, wallet and phone in my pockets. I definitely don't have space for a woman's (usually larger) wallet in my pockets.
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That's why you should wear cargo jorts everywhere. You can fill those to the brim with tampons and makeup without ruining your cool guy image by holding a bag.
 
Sevarus said:
For real. These pants I'm wearing right now... they're so nice. But look at these pockets! Oh wait! They're not even pockets! Just sewed-on pocket shapes!
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Fuck fake pockets. They're the worst. Especially in jackets.

Also women's pant pockets are notorious for being small as shit, you'd never be able to fit a phone, let alone a wallet there.

ScatheZombie said:
P.S. That's not everything in my wife's bag, that's just the things that are 'necessary'. If you disagree, you are wrong.
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Don't forget makeup if she wears it, in case she wants to fix it (e.g., her lipstick if she just ate something).
 
giga said:
I already have my own keys, wallet and phone in my pockets. (Keys in left pocket, phone in right, wallet in rear pocket.) I definitely don't have space for a woman's (usually larger) wallet in my pockets, let alone the other stuff.
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Again, you don't need to bring the entire wallet, you only need money or a card, and you could just slip that in your own wallet. Why would you need your keys in a mall? None of those keys unlock anything in the mall. The only real issue might be the phone, and I find it hard to believe that your pockets are so full that you can't carry an extra cell phone.
Sevarus said:
For real. These pants I'm wearing right now... they're so nice. But look at these pockets! Oh wait! They're not even pockets! Just sewed-on pocket shapes!



We would need a new GAF thread. "Holding your SO's tampons in your own pockets"
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I would much rather line my pockets with tampons then lug around a bag for the entire trip.
ScatheZombie said:
So you want me to carry my keys, my phone and my wallet plus ...

Her keys, phone, wallet, chapstick, tampons, chewing gum, emergency snacks (that are ultimately for me), sunglasses, hair scrunchy, and hand sanitizer ...

In my pants pockets? Do you wear clown pants?

P.S. That's not everything in my wife's bag, that's just the things that are 'necessary'. If you disagree, you are wrong.
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No, you and your wife just don't know the definition of necessary. You're literally listing shit like "Emergency snacks" and sunglasses. How are sunglasses necessary if you're walking around indoors?
 
It can be annoying to carry my camera bag which is basically a really boring looking purse for my camera so I get it I guess

Idk man, whatever, I think giving it back is kinda dickish tbh like just be a gentleman and carry it
 
Just wait until/if you have kids mate, holding a lady bad is the least of your embarrassing public outings :)

Sack up and rock that handbag, there will be times where she'll disappear completely and you'll be left holding all manner of feminine products. GASP you may even have to buy them all on your lonesome for her.
 
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