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[entremet]

when you think about it, your nutsack is a purse.

Not really. You can't store things in it.

 

[Hi i'm Caleb]

when you think about it, your nutsack is a purse.

 

[Zen_Arcade]

It's callled being in a healthy relationship. This is getting into MRA levels of logic.

You can be in a healthy relationship without carrying around someone else's belongings every time they feel like being lazy.

 

[Opto]

Hold her purse and then pull it off better than her. Walk that sexy-ass walk and refuse to give it back. Eye the label and throw some shade at her.

 

[Timedog]

If it was really heavy and there was a really long ways to walk, sure. If it was because she was just being lazy, probably not, but maybe.

If it was to test me to see if I'd put away my masculinity for her, she'd get dumped.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

when you think about it, your nutsack is a purse.

Lol

 

[jmood88]

https://vine.co/v/O0YjWB96Pea

 

[FromAtoX]

I will hold it not problem. I won't stroll around with it if she is healthy and capable to do it herself. A purse is an accessory more than anything else, that's way guys look so awkward holding a purse, they are designed for women.

 

[toneroni]

Don't hold the purse unless she's trying stuff on or in the bathroom. Don't be one of those guys who carries it for their girl for no reason!

 

[zoozilla]

Does anyone else worry that people will think you're a thief if you're holding a purse in public?

I dunno, I guess I just worry that I look like a shady person in general.

 

[TheJLC]

Lol this.

I will hold your purse for a sec, but I ain't walking with it unless it is in a bag or I'm holding in such a manner that it will annoy you.

 

[Kozak]

that's true. i remember when my so asked me to pick up my step-daughter and i was all, "you brought that on yourself" and left her at school until 8pm when she got done walking home

Cause when you marry someone you commit to their handbag too.

Kindness for one. If you aren't into that, I have found that purses often hold things I need, like gum, band aids, Kleenex, ChapStick, sunscreen, and my spare keys.

Eh I hold her bag when its needed. Not when its a hassle and would suit her better.

 

[CosmicGroinPull]

*OOps where am I????*

 

[King Cobra]

I hold my wife's purse all the time. In fact, sometimes when I know she's packed way too much crap in her bigger bag and I know it's getting heavy, I'll offer to carry it for her. It's great, she usually has some snacks or gum in there.

On a more serious note, why do people still do this petty bullshit? You, for refusing to carry a god damn bag and her, for presuming/testing if you would and then getting upset when you wouldn't? Are you guys like ... early 20s I guess? I hope you aren't still playing these games when you are older. Ain't nobody got time for that.

And why the hell are you asking a female coworker about it and not your god damn SO? That's like, relationship rule #2. Right behind don't stick it in the butt without permission. Don't talk to other people about your relationship, talk to each other about it. Other people will almost always side with you, because they know you and you are giving them your side of the story. And that's not advice, that's an echo chamber.

We talked about it because I noticed she was still upset an hour later. And I ask because I know I can be old fashioned with certain things so I want to see if my way of thinking is just outdated.

Who gives a shit? Why wouldn't you help your SO for a little bit if they were tired? Do you not help carry the groceries in? If she didnt want to carry the groceries in, she shouldn't have bough them.

I'll carry shopping or grocery bags for her since they are a lot heavier, it wasn't about doing a favor for her. The eternal conflict I had was with her wanting me to walk around with her purse all day. I just didn't really feel good about her insisting that I carry it for her instead of just leaving it behind.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

Would she hold your tools or boxing gloves for you?

 

[Dead Man]

I came in here ready to tell you to be a decent human being and hold her bag for a minute while she did something, but she expected you to just carry it for her? No fucking way, stupid fucking expectation. Never just carry someone's daily shit as a regular habit.

 

[forrest]

when you think about it, your nutsack is a purse.

That's it, gonna ask the wife to hold my nuts the next time we're out. So tired of dragging these around.

 

[Surface of Me]

Only on NeoGAF is this thread 3 pages already.


NeoGAF proves once again it values cold, hard logic of another human being's(in this case a supposed loved one) feelings, wants, and needs.

 

[David Incorporated Esq.]

This is so fascinating to me. I feel like Steve Irwin or some shit reading this thread. I had no idea so many guys got so weirded out by holding a bag.

Dude it's fascinating to me too and I wrote it!

 

[BFIB]

My balls are in the bottom of her purse anyway. At least when I carry it I know they are safe.

 

[atr0cious]

You can be in a healthy relationship without carrying around someone else's belongings every time they feel like being lazy.

Semantics. The guy leading the Mad Max boycott sounded happy with his current arrangement, but I wouldn't exactly call it healthy.

My girlfriend would carry, and does carry my shit when I ask, so it's the least I could do.

 

[DizzyCaffeine]

I'll carry shopping or grocery bags for her since they are a lot heavier, it wasn't about doing a favor for her. The eternal conflict I had was with her wanting me to walk around with her purse all day. I just didn't really feel good about her insisting that I carry it for her instead of just leaving it behind.

You did the right thing, OP.

 

[SalvaPot]

I do it, for a while. When I get tired of it, I give it back. It becomes a bag hot potato game.

 

[StriKeVillain]

My balls are in the bottom of her purse anyway. At least when I carry it I know they are safe.

I was waiting for someone to make this joke. Surprised it took this long.

 

[Laevateinn]

I've gone out with my girlfriend wearing a dress and makeup but I wouldn't carry her purse. A line has to be drawn somewhere.

 

[lifeexpectancy]

My wife asks me to carry her purse for her for a bit occassionally. I have no problem doing it. I look at it like this:

Sometimes I ask her to throw my wallet and phone in her purse so I don't have to carry them, and I hate having things in my pockets. She's nice enough to do that for me. Also, carrying anything on a strap over one shoulder, no matter how lightweight it is, gets bothersome over time. So, if she wants to bring her phone/wallet, and doesn't want to LOSE them (women's jeans have notoriously shallow pockes an are tight fitting, usually), then she has to carry her purse. But if we're out for a long night out, as I said that strap on her shoulder can get bothersome after a while.

If she wants me to carry it for an hour? Probably not. Ten or fifteen minutes so she can relax her shoulders? Sure. It doesn't make my testicles shrivel or anything and the only person I'm trying to impress is her, so if someone thinks I look funny carrying it, fuck 'em.

 

[Zen_Arcade]

Only on NeoGAF is this thread 3 pages already.


NeoGAF proves once again it values cold, hard logic of another human being's(in this case a supposed loved one) feelings, wants, and needs.

If I was dating a girl and her feelings got hurt because I wouldn't carry around her purse for no other reason then she didn't feel like it, then I probably wouldn't want to date that girl any more anyway. That's a really petty and dumb thing to get your feelings hurt over.

Semantics. The guy leading the Mad Max boycott sounded happy with his current arrangement, but I wouldn't exactly call it healthy.

My girlfriend would carry, and does carry my shit when I ask, so it's the least I could do.

It's not semantics.

Also, your definition of healthy is probably pretty thin if you think that anyone who doesn't automatically carry around their SO's stuff around is unhealthy. I've never dated, nor heard or seen anyone who dated a girl who asked them to carry their purse because they got tired of carrying it.

 

[Currygan]

Does anyone else worry that people will think you're a thief if you're holding a purse in public?

I dunno, I guess I just worry that I look like a shady person in general.

unless you're running away, people would think you're the worst robber ever, just strolling around with the booty

I don't give a fuck, if she wants or needs me to carry her bag I just do it. Don't be assholes about it, it means nothing

 

[LookAtMeGo]

.

 

[thepotatoman]

I apparently care about what random people think of me more than a lot of people here, but there's still no reason to care if they're judging me based on stupid gender roles. Why care about jerks that negatively judge a man for doing something girlish, no matter the reason for it?

Now if it's a question of being unfairly tested or being taken advantage of by your SO, that's a different question that entirely relies on more information than can be fairly given in an internet post.

 

[MikeyB]

Eh I hold her bag when its needed. Not when its a hassle and would suit her better.

Way to beg the question.

 

[-Deadpool-]

Not a fan of doing it either. Not sure what my wife carries in that bag sometimes, but I swear it's a couple of house bricks. I'll hold it while she's doing something in the car, and if I've gotta carry it anywhere it's this:

I wouldn't mind holding the purse, but never by the strap. Hold it like you would hold a bunch of rolled up newspapers.

But even then, I'm not big on carrying it.

 

[FrsDvl]

I hold purses all the time, be it my girlfriend's or my daughter's i don't care. Why should i care?

 

[Alucrid]

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what's that. i don't want to look poor now

 

[Lynd7]

You must date the worst people if this is your view of your girlfriend, wow.

No, I help my G.F out plenty, I've even carried things for her when out and about before, it's never just because she is too lazy though.

Let's flip this around.

Say you bought a bunch of games or whatever when out shopping, you then turn around and say, can you carry this for me I can't be bothered. It's being unreasonable and frankly shouldn't be expected.

 

[Winterfang]

You did good OP.

 

[QueenOfThorns]

This is so fascinating to me. I feel like Steve Irwin or some shit reading this thread. I had no idea so many guys got so weirded out by holding a bag.

I know, right? It's wild.

 

[ZackieChan]

Used to do it all the time for an ex.

Never again. Like others have said - I'll hang onto it if she's trying something on or whatever for a couple minutes. But U ain't holding that thing for the whole mall trip. That's ridiculous.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

what's that. i don't want to look poor now

I think its a purse. It might be a sack though. Are they the same thing? Blamespace has me confused.

 

[CitizenCope]

This is so fascinating to me. I feel like Steve Irwin or some shit reading this thread. I had no idea so many guys got so weirded out by holding a bag.

My wife just said she thinks that I fear I'll get my period if I carry her pocket book.

 

[VARIA]

If she doesn't wanna hold a purse... she shouldn't bring one.

For a moment? To adjust herself or something? Yes.

Walking with it if she's perfectly healthy? No! She's a big girl.

Agreed. I'm on your side OP, she really should carry her own stuff. Her giving you attitude for not complying is a sign of things to come.

 

[ScatheZombie]

No, I help my G.F out plenty, I've even carried things for her when out and about before, it's never just because she is too lazy though.

Let's flip this around.

Say you bought a bunch of games or whatever when out shopping, you then turn around and say, can you carry this for me I can't be bothered. It's being unreasonable and frankly shouldn't be expected.

I've actually done this exact thing. And my wife carried that shit to the car like a fucking champ.

But she actually cares about me, so I don't know.

 

[Sai-kun]

uhhhh if my girlfriend asked me to hold it I would. i'd probably eventually give it back to her, but that's less about my masculinity and more about i don't wanna hold something for hours. but i offer to carry stuff for her all the time just because it's nice to be treated that way.

This is so fascinating to me. I feel like Steve Irwin or some shit reading this thread. I had no idea so many guys got so weirded out by holding a bag.

this, honestly. y'all are weird as fuck.

imagine that your sense of masculinity is so fragile that literally holding an object that your girlfriend owns actually interferes with it

 

[Skilletor]

She let's me put my penis in places. Holding a purse ain't no thang.

 

[hey_it's_that_dog]

I'll carry her bag if there's a good reason, but I don't like carrying stuff unless I really have to, so I plan my life accordingly and try not to bring a bunch of stuff with me wherever I go. If a person, woman or otherwise, opts to carry something they should be prepared to carry it. Women are people, and people are capable of carrying their own shit under typical circumstances.

I know that it can be chivalrous to just carry someone's shit all the time, but as an egalitarian, I refuse to be treated like a pack-mule. Again, if there's an actual reason she needs me to carry something, I have no problem with that.

 

[hpkomic]

You woman-up and hold the damn purse. What sort of question is that?

Spoiler

If anyone asks you tell them it is proof you get laid all the time.

 

[Lynd7]

I've actually done this exact thing. And my wife carried that shit to the car like a fucking champ.

But she actually cares about me, so I don't know.

Well fine, that's her choice. Would you have got upset if she said no?

 

[siddx]

Nothing wrong with holding a bag while she tries things on or if she needs two hands for something. I just embrace it and put the strap around my neck and wear the bag like a cape while making whooshing and pew pew noises.
But my girlfriend would never ask me to just carry her bag for her. In fact the handful of times I have asked she seemed insulted that I would assume she is incapable of being responsible for her own shit.

 

[BFIB]

She let's me put my penis in places. Holding a purse ain't no thang.

Yep, agreed.

 

[giga]

Wow some of you are pushovers. Sure, carry it for a few while she adjusts for a second, but straight up carry it while you hang out? What? Why'd she bring all that shit with her?

This has nothing to do with masculinity, and everything to do with lazy girlfriends. I should know, I've dated them.

I've done plenty of shopping with girlfriends where either one of us feels lazy or tired and just don't feel like carrying the bags. She'll sometimes carry the bags or I will, depending on who's feeling up for it. It's mutual kindness, not being a pushover. I don't think the OP is talking about a girlfriend who always expects you to carry their purse or bags--that's an entirely different situation.