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[mdubs]

Presumably because it's a relationship. And you do stuff for each other. Sometimes stuff you don't necessarily want to do.

Blowjobs don't just drop outta the fucking sky.

I'd prefer not to carry the purse just because I don't like holding onto extraneous stuff (why bring it if she doesn't want to carry it?) but this man knows what's up.

Also, sometimes if I have something I need to put away or am wearing pants with no pockets, she'll let me put my wallet/cellphone or whatever inside the purse she's carrying. Relationship teamwork right there, so yeah I'd hold the purse.

 

[Eos]

you should've took it and started doing some curls while you walked op
gainz + cardio

 

[wenis]

In case she was actually testing my masculinity I would have chided her for asking me to do so but said yes anyways because it's not that big of a deal and if asking me to hold some personification of feminality was a test for her I would have laughed heartily.

 

[Vylash]

i'd hold the purse because i'm not a baby

 

[MattKeil]

Wow. I can't believe how many guys in here simply just carry it.
For me it's not about Masculinity, it's about respect. The bag is hers, for her needs, not mine.

My wife and I have talked about this. I'd never carry her purse for her unless she needed me to for a specific reason (eg. She was hurt, or she was occupied doing something which prevented her from holding it). But as soon as she's able to again, she'll carry it.

I think it's disrespectful for the woman to ask her man to hold her purse simply because she doesn't want to.

It would be like if every time I want to play a video game, I sit my ass down on the couch and call her over and say "can you switch on the PS3, switch on the TV, set it to HDMI, adjust the volume to my liking, and pass me the controller. Thanks." - Fucking disrespectful.

Much like "literally," it seems that "respect" has completely lost its actual meaning at this point.

 

[Two Words]

It's just a water bottle. Why not hold it? I'll just take a sip if I do.

At what point can a SO not say "I don't want to do X, even though it was purely my decision for X to be done. So you do X for me, because we are in a relation. That means you cannot say no without coming off bitchy so just do it."

 

[Muzicfreq]

Carry it like a manlyman
I think if you can't then you're not man enough

 

[Fury451]

i'd hold the purse because i'm not a baby

This is also my answer. I've never understood that big deal but some guys make over this. Just hold it.

 

[To Far Away Times]

I swung a purse strap around my shoulder once. And you know what, the next time I had to piss I had a strange urge to sit down instead of standing.

 

[SpasilliumX11]

I wonder what the responses would be if someone asked whether or not they would go out and buy tampons for their girl if she requested them.

Seriously, some of the responses in this thread make it seem like she wants you to put it on one of your shoulders while gripping the strap like they sometimes do.

 

[block tower]

Depends the situation. But more often than not I'd hold a purse.

 

[Fury451]

I wonder what the responses would be if someone asked whether or not they would go out and buy tampons for their girl if she requested them.

There would be blood in the streets.

 

[Kyne]

My SO hates purses. Too much work.

 

[mdubs]

Another thought, if her purse cramps your style or clashes with your shoes (I got you freemacnudeusers) you could always buy her a purse you like better as a present or something? Problem solved.

 

[Darren870]

I wonder what the responses would be if someone asked whether or not they would go out and buy tampons for their girl if she requested them.

Seriously, some of the responses in this thread make it seem like she wants you to put it on one of your shoulders while gripping the strap like they sometimes do.

If I'm going shopping I'll chuck them in. I wouldn't go out of my way to buy them as a one off though. My missus wouldn't expect that, or even ask.

 

[LookAtMeGo]

I held a GFs purse once while I stood there with a pink leash holding her fluffy Pomeranian.

A guy drove by and laughed at me so I blew him a kiss and waved my fingers at him.

 

[atr0cious]

At what point can a SO not say "I don't want to do X, even though it was purely my decision for X to be down. So you do X for me, because we are in a relation. That means you cannot say no without coming off bitchy so just do it."

Can you please share the story of relationship that gave you these views? I've never ever had this happen, and I've had a woman pay completely for the date, food, drinks and movies.

 

[JC Sera]

Or you could just ask me to hold your phone and money, because the majority of the stuff that's in your purse probably isn't needed while you're walking around the mall anyway.

seeing as some of thestuff I keep in my purse include medicine and

For real. These pants I'm wearing right now... they're so nice. But look at these pockets! Oh wait! They're not even pockets! Just sewed-on pocket shapes!



We would need a new GAF thread. "Holding your SO's tampons in your own pockets"

I'd rather have my own pockets than you or a purse to carry shit

 

[Skilletor]

At what point can a SO not say "I don't want to do X, even though it was purely my decision for X to be done. So you do X for me, because we are in a relation. That means you cannot say no without coming off bitchy so just do it."

Honestly, not much?

I'd do about anything for my fiancé. /shrug

 

[Two Words]

Can you please share the story of relationship that gave you these views? I've never ever had this happen, and I've had a woman pay completely for the date, food, drinks and movies.

People are responding as if you cannot simply say "I'd rather not" without coming off as insecure or bitchy. I mean, if she is free to make a request without judgement, is he not free to say no to that request without judgement?

 

[andrerobot]

I hold my wife's purse all the time. In fact, sometimes when I know she's packed way too much crap in her bigger bag and I know it's getting heavy, I'll offer to carry it for her. It's great, she usually has some snacks or gum in there.

On a more serious note, why do people still do this petty bullshit? You, for refusing to carry a god damn bag and her, for presuming/testing if you would and then getting upset when you wouldn't? Are you guys like ... early 20s I guess? I hope you aren't still playing these games when you are older. Ain't nobody got time for that.

And why the hell are you asking a female coworker about it and not your god damn SO? That's like, relationship rule #2. Right behind don't stick it in the butt without permission. Don't talk to other people about your relationship, talk to each other about it. Other people will almost always side with you, because they know you and you are giving them your side of the story. And that's not advice, that's an echo chamber.

Man, what a great post. This shit should be stickied, or better yet, added to the terms of service.

I don't get all these selfish posts about that men shouldn't carry bags unless their SOs were tired or on the verge of dying. Man, I just see that as an opportunity of doing a simple gesture of kindness for someone you care, and no one needs an excuse for doing so.

 

[Muzicfreq]

I held a GFs purse once while I stood there with a pink leash holding her fluffy Pomeranian.

A guy drove by and laughed at me so I blew him a kiss and waved my fingers at him.

 

[Sevarus]

I wonder what the responses would be if someone asked whether or not they would go out and buy tampons for their girl if she requested them.

To be honest, they would probably get the wrong kind even if they agreed to do it.

 

[Dogfacedgod]

Dude, if your main gripe with your SO is about holding her purse than rock that Coach like Ru Paul and count your blessings.

I've been with my SO for over 15 years, married for close to 13, three kids with one who needed surgery on her skull at four months. I'm happy as a pig in shit and wouldn't think twice about holding a purse at Macy's for all the world to see.

I don't know if it's the long term relationship or being a parent but at this point in my life this whole Purse holding issue is petty beyond my comprehension.

 

[cubicle47b]

To be honest, they would probably get the wrong kind even if they agreed to do it.

They can't read?

 

[SRTtoZ]

Not only have I held it before, but ive also put it around my shoulder to the point where she tells me to stop it i'm embarrassing her.

 

[Two Words]

Dude, if your main gripe with your SO is about holding her purse than rock that Coach like Ru Paul and count your blessings.

I've been with my SO for over 15 years, married for close to 13, three kids with one who needed surgery on her skull at four months. I'm happy as a pig in shit and wouldn't think twice about holding a purse at Macy's for all the world to see.

I don't know if it's the long term relationship or being a parent but at this point in my life this whole Purse holding issue is petty beyond my comprehension.

Well yes, your relationship that is likely longer than half his life is different than his...

 

[Sevarus]

They can't read?

If you write it down, sure, no problem. But if I ask you to swing by the Walgreens and get a Super/Super-Plus combo pack of Kotex U's... the ones that CLICK! I dunno about that.

 

[Lynd7]

I don't think it's unreasonable to decline to carry something simply because she doesn't want to. Also, 10 mins in is hardly a long time.

 

[Dice//]

I hold my wife's purse all the time. In fact, sometimes when I know she's packed way too much crap in her bigger bag and I know it's getting heavy, I'll offer to carry it for her. It's great, she usually has some snacks or gum in there.

On a more serious note, why do people still do this petty bullshit? You, for refusing to carry a god damn bag and her, for presuming/testing if you would and then getting upset when you wouldn't? Are you guys like ... early 20s I guess? I hope you aren't still playing these games when you are older. Ain't nobody got time for that.

And why the hell are you asking a female coworker about it and not your god damn SO? That's like, relationship rule #2. Right behind don't stick it in the butt without permission. Don't talk to other people about your relationship, talk to each other about it. Other people will almost always side with you, because they know you and you are giving them your side of the story. And that's not advice, that's an echo chamber.

Seriously THIS.

I swear to god gender topics on gaf are sometimes enlightening (like posts like this) or downright scary.

 

[atr0cious]

People are responding as if you cannot simply say "I'd rather not". Without coming off as insecure or bitchy. I mean, if she is free to make a request without judgement, is he not free to say no to that request without judgement?

Of course you can say you'd rather not, but men in here are acting like it's an insult. With one calling it disrespect. That's ridiculous. I was hit by a car and have a bum shoulder and dominant hand, and I'll still help her when I can, because I was taught a man helps regardless of his feelings.

I think my girlfriend has made dinner once for me in our 3 year relationship. Partly because I'm a former cook, but also because making food for her to enjoy makes me happy. But that's how my dad's side of the family is, only the men cook.

 

[JC Sera]

They can't read?

When my mum was in hospital, I went shopping with my dad to get her pads. He tried to buy her three 30 packs. They weren't even different types, he just had no idea how much woman needed, and how long one pack lasted

 

[Sevarus]

When my mum was in hospital, I went shopping with my dad to get her pads. He tried to buy her three 30 packs. They weren't even different types, he just had no idea how much woman needed, and how long one pack lasted

Does your dad work for NASA?

 

[Chairmanchuck]

I do from time to time. Dont see any problem with holding it. I mean how heavy can it be. Its a purse, not a 20kg Stone. And she isnt asking me to carry it.

 

[Lynd7]

Man, what a great post. This shit should be stickied, or better yet, added to the terms of service.

I don't get all these selfish posts about that men shouldn't carry bags unless their SOs were tired or on the verge of dying. Man, I just see that as an opportunity of doing a simple gesture of kindness for someone you care, and no one needs an excuse for doing so.

Doing something nice for someone simply because you want to is different than being expected to hold something.

I don't think it's selfish to not want to do something she is perfectly capable of doing herself. To me, going by the info in the OP she is largely being the unreasonable one.

 

[DBT85]

it's a bag i don't care

Yup. Why would I give a shit about holding it.

I wonder what the responses would be if someone asked whether or not they would go out and buy tampons for their girl if she requested them.

Seriously, some of the responses in this thread make it seem like she wants you to put it on one of your shoulders while gripping the strap like they sometimes do.

Bought tampons too. Zero fucks given.

I've even put the handbag over my shoulder and shown off how fabulous I look with it.

I should also add, I look great in pink too.

 

[StriKeVillain]

If you write it down, sure, no problem. But if I ask you to swing by the Walgreens and get a Super/Super-Plus combo pack of Kotex U's... the ones that CLICK! I dunno about that.

T-t-they... click?

 

[Agraavan]

If she doesn't wanna hold a purse... she shouldn't bring one.

Pretty much this. It's not that it will emasculate me, it's just that I won't be carrying her bag if she doesn't want to.

 

[JC Sera]

Does your dad work for NASA?

Computer and technician highschool teacher...

 

[Sevarus]

T-t-they... click?

That's right! That way they can be smaller than a normal tampon. So you can fit more of them in your... purse. Right next to your man's balls.

 

[Shmeagatory94]

I throw that fucking strap over my shoulder and rock it.

Exactly. It isnt a big deal to me to hold my gf's purse. Now what IS a big deal is when she says that she will only go into one more store and then before you know it, we will have gone into 3 more stores -.-

 

[webkatt]

It's a test OP, And you won while simultaneously losing.

Spoiler

You still won!

 

[Pryce]

Fuck that. I ain't carrying no heavy bag.

 

[SeanR1221]

Real quick? Sure.

Extended period? No. She has arms. She can carry it.

 

[Septimus Prime]

Sure. I do all the time and don't give a fuck.

 

[Mepsi]

I would do it and I would look fucking fabulous while I did =]

 

[sassy robot]

I've never asked my boyfriend to hold my purse, but he's offered a few times like it wasn't a big deal. We once went to this club, and my purse (messenger bag style) kept violently swinging into my hips every time I tried to dance, so he just grabbed it without saying a word and never stopped dancing. ¯\_(&#12484_/¯

I wouldn't judge a guy too harshly for not wanting to hold a purse for a few minutes, but it does seem a bit insecure.

 

[I Stalk Alone]

it is just a bag. if you get worked up about things like this then someone else will be fucking her soon. Either way you both win.

 

[rpmurphy]

You should buy yourself a handbag so that you don't have to hold your SO's. The law of one handbag per person is something your SO should instinctively know.

 

[Rayis]

I would have worn it on my shoulder and been all like #yaasss #bitch #werk