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[March Climber]

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If you're dealing with a chaotic neutral or chaotic evil party I would recommend immediate evacuation...unless you enjoy fighting lol.

 

[FeralEcho]

By ending the other human I'm in conflict with.

 

[poodaddy]

I was forced to get over it through exposure I suppose. I got the shit kicked out of me constantly as a kid. It's not an exaggeration to say I consistently got my ass kicked on a nearly weekly basis from the grades of 1st to 5th grade. I was basically gonna kill myself if I didn't learn to take up for myself. Thankfully, I eventually hit a growth spurt and then got into weightlifting, so that kinda helped with the confidence angle a lot and I eventually learned to fear conflict less and I even ended up somewhat embracing it for a time in my mid teens, but the point is, nature and time honestly ended up serving me well in helping me get past my pussyness. So yeah, sheer necessity chased with a decent bit of fortunately timed growth spurt.

That's far too esoteric to be useful, but you asked :/

 

[Audiophile]

I don't really create conflict and I don't stay around people who do.

If it's something where there's no choice but to face it I go one of two ways, hyper-methodical and diplomatic, or I flip the switch and nip it in the bud so there's no question of conflict re-arising.

I really don't like flipping the switch, it kinda scares me, feels too good... I like being nice, easygoing, soft spoken, putting people at ease. There's a high that comes with being very assertive but when it wears off I feel like shit. Vast majority of the time I'm diplomatic and I find myself thankful that I was as it pretty much always pays off.

 

[Urban]

Presuming you started off a shaky, emotional mess.. how did you overcome that?

Ever since I came across the "1-Year Rule," I can't stop thinking about it before approaching a conflict. The idea is simple: Will this issue still matter to me a year from now? If the answer is yes, then it's worth addressing. If not, I let it go and don't waste my time or energy on it.

There's an old saying: "The ear doesn't hear what the angry mouth is saying."

Since I heard that, I've made a conscious effort to stay calm and composed in heated situations.

 

[cormack12]

What type of conflict? Like an asshat in a bar, or someone being a dick in work?

 

[Herbspiceguy]

Basically life and all the, at times quite challenging, relations(hips) and situations at work, in personal life and random encounters. Basically 'taking up on the challenge' instead of a hiding/walking away. This sounds a bit spiritual, but I'm convinced life presents to you the right opportunities for you to grow and it's up to you to face and deal with them in the best way possible.
I'm 41 now and my stance boils down to honor/respect yourself and others, admit mistakes, don't take bullshit, but never escalate, while maintaining a lighthearted, 'don't take things too seriously' approach to life. It helps to be able to 'relativize' (not sure if that's the correct English term, but we use it to take a step back and review the situation) and not get emotionally triggered. Triggers are signs that you have stuff to work on. Learn to recognize them.
Practical stuff: meditation, sports (martial arts), open up and talk to friends or a professional therapist if you need serious support.

 

[Chuck Berry]

Marijuana