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How Do You Guys Make Friends?
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SirTerry-T
Member
Blackmail always worked for me.
teezzy
Banned
TheContact
Member
all my friends moved away after HS/College and I don't have time to make new friends. My co-workers are pretty much all I have besides my wife. If I were to want to make friends, I would probably find some group online that meets up. My wife did that with a book club and she had a fun, I could probably find that with games, but again, I work 40+ hours a week and my wife and I work opposite shifts so I don't have a lot of free time to hang out with people
ValiantTraveler
Member
The only new friend I made in the last couple years was through Twitter of all places, he reached out after seeing we were from the same city. However since he's pretty much a hikikomori it's hard to get him to actually meet up.
Other than that it's hard to come across someone I vibe with and really want to hang out with.
Other than that it's hard to come across someone I vibe with and really want to hang out with.
AlteredForms
Banned
I do this:
Goro Majima
Kitty Genovese Member
As I get older the more I notice the transient nature of any friend made after the age of like 25. So it's been a solid 15 years since I last made an actual lifelong friend (not counting my wife).
Like I have the original crew back home that I can get together with and its like a day hasn't passed. Every friend made since then was either through work, grad school, or was one of my wife's friends and those haven't really stuck around as much mostly because we've moved twice in the past 5 years.
It's kind of weird how I worked at one place for like 3 years where we all traveled for the job and often met up for long dinners and would constantly text each other but since leaving the job - pretty much never hear from them anymore.
I honestly think dating is infinitely easier than making a close lasting friendship.
Like I have the original crew back home that I can get together with and its like a day hasn't passed. Every friend made since then was either through work, grad school, or was one of my wife's friends and those haven't really stuck around as much mostly because we've moved twice in the past 5 years.
It's kind of weird how I worked at one place for like 3 years where we all traveled for the job and often met up for long dinners and would constantly text each other but since leaving the job - pretty much never hear from them anymore.
I honestly think dating is infinitely easier than making a close lasting friendship.
OmegaSupreme
advanced basic bitch
Friends are for children. I simply don't have the time for meaningful friendships. I've got a few but some I haven't seen in decades.
Jack Videogames
Member
I don't. From time to time an extrovert adopts me and he becomes my only link with society for as long as he stands me.
I'm 38 and I had like five extroverts so far not counting my wife.
I'm 38 and I had like five extroverts so far not counting my wife.
bitbydeath
Gold Member
I’m usually buried in my novel writing as of late and Covid hasn’t made it any easier to get out of the house. But when I was able I would typically just talk to people direct.
The Time Of Mario
Member
I just try not to be creepy to them... I try to talk to them normally. But keeping them is hard, I've lost a few over the years, but at this point, I think it's easier to get friends on forums like these than in real life.
MiyazakiHatesKojima
Banned
Ok Michael Ballack.
West Texas CEO
GAF's Nicest Lunch Thief and Nosiest Dildo Archeologist
Are you trying to pussyfoot around the prevalent issue, which is sexual tension?
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Are you trying to pussyfoot around the prevalent issue, which is sexual tension?
I think if I ever were friends with a woman, she will have to be a really butch lesbian so that there is zero sexual tension.
MetalAlien
Banned
Have a mutual enemy.
Papa
Banned
like this:
Just show them your abs Kev
Papa
Banned
Are you trying to pussyfoot around the prevalent issue, which is sexual tension?
The Pence Principle is actually a solid idea. In the hierarchy of controls, elimination is the most effective option.
Northeastmonk
Gold Member
Yeah, making good friends as an adult is hard. Coworkers come and go. I’ve had some good relationships at my job, but that all ended once I left or when they left. I’ve had better enemies in my life than some of the people I’ve tried to friend in RL. Most of my good friends are online. I did get in touch with my childhood friends. They’re brothers and we haven’t spoken since I moved. It’s been 20 years since we saw each other. It was good because we had raw friendship to reflect upon. It also sucks because we waited so long. Now we all have kids and demanding jobs.
Being married has the whole “husband of my female friend”, but that’s also a leash around their necks. The conversation isn’t very in depth and outside our wives there’s no real bond. I’ve met people in college, but that was just like high school. It was probably worse than high school because people move on a lot faster in college. You aren’t stuck at the same building or in the same class.
I talked to a therapist for a while and I really got nothing from it. It’s like looking at life and being okay with whatever’s next. I haven’t found a good solid friend since the days of hanging out with people at my dad’s house. Online has been a much better place for me. I don’t get exactly get to share my feelings with someone I know, but I’m ok with that.
Being married has the whole “husband of my female friend”, but that’s also a leash around their necks. The conversation isn’t very in depth and outside our wives there’s no real bond. I’ve met people in college, but that was just like high school. It was probably worse than high school because people move on a lot faster in college. You aren’t stuck at the same building or in the same class.
I talked to a therapist for a while and I really got nothing from it. It’s like looking at life and being okay with whatever’s next. I haven’t found a good solid friend since the days of hanging out with people at my dad’s house. Online has been a much better place for me. I don’t get exactly get to share my feelings with someone I know, but I’m ok with that.
Darkmakaimura
Can You Imagine What SureAI Is Going To Do With Garfield?
I don't. Nobody likes me.
West Texas CEO
GAF's Nicest Lunch Thief and Nosiest Dildo Archeologist
This pic nails it, even down to the videogame of choice.This is generally the accepted method
Stiflers Mom
Banned
Yay Sheikh Ahmed.
AJUMP23
Parody of actual AJUMP23
I just don't want any inappropriate relationships to have room to grow. I would never want to be accused of having a "work spouse" like many of the people I work around. It isn't sexual tension but there can be friendships that are unhealthy to a marriage.
I should add that I do have female friends at work and church.
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Halo is Back
Member
By sleeping with their wives. THey thank me later and tell me how much better their marriage is
ScarletSpider
Banned
I’m married, so, I don’t.
RavageX
Member
. Though sometimes work is too much social interaction.
borborygmus
Member
I am exceptional at losing them. Typically after some time they end up doing something unacceptable, having mistaken my not being pushy for being a pushover, and I am forced to ghost them when I call them out and they react like I'm the bad guy.
I try not to make friends because almost everyone is capable of disloyalty like that where I live.
I try not to make friends because almost everyone is capable of disloyalty like that where I live.
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BlackOlivesMatter
Banned
Just be yourself
You never know when you're going to find someone you just click with.
You never know when you're going to find someone you just click with.
Stiflers Mom
Banned
Same with you, TeezzyD. You are definitely in my top3 posters list of GAF.
Super sympathetic, open minded but no pushover, good outlook on life.
If I had to choose someone to drink a beer with here on GAF, it would be you.
Then I'd ask you why you are into land whales, but it would be a very fun conversation.
(no homo)
Dark Star
Member
I don't try to make friends, so I don't really have any legit advice. I like being alone, it's relaxing and my comfort zone, and I think many people feel the same. I'd rather spend a Saturday evening chilling in my room, jamming with my instruments, than being around a group of different personalities and trying to keep the conversation going. This can be really difficult sometimes, at least for me, I'm sometimes a very quiet person, but I can be the life of a party, too, depending on my mood. So compatible personality is a big deal for me.
But I do have enough/plenty of friends that I get along with and we sometimes hangout. Most of my friends are into gaming, music, movies, reading books, skateboarding, riding bikes, hiking, lifting weights, etc. Pretty normal stuff. I'd say our intellectual curiosities and hobbies bring us together, which is great. Most of my friends I met at school or family gatherings, but I've met a few good/cool people though other friends, but most of those end up becoming social media acquaintances. It's rare for me to meet someone at a party or concert or even the skate park and suddenly we're exchanging contact information and hanging out every weekend. Very rare, but I'm glad to have a few.
But I do have enough/plenty of friends that I get along with and we sometimes hangout. Most of my friends are into gaming, music, movies, reading books, skateboarding, riding bikes, hiking, lifting weights, etc. Pretty normal stuff. I'd say our intellectual curiosities and hobbies bring us together, which is great. Most of my friends I met at school or family gatherings, but I've met a few good/cool people though other friends, but most of those end up becoming social media acquaintances. It's rare for me to meet someone at a party or concert or even the skate park and suddenly we're exchanging contact information and hanging out every weekend. Very rare, but I'm glad to have a few.
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BlackOlivesMatter
Banned
BluRayHiDef
Banned
I don't have any friends. I chat with a few of my coworkers on the clock and text them here and there, but that's it.
Prison Mike
Banned
Stiflers Mom
Banned
That's not bad, given that I remember only about 5 to 7 people here by name,Top 3?
Rossco EZ
Member
i actually don’t even know how to anymore, i used to be really out going and had a lot of friends but after school we drifted because of work or them going to university.
now i just go to work, once i finish i go home and spend a lot of time by myself which has made me socially awkward i guess. i still have one person i occasionally meet up with but lately it feels like we only meet up whenever i get in contact (they never really talk unless i talk to them) which sucks.
now i just go to work, once i finish i go home and spend a lot of time by myself which has made me socially awkward i guess. i still have one person i occasionally meet up with but lately it feels like we only meet up whenever i get in contact (they never really talk unless i talk to them) which sucks.
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Ozzy Onya A2Z
Member
During silences just ask questions and try to do that with people who have similar interests or topics. When they're talking actually listen and reply specifically on what they said. You'll hit pay dirt eventually and practice makes perfect, the more you get out of your comfort zone the more comfortable you will be in life. A couple of great friends are worth far more than a surplus of acquaintances. Invest your time in your good/great friends and accept offers more than decline or avoid things. Pick up a new activity and just chat to the person you're next a few times until something sparks. Don't give up after one failure or embarrassment, not everyone you talk to is going to be your lifelong bestie.
The other one is kids, you can make solid friends with other parents in a snap, you always have commonality with your kids e.g. sports/clubs they're in or schools they go to together etc. Plus they live locally as well, bonus.
The other one is kids, you can make solid friends with other parents in a snap, you always have commonality with your kids e.g. sports/clubs they're in or schools they go to together etc. Plus they live locally as well, bonus.
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