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[RaymondCarver]

I ask this because I’m behind in my course work this semester, and I hope my profs don’t think I’m screwing off. A grandparent of mine passed, and we’ve got a pretty tight-knit family. A doctor of my grandmother said he’d never seen as many people as he did when we visited her during her oncology treatment. This lady was also more than just our wonderful grandmother; she was key in processing paperwork for my family’s business. We not only lost her as our MawMaw but also as that lady that did a lot of bookwork for us.
At university I’m behind an average of a couple of weeks, and I’m catching up. I should be through my Thursday this week. I’m just in freak out mode because I’m behind deadlines. Special consideration should be made in times like these for students, has in the past, and will continue to be for future losses. However, how much is too much? What’s normal, and does two weeks past deadline sound ridiculous? How have you appealed to faculty that you’ve owed work to? I have a paper I don’t want to turn in with substandard effort, so Thursday will officially be two weeks behind. What is your experience?

 

[Willco]

It depends on who dies, but I've seen it wipe out people for half a year sometimes.

 

[Tommie Hu$tle]

Go to your teachers, your counsilors, your dean, and those that provide mental wellness services on campus. Tell them all your situation and tell them that you are still having a hard time adjusting to the loss. For the most part they will be understanding to your needs. Death effect people in a lot of ways I think from what you have described you are coping normally.

But, the first thing you need to do is meet with all these people so

1. You have someone to talk to.
2. You have it on record that you did talk to them.

At anyrate good luck with coming to terms with your loss and as with all things this too shall pass.

 

[scorcho]

my father passed away a few months ago and the first month was a chore in terms of associating myself back with classes, work, friends and just life. as of right now i'm facing a boat load of papers due by term's end, but it's not something i can't accomplish. if it's affecting you that much you can ask for medical leave from the semester for bereavement.

 

[RaymondCarver]

I'm sorry for your losses as well, guys. This is never an easy thing,



The only thing I’m worried about beyond work is attendance. I’m not even sure why there are attendance policies in college. Grr. I hope these cats are understanding and see the quality of my work and judge me on that merit. I’m sort of teetering on the edge with my GPA now, and I’m definitely not ready for an internship this summer. I’m pushing back graduation to next spring rather than next fall. I know that I want to get do my best these last days and explain to my professors that I really do care. That’s just the thing I want them to know is that I’m not slacking. I didn’t want any of this to happen, and I didn’t want to deal with it. I’m going to ask for extra credit or something if I have zeros for daily grades. Does extra credit sound unreasonable?

I will maintain an attitude of faith that I will perform well, and that I shall have God’s favor while doing it.

 

[xsarien]

A professor once asked me to bring him a copy of the death certificate, because I was going to miss a test while I was back home.

I (politely) told him where to stick the damned exam, he relented, and let me take a make-up when I got back, and for the rest of the semester I made it very apparent that I no longer cared for his course; I did enough work to just get a C and be done with it all.

I gave the bastard one hell of a end-of-semester review, too. I needed to staple an extra piece of paper to the form, I wrote that much about how incomprehensibly insensitive it was for a psychology professor who moonlighted in the counseling center - of all people - to make that kind of request.

I hope he was fired. If there ever was a smoking gun that someone was unqualfied for a job, that was it.

 

[bjork]

My grandfather passed on a couple of years ago. I didn't know until I came home from school that night. The next day I was off, so the family just got together and... it was sad, but it wasn't sad. We just exchanged stories about him and stuff, and it was good.

Only family death I've had to date, so...

 

[Canadian Psycho]

My daughter died two days after her birth last November due to complications caused by an undiagnosed ailment my gf was suffering from. I missed two and a half months of work aftewards, but my gf has yet to come back. Luckily, we both have good jobs at the government of Canada.

 

[Mumbles]

Depends on the relationship, your state at the time, and so forth. I was pretty much in and out of school for the year when my grandfather died, but he was my closest family, and I had a few other problems in life at that point. My teachers were understanding for the most part.

As for other deaths in the family, I've had no problem with them. But then, I'm not too close with many of my family members.