How to approach this girl that I like?
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metareferential
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Well, he doesn't know how long she will be around.
There's nothing wrong asking her out at the end of a conversation, even if it's just the first one. It will be a way of continuing that first contact and talk a little more.
No need to have a real date right out of the blue, of course.
PS3GamerKyle
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????? These are all serious comments:
Biff
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*snickers*
Alright dude, you can't just go up to her and ask her out. You have to work in some casual conversation beforehand... Build up some rapport.
You say you have one hour overlap? Then go to her section at the start of your shift and ask her some really obvious question. "Where is the tape?" I don't fucking know. The way you describe your job makes me think you work in retail... Best Buy I suppose. Ask her how to process a gift card or something.
When she is showing you, ask her some friendly intro questions... "How do you like working here?" "Are you a summer employee?" "i want night shit" "Coming back next year"?
The last question is key. If she says no, ask her how much longer she'll be here before the summer ends and say something along the lines of "That's too bad! maybe we could grab drinks on our day off before you go?"
I don't know what else to say. Sounds like you're infatuated with her which basically means you have zero chance of not sounding creepy at a sub-conscious level.
And after he follows that piece of advice, when he's sharing a pint of Häagen-Dazs while she cries on his shoulder over some dicktard five years from now he can think of you.
But, for the sake of the non-funny response, you have a point. Just, don't let him get friend-zoned.
I kinda find it more funny he's all into this girl but doesn't really know her, based on his post it looks like he just thinks she's pretty. Dating used to mean getting to know someone. When did dating turn into an actual relationship?
triplestation
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Just look and grin.
Air Zombie Meat
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Quietly and from a blind spot.
Messypandas
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then lower your pants
No, continue being hung up on this girl even next summer when she works there. Remember to play around with the idea that you might one day get to go out with her, if something super-strange happens. Imagine how awesome she is, every day. How can you ask someone out if you haven't already imagined them to be perfect in your own head? That would be admitting this.. angel is a human or something
Remember to over-think how you should approach her. Nothing swoons a woman more than a water-tight script for asking her out. Women also absolutely hate men that are spontaneous and courageous enough to go out on a limb to them out. You should probably play hard to get, and not always look at her when you pass her. You don't want to come off as interested, because that will only scare this delicate flower away. Go with the unsafe bet that she'll be back next year. After all, if she is, it's like you're meant to be!
Remember to over-think how you should approach her. Nothing swoons a woman more than a water-tight script for asking her out. Women also absolutely hate men that are spontaneous and courageous enough to go out on a limb to them out. You should probably play hard to get, and not always look at her when you pass her. You don't want to come off as interested, because that will only scare this delicate flower away. Go with the unsafe bet that she'll be back next year. After all, if she is, it's like you're meant to be!
Canis lupus
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"You look hot girl, wanna date me?"
Lazy vs Crazy
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"I like you. We should be dating."
CoffeeJanitor
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Go to the girl thread. Or talk to her.
matthewwhatever
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I can't believe no one else has said this: easy way to tell if she's married: a wedding ring. Unless you have a job where you're completely discouraged from wearing any kind of jewelry, ever, I'd imagine she'd be wearing one of them if she was, in fact, married.
This is an absolute must to find out. If you are discouraged from wearing a wedding ring, stalk her to her changing room and check if she puts on one. She'll likely shoot you if you ask her out if she is married.
EdibleExplosives
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Collect your fingernails over many weeks and glue them onto a piece of card in the shape of a love heart. Give it to her, wink, lick your lips and whisper in her ear "I want to nail you".
It works 50 percent of the time every time.
It works 50 percent of the time every time.
Half and half
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You might consider breaking out into a bollywood or broadway style musical performance in front of her. Song and dance is one of the quickest ways to a woman's heart.
Preferably, you really do want to find a way to talk to her first. It'll make your chances a lot better and you can actually start to form an opinion about how much you like her based on something other than looks.
But if that really doesn't seem like something you can do then the 'just go up to her and ask her out' can work. Its more likely she'll be caught off-guard and feel nervous, though, so dont expect a large chance of her saying yes, but its really not that weird to try. The fact that she's not there year-round is a good excuse for making it a little less awkward. And I also find that bringing up how something is a little awkward can reduce the awkwardness, too.
"Hey, this is kinda weird but since I know you might not be here that much longer, I was wondering if you'd want to get together sometime. I've seen you around but never really had the chance to talk to you and didn't want to regret not taking a chance."
Or something. Thats probably not the best way you could say it, but I think you get the point. If she's single and thinks you're cute too, then there's a chance she'll say yes. If she says no, at most she'll be flattered and so long as you come across as a decent, normal person, it wont be that weird.
But if that really doesn't seem like something you can do then the 'just go up to her and ask her out' can work. Its more likely she'll be caught off-guard and feel nervous, though, so dont expect a large chance of her saying yes, but its really not that weird to try. The fact that she's not there year-round is a good excuse for making it a little less awkward. And I also find that bringing up how something is a little awkward can reduce the awkwardness, too.
"Hey, this is kinda weird but since I know you might not be here that much longer, I was wondering if you'd want to get together sometime. I've seen you around but never really had the chance to talk to you and didn't want to regret not taking a chance."
Or something. Thats probably not the best way you could say it, but I think you get the point. If she's single and thinks you're cute too, then there's a chance she'll say yes. If she says no, at most she'll be flattered and so long as you come across as a decent, normal person, it wont be that weird.
Messypandas
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Go through her bins as well. They can be a goldmine for personal info
Dynamite Ringo Matsuri
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You just need to ask yourself this question: What would Voxpop do?
Count Dookkake
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It's a good idea to not fixate on one girl. That way, when you get shot down, you don't go into some sort of depressed state.
SniperHunter
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would this really work? Wouldn't you be putting on her on a pedestal by saying something like this?
blahblah...blah
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Does anyone else read these threads and assume that all the 'joke' responses are from people that are literally too incompetent to think of any good advice?
Nope. Its GAF. Joke responses are pretty much in every thread.
blahblah...blah
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I know they are, but I think in these types of threads a lot of people make them to cover for the fact that they wouldn't actually know what to do.
Count Dookkake
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Sometimes a joke answer is a real answer.
Half and half
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What? You.. Walk up to her and say hi.
Are you revealing you don't know what to do? Cause you didn't give advice, didn't make a joke, you jump to this sub-argument.
OP is a lost cause or trolling. Maybe both!
Either man up and talk to her or don't and complain to GAF about how indecisive you are.
Also, if you're expecting the worst and want to just shut yourself down in an imaginary conversation I think you've already lost this one.
Either man up and talk to her or don't and complain to GAF about how indecisive you are.
Also, if you're expecting the worst and want to just shut yourself down in an imaginary conversation I think you've already lost this one.
Messypandas
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its called projecting
blahblah...blah
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Oh shit, busted! Okay, here's some advice (it's pretty much all been covered by some of the serious replies, which is why I didn't offer any more):
- If you've been giving her meaningful looks, and she's aware of this, and you haven't done anything, you run the risk of her having mentally labelled you a creep
- Whether she's done this or not, the same advice applies when you go to talk to her - be confident, be flirty, and don't say a word about the work you both do
- Don't acknowledge that you know that she's a summer intern, or that you know when her contract is up
- After building some rapport, give her your phone and tell her to put her number in there, as the two of you are meeting for drinks
I'm 21. I just asked out a girl I like on a date for the first time (I had a girlfriend when I was 14 pfffft lol but I've never actually asked a woman on a date as an adult, with the possibility or fear of rejection).
We got to know each other this summer and I thought she was cool. I asked her out. She was taken by surprise and asked for some time to think about it. The next day she told me that she didn't see me as more than a friend and that was that.
Although it was my first time, and my first rejection, it was a powerful and important next step in my life. I had the balls to ask a woman out and for the first time in my life, I wasn't sitting around waiting for the stars to line-up for a perfect relationship to walk up to my face.
Even though she said no (which I'm fine with, we're still friends), it gave me the confidence to feel like I'm worth being man enough to step out of my comfort zone and risk it.
I encourage you to just approach her, speak to her like a human, be honest, be courteous, and see what happens! If it doesn't work out, oh well, NEXT!!! Haha.
We got to know each other this summer and I thought she was cool. I asked her out. She was taken by surprise and asked for some time to think about it. The next day she told me that she didn't see me as more than a friend and that was that.
Although it was my first time, and my first rejection, it was a powerful and important next step in my life. I had the balls to ask a woman out and for the first time in my life, I wasn't sitting around waiting for the stars to line-up for a perfect relationship to walk up to my face.
Even though she said no (which I'm fine with, we're still friends), it gave me the confidence to feel like I'm worth being man enough to step out of my comfort zone and risk it.
I encourage you to just approach her, speak to her like a human, be honest, be courteous, and see what happens! If it doesn't work out, oh well, NEXT!!! Haha.
BadAss2961
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Or you could follow her around and "incidentally" run into her somewhere public. Hey, yer that girl from work, let's fuck etc.
Easier to come off more natural in those situations.
grap3fruitman
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Don't talk to her, just admire her from a distance and get upset when she dates other people because you love her more.
Culebra 64
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You: Well hey, noone's perfect. (Smile) Have a good day!
Frankly OP, you got your answers pretty quickly in this thread. There isn't some giant scheme to get you two in a small enclosed area so you can slowly and awkwardly try to get to know her while secretly holding feelings for her and attempting to tiptoe through the FriendZone landmines.
Approach, smile, introduce yourself and ask her out. She says no, then oh well. Cest la vie. Not like you're in love with her, at least this way you get closure.
Or a date! A win-win situation.
It's true. Also, if you're ugly then it won't matter either.
Here comes "confidence only matters, not looks"-Gaf.
Half and half
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Woah! Yeah, GAF should stick to the jokes.
This is the best advice thus far - a reasonable way to strike up conversation, without simply saying "hi", and then standing there blinking. I'd try this. Just from a few minutes chat, you'll get a vibe from her that will probably dictate whether you want to move forward or not. And the quicker she becomes a real person, rather than a bunch of "what ifs" you've probably got running through your head, the better!
So what if she is?
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