OK, the GAF is renowned far and wide for its effective dating advice, thus, here I am, asking for your help....(alright, maybe not "renowned"..but you'll probably at least as good as my friends )
How do you play this situation - you really like someone, and they seem to like you, but they are quite caught up with "the ex". They claim to really love their ex, and are holding out hope of getting back with them. Thus they're holding you at arms length. Now, to be clear, I have already stated that I am interested in this person as more than just friends, and they haven't been terribly uncomfortable with that. But they keep explaining that they're just not ready to give up on their ex yet. I have been playing this sympathetically...wishing them luck in getting back together etc. but I don't want to seem like the unconditionally understanding friend. Like I can't pretend I hope they get back together...I mean, in one way I do, because I'd like to see this person happy, yet on the other hand..my selfish side wants to be with the person so bad. How should I approach this?
Help me, GAF!! Thank you.
edit - since there's been some confusion: gofreak = man, person i'm after = man
How do you play this situation - you really like someone, and they seem to like you, but they are quite caught up with "the ex". They claim to really love their ex, and are holding out hope of getting back with them. Thus they're holding you at arms length. Now, to be clear, I have already stated that I am interested in this person as more than just friends, and they haven't been terribly uncomfortable with that. But they keep explaining that they're just not ready to give up on their ex yet. I have been playing this sympathetically...wishing them luck in getting back together etc. but I don't want to seem like the unconditionally understanding friend. Like I can't pretend I hope they get back together...I mean, in one way I do, because I'd like to see this person happy, yet on the other hand..my selfish side wants to be with the person so bad. How should I approach this?
Help me, GAF!! Thank you.
edit - since there's been some confusion: gofreak = man, person i'm after = man